Give Men More Space Than Necessary

[Music] [Music] all right guys so this video is sponsored by our fellow toxic gang members in the mindful attraction academy um i want to say thank you to all of you guys you guys have allowed us to make this video so hello um so one of my patreon supporters um or toxic gang members whatever you want to call it ask me father alex if you were to give one advice on how to keep a guy how to keep a guy that you like what would it be and i thought about it okay and there's plenty of advice that i give is in the title of the of the video the more you like the guy the more space you should give let me tell you why okay just like the seminar that i'm doing in new york city and in florida in florida california this summer i'm going to your city this summer so check the description down below but we're doing a seminar in in new york city this month on the 30th it's a nice girl seminar where i will teach you how to stop being so nice okay trust like that the reason why is this look when you like somebody you get very emotional okay and when you get emotional you don't notice that you're coming across you lose a lot of self-awareness like it's natural because emotions cloud your vision you begin to see the world through a squinted gaze of foggy emotions so you don't really see reality that's why when women say alex father alex why are men so complicated i say daughter men are not complicated it's just that when you like that guy he gets complicated and not because he's complicated but because you're thinking about things too much you're too invested it's like putting it's like having an eater in your hand right and then trying to put that needle through a through a hole you'll notice that your hand will all of a sudden tremble when you let the guy you give him power and that dude goes from bob the [ __ ] programmer to tyrone the personal trainer like i always say you know what i'm saying and by you giving him that power by over pursuing a guy who's usually needy all of a sudden gets cocky with you and becomes disrespectful when you like somebody intensely you feel like the stakes are high you feel like this is the last guy that you're gonna meet that lights you that lights you back right you feel like this is the last guy that you can meet that you have chemistry because you rarely have this kind of chemistry with somebody you say to yourself you you rarely like people so as a result you create a scarcity mentality now what i'm going to say is something that i tell you guys all the time and you guys follow along you keep you put in the same [ __ ] look cut the [ __ ] down okay look it's not that i'm repeating the same [ __ ] even though i am sometimes but it's because sometimes it takes a lot of repetition for you guys to understand the soul of the of the concept unfortunately with guys and i know you guys seen this the more you like the guy for some reason it doesn't work out as much it's a cruel game that life does to us right it's not that you're not all of a sudden when you like the guy you're ugly it's not bad it's not that all of a sudden it's not that you want guys that like every woman wants no it's because you're so overbearing on that [ __ ] that you turn them off so what you gotta do is overcompensate what do i mean like i said before when you like the guy the more self-awareness you lose so you don't notice how overbearing you are you don't notice how needed you're coming across you don't notice how fast you're responding to his text you're not even aware how turned off he is with you you can't even read the sickness he's telling you because the emotions you feel are so intense and how do i know that because look i'm telling you i've loved somebody in the past and this happened to me you kind of resent life for that because you say to yourself god damn when i don't like the [ __ ] she likes me back when i like her she don't like me better and it's all because you cannot control yourself what i've learned is if you learn to control your emotions right and you don't over pursue you're gonna eventually learn to get the guys that you like to like you back like i always say when you like when you don't like them for some reason they end up liking you it's not that all of a sudden you're hotter it's just your behavior and that's that's the good part in this that is under your control so you gotta in a way have rules why not because you're being manipulative but because like i said before you don't know how you're acting you know you don't know how you're coming across [Music] so you gotta have some policies it's like it's like if you hire your friend your the emotions you feel for your friends is going to cause you to treat them differently so as a result you got to have policies so if your friend is like three times and naturally you'll forgive them because your friend by you having policies you say look tyrone [Music] i gotta fire you bro like it says three times you're late i mean but i'm tired wrong the personal trait bro i know i know but i got to fire you you see what i'm trying to say it kind of it kind of makes up for your lack of vision it kind of makes makes up for your lack of self-awareness so if you feel you're you're being too distant listen to me the more you like the more distant you have to be hey little buddy look at the little dog oh so cute mexico city has so many cute dogs so here's some rules that i always tell you guys to do but if this is the first time you see me on youtube this is how you do it the first text of the day and i'm look look i know you guys you guys i'm part of the toxic gang members i know you guys a lot of the things you i say you do when you don't like the guy the real task is when you like the guy who's willing to do this when you like the gaia the first text of the day take three to four hours to respond i i gotta repeat myself because a lot of you guys are not gonna understand what i'm saying until you lose somebody that you really like and then you're gonna say you know what father alex was correct all right alex first text of