We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns. National Competition on Worries! Here are today's guests. He's a living legend of hip hop. The godfather of hip hop, Tiger JK! Kwon Hyuksoo. Hello. The goddess of beauty creators, Risabae. Weki Meki's Doyeon and Elly. (Nice to meet you) Tiger JK, I'm a big fan. I'm a fan, too. Our program has been on for nearly 10 years. - Congratulations. / - Thank you. How come you've never been on our program? It's your first time here. I feel so awkward. I've only worked on music. Your TV at home has been broken for years, but you never got it fixed? It's been a while, so I can't watch TV. You've never watched our show before? I'm sorry. Never. - We've been on for years. / - 8 years. I know that it's a program about people's concerns and I don't have any concerns. You don't? You've been married for a while, right? I've been married for 10 years now. No matter how close you two are, I would think that you'd argue in a hip hop way. Am I wrong? We do argue in a hip hop way. Really? How? Through our songs. - When we release albums. / - Dissing. Are you certain that she's referring to you? I can tell by the lyrics she writes. - What's the title? / - "Like a Dog." We can already tell by the title. (She already won just by the title!) How do the lyrics go? It goes, "You're like a dog." "You said you'd earn a lot of money. "You just spend every day drinking." (Lyrics are referring to him) So I answered to her with my new song. How do the lyrics go? I admit that everything is my fault. "Right. I am a dog." I changed it to, "I am like a child." That's nice. You two are known to be a devoted couple. We are very glad to see Hyuksoo here. He was actually here with his own concern once. - He calls 30-40 times. / - Missed calls? I think every parent would do the same. Is he the same when he goes into a restaurant? Yes. He goes in saying, "Here comes Kwon Hyuksoo." He still does that? Yes, he does. "Here comes Kwon Hyuksoo, everyone." I feel like I have to wave. And say hello to the cooks, too. (He's so unique) Hyuksoo is good at doing impressions. Yes, that's right. I prepared an impression of Yeongja. Can you beat Kim Youngchul? I can't copy Youngchul's impression of me either. That's what you're going to try? I'll copy how you express food. That's what I'll show you. "There is a table full of food." "It makes me so happy." (Chills) "Don't you feel like a nobleman eating this?" - Like that. / - That was good. You're good at mimicking her expressions too. Let me try that. You do that with your hands. I can't help it when I'm happy. Risabae is here today, too. She does makeup covers of stars and they often go viral. - She looks the same. / - Yes. You do look like Sunmi. (Even her facial expression is perfect) (MAMAMOO's Hwasa) - You did that? / - Yes. - That's you? / - Yes, that's me. - No way. That's Hwasa. / - Unbelievable. That's you? IU. (Oh my) That's IU. - That's you? / - That's me. It looks like IU in the morning. Unbelievable. You look just like him. (Chang Chen) (Are you alone?) (She's Chang Chen himself) Unbelievable. How did you do that? Wow. Unbelievable. I'm impressed. Some people thought I looked like Yoon Kyesang from the start. Right. Now that you've copied Chang Chen, maybe you can try Tiger JK next time. I would like to try that. You've been a fan since you were young? Yes, he is my idol. You met your idol. I know all of his songs. Wow. From "I Want You.", "8:45 Heaven", "Good Life", "Convenience Store", "Drunken Rapping" to "Do You Know Hip Hop?" Wow. Thank you. (Surprised) Now... Now... (A hip-hop way of saying thank you) (I'm honored) Thank you. Can you sing for us in front of your fans? (I love it) (Everybody, hey!) (Give) (And take) (Perfect harmony) (She's good) You really are a fan. Risabae! You weren't lying. I really know all of his songs. (Satisfied) Weki Meki released a new song. Could you show us? (Everybody welcomes it!) ("Crush" by Weki Meki) (Weki Meki is back more lovely than before) (Making fans with their charms) (Crush) (Loving it) We have three concerns here today. Let's take a look at the keywords. "A Stinky Man." "Burning Up." "A Silent Concern." This is "A Stinky Man." Hello. I'm 11-year-old Jeong Daeun from Namhae, Gyeongsangnam-do. My dad makes me suffer every day. My dad is sweet. "Let me hug you, girl. Come to me. Come here. Come here." "No!" "No way! Go away!" "Then let me give you a kiss. Come here." It says, "Get closer." Oh, more? "Kiss. Kiss." (She's doing this for herself?) "Go away." "Ew! Gross! Go away!" "Dad... You smell like garbage." "Oh, you stink." His breath smells like garbage every day. Why? Because my dad is the heaviest smoker out there. A real heavy smoker. He smokes every 20 minutes. Every 20 minutes? What I hate the most is when I go to the bathroom. As soon as I go in, "Yuck!" "Dad! Did you smoke in the bathroom again?" The bathroom is filled with smoke and the smell of cigarettes. What I'm most worried about is this. It was during the anti-smoking campaign in school. "Everyone. Do you see this lung?" "If you smoke a lot," "your lung becomes black like this." "You could die from lung cancer." I am so worried that he'll die from smoking so much. I worry myself sick every day. Please stop my dad from smoking. This is her concern. What do you think about this, Hyuksoo? I got frustrated from the title. I'm very sensitive to smell. Yes, I know. I'm always concerned that I might smell, so I get obsessed about it. I always have a different room spray, car spray, and spray for my clothes. - Really? / - Yes. JK, you used to smoke, right? Yes, I smoked a lot. When I wrote lyrics, I think I smoked every 20 minutes. - When you wrote lyrics? / - Yes. Did you quit after Jordan was born? My father died of lung cancer. He passed away 4 years ago. I couldn't quit smoking even then. I really blamed myself. For smoking even then. I ended up having surgery from stress. I nearly died and even got a blood transfusion. I quit smoking to live. I quit after that shocking event. You did a good job. Think about it from an 11-year-old's point of view. Did your dad smoke when you were young? My dad quit smoking when I was in grade school. He quit because I said, "I won't kiss you unless you quit smoking." That's why he quit smoking. I told my dad that and he quit kissing me. That's possible. He quit kissing his daughter. He quit me. It was probably because you were so pretty. - He quit his daughter. / - All right. Daeun must've been very concerned to come here. Let's bring her out now. Please come on out. (Who's worried that her dad might die of smoking?) How cute. (Jeong Daeun) (Welcome) Have a glass of water. Put it down. - Try some. / - Thank you. It's Seoul water. (Ha!) Thank you. Please introduce yourself. Hello. I'm 11-year-old Jeong Daeun from Namhae, Gyeongsangnam-do. (Nice to meet you) How much does your dad usually smoke? I think he smokes a pack and a half a day. You counted? I found out from how many packs he buys a day. From how many packs he buys. Since when did he smoke so much? Since I was born. You were born and he was smoking? No. From