FORCE YOURSELF TO GET IT DONE - Jordan Peterson (Best Motivational Speech)

it's likew I just want to be happy it's a slogan it's the most common slogan of our time I would say and it's such a Preposterous slogan it's like what do you mean just you just want to be happy that's all that's all you want that absolute impossibility you want Bliss unending no matter what you do and that's that's all you want it's it's it's not exactly a small ask let's say because it's the same thing as asking to dwell permanently in Paradise it's something like that and then it is also isn't true that isn't what you want if you do careful analysis of what people mean when they say they just want to be happy what they mean is they don't want to suffer stupidly they're much more concerned we're much more concerned with not experiencing an excess of negative emotion than we are with experiences a surfite of positive pleasure so first of all we don't mean we just want to be happy we mean please don't make us too miserable and and fair enough that's reasonable but then even on the happiness front even on the absence of misery front that's not true it's like it isn't obvious at all that we want happiness it isn't even obvious that we want absence of misery what's really obvious is that we want an adventure right we want an adventure that's so compelling that it makes the misery of life not just justifiable but but worthwhile you want to look back in your life and and you know this to be true you you want to be able to say to yourself even considering a month or a week or a series of days you want to be able to say that was really difficult but you know what it was worth it and I think that's what you want from your life it's something like you know what that was difficult but it was worth it and that meant that the adventure was so great that it Justified the difficulties and so then the question is and here's the question where do you find the Great Adventure of your life well how about in truth well why because you don't know what's going to happen if you tell the truth it's a mystery it's going to lay itself out for you and and so that's an adventure because you don't you literally do not know what's going to happen you have to let go of knowing what's going to happen and so then you have that adventure and then what is also the case is that it's you that's having the adventure right because if if what you're doing is living in truth that's your that's you that truth is you and so that means that whatever happens when you tell the truth is your adventure and and then you think well I'm using deception it's like well maybe you are but maybe deception is using you and then maybe it's the spirit of deception that's having the adventure of your life and then you might ask yourself well why are you so miserable and unhappy and the answer would be well the spirit of deception is having the adventure of your life you're not even there cuz if you're not living in truth you're not there obviously what's there is the spirit of deception and you might think that's your deception but I would be very careful about thinking that because there has been there have been centuries of meditation on the nature of the spirit of deception and the answer isn't that the spirit of deception is you the answer is that the spirit of deception is something that possesses you convinces you that it's you and that's not something you want to fall into the clutches of the world is founded on a sacrifice right and that's that's what the crucifix represents and European towns were built around a church and the church was built around an altar and the altar was built around the idea of s sacrifice so the sacrifice the proper sacrifice is at the center of of the community that's what that idea means now you might ask well what's the proper sacrifice and the answer is something like the voluntary willingness to Bear your cross and then you might say well what is your cross and the answer to that is well that's the catastrophy of your life right that's the fact you'll be betrayed the fact that you're going to die the fact that you're going to be in pain the fact that you're loved ones will see you suffer the fact that the mob will come after you the fact that criminals might be preferred to you you Etc it's all the potential catastrophes of your life and then the the sacrifice is the idea that you you have to you have to let your what would you say you have to let your narrow ego go enough so that you pick all that up voluntarily all of that and then that transforms it and I think I think that's literally true I think that's what all this that's what all the psychological evidence points to is that if you adopt a stance of voluntary challeng all even in relationship to tragedy and malevolence that that's the pathway to Transcendence do you have something to say that you're not saying if if you do then it's your fault this is your fault it's your problem and you might say well I'm too afraid to talk it's like fair enough how afraid are you not to talk you know people say to me frequently they compliment me on my bravery and I think you don't understand I'm not brave I don't I don't like conflict I'm way more afraid of losing control of my tongue than I am of the consequences of saying what I have to say cuz I know what happens when we allow other people to control our tongues it's not good it's not good it's hell itself and so of course it's Troublesome to suffer the slings and arrows of Outrageous Fortune when you say what you have to