the day three or four hours respond and a lot of you guys are not going to be able to do this especially if you really like them especially if you have a fear of missing out especially if you had a history of losing guys that you really like but that's what you had to do and what you'll notice is that you'll find yourself oh hey little buddy look at him [Applause] [Music] all right you'll notice that this is going to be a part of you who wants to text back fast in fact you'll say to yourself he likes me enough so i could make that mistake father adam doesn't know what the [ __ ] is talking about look man i'm sorry that's that's that's the beginning of the end first chapters of the day two or three hours like i always say three times go back and forth with him taking five to twenty minutes and then go back to the two or three hours and then from time to time text back fast it's like he doesn't notice that you're creating a pattern because once he sees your pattern he sees right through you right and unfortunately this is the game that we have to play they tend to take each other for granted right now look i'ma tell you something you guys might say alex does that mean we have to manipulate to get somebody to like us no because let me tell you something the truth of the matter is this when somebody really likes us no matter what you can make those mistakes and they'll still like you you know what i'm trying to say when somebody's like meant to like you that's why people get into relationships because they meet somebody who intensely likes them but most of the time the interest that people have in us are very blase or 50 50. so by doing this somebody who would have not liked you before will like you and also this is a way to deal with your trauma it's not going to fix the trauma but having a guideline having a rule that you got to follow well by the way this t-shirt you guys know where to get it at right i make my own t-shirts um i'm an artist i paint so with that with those paintings i sell the paintings and forms of t-shirts so if you guys want to support me as an artist and if you buy it and you get it please tag me on instagram okay so i could post it so if you can see that people purchasing my stuff when i'm closing the chat right so just give that guy more space than necessary and when i say more space than necessary i need it i mean that look i mean that it's not fair because i know when you've got the chemistry that you feel when you like somebody is very intense and it's almost irresistible to not text back fast but just resist it deal with the anxiety of taking a long time to text back deal with anxiety rather than dealing with the anxiety of you lost and this also says this when i say space i also mean emotional space like i always say lower your non-verbals right show less interest say yes to the dates so it doesn't think you're disinterested but when you're with them just lower your non verbals 50 okay when he asks you to sleep over say no you might say but i really want to [ __ ] and say no why because you're going to communicate to him something that's pretty much saying that i like you but not enough to sleep but i still like you to have sex with look you guys don't may not understand the psychology of what happens when you do that because this is what you do when you don't like the guy and there's no coincidence that when you like the guy they end up liking you back right other than other things like that you could do is have like a rule of how late somebody's gonna be with you i mean like i go with more than 15 minutes if somebody's late more than 15 or 20 minutes just cancel right i will go 20 minutes as a guy 15 minutes means that you got to get the tick i mean the tip like the drinks not the tip right but if you're a woman he's more than 20 minutes late just say go back and let's just do it another time you know just say look man i got to meet up with some friends in 40 minutes um let's just meet up when we have more time because it's a little too late already as long as you let him know that you're not bought hurt by saying let you do some other time he's not gonna be late the problem is that when you like the [ __ ] you let him do that look listen to the ladies listen one of the reasons why i said gave a guy more space than necessary is because it just makes you less tolerant and it's not because i want you to be less tolerant but it's because when you like the guy you're more tolerant than usual you just don't notice it you get what i'm trying to say and that's how you do it man i really hope this video makes sense you guys um sometimes i make videos and i think it's not making any sense but it makes sense if you guys like this you guys can purchase one-on-one coaching where i'll give you individualized advice okay um if you guys want to attend the seminars that i'm having go to the description down below the tickets are limited so that when we fill up we're done okay um this is father alex your toxic dating coach hit the like button like this [ __ ] okay close to the channel and comment and let me know what did i say that you like or add on to it let me know why this makes sense or why this doesn't make sense if the comment makes sense i'll like it it okay stay toxic my friends [Music] all right ladies so finally i have released my second course for women which is natural chemistry this course is a five week course five week course where every week you're going to get a new set of videos based on based on specific issues this course is all about how to create and maintain the attraction in any man this will help you create love this will help you deepen the love with your man this is not about manipulation this is not about playing games this is genuinely genuine natural chemistry no more short-term partners no more being fooled why because i will reveal to you 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Channel: The Toxic Dating Coach - Mindful Attraction 2.0

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Length: 14min 38sec (878 seconds)

Published: Fri May 07 2021