the time you can remember? I think it was from when I was 6. Why then? I saw his cigarette butt jar filled with too many butts. He'll get ill if he smokes too much. So I got worried that he might pass away soon. You were worried about that since you were 6? Does that make you depressed? You looked so sad just now. - Were you surprised? / - Yes. Why did you think that he would die? His teeth have turned yellow and he had polyps in his colon and had them removed twice. But he still smokes even now, so I'm worried about his health. You're so mature for your age. You must love your dad a lot. - Yes. / - How cute. How much do you love your dad? I can't express it in words. How nice is that? He needs to quit smoking right away. Please quit smoking. He must be so proud. What are the inconveniences that you face? I feel so suffocated. This is how it feels. When I give a presentation at school, I get so nervous that I cry. That's how it feels. She's very articulate. Does your heart race when you present? You cried often? Sometimes. - Really? / - Yes. He must quit smoking and you must quit presenting. Her heart races every time she does presentations. Why are you telling her to quit so many things? My father quit kissing me. That's ridiculous. Just like that? You feel suffocated when he smokes? I feel suffocated when I smell smoke, my eyes tear up and I feel like I'm going to die. I'm sure he knows secondhand smoke is bad, too. It's terrible. He smokes in the bathroom. The bathroom is filled with white smoke. I try to breathe when I feel suffocated. (This is serious) Towels reek of cigarettes, so I dry myself off with toilet paper first and then use the towel. Have you told Dad to quit smoking? Yes, but it was useless. How did you tell him? "Please don't smoke." Or did you say, "Dad! Don't smoke!" like that? I was adamant. "Dad! Don't smoke!" "You'll ruin your health if you smoke" "and you could die from lung cancer" "or other kinds of cancer." Like that. What did he say? "I will still smoke." (How funny) He said that he works so hard and that I need to be more understanding. That was it? Yes. I think he has been putting it off because it was hard to quit smoking. He has his head down. I think he already knows that he should quit. Let's meet her father. Hello. Hello. Don't put your head down. We feel bad because you feel so bad. Then you should just quit. If you're that sorry, you should quit. Do you understand your daughter's concern? Yes, I do. Then please quit smoking. In what aspect do you understand? I've been smoking for so long that I can't quit because I'm addicted. I've been smoking since I was 18 years old. Most people don't smoke in their homes. They usually go outside. When I see a pack of cigarettes, it's my habit to smoke it in the bathroom. You need to be clear with us. Do you think that you can't defecate unless you're smoking, so is that why you always smoke in the bathroom? I can't help it when I have to go. So you have to smoke when you poop? Yes. Have you ever pooped without smoking? Maybe about twice. Twice in your lifetime? Just twice in your lifetime since you were 18? I was exactly the same way, but I quit and it ended up not mattering. If it's really urgent, it will come out. It beats cigarettes. Hyuksoo, you know that Dongyeob quit, too. Yes, he did. One time, I saw him smoke while drinking. I asked, "Didn't you quit smoking?" He said, "I only smoke one when I drink." But he drinks every day. How can he say that he quit smoking? He stopped doing that, too. He quit that, too. He used to do that. (Everyone, let's quit smoking) Are you usually stressed out a lot? It's because of my work in farming. Oh, you're a farmer. That's why you're so tan. - I grow rice. / - Rice. Garlic, spinach and pumpkin. I own 5 acres of land. You farm that area all by yourself? Yes. (Oh my) Why do you work so much? How many hours a day do you farm? Up to 12 hours a day. That's too much. That's a lot of work. Do you live in an apartment complex? No, it's a house. If you live in a house, couldn't you smoke outside instead of inside? It's easy to go outside. - Right? / - Yes. You have a rooftop, too, right? Yes. (Please smoke outside the house) Do you drink? No, I don't drink at all. - Any hobbies? / - No. - You don't have any hobbies? / - No. Maybe smoking is his hobby. We asked for some pictures to see how much land he farms on. We need to know how much he works to understand how he feels. He works all by himself. - That's fertilizer? / - Yes. He does all this work by himself. (It's endless work) He works all by himself, right? (That must be tough) He plows and sows. Keep your head up high, sir. You look like you've committed a serious crime. Your body must ache in the evenings. Yes. She's crying. She feels bad for her father. She knows that Dad is working too hard. That's why she's been enduring this for 11 years. She's so mature. When your father and grandmother work a lot, - do you help out at home? / - Yes. How? I do laundry and do the dishes. I also made him bibimbap with vegetables. Bibimbap with vegetables. I also make him omelettes and ramen. Does he like soft noodles or hard noodles? He likes them both. Do you cook ramen with lots of water? That's not the point. I asked because she said she can cook. (She made these dishes) (For her hard-working father) Do you like what Daeun makes for you? Yes, I enjoy her cooking. She's only 11 years old, but is trying her best for you. Have you tried to quit smoking? Please be specific. I went to the local clinic twice. I tried the nicotine patches, - but it didn't last more than a day. / - I see. Aren't you worried about your health? Daeun said earlier that you had polyps. I am worried about my health, but I'm too addicted. You keep using that as an excuse. It's hard since you're addicted and it's a habit. I know that he's trying hard to quit smoking, but... I see. But? But... He failed to quit even after going to the clinic, so I thought he was not persistent enough. You thought he wasn't persistent enough? Are you persistent? Yes, when I study or do my homework. - And YouTube. / - YouTube? Risabae is the queen of YouTube. How many subscribers do you have? Not too many. 12 subscribers. How many subscribers do you have, Risabae? 