Noah Cyrus ON: FOCUS ON YOURSELF, NOT OTHERS - Stop Negative Thoughts & Build SELF LOVE

when you say confident i definitely don't feel that word yeah majority of the time actually maybe ever but i i'm constantly learning and constantly growing the best-selling author and host the number one health and wellness podcast on purpose with jay shetty hey everyone welcome back to on purpose the number one health and wellness podcast in the world thanks to each and every single one of you that come back every week to listen learn and grow i'm curious about people's stories i'm curious about how we find healing i'm curious about how creativity and self-expression can sometimes be the best medicine for what we're going through in life and i want you to hear from people of different backgrounds and different walks of life so that you can find similarities connection your story and their story so that it can feel like an emotional connection that we often miss and we often feel so lonely and isolated but hopefully this podcast makes you feel heard and hopefully it makes you feel seen and hopefully it makes you feel understood today's guest is none other than noah cyrus who grabbed the reins in her own life during some of the most difficult moments took control of it and told her story like never before the grammy award nominated multi-platinum nashville-born an l.a based singer and songwriter uncovered the kind of strength you only find within noah has stepped into herself on her 2022 full-length debut album the hardest part emerging at the age of 16 she immediately captivated audiences with platinum singles make me cry and again the end of everything ep yielded the triple platinum july and gold lonely in between earning a grammy award in the category of best new artists noah has performed at coachella twice and billboard named her among its 21 under 21 for three straight years please welcome to the show noah cyrus noah whoa okay hi thank you that was quite a intro whoa thank you i i always say it's so funny like every time i intro someone that is always the reaction i'm like i say the same thing i'm like well you did that like you lived that like you actually had to you actually had to experience all of that and work for it and earn it and go through the ups and downs that come with doing all of that so we all do right everybody it's hard like whoa that was thanks for that intro thank you thank you for having me it's nice but like we were just saying nice to meet you in person yes we got to meet over zoom two years ago we just talked about it briefly but like you're so nice like it's so nice to meet you and like this was not on camera but you ran out so quick as soon as i was here to give me a hug you're like so nice it's great to be in a room with you actually finally oh well the feeling is very mutual i was saying to you off camera as well that when my team and i were we're talking about having you on the show and we're so excited about that i had such a wonderful experience with you a couple of years ago when you interviewed me on your podcast even though it's digitally i just really felt like you were so great at talking about so many important meaningful things to give me a voice to give me a platform i felt so humbled and grateful and same with you like meeting you today i'm like this is so warm like you allowed me to just give you a big hug and i was like i don't know if i was going to wreck your makeup or your ass oh my whatever about that um no i i was so happy whenever i heard that your team had reached out for us to get in the room and talk i know it took us a bit for us to schedule everything but i'm so happy to finally be here with you and also like i the last time i we spoke i feel like i was in a much darker different place and i'm doing so much better now so it's great to really be here and be present with you and get to really experience you and how great you are well first of all i want to congratulate you on that transformation and transition i think that to acknowledge you even just saying that and how much work you've had to do to get there to feel that way and like i said to you i had a positive experience with you even then thank you and so i'm very grateful to experience you as you said in what you feel is the best version of yourself at the moment which is so beautiful and i loved a video i saw on your tick tock okay which was you and your dad okay and it was so beautiful and it was like i think you said something like you know i wish these days never end yeah like tell me about what was so special about that i mean just watching it was it just it was so joyful and it was so special honestly that's a common feeling i get whenever i'm with him or with my family honestly with life in general i just wish the days were longer oh you've caught me on like an emotional day so if i cry during this podcast guys this is like a normal thing for me kind of but um that's just a common feeling i get especially when i'm home in nashville just wishing i had more time but that trip was great i hadn't seen my dad in a long time and lately i've been able to since that tick tock actually which was posted last year i think or was it or earlier that really early this year it had to have been but it's an older tick tock i've been able to see him much more frequently but when i had been writing for this album actually the album's out on september 16th and i had written about that specific feeling actually like a couple years ago and it's actually the title track of my record hardest part and i wrote about that with my dad because i just you know growing up he would be in nashville i would be in la or back and forth and there was a lot of missing him and i guess it's really no uh secret that my family had been going through hard times and with in their marriage and things like that and so there was a lot