say it's like that's fine try not saying what you have to say well that'll be okay in the moment it's like yeah in the moment but unfortunately your whole life isn't in the moment practice in developing the capacity for skilled movement forward in a manner that simultaneously encourages the others that you're cooperating with to do precisely the same thing and that's not some arbitrary ethos it's it's not arbitrary because if that doesn't happen then nothing flourishes and if it does happen then everything flourishes it's also not relativistic in some sense because you have to do that no matter what you're doing no matter what it is that you're doing if you do that well you're doing whatever it is you're doing well in fact that's really in some sense how you would Define well if you give up enough psychologically you'll you'll cut your losses in actuality and of course that's sort of what thought's for is right so that you can you can get yourself straight you can give it up in abstraction so you don't act out the pathology and then and then nothing dies in actuality but that still means you have something to give up you want to initiate a process of active engagement with the dragon that burned you fundamentally the psychophysiological pattern of active engagement is the opposite to the psychophysiological pattern of involuntary stress and so if you can practice embodying that voluntary confrontation then that stance can come to dominate and that's the stance you want to dominate because that moves you forward voluntarily into the world and so and that in all probability that that will work I want to be free to do what I want okay well hang on a sec which eye are you talking about there are you talking about the mature eye that sees next week and next month the next year and 10 years out and that takes the community into account or are you talking about the impulsive heathenistic self-serving narrow eye that just wants exactly what it wants right now and what makes you think that when you make a case for that Hedonism that you're not just falling under the sway of an impulsive shortsighted demon so to speak if you look at music for example music operates by very sophisticated rules and so it's ordered and constrained but out of that rules system of rules comes an in almost infinite array of possibility and so you know we have this sense I think it deres from rouso that any constraint of order is a limit on freedom when what we should be hypothesizing is that with the optimal set of principles you get the maximally desirable freedom and it it's not freedom from everything and it's not freedom to do anything it's certainly not a narrow hedonistic freedom because that backfires on you like the next day this is I think why people are so obsessed in some sense with the search for fundamental meaning this is a good story so you can imagine two people laying bricks they're building a gigantic wall and the one person thinks oh my God you know this wall is going to take 100,000 bricks I'm laying one at a time and I'm wasting my life away trivially adding to this gigantic brick wall and what am I doing this is absolutely miserable Brick by Brick and the other person thinks in 300 years this is going to be a cathedral and so the person in the second state is doing exactly the same thing at a local level laying bricks but each brick is related to a very high goal and that means the reward that's attendant upon the laying of the brick is proportional to the goal of the entire behavioral process so if you're aimless and and goalless then you can't elicit any positive emotion and if you're goals are fragmented which is also what happens if you're aimless or your goals lack Unity if your goals are fragmented then no given behavioral manifestation can elicit any dopam energic reward because it's not a step forward to anything desirable one of the things well I did write about this in my first book particularly about putting your life putting your house in perfect order it's like well if you if you're lost one of the things you can do is look around and see what direction you could take locally fix something find something that you could do that would make things better that you would do and there's a humility in that too because especially if you're in a low energy State it's like oh my God you know I don't have enough energy to make dinner it's like do you have enough energy to put a fork on the table and sometimes people are so depressed that that's really all they can do can you take take a small step forward no matter how small that is Implement a micro routine even something like washing a cup and putting it back in the shelf and you know that's a good thing because you have a shelf and there's cups on it you've already decided that's an appropriate way to live is to have your coffee cups on a shelf if you go ahead with cleaning out the cup and putting it on the Shelf then you've taken steps towards a valuable micro go you get a dopamine kick from that that transforms itself into adrenaline and energizes you in part what the dopamine system is doing so imagine that the purpose of the dopamine system is to elicit a satiating reward fundamentally but then the satiating reward is something that has to be approached in in steps and so in order to maintain the motivation necessary to approach the satiating reward you have to mark each of the steps with a with a marker of pleasure

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Length: 12min 5sec (725 seconds)

Published: Wed Jan 17 2024