1.94 million subscribers now. (You're the best) What does it mean to have that many subscribers? It means she's amazing. (How cute) What upset you the most because of his smoking? I was on the way to school one day. He said that he would drive me to school. I was in his car with my friend and he started to smoke while driving. - You smoke in your car? / - Yes. - Even when she's with you? / - Yes. In a confined space. When her friend was there, too? My friend whispered to me, "You reek of cigarettes." "Who would want to hang out with you?" It upset me when she made fun of me for that. She said that because her dad smokes. (That's upsetting) Sir. Please don't put your head down. Your daughter sent her concern to us today. Look at her face, look into her eyes and listen to what she has to say. Then you should share your feelings, too. You said that you're sorry and you know it's bad. But you can't help it because you're addicted. I've been smoking for so long that I'm addicted. I have to farm. I'm addicted. I did it unconsciously out of habit. You can't change if you keep making excuses. (Won't she live in pain forever?) First of all, when her friend was in the car, you couldn't help but smoke? I did it unconsciously out of habit. - Unconsciously? / - Yes. But once you realized you had kids in the back, you didn't think to stop? No. (Oh, sir) You couldn't? I can't help but smoke when I see cigarettes. Does he always smoke when you're in the car? Yes. He opens his window and smokes. But the smoke travels to the back. It doesn't matter if I open my side of the window. Right. Smoke comes in through the window. What about on days when you can't open windows? Even when it rains, he smokes whether he gets wet or not. If I open my window, I get wet, so I can't open it because of lice. - Lice? / - Lice. (I have to be careful) Yes. We had lice in our time, too. Then where does he not smoke? There has to be a place where he won't smoke. Here. - Here? / - Oh, the studio. Oh, our studio. He needs to come here every day to quit. (I'm already getting dizzy) Do your classmates ever say anything to you because of the smell? I once bought a soft pink scarf. I told my friends to touch it. They threw it, saying that it smells like cigarettes. (That's so harsh) (I'm sorry...) Did you smell anything? No, not really. No, but your friend said it did? (This is serious) How did you feel then? Daeun can only smell cigarettes - when they're strong. / - She's used to it. That's terrible. Did you ever think that Daeun could have a hard time making friends because of this? It's very upsetting. But you can't help but smoke? I farm too much and my mother is getting old. (Embarrassed) According to you, you started smoking since you were 18. You didn't farm then, right? Right. He only pooped twice without smoking in his whole life. Daeun's classmate is here with us today. Yeong. - Hi, Yeong. / - Hello. Hold up the microphone. Does Daeun ever smell like cigarettes? Once in a while. How did it feel when you smelled it? It smelled very unhealthy. It smelled very unhealthy. Were you ever in Daeun's dad's car? No. Do you want to ride in it? (Hahahaha) Don't laugh it off. Please tell us. Daeun's father has to know. - Not really. / - I see. How does Daeun get along with her friends? Our classmates don't really say anything. But older students say she smells funny. Oh, older students. (I didn't know it was this bad...) It's upsetting because Daeun spends most of her day at school. So she worries about her smell all day long. I want you to think about that. What does your family think about him smoking? Grandma always tells Dad, "If you smoke too much," "you'll ruin your health." But Dad won't listen to her. They once got in a fight. She pushed him out of anger and threw a glass vase on the floor. - Your grandma did? / - Yes. I went to clean it up. And a small piece of glass... It cut you? It got stuck in my foot and I had to get it out by myself without going to the hospital. What about your family beside your grandma? Mom left Dad when I was 6 so it's just me, my little brother, Grandma, Dad, our dog and cat. I see. Do you argue with your mom in front of your kids? Since she is getting old and she recently had two back surgeries, I want her to stop working, but she insists. I yell at her when she insists on working. Mom left Dad after they had an argument. I'm worried that Dad will leave us like Mom or one of them might get hurt. It scares me. (She's worried that she'll lose her father) You're worried that your dad might leave you? Yes. When Dad and Grandma fight, what do you and your brother do? My brother doesn't really care. He watches TV or plays games. I try to stop the two from fighting. It's so heartbreaking that she's worried that her dad might leave just like her mom did. That's why she's worried more than kids her age that her father might die of lung cancer. Because she doesn't have a mom. She's afraid to lose her father, too. Did you know that Daeun felt this way? She gets stressed when you argue with your mom. Yes. (He answers too well) I don't want to be rude, but could you tell us what happened? It was an international marriage. When Daeun was 5, my wife left after we had an argument. Did you just find out that she's afraid to lose you, too? Yes, it's so heartbreaking. Is it heartbreaking? Yes. Why didn't you tell him? I was afraid that he would get mad. You were afraid that he would get mad? You won't get angry, right? You'll listen to what she has to say? Yes. Tell us everything that's on your mind. When were you most worried about your dad? One time, his motorcycle slipped and he was hospitalized for 40 days. He was hurt so badly that we couldn't recognize him. Even after he recovered, he kept smoking, so I thought, "What if I can never see him again?" I was on a motorcycle to farm and it slipped. I hurt the left side of my head. So... For a week... I was in a vegetative state. - You were unconscious? / - Yes. You were severely injured. I am glad you woke up. All I could think was, "I should buy my kids good food." "I need to get better and keep working hard." (She nearly lost her father in that accident) What did the doctor say? I'm doing a lot better now, but he said that I may collapse if I keep smoking and that I should quit smoking. Didn't you think that you should quit right away? I do know that I should quit, but... When your father was in a vegetative state, did you know about it? Yes, I knew. You must've been shocked. I think you should make a detailed promise in front of your daughter and all of us. I was shocked when Daeun said that she didn't realize that she smells like cigarettes. Right. That's the most serious problem. If you can't quit, you should make a rule. He should promise to listen to what Daeun says. It's okay to smoke in front of me, but please don't smoke in front of my friends. No! Don't be so lenient. He can't smoke at home or in his car, right? I don't want him to smoke in the car. I will never smoke at home or in my car. - Really? / - Yes. You should smoke less, too. I will reduce it by a pack a day. A pack a day? She thinks you smoke about a pack a day. But the way I heard it, if you smoke every 20 minutes, you smoke more than 2 packs a day, right? About 2 packs a day. How many do you want him to smoke until he quits? Half a pack a day. Then 10 cigarettes. That's what she says. What do you say? I will do my best to do that. - Can you really do that? / - Yes. Can you really do it? I love him, so I trust him. Really? Do you think he can quit smoking? (You can do it!) What do you want to do with your dad? I want to go on a family trip. I want to go to a zoo, an amusement park or a water park, but Grandma can't go to those places. So I want to go on a picnic in a flower field. She is being considerate of her grandmother, too. I want our family to have a good time together. Look straight into your father's face and tell him what's on your mind. Dad, please quit smoking soon and express love to me more. She needs her father's love. All right. I love you, Dad. Tell your grandma that you love her. Grandma, live a long life. I love you. Tell your brother that you love him, too. I love you. (She's a realistic sister) Do you think it's a concern or not? When he sees how happy Daeun is he'll realize how precious that moment is. Please make happy memories with her. I think it's a concern, too. I think it's a concern, too. Wouldn't she need a father who can always protect her rather than a father who may collapse or get sick? If you think this is a concern, please press the button. (What does the audience think?) 