that was unsaid between us and i wanted to write about it in my music and my music is really an outlet for me and my emotions and i don't know we had a really beautiful day a few years ago which wasn't when i made that tick tock but i wrote about it in my in my record just because i wish i could get more of those days and there's just not enough time and yeah yeah no it was it was beautiful to see and yeah now i think i think you pinned it that's why yeah it's not very clear it's pinned at the top yeah yeah the yeah the tick tock's old but the song is about an even older story but that yeah there was a trends are cool like that would take talk i'll see something on take talk and i'm like oh that actually really means something like we should do that and my friend amari was like you have to do this with your dad i love that no it was so special it was it was really joyful and special to watch and speaking about what you're talking about you were saying you've said that your goal is really the current goal is to like really heal your inner child and i think that's such a beautiful goal to have first of all and i think a lot of our community a lot of our listeners have that same goal as well i think we're all going through this experience of realizing that we've neglected our inner child we haven't listened to that in a child we haven't acknowledged it how did you even discover that that was a goal you had like how did you even come to that point of acknowledging that that was something you wanted to pursue identifying my emotions and what was causing a lot of my problems and and then making that connection to childhood was first of all the start um and with that i probably wouldn't have even been able to make that connection had it not been for my therapist and really really really trying with therapy because even i feel like when we spoke i i had a relationship with my therapist that i would kind of try to reschedule our sessions and i wouldn't keep up with it and i would fall behind it's actually a lot of work to keep up with it um because you know some days you're going to feel really good and for me it's hard for me on those good days to want to keep up or maybe i don't want to start feeling sad feelings or bring anything up and but it's actually really important to keep working and so once i identified that like i had a lot of sadness involved with my inner child and i had a lot i needed to heal but i really really owe that to therapy and i and i really highly suggest just an outlet of being able to get your emotions out somewhere where regardless of what that outlet is for you yeah i i think that's beautifully said and what were some of those emotions that you felt as a child or that you experienced that became so important for you to heal like what were some of those experiences that stayed with you one major one was self-love and and body image um love and and body dysmorphia i developed that at such a young age and it's been really hard for me to reframe my mind to to be able to even look at my younger self and love that version of me and now that i've begun to get there i'm now there and you know for me that was so heartbreaking that i couldn't i felt like i couldn't even really love a child myself as a child i felt like i wasn't even loving that version of myself and i could never imagine not loving a child you know what i mean but i and and so that was where i knew i needed to start and now of course i want to protect that version of myself so much because i just see this fragile child who is like every child in the world that just needs love and and to be cared for and of course i was i have an amazing family but there's just some things that especially i mean in my in my personal experience with body image that just some things people just can't see that people just can't feel because it's your body your mind your eyes you know and it's hard and it feels like you're alone in those times and in your brain it's just you in there with that inner voice and it and it gets really dark and it gets really lonely especially i mean certainly in my experience yeah and how does it feel when everyone around you is saying oh but you're beautiful or you're this so you're that like walk us through a bit of that because i think a lot of people have that challenge where like everyone's telling you you're great but then there's still this voice inside of you that feels that way what were some of those what's been some of the work behind the scenes that you've been doing in therapy and for yourself to kind of get to that place of self-acceptance and self-love as you said earlier that's very much still a work in progress for me and something my therapist and i talk about is how progress is kind of in you're going up but it's circular motions and in a circle you still go down and then you go up and you go down and so i'm going through that very much with self-love and with my body image my personal experience was online and in other places i was bullied over the way i looked so terribly like the word the words that were used are still so scarring to me where i'm almost embarrassed to bring it up or talk about it like it was very traumatizing for me so it was very hard for me to believe what people in my life was saying so it gave me actually a lot of trust issues that weren't there with people in my life because i felt as if everybody was lying to me which is still actually something i work on now still is my trust with people and and going with things and just being okay with this is me this is my body this is who i am this is what god gave me this is this is just who i am there's nothing i can do to change it and and you know while i'm here i've got to accept it and i'm really working hard to do so you know it gives me comfort if it gives anybody else comfort that it gives me comfort that you tell me