- Hey you guys, this is Mat Boggs, and today we're gonna talk
about four things men do when they want a relationship with you. The first thing they do, and
I know that this is obvious, but it's important, is they pursue you. You're gonna feel their energy, you're gonna feel their attention on you. You're gonna feel their focus on you because they are pursuing you. When you start feeling like you're the one who has to carry the
relationship, you're the one who has to reignite the
communication through the texting, or you're the one who's saying, Hey, where is this guy? That's not the guy who wants
a relationship with you. The guy who wants a relationship with you, you're not gonna have
to wonder where he is. He's gonna be right there pursuing you. The second thing we do as men
when we want a relationship is called progression, and this means we want
to see you more often. We progress the frequency
that we're seeing you. We progress the duration
in which we see you, we don't wanna see you
just for a couple of hours on a Friday night, we wanna
spend all day Saturday with you. We wanna hang out with you,
we wanna go hiking with you. We wanna spend more time with you. The second way that we
progress the relationship is we actually progress the intimacy. What does this mean? This means that we
progress what we're willing to share of ourselves with you. We wanna share the music
we like, we wanna share the things that we are most
proud of, we wanna share the work that we're doing with
you, we wanna share our world with you so that you can
really get to know us. So we progress how open we are
in that relationship as well. The third key to look out for when a guy wants a relationship
with you is planning. He's gonna do advance planning. He's gonna try to book you
for a date on your prime time, the most valuable moment of your week, which is Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. The reason we do this is we do not want to even let the chance in
that you're gonna go out with some other guy on Friday,
Saturday, or Sunday night. So, typically by the time we end the date, we're setting up the next date with you. What you wanna watch out
for is the guy who says at the end of the day,
yeah, I'd love to go out again sometime, maybe this next weekend. I'll text you and let you know. And then he doesn't
text you, and it's like Thursday rolls around, you
still haven't heard from him. And you're wondering, where is this guy? Here's the ugly truth about that guy, and I'm sorry to be the one
to say this, but it's true. That guy is waiting around to
see is there something better gonna come around, is
there a better option that I'll be able to take advantage of before I'm going out with this woman? Screw that; you are not option number two. You are not the second best option, you are the first best option. When it comes to the man
who wants to be with you, with the man who wants to have
this relationship with you, you are gonna be an
absolute number one option. He is gonna find you beautiful. He is gonna find you amazing. He is gonna feel like he
won the jackpot with you. He is gonna be like, Oh my
God, this woman is amazing. Like, I hit the lottery with this woman. That's how he's gonna feel
about you, and you want someone to treat you that way. Those other guys, they're not
thinking you're a jackpot. Those other guys are jackasses. You absolutely deserve a
man who's gonna treat you like the woman you are,
a woman who is amazing, who has tons of value,
and he's gonna do that and show up in that way by
making advance plans with you. And the fourth thing that
you're gonna experience when you're with a man who
wants a relationship with you is peace, it's gonna feel easy. It's gonna feel relaxed. It's gonna feel like it's just flowing. When I had the privilege of interviewing America's greatest marriages,
couples who had been married over 40 years,
and my best friend and I wrote the book Project Everlasting, one of the things these
couples talked about was, when they got together, it just felt easy. There was this, like, grace that happened. It just flowed, the
relationship just flowed. And so that's what you wanna look for. If it feels hard, if it
feels like a tug-of-war with this guy, constantly back-and-forth, that is not the sign
that you're on the path to something amazing. And so that's what you're
looking for, this sense of peace, this sense of flow to your relationship, like it's just clicking. Because here's the deal, it
is really hard to screw up the right thing. It's hard to screw up the right thing, meaning you have to really
make some serious mistakes or you can make some serious mistakes. And when he's the right guy
and you're the right woman, that relationship is gonna work out. So there you have it, the
four things to look for when a man wants a relationship with you: Pursuit, progression, planning, and peace. And know this, that if you don't have that in your life right now,
know that you are beautiful, you are worthy, you are amazing. And your man, right
now, is looking for you. And when he comes into
your life, you're gonna see and feel and know those things to be true. Now, if you like that
video, I highly recommend you check out this video
that I made called the 3 Things You Can Say To
Make Him Feel Like A Man in your presence, because here's the deal, when we feel positive in the relationship, we feel positive about you. So go ahead and check that video out. And I have a question for you. What is it that you do when you want a relationship with a man? What are the things that you tend to do? How do you show up? Go ahead and post that in
the comments section below. I love reading your comments,
they're always awesome. And lastly, if you're not
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watching, I appreciate you. I'll see ya soon.