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Please stop. Please say a word to your daughter. I will do my best to quit smoking as soon as possible. Please wait until I can do so. I love you. Please say a word to her classmates who teased her. Tell them that she won't smell anymore. Daeun's friends. Be stern! Make a promise to her friends. I'll quit smoking, so please don't tease her about smelling of cigarettes. Be good friends with her, okay? Please show us the result. The last digit is a 0. Did they get over 100 votes? (What's the result?) 160 votes. They got a lot of votes. (They got 160 votes) "Burning Up." Can you be the husband? You played the dad before. All right. Hello. I'm a housewife in my 40s who has two daughters, age 4 and 13. The mood at our home changes so much. It's because of my husband. "Girls, let's go see a movie tomorrow." "What do you want to see?" Then the next day... "Honey, why aren't you getting ready?" "You said you'd go see a movie with them." "No! I'm not going!" Why? No one can tell how my husband feels. The problem is when my husband is in a bad mood and the kids are watching television. "How long are you going to watch TV?" "You haven't learned your lesson, huh?" "I must kick you out then!" - Out of the blue? / - For watching TV? When we're eating... "Why are you taking so long to eat?" "Throw the food out!" "Starve!" Before going to bed... "You're still playing with your phone?" "Give it to me!" Crack! - He broke it? / - Yes. He yells at the kids over nothing and threw my daughter's cell phone in the trash for playing with it for 5 minutes. "Honey, please don't yell at them." "Can't you talk to them nicely?" "Mind your own business!" What? What's going on? He gets angry depending on his mood and takes it out on us. Please help us change him. (That's terrible) Do you have a temper, too? I used to in the past. But I changed after I got married. Yes. You had a violent temper in your eyes before. When did you get angry in the past? When something didn't go right with your music? I got angry even on stage. I would throw the mic because I was so angry. I protested a lot by myself. What about you, Hyuksoo? Do you have a temper? Not particularly. I'm just like Yeongja. I get upset when I'm hungry and suddenly become happy when I eat. So I always eat to stay happy. I don't do that anymore. I don't think Shin Dongyeob ever has a temper. I've never seen him get angry at anyone. But he does get sarcastic. He gets sarcastic quite often. Yes, he's always sarcastic. Let's bring her out and talk to her. Please come on out. (She's concerned about her husband!) (Song Minjeong) Welcome. Does he get angry that often? My husband is very moody. Something that doesn't bother him when he's happy gives him an awful temper when he's in a bad mood. He goes to the extreme. When he's happy, he is sweet to the girls. "My lovely, beautiful girls." When he's in a bad mood... "You ugly duckling!" Does he say that? (You scared me) He yells at them. "Hey! You!" What makes him happy and angry? I want to know if you've figured it out. I can't tell what changes his mood. That's maddening. Let's say that when he's in a bad mood he sees that our eldest's room is dirty. That's where it starts. "Why are your clothes all over the floor?" "Is this a pigsty?" If the kids are picky when eating, he says, "Must you eat like that?" "Starving would teach you a lesson!" "Throw away her food!" Then he brings up everything from the past. That makes matters worse. "Are you done with your homework?" "Did you clean your room?" "I told you to do it yesterday and you didn't do it." When I look at my girls, I'm afraid that they will be traumatized. Your husband even threw away a cell phone? It was their bedtime. She got a message, so she looked at it. - She wasn't playing with it? / - No. He took her phone and threw it in the trash can. Cell phones are important to kids these days. When our youngest was 2, we had to go out. She was whining, crying and throwing up. Instead of waiting for her to calm down, he got a rod and beat her on her soles. - To a 2-year-old? / - Yes. How do your girls react when he gets mad? Our youngest is too young to know anything, but our eldest is 13 and is going through puberty. She just stays silent and expressionless. Sometimes I think it's too strange that she shows any kind of reaction. Kids get moody when they go through puberty. If he's too harsh on her, she might close her heart to her father. That's right. That's how we are, too. If Dad is consistent and we know what we did wrong, we would apologize. But if he isn't consistent we would think, "He's taking his anger out on me" "because he's having a bad day." We wouldn't realize we did anything wrong. You must've talked to your husband about this. Sure. I told him to only scold them when they've done something terribly wrong. He said, "I won't care about anything anymore." "Don't make me do anything. You do it all!" And slammed the door. I can't communicate with him. (What am I going to do?) Let's meet her husband now. Hello. Hello. He looks very nice. You're in a good mood, right? - Yes. / - What a relief. You got up to say hello to us. Do you understand your wife's concern? Yes, I do. I try to change, but it's not that easy. Everybody admits to their faults today. Daeun's father did. Is it true that you caned your daughter when she was 2? Her soles. Yes, that's right. My wife wasn't home. I was trying to feed her, but she kept whining, wanting her mom. She threw her food, spilled milk and to get attention she made herself throw up on purpose. But she was too young. Weren't you being too sensitive? Was your father like that, too? - Was he patriarchal, too? / - Yes. He's the typical Chungcheong-do man. I'm over 40 years old, but when I go see them, and my friends want to see me after 8 p.m. he yells, "How can you go out so late?" He gets mad. I think I was influenced by him and that's why I'm so strict with my kids. Not every Chungcheong-do man is patriarchal. I'm from Chungcheong-do and it wasn't like that. If a kid cried, whined and didn't study or eat, they said, "Let her be. She'll eat to survive." Right. Most people are like that. If she goes out late, "Let her be." "Lock the door and she'll learn her lesson." It's her life. If she doesn't want to go to school, "Let her be." "She'll learn that she can't get a job that way." "Let her be. Let her be." Everybody is different in Chungcheong-do? Are you from the