other people feel that way when other people are saying you are this you are beautiful you are that because when you feel the opposite in your body and your mind and your soul you're not you're never going to hear it from anybody else and it's the same with you know loving yourself and and you know you have to truly love yourself and and and it's and it's hard to get there if you don't it's so encouraging though to hear that you went through this experience earlier on yet you've still found a way of expressing how you feel in the public eye and still being open to people's opinions and their reaction to you and that's takes incredible like confidence and and self-assurance because a lot of people would just say or i'm done with this i'm just going to go and hide like i just i feel that way every day yeah every day so again it's like kind of a battle with myself but i feel that way all the time when you say confident i definitely don't feel that word yeah majority of the time actually maybe ever but i i'm constantly learning and constantly growing yes and those are the two best things like that to me that's what i where i use that word it was like people don't usually feel confident or they're not confident but the way they act actually displays confidence and i think that's what's so interesting about confidence is that no one who ever is confident feels it it's just that people from the outside go wow that takes a lot of guts so like that still takes a lot of resilience and and that's what i'm noticing that you know to still be in the public eye but walk us through you know we're talking about the hardest part which is you know incredible to see you putting your challenges stress pain into music when did when did music start to become that healing for you and what was beautiful about the process behind this album like what did you experience in the making of this album music's always been extremely healing but especially with this album the process of finishing it up on the production side with mike crossy he executive produced the entire album we spent a couple months together just him and i and steven his engineer and a couple days towards the end we'd have musicians in but just locked in focused on the music it was the first time ever in my life or in my career i should say that i felt really in touch with my own musicianship and myself as like an actual artist not just a singer and a writer it came at a time where i was about six months into my recovery process i really needed some structure something to focus on something to put my energy towards an outlet for my emotions even if i wasn't writing i had written a few songs that actually just had to go onto the album like my side of the bed is one of my favorites on the whole album or i burned l.a down which was the first single off of the record occasionally i would get to lyrically make that get that outlet from my emotions but musically i really found a way to do so and it really shows in the record and it was that's what made it such a healing process was i feel like i really found myself sonically lyrically and emotionally and spiritually on this record that's incredible i i love what you pointed out then it came out it flowed naturally from you but for everyone who's listening i just want to capture this you said that during your recovery process six months in you found structure focus and an outlet and i think all of those things are such beautiful takeaways everyone who's listening may not be a musician or a writer or a singer but the idea that we all need when we're going through our own recovery structure a focus and an outlet and those are such practical ways that we can shift where we are walk us through some of that what was your structure like like what what were you what was your focus like were you thinking about something when you woke up in the morning when you were writing the song like what was your daily routine like and what were your habits like at that time so at the time of recording the album we had which i loved the whiteboard we had a whiteboard in the studio love white boys but it had our week out and every single week on fridays we'd sit and plan out what we were going to do for the next week so for example one week would be vocals week and we'd do each song like in a day and then um we'd also have like okay this next week we're going to be recording bass guitar strings whatever i go in after i'd have therapy in the morning wake up walk my dogs do therapy go to the studio record whatever [Music] instruments we were doing that day whatever vocals and really get to experiment with this new elevated sound that i was making um and so really we just had like this strict schedule that like every day i was in at a certain time and by the end of the day we both had mike has two kids so bedtime's eight o'clock he needs to leave at six we just had our daily routine which i think saved me so much because without a daily routine i'm very the type that can easily just slip into my room and not turn the lights on or get out of bed for like weeks and i've actually been having a bit of a back and forth battle with kind of doing that now and just self-isolation because i'm so used to doing so so really just having even if it was just you know a studio routine where it was this day we're recording this and this day we're tracking this or this day we're zooming this person or they're coming in here it really like saved me and falling in love with music again saved me because i think it's all so easy to alienate yourself or get alienated by things you love whenever whenever you're doing it such a long time or you know things get tough and you know things don't go your way and then they do go your way so suddenly so i guess the point is just keep going and never give up and you know but it gets hard yeah i love that point you made