north or south of Chungcheong? The south. I'm from Gongju. - You're from Gongju? / - Yes. I'm from the other side of Chungcheong-do. I'm from Anmyeon-do. People are patriarchal in Gongju. They were noblemen from Baekjae. From Baekjae. ("Learning about Chungcheong-do" - To be continued) I think it is necessary to teach and discipline children. But she is concerned that you are too strict and it intimidates the kids. It breaks my heart to see that my kids get sad when I scold them. I want to be nice to them, but they just won't listen to me. It's so frustrating. I don't understand. He's not showing his temper at all. - He's so calm. / - Yes. Did you lie to us? How can he be so calm like that? He must be in a great mood today. Then he transforms in seconds? He doesn't sound like he would ever get angry. Does he look like he's faking it to you? We just don't see it. He treats everyone else different than us. He could be being diplomatic. For example, when we just got married, I told him to eat. He said that he wasn't hungry. At the time, we were at his parents. I said, "Your mother cooked. Have some." After I asked him 3 times, he got mad and said, "I said I don't want to eat. Stop asking me!" - You must've been shocked. / - Since then, I don't ask him more than once to eat. - I've learned. / - You learned early on. Then you're not really from Chungcheong-do. People from Chungcheong-do always ask 3 times. If not, they just seem so cruel. But for you, she must listen when you say no once? Yes. A no is a no. But you should be asked once more out of love. I don't want to be asked the same thing twice. (I see) Have some water. - Have some water. / - No thanks. - Have some. / - That's all right. Have some. Have some water. I said no. (His lips are pursed) (Drop) (Now I know what you're talking about) What other conflicts are there? He doesn't try to understand how a teenager feels. Especially because you have a teenage daughter. She cares a lot about her appearance. Of course. She's 13. She puts on my lipstick sometimes. He says, "You should worry about other things. Is your appearance all you care about? Go remove that makeup!" If she puts on my short skirt and dances, he says, "Don't you know how high the crime rate is?" "How can you wear that when you go out?" He's too extreme. My daughter loves BTS so much. She talks about them all the time. He listens to her talk about BTS usually, but when he's in a bad mood, he says, "No more BTS!" "No more talking about celebrities!" "Don't even sing their songs!" He's always yelling at them and scolding them. He's closing himself up from them. I often got angry at my parents, too. When my dad scolded me, I got so angry that I would glare at them. If kids are mistreated by their parents, they could go down the wrong path. It's very dangerous. I know that very well. But regarding her putting on Mom's makeup... Makeup contains harmful elements. It's not good for her health. Also, the age of committing crimes has gone down. Even elementary school students commit crimes. Then instead of worrying about that by yourself, you should try to communicate with your daughter. When she talks about BTS, why don't you go along with it instead of not letting her talk? When she starts talking about BTS, she'll only talk about them for 30 minutes without eating her meal. I want to hear about her school life and friends. That only happens in soap operas. Kids these days never talk about what happened at school and what friends they have with their parents. Parents may want to hear it, but kids never talk about it. Your daughter sings BTS songs a lot. Do you remember any of their songs? "Spring Day", "IDOL", and some others. I listened to a few and I liked them. Did you tell her that? "Even I think their songs are good." I downloaded the songs and listen to them, too. Which member is your daughter's favorite? I think it's Jin. Jin? She's Jin's fan. He's wrong. Wait. Mom says you're wrong. Who's her favorite? - She likes Suga. / - Suga. But he does listen to BTS songs because he wants to share in her interests. Yes, that's true, but the problem is that he's inconsistent. That's why our daughter feels uncomfortable. That makes her act intimidated at school, too. She can't actively make friends and lacks courage. She has low self-esteem. That upsets and worries me. That's your eldest daughter. What about your youngest? It's the same with her, too. While I was doing house chores, I asked him to read to her. About a minute later, I heard, "Ow!" Then I saw that he was yelling at her. I went to see what was going on. Our daughter jokingly hit him in the face and he got angry. "You hit me in the face" "and ran away? You're so rude!" He wasn't joking around? - He was serious. / - He was serious? He picked up a rod and said, "I'll smack you so that you know how it feels." "This is how it went. "Oh, my baby. My baby." Then she hit him. "How dare you!" That's how he was to his daughter. I love the angle of your arm. Shin Dongyeob never gets angry at me. He knows he'd lose. (I'll be good to you) A 4-year-old could jokingly hit you. She wasn't joking. One time, she hit me and blood started gushing from my lips. Did it really gush? Maybe it just dribbled. Aren't you exaggerating? No. Ask my wife. She knows. Did it really gush out? I don't remember. (Oh my) Let's ask the daughters how they feel. They are here with us today. - Please welcome them. / - They came. (Eldest daughter (Age 13)) Welcome. (Youngest daughter (Age 4)) (They're so cute) Dayeon, does your dad scold you often? Does he get mad at you often? Not often. Once in a while. She's so nice. - She's a good daughter. / - She's nice. - She doesn't want to embarrass him. / - Yes. (She's so thoughtful at her age) How does he scold you? He yells. You brat. (Brat?) Wait. Your sister said, "Brat." Did he ever say that to you? Yes. (Oh gee) When Dad yells at you, it must upset you. How do you feel? I get upset. How? I was on my way to clean my room and he yelled, "Why don't you clean your room?" That's how it usually goes. That's the worst. When were you most upset among the time your father scolded you? A long time ago, my sister... - You mean her, right? / - Yes. She fell down from our sofa. He yelled at me saying that it was my fault. (That upset you, right?) Let's talk to the youngest. Has your dad ever yelled at you? (Nod) What did he say? He calls me, "Brat." He did? (I see) That could be upsetting. Since she's a girl. She could be confused about her identity. That could be upsetting. Does Dad play with you a lot? No. Mom plays with me, but Dad doesn't read books to me. She said that Dad doesn't read to her. When are you most afraid of your dad? Do you remember when he caned you? (Nod) You remember? She has a great memory. You were only 2. Where did he beat you? Your palms? Your butt? Your soles? Soles. - She remembers. / - Your soles. Did it hurt or did it upset you? - It upset me. / - She got upset. She says that she was upset. (I see) Did it hurt your ego? Do you think you deserved it? Yes. (She honestly says it was her fault) (Everyone is bursting into laughter) Why did Dad hit you? Because I didn't play with him. He hit you because you didn't play with him? You should play with him when he wants to. At her age, she likes to be read to. (Mom is upset) Mom is laughing and crying. How cute. She was upset. Sir! Kids know everything. Her ego was hurt because you hit her. She still remembers it. Damin, do you like your dad? Or does he scare you? He scares me. She's scared of dad. That's terrible. Is that why you poked your dad's eye? (No comment) The two girls are very different. Damin is very cheerful. What surprised me is that dad touched Dayeon twice. I was shocked. She hates it when he touches her. (When Dad touches her) (She becomes stiff) (Dad's touch...) (Feels uncomfortable) Her words and behavior are showing that her heart is closed off to her dad. Let me ask you a question, Dayeon. When your father scolds you, you should say that you're sorry. But we heard that you don't say anything. Why is that? I'm afraid that he'll yell more if I say anything. That's why you don't say anything? (She has closed her heart to him) Mother's friend is here with us today. Do you understand your friend's concern? Yes. When Dayeon was Damin's age, she didn't get along with her husband much. I thought they might get a divorce. - It was that bad? / - Yes. It got better after Damin was born. I'm most concerned about Dayeon, too. - You're most worried about her? / - Yes. Kids talk back and rebel when something is unfair. But Dayeon is such a timid girl that she never talks back. I thought that if she gets yelled at like that she would be severely hurt inside. It lasts forever. Do you two still fight often? Not as much now, but it was quite serious in the past. When he couldn't control his anger, he hit the door and broke it once. When I yelled at him for playing games, he smashed the keyboard. Whenever I asked him to help me, he said, "I get stressed enough from work." "Must I do that, too?" And then he cussed at me. He would slam the door so I couldn't talk. When we moved to Sejong, my wife quit her job. I don't have an ordinary job. I work in a lab. I stand all day long. I am always tired and I deal with chemicals. When I come home, my wife doesn't say, "Please help me." She says, "Do the dishes. Clean the house." "Play with the baby." From my point of view, if I'm busy watching the kids, I want him to help me voluntarily. But he doesn't, so I don't say it nicely. Then he gets upset by my tone. That's how you ended up fighting. Everything you've been talking about is something I went through, so I reflected on my behavior. Do you two ever date? - The two of them? / - Yes. No, not really. Of course. You have two kids. You have to continue to go on dates after marriage. That's your chance to talk to each other. - Because I... / - Do you two date often? Not a lot. I've gone through the same things. I got angry a lot, too. My songs that I worked hard on failed. You know... Everything has to do with music. Then you go home? Mirae says that she'll help me. We both get stressed and we have to raise our kids. It's the same with us. (Nothing is easy in life) Does he spend time with family on weekends? He does if I beg him to. But if we do go out, I'm the one to take care of the kids. He just stands 2-3 meters behind with our bags and checks his phone. Families usually take pictures together. He says it's a violation of his portrait rights. He's just joking. No, he isn't. He never takes pictures. I always have to secretly take his pictures. We asked for some family pictures. We only see Mom and the girls. - It's the back of his head. / - Yes. It's very rare. There's his face. I asked him to turn around. He said no and glanced back like that. That's it? Why don't you take pictures with your family? Are you a spy? I'm not a spy. 21 years ago, while I was doing a part-time job, I fell down from high up and became handicapped. I got depressed while I was in the hospital. So I can't control my facial expressions. I look very awkward when I take pictures, so I never look good. That's why you don't like taking pictures. But you have a nice smile. But when I take pictures, it's not like that. It just looks awkward? Yes, I look weird in pictures. You don't have to smile in pictures. You can show your own expression. You can puff up your cheeks. Why don't you try it? How cute. That's the way you should do it. Why don't you pose with your daughter? Let's take a picture together. Put your arm around her. Look over here. Blow up your cheeks. One, two, three. (And...) (She refuses) (He poses for the picture) (But she refuses to do so) She's shocked. Be angry at her. That's what she's used to. She feels awkward with him. (You're being awkward all of a sudden) (What am I going to do?) Will you insist on this disciplinary method? Or do you think you should change your ways? I know my personality very well. I will try my best to be good to my wife and my eldest daughter. Let's practice. She didn't finish her meal. "Throw it out! Starve!" Let's say she didn't finish her meal. Practice with us. (Will he change?) This rice was made by old farmers. (He still has a long way to go) That's why you must finish your meal. Have you tried working in the rice field? Look at Dayeon's face. How tough. People with teenagers are wise. In this case, they say, "I gave you too much?" "You must be on a diet." "I'll take some for you." "Next time, ask Mom to give you less." I used to just take away their bowls. We're asking you not to do that. (A refreshing blow) (Please change your ways) What would you like to say to him? What our kids need the most is our love and interest. I want to make good memories for them. Let's try to find a way together. That way, Dayeon can grow up to be a brighter person. Let's start with Hyuksoo. I think it's a concern. Don't get angry trying to change the kids. Change yourselves first for your kids. I don't think it's a concern. Then why did you press it? I was able to relate to him. I think it's a concern for now. I don't think it's a concern. They get intimidated if you're moody. It's tough for them if they're always on edge at home. If you can relate to her concern, please press the button. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Please stop. Please show us the result. "A Stinky Man" got 160 votes. Did they get over 100 votes? 