it's so interesting how we can fall out of love with something that we're so deeply in love with i i can so relate to that in so many ways let's let's talk about that because i think that's just a fascinating idea i think we think that when you're in love with a thing an idea a person a place a home we expect that once you're in love you just stay in love and like you were saying earlier with your therapist it's more like the other way like you fall in you fall out it changes it grows it moves you fall in you fall out it changes it grows how have you learned to fall in love with music again structure was a part of that was there something else that helped you fall back in love with something that you'd fallen out of love with well what made actually a better question is what made you fall out of love with music and then what helped you fall back in love i'm not sure if i ever completely felt out of love yeah i think after doing this since i was 16 years old there's been a lot of times where i've felt really encouraged to keep going but there's also a little discouragement at times it's hard whenever there's a lot of people in your ears and people wanting you to be a certain way and do a certain thing and so i think for a long time i didn't trust my own vision because i felt as if other people didn't either and so i almost just kind of wanted to give up and didn't really have a vision at all but being able to go and experiment and find who i am sonically and what that sounds like to me and you know there's so much of me on that track i'm playing piano on that track i'm playing sub i'm playing percussion i'm playing they're just even if they were just little bits of sounds like it was me and i was inside of it all the instruments are live i got to you know i for so long piano was my favorite instrument for so long but now it's pedal steel and you know and i just i've fallen in love with instruments again and um that ignited so much excitement for me and it ignited so much excitement with the album campaign and performing and and everything that comes with music and and being able to experience what it's like once it's out of the studio and so that really ignited a lot of excitement in me again yeah and then again like again the writing process was also amazing a lot of it was painful at the time a lot of it was maybe in bits and pieces and different timelines of where i was personally but i think that's also what makes it special the album definitely is very dynamic with with the sounds and the instruments sonically there's a lot of emotions a lot of conversations but to your point really quick about the falling in and out of love weirdly enough friday or tonight actually at 9 00 pm i have a song coming out with ben gibbard of death cab for cutie and it's one of my favorite bands of all times he's one of my favorite artists ever and our song is about that feeling of it's not you genuinely it's not me genuinely we're just falling out of love like that's just we're not the same anymore we're we've grown we've been we've we've we're drifting apart and i think that really does happen with people i know both people from personal experience and from witnessing others have to be fully invested in one another and both have to want to light that fire again and if just one of you don't then it it really it's nearly i think impossible to get that back yeah and i couldn't agree that's so that's so beautifully said i couldn't agree with you more that i think that's what often is the truth that we don't want to accept is that someone doesn't want to try again no we don't even want to accept that because it's so painful to accept where we're like we want to try again but that person doesn't want to try again and and that's the hardest part like that that's really tough because you're like but i'm still in this but then what i find interesting about what you just said there yet it's also that person realizing well i'm still in this because i still think that person's the same as who they were but now using your words you're like we've just outgrown each other like do you think people change like do people change i put out this ep right and i titled it people don't change because a lot of in my personal experience yeah i set out to want to change and i think i'm in the process of changing my life i don't know if i can exactly change who i am at the core what do you what do you think about that that's such a great question because i go back and forth i don't and if somebody asked me i wouldn't know but i i want to know your take on it yeah i would say i do believe that transformation and change is possible but it's not very probable the probability is low but the possibility is high and what i mean by that is everyone has the opportunity to change but the path is long hard and often requires big amounts of tragedy stress and turmoil to even get someone to have that opportunity to take that path and so i don't think i would ever write off i genuinely believe in real transformation and change and i believe in the possibility of it i think the probability and the expectation and the speed we want it to happen at is unlikely i also believe that people don't change for people and i think that's often when we say people will change it's often us the real full sentence people will change for me right and i think that's really what we're saying and that i don't agree with i don't think someone changes for someone else i think people change for themselves when they realize that if i don't change then that's not good for me but the probability of that happening is low until something massively painful or drastic happens in their life and i agree with you on the core thing like i look at i went through a huge change externally in terms of i became a monk i left my time as a monk that i lived for three years in india and