92 votes. (They got 92 votes) "A Silent Concern." Hello. (He's good as always) I'm a housewife in my 40s from Gyeongju. I've been living with my son after I lost my husband 8 years ago. But I feel like I live by myself. (Why?) Be her son. All right. (Hyuksoo is hard at work today) "Son, have you eaten?" "If not, do you want me to make you something?" (Quiet) "Son, have you eaten?" "Yes. I already ate." Slam! He slammed the door. My 20-year-old son never talks to me. This is what happened last year. Ding dong. "I have a package for you." "What's this?" "This is an acceptance letter." "Did you apply to a university?" "Yes." I'm so frustrated. "You're not a teenager! Why won't you talk?" "Have a seat. Let's talk." "I'm tired!" Why won't my son talk to me? I'm so lonely these days. I want to hear how he feels. What do you think of the concern? You played the curt son. He's so different from me. I'm TMT. Too much of a talker. You talk too much. That's who I am. I talk a lot and I talk for other people. I ask questions and answer them myself. What if you got accepted? The moment I did, I would sing. "Mom! I got in!" Like this. Say that in Yu Haejin's version. "I got in, Mom! I got in." How fun. What if your mom asks, "Did you eat?" I ate with Yeongja. I ate one by one. I enjoyed it very much. It'd be fun to have a son like you. What were you like, Tiger JK? Boys don't talk to parents in puberty. I felt awkward holding my dad's hand. But I did love him. But you didn't express it? He didn't even know I released an album. He found out when my third one came out. - Third album? / - Yes. How did he find out then? My song was No. 1. He found out by watching TV. This mother is frustrated because her son won't talk to her. The talkative son should go welcome her. The son that she wants. Please applaud when she comes out. (Who's concerned about her quiet son?) (Gwon Yeongmi) Careful. Welcome. Are you really concerned about your son? I feel like I'm invisible. Because he won't answer your questions? In grade school, he would tell me everything even before I asked him. "I made this many goals today playing soccer." But in middle school, he started to talk less. Most boys talk less when they get to that age. They like to be by themselves. But he wasn't like that before. Most boys are like that. Even if they were talkative before. How old is he now? He's 20 years old. You're worried because he's still curt? One day, I got something in the mail. I thought it was mine at first. - It was from college. / - For practical music? I was wondering what it was for. It was an acceptance letter. (He never discussed it with his mother?) He never talked to you about college? Never. Not one word. He made up his mind all by himself. He got a position in student government. If it were me, I would've called my mom and said, "Mom! I somehow got a position." That's what I want from him. Talkative people would do this. You got a position at school. At school, there were so many classmates. They all asked me to do it, so I stepped up. This is the type of son you want, right? Yes. (Son, be a little more like him) One time, he looked blue when he came home. So I tapped his butt. "Good job, Seonggu." He slapped my hand and said, "Don't!" I couldn't breathe at that moment. Did you pat him? Or grab his butt? You didn't, right? What about when you ask him to eat dinner? "Seonggu, let's eat dinner." He says yes, but doesn't come out. "Seonggu, let's eat." He says, "All right! Hold on!" Yet he won't come out. Did you ask why he didn't come out? I asked, "Why won't you answer me?" He said, "Just because.", "I didn't want to." "Just because you're Mom." (What's wrong with Mom?) At the time, he was a teenager, so I thought it'd get better with time. We don't live together now. Gyeongju is very far from Seoul. He never answers when I call him. I always wonder how he's doing. (Please be kind to me, son) Let's take a look at their chats to see how curt her son is. This is a screenshot from her phone. ("My puppy" - A lovely nickname) "Son, what's wrong? You never answer." "I'm worried about you." "Son, why won't you answer? I'm worried." "Is something wrong?" "Son, you're not answering." "Give me a call when you read this." This is 7 days later. Shouldn't you have called the police? (I'm impressed) - There's more? / - There's more? She's chatting all by herself. "Son, you're not answering. How's your cold?" "I'm worried because you're not answering." "Give me a call when you read this." A few days later. I memorized it all already. "Son, I'm worried." Mom is impressive. - There's more. / - There's more. "Will contact you soon." Look. He wrote, "Will contact you soon." He sounds like this is business. I didn't hate her son at first, but now I am angry. He's too mean to his mother. How can he write, "Will contact you soon"? She's not a business client. (A ridiculous message) Will contact you soon. You must love your son a lot. That's him in the background, right? It must've been tough for you. You continued to text him. Son, hello. Hello. Do you hate your mom? No. If not, how can you answer her like this? Let me explain. I did call her that night each time. Psh. She said, "Psh." She does call me more often. Yes, you never call her. Right. Do you understand her concern? Yes, I do. I am usually curt. But I was more curt to my mother. We heard that you were an athlete? I was in track-and-field for 4-5 years. Then I quit after I hurt my pelvis. I started to go awry after that. You were a teenager and you got hurt, too. I agree that I was terrible. When I got home, I stayed cooped up in my room. - I hated the world. / - I see. Why didn't you tell her about applying to college? I'm wondering that too. - Well... / - That was too harsh. You applied to a school across the country. There was a special lecture at that school. They said that we could do an interview. I did it not thinking that I would get in. Then I forgot about it. I had forgotten about it when... Oh, you didn't think you would get in. When Mom asked me about the school, that's when I remembered. If he had told me sooner, I would've helped him out with things. That's fine then. Do you not tell her about other important things? Right. I don't understand. If your mom texts you, you can write back, "I'll call you. Don't worry." I read her text and thought I'd call her later, but I just forgot about it. You forgot. Looking at her texts, it seems like you're overwhelmed by them, right? Yes. She worries about every little thing. Can you give us an example? I went home with a straight face because nothing was wrong. She asked, "Did something happen?" - Nothing was wrong? / - Yes. So I told her, "Nothing is wrong." She said, "Be honest. What's wrong?" If she knows one of my friends, she asks, "Do you still keep in touch with him?" I say, "No, I don't." She asks, "Did you two fight?" "I'm sure you did." She just assumes things and worries. So I end up getting frustrated. My son was born very small. Then he had surgery soon after he was born. He was very young. I worry that he won't tell me even if he's sick because he doesn't want to worry me. There's nothing wrong with me right now. - You're completely healthy? / - Yes. She worries too much over nothing. Even when I catch a common cold, she worries that I have the flu. She makes it a bigger problem. (She's always worried / He feels burdened) Why else are you so worried about your son? He's very introverted. Introverted. I was introverted until I moved to Seoul. Really? After my injury, I didn't really like hanging out with my friends. Do you have many friends now? My dorm friends seemed scary because they were so much taller. But I made really good friends. She said that she patted you on the butt. Grown sons could hate that. It feels like they're being treated like little kids. You slapped her hand and things were awkward? I don't really remember