then i lived the life i do today and but i'm still the same person i always was at the core like what you said like at the core i'm the same person i was raised by my mom she told me to be polite i like people i'm kind these are things i learned from my mom when i was a kid and i'm still all those things and i've grown but i'm still the same person at the core and so i think that people can i've seen amazing changes in people i've seen people who've gone from doing the worst things to doing the best things i've seen people go from but the probability is not as high and it won't happen for a person so i don't know if that helps answers your questions no it does yeah yeah because i mean it's kind of exactly how i feel about it too oh good yeah no i mean i agree like and you know from experience of seeing that i mean even in positive ways you don't have to look at it as a negative way not losing yourself and who you are at the core like i mean i feel like i lost that for a long time and in a positive way i got it back um and again that was a lot to do with who i am and who i was as a younger child yeah um because i also felt that change and shift in myself at such a young age i mean i still look at 17 and 18 years old as a child to me and and very very young and lived on my own at 17 and thought i had the whole thing figured out and you know very quickly after everything shifted very drastically and you know until i was maybe just a year ago i started feeling like who i was when i put my very first single out maybe maybe even way way way before i don't really remember when i truly lost or started disconnecting from who i really am or started disliking or not loving who i really was yeah yeah and actually i think you've just answered it like i think ultimately when we're both talking about change we're talking about growth yeah absolutely and it's like what you've been saying this whole interview so far it's like you're like it's an everyday thing it's a work in progress i'm still working on it like that's what growth is and i think when we look at growth in ourselves we realize it's a daily process but when we look at change in someone else we want it to be drastic and tomorrow absolutely right it's different expectations we have of change if that makes sense no that was a really good way to put it yeah like you know it's like i know if i need to change it's going to take a few years but i'm hoping this person changes tomorrow yeah yeah and that's where i think our expectations and change kind of get too mixed up so change is possible our expectation is a slightly messy i think what's a big change you think you've made in your life that has had a big change externally like internally what is a change that you've made even a simple thing that you feel has i mean the most major change for me was was stop taking xanax that completely i was ruining my life it it was the scariest most alone i had ever felt except it made me feel as if i had comfort whenever i was on yeah the substances i was taking at which time that was you know the poison that i really had to get out of my life and um make that change had i not done that i touch on it on the album but i'm not 100 sure i would have been able to be sitting here having this conversation with you because i didn't really want to be alive anymore you know when i did have this moment of clarity even if it was for a second i did not want to forget that i had one thought that like maybe i could turn this around i called who i needed to call and i made that change so absolutely without a doubt i mean that's just the first thing that comes to mind because had i not done done that like i come i it saved my life getting off of off of xanax so that's a that's amazing thank you so much for being so open and vulnerable with us i can tell that obviously it's not an easy thing to talk about especially when it's been a part of your life in that way so thank you so much yeah and and even more so just that's incredible like that's amazing and and you know i think there's so many people listening and watching who i'm sure their family members they've been in that position you know i think it's incredible isn't it how lonely you can be made to feel when actually it's a hugely collective experience um and and i think that's going to help a lot of people you're sharing that and that making that change in your life thank you and and being with you today i'm like that's that's amazing it's truly incredible thank you yeah i think i think we need to uh acknowledge and celebrate that more because again it takes so much strength thank you yeah i just hope honestly i think my goal with all of this and being open about it is i do know that um i'm not trying to be an example for anybody i'm just trying to share my experience because i also had a lot of people i mean we did a podcast years ago i have i've had a music music career since i was 16 years old i had a lot of people looking in since i was a baby just due to the family i was born in and with instagram and social media and things like that interviews i felt that a part of me was seen that you know i allowed out there but i really wanted an explanation for i think a lot of like the things i had posted on my instagram and i felt like there were a lot of things like you know friends reaching out worried about me after i would post an instagram story and you know just the look in my eyes was scary to a lot of people and there's a few interviews in particularly when i just hear the way i was talking where i feel so ashamed and so guilty and i think that's another thing is like the shame and the guilt and the regret is inevitable when going through this so for anyone listening to know that that's normal um and that's something i experience every single day even though i know i probably shouldn't it's it's just something you experience