that. It was just a reflex. When I'm watching television, she would come and pinch my face or give me kisses. When I tell her not to do it, she just says, "Just once" and does it more. I'm not a little boy anymore. I totally understand. I would do the same thing even when - my son gets older. / - All parents are the same. This happened after I came to Seoul. I had to go to a nearby health clinic. It takes over 4 hours by bus from Gyeongju to Seoul. Mom called and said she'd go with me. She kept insisting and I was finally able to stop her. It seems like you're always worried about him. Are those friends sitting next to you the friends you were scared of at first? They're your Seoul friends? Let's meet them. - Hello. / - Hello. His mom is worried that her son is introverted. What is he like with friends? I think Seonggu is very talkative and funny. He's a fun person to be with. - He's an insider. / - He's witty. "Nuclear insider." So his friends like him and he's good at making presentations. (My son?) He's a PR manager at school. A PR manager? - Yes, he's the manager. / - I didn't know. I found out from someone else. Hyuksoo kept saying "insider." What is that? Insider. Nuclear insider means he's the center. - The one in control? / - Not an outsider. Dongyeob, you're an insider, too, right? Let's use this word to look young. Yes, I'm an insider. All right. Who's an insider here? I'm an outsider. You're an outsider? I'm Gaori. (She's quite witty) Outsider gaori. Friend sitting next to him. Can you not frown? What can you say about Seonggu? At first, he was passive, so I thought it'd be difficult to become friends with him. But once I got to know him, I saw he's funny and silly. He's quite popular among his friends, too. Since you've mentioned it, what talents does he have? (Hesitant) She'll be shocked. Yes, if you think she'll be shocked... He's a great dancer. (He's the best insider of all) Unbelievable! Your son has grown up so well. I've never heard him sing and I've never seen him dance. He was always a baby in front of me. It looks like you're quite curt, too. No, I'm a cheerful person. - Really? / - It doesn't feel like it. I'm very cheerful. What do you say when your mom asks if you've eaten? I... I don't really eat at home. (This friend has a unique character) Do you text with your mom? Once every two days. Do you call her or does she call you? I think I... - Call her more often? / - Call her less. (We lose) Ma'am! How do you feel now that you know your son is doing well? I'd be lying if I said I wasn't disappointed. But I am relieved that he's doing better than I thought. He sounds just like my older brother. I thought he was he was introverted and would be bullied around. I found out that he's completely different. He's in the student government and does presentations. What about you two? How often do you talk to your parents? I don't usually call my parents first. My dad is my fan. He always looks me up on the internet and texts me several times a day. "Have you eaten? What did you do?" I shouldn't say this, but it's a bit annoying, so I don't write back right away. I understand how he feels. But it gets worse. My dad has my pictures everywhere in his cab. He wanted to place my pictures on the exterior and I begged him not to. Please not that. (He's a true fan) It looks like he's doing very well. Why are you so worried about him? Is there a reason? When I was young, I had polio, so I can't use one side of my body well. - You? / - Yes. That's why I can't get a job. This is embarrassing, but I get money from the government. Why is that embarrassing? I couldn't buy things for Seonggu. One time, I got tired of him not speaking so I asked, "What is it?" "Why won't you talk to me or answer me?" He said, "Why did you have only me?" (Oh gee) "Do you know how lonely it is by myself?" I always felt bad about that. (She doted on him more because she felt bad) Bae Jungnam is an actor and a model. He was raised alone by his grandmother. He lived on his own since he was in fifth grade. That's when he became independent and learned at an early age how to make relationships with people. He says that it has helped him a lot in life. Is there something that you want to share with your mom that you haven't so far? Wait. By the look on your face, there is something you haven't told her. Yes. It's not too late. Tell us. It can only be one thing at that age. Girlfriend? I don't have a girlfriend. Wait! When you said that the friend in a beanie glared at you. (A moment ago) (You?) Tell us. He doesn't have one. He has never had a girlfriend? (He can't lie) He had one. No comment. Thank you for giving us a straight answer. (Who can stop him?) This is something you need to know. If you don't discuss things with your mom, she'll lose her self-esteem. She might think that you're like this because she's handicapped. If you love her and respect her, I think it'd be nice to discuss things with her. I would've beaten you if you were my son. (I'm sorry) Seonggu went to school for practical music, but he has never sung in front of Mom. Not once. Why don't you sing for her today? (You can do it!) (High hopes) ("Old Song") Look into her eyes as you sing. ♪ Someday to you ♪ (He's nervous from singing in front of his mom) (Glance) (She's staying on beat with him) (They were happy in the past) (Will they be able to go back to that time?) (The son she was always worried about) (Has grown up so well) (She's shedding tears of relief) (Touching) Has he grown up into a good person? Yes, I think so. What did you think of his singing? Is he better than you thought? Was it really good? He was so good. What would you like to say to him? I've never heard him say, "Happy birthday, Mom" on my birthday. I'd like to hear that and get a gift, too. Before I call you asking you if you're sick, can you call me at least once a week and ask, "What are you doing? What did you eat?" "Are you well?" That's it? Once a week? Once every other day would be nice. Can you do that? I will do my best. Say a word to your mother. I didn't think it was a big deal. I'm sorry if you were worried about me. I'll try to change. Do you love her? Yes. You want me to beat you? (Say it) - I'll punch you. / - He's embarrassed. I love you, Mom. (Happy) We'll start with Kwon Hyuksoo. Not calling Mom is an excuse. I've done the same thing. If you feel awkward, I'll teach you. I can teach you how to throw her a party. There's a way to do it. I don't think it's a concern. He can change right away. I think it's a concern. If you send a few pictures of you and friends, that would make her day. Please try hard. I don't think it's a concern either. I don't think it's a concern either. Press the button if you think it's a concern. (What does the audience think?) 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Please stop. People voted sporadically. Please show us the result. 57 votes. (They got 57 votes) "A Stinky Man" won this week. This is a reward to cheer you up. Congratulations. Until the day we are all worry-free... Hello Counselor will continue to counsel you. ("Crush" by Weki Meki)