and it's it's something i'm going through and go through and sometimes it's better and sometimes it's worse but i it's just all part of the process yeah again i think that also goes back to just learning to love yourself and and look out for yourself and nurture yourself whenever you're being so hard on yourself or completely changing your life you know but i go hard on myself about before and what it was like two years ago or three years ago and that's just something i'm processing and dealing with as of now yeah and i think that that's that's i love what you said that it's it's not about being an example it's just encouraging to to hear that that is what you go through i think it's so interesting that every day we feel hot and we feel cold and we feel maybe sweaty we feel really cold we feel like we're freezing like we go through so many different body changes every day and we would never judge ourselves for that we wouldn't be like oh i'm the worst i should have worn a longer sleeve t-shirt like you just go and put a sweater on or whatever and i think it's the same with our emotions like we're experiencing so many emotions throughout the day but we don't give ourselves the permission to say i'm allowed to feel cold and then get a sweater to feel warm like we don't do that with our emotions if that makes sense and saying hey i do feel a bit of shame but then maybe i need to feel a bit of this to help you know even it out and so i love that that's the process you're on and i agree with you it's a daily thing i don't think there's anyone who never just like there's no one in the world who never feels hot or cold there's no one who doesn't feel sad or down or happy or unhappy like we're all feeling all of them at different spectrums and different extremes so learning our own patterns and learning our own thoughts is is pretty much you know what we all need to focus on so i i wanted to pick something that this was a lyric from i burned down uh bernd la down and you said and obviously it's about feeling like you have to burn l.a down to get someone you're dating his attention but this is the lyric that i thought was really beautiful you s i'm good i can't sing so please do not expect anything i'm just going to read it out okay i waste my breath on a prayer you don't care i was never part of the plan you can't make a god of somebody who's not even half of half a decent man like that lyric is just it's a pretty cold lyric yeah yeah yeah but it's also just like a very raw emotion and i thought it was it's it's cold but it's poetically put together so it's it's it's powerful and i think a lot of people could relate to that i think that i wanted to pick a few moments if you don't mind if that lyric the you can't make a god of somebody i find that such an interesting concept i think so many of us are looking for god in the people we idolize the people we follow the sports teams the musicians the actors the even parents and people in our lives like we're all looking for that god figure in so many ways and you know you rightly say in that lyric uh you can't make a god of somebody like where did that come from i wanted to hear that idea because i thought that was really powerful concept my poetic way of always just completely falling into people and how much i completely rely and give myself to people i think obviously i've been very open that it's been hard to rely on myself in the past i always looked in that for other in in other people at the time especially of covid and everybody's isolation it was just me and that one other person and so my entire life revolved around that one other person every single day whether they were happy they were sad if they were comfortable uncomfortable if they were mad or not mad if they loved me or didn't love me my entire life became what revolved around somebody else i've definitely done that in the past and like you said again people with uh are like that can be with many different things it's finding the right things to do that with and and with me it was my album and worshiping music and actually finding myself and who i am and loving myself but that was where that lyric came from is just it felt like worship the way that i admired this person and then you had to redirect that worship towards your music and your craft and your creativity would you say that's correct absolutely and i think also i've been thinking a lot about my spirituality lately and i think that's a huge different conversation for a whole other time but you know i just hope falling in love with other things and the world's so interesting and uh the universe is so interesting and energy is such a powerful thing and i just i want to learn more about it and and and god and and what that is to me and other people and who and just it's all so interesting and i just want to know i want to learn more i want to grow more again like i said this all goes back to growing instead of using the word change going going going toward going growing i think is good yeah yeah no i i i can relate to a lot of that in the sense of like i feel i was always in love with love growing up yeah me too i i fantasized that majorly same and and all of it was based on romantic songs and movies and none of it was based on reality it was all based on pop culture and media and you know and and i for a long time i i really pursued that type of love and that was that love that was based on idolizing someone else worshiping someone else wanting also to be idolized back and and recognizing that there was a part of me that was really seeking that importance through that other individual in the guise of loving them and i think when i came to the conclusion that similarly to what you're saying actually you can't make a god of somebody it's like you can't make a god of yourself either you know and that that was a really beautiful reflection but it's it's a painful one because we get so trained and wired to believe certain things what's uh what's a belief that you think you have now about yourself that is healthy and putting you in the right direction and helping you grow uh you talked about some of the beliefs in the past that have helped you back what's a belief now that you have about yourself that that is helping you move forward and in this positive direction that i can just i can do what i set my mind to do whether that's with recovery or other things i used to just say i can't and or i won't or but i actually have shown to myself so many times what i can do and i think that's something that like i repeat to myself every day i also have you will be tatted on my on my wrist which i kind of think is kind of the same thing just that i will be what i set my mind to or what i set my goals to or who i want to become or who i want to work on being and i hope that's kind of enough that's great it's just that i just i i had so much doubt in myself and that's something that has held me back for so long so i think knowing that and believing that in believing that truly and to my core is new for me uh and something i can truly honestly say i feel about myself i also have a hard time you know even when you say that like i may back to the confidence thing i sound like i really believe in myself but at the same time i have battles where i actually have a hard time doing so or saying kind things about myself or you know so it's kind of a hard battle so that was kind of the first thing that came to mind i thought it was a beautiful answer because i'm like isn't that just such a great thought to repeat that if i want to change something i can like i can with this journey i'm going through therapy this journey i'm going through recovery like that's that's such an empowering thought and i think it's so amazing how we quickly believe negative thoughts about ourselves but we doubt the positive thoughts and it's like every day if i told myself which i have at times like i'm not good enough i'm not good enough i'm not good enough i don't ever question that thought i'm so cool with accepting that that's just the truth and i don't think about whether i say every day or not i just keep saying it whereas when i say i can then we're like oh wait wait did i say that too early maybe i don't maybe i don't believe it and and so i actually loved that that was your answer because i think that is the beginning of all change and growth is saying i can do anything i put my mind to and and i have control over what i put my mind to and so i i actually think it's a it's a really great answer and i'm hoping that everyone who's listening to that can start making that shift in their life i had a mentor who would always repeat napoleon hill to me and so he'd always say to me you become what you think about and he'd get me to repeat it you'd be like keep saying that you become what you think about you become what you think about and then he'd catch me off guard randomly when he'd see me and he'd look at me and be like jay what are you thinking about i'd be like nothing and he goes well you become what you think about see what you're going to become nothing like and he just play with that and then it was i was like oh interesting what am i thinking about what do i obsess over like what do i keep repeating in my mind and it was just something as simple as that that started me to be like okay well i'm thinking about my purpose i'm thinking about my service i'm thinking about how to have an impact in the world i'm thinking and then i just started seeing my life change and it is that simple in the beginning and so i actually think that was a beautiful answer sir thank you for sharing it uh noah i could honestly and i hope i do get to have that conversation with you another time as you said there's a whole separate conversation around spirituality yeah discovery but we end every episode uh with a new segment that we started recently which i love uh called the many sides to us okay uh and this is where you're using words or phrases to talk about yourself through different perspectives so i'm gonna ask you the questions and and you can answer them so the first one is what's a word or phrase that someone would say about you meeting you for the first time now today i don't know i think this is hard can i give you one yes you give me like exactly yeah yeah so i met you today for the first time in person and i the word that came to my mind was sincere okay really sincere okay you were so sincere and genuine uh in your initial words to me and what we were talking about when you first came in and there was just so much sincerity and genuineness there so okay that's how i think you know okay all right thank you so i did that for you so thank you that's good i'm hopefully not going to have a hard time with this i don't the rest will be easy uh what is a word that you use that someone would describe you that knows you well or word or a phrase that someone who knows you really deeply would use to describe you sensitive yeah sensitive in good and bad ways i think sensitive can be taken as like a bad thing but it's actually i'm a very sensitive person and i think the person i'm thinking of would be my mom if you were to and i think that was my mom telling me that i'm very sensitive i love though that what you've been doing today you've done it twice now it's like you're always looking at how each quality and value can actually be negative but also positive like you know it can be healthy too yeah and i think often like you said like i initially are sensitive yeah people are so sensitive and it's like well no no being sensitive can actually be one of the healthiest things i love that it gives you a lot of compassion towards other people as well it's not like how you said like oh you're so sensitive you know actually i'll take it the wrong way sometimes what do you mean so if i think maybe if she had my mom had said that on a different day i probably won't take it all right uh question number three what's a word or phrase you'd use to describe yourself sensitive um i'm very loving towards other people and other things and like so towards myself but i mean so i've whenever people we actually i have we talked about this in therapy i have a hard time talking about my it's very evident talking about myself personally but whenever i do talk about things about myself i think it's the way that i give to other people so i'm an extremely loving and giving person thank you for having the cards to compliment compliment yourself i love it yeah no it's yeah that's great i love that that's a great answer all right uh last two questions what's a word or phrase you'd use to describe the hardest part the album honest is such a vague answer um but i mean it's just extremely honest and open and it touches on so many parts of my life um like i said in so many different situations i also use the word personal a lot too just because literally the first song on my album is called noah and so i think in a way i was nervous at first like how are these how are people going to hear this and make it relate to themselves but i think honestly by being so honest is where people will be like oh i actually do feel that too because if you're not then other people aren't going to be relate to i think every feeling sometimes sometimes my thoughts feel like i'm the only person that's ever had this thought in the world and then i like go on instagram or tick tock and i see people talking about their feelings and they're like i feel that feeling you know so probably that i would say very a vague word not a va it may be a common word but the description that you just gave of like yeah that feeling of connectivity i think is really powerful like i think i think that's why it is important to talk about how we feel and what we're going through so we realize we're not the only ones you know i mean i i think a lot of people suffer in silence and and suffer in a place because they do feel isolated and alone because then they don't check with someone because they didn't feel comfortable too yeah uh you know i i have a very minor totally minor surgery tomorrow and it's like i i i i very minor like totally not not not complex or deeper in any way but the reason i'm bringing it up is even something so minor when i told my friends about it i found out 25 of my friends had all male friends had all had that surgery and i was like it's a hernia and and i was like why didn't you ever tell me like right and that's a really basic example but it's the same thought process of like how when i when i first heard i had a hernia i was like i'm too young to have die why do i have one and then when i start talking to my friends so many of my friends under 30 had one and i was like oh why didn't i know about this right so it's something as simple as that so i think the honesty it connected uh and fifth and final question what's a word or phrase that you're trying to embody again extremely cliche because it's a title on my album um but i also have it tattooed on my body is stan stale um it's a phrase my dad said since i was really young and i felt like i forgot to use it for quite a long time but when you don't know what to do just stand still it's okay to take your time and take a moment and re-evaluate everything that has saved me so many times in my life and a lot recently um and so to practice for me it's really hard for me to stay still and stand still and be still and so to practice that more i really live by those words and i really look up to my dad and admire him and his strengths so much so that's such a powerful powerful answer i love that advice uh everyone who's been listening and watching i want you to go stream the hardest part right now it's available as we're speaking uh go and listen to it go and share it go and feel with it go and experience the honesty that noah's putting out there i hope it's extremely healing and connecting for you and also please feel free to share i think there were so many incredible things that noah shared today please tag us both on instagram on twitter or on tick tock if you're sharing a reflection from this podcast please tag us both because i love seeing how you put into practice what our guests share and i'm sure noah would love to see that too so please please please do that i know i hope this is the first of many times i get to see i do i really do too uh but you were i just i want you to know that everything you shared today is going to stay with me for a long time and uh there are so many parts that i know i'm going to re-listen to and re-watch and i'm just i'm so glad we got to talk because i even was having anxiety and had been i mean with my grandmother just passing have been having so many different conflicting feelings and like even today nick was like oh well maybe this is just talking with jay and you know talking about your feelings and stuff is really gonna help you and so this has been amazing i'm so grateful we got to be in a room together and finally me thank you so much for having me no thank you i hope you feel you got to share everything you wanted no i i feel i feel great thank you good that makes me happy amazing thank you so much thank you thanks noah if you want even more videos just like this one make sure you subscribe and click on the boxes over here i'm also excited to let you know that you can now get my book think like a monk from think like a monkbook.com check below in the 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Channel: Jay Shetty Podcast

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Length: 50min 28sec (3028 seconds)

Published: Mon Sep 19 2022