Feminine Manners || A Feminine Impression Femininity Series

[Music] as a woman if you've been watching my other videos we've learned about looking presenting yourself to the world in a way that shows that you love yourself and that you care about yourself you talked a lot about the outer appearance in terms of wearing makeup hairstyles having good hygiene smelling good looking clean he talked about lipstick and it's my link so today we're gonna dive further into feminine behavior and we're going to discuss manners and the way that you interact with people and bringing out your feminine side so go ahead and grab something to drink I'm drinking some iced coffee grab something to write with let's go ahead and jump into the video so a lot of people have this misconception that if you are a feminine woman if you're very attractive if you're beautiful that you don't have to be nice but you don't have to have matter this is one of the things that get in the way of so many people's success is that they either don't know or they don't practice good manners even if you're someone who doesn't consider themselves to be very attractive if you have a good manners it definitely can compensate for the lack of whatever it is that you think you're lacking it makes people very attractive and men are very attracted to women who have good manners if you have a good manners people are usually so taken aback because they don't expect you to and this actually makes you a overall beautiful person some of the things that I'm gonna talk about you might already know and some things you maybe don't know but one thing I can you is that everything matters when it comes to manners everything mattered and surely as a human being you should be putting out kindness into this world you should be treating others with respect and dignity and you should be treating people the way that you want people to treat you so with that in mind let's go ahead and get started the first thing I want to talk about is the basics saying please and thank you you would be surprised how many people do not say please and do not say thank you especially when they're being helped by a service person many people don't find the need to say thank you they figure it's their job it's important to be polite so please say please and say thank you with a smile and that gives off your feminine energy okay also when you're talking to someone look them in the eye and show that you're engaged I know this can vary from culture to culture but in my videos we're gonna be specifically talking about the Western world so when you're talking to someone engage make eye contact smile look interested if you're meeting someone for the first time and you're shaking their hands as a feminine woman you can shake their hand softly you don't have to have a strong grip even if you're excited or even if you hold a very high position you can still have a feminine handshake and a smile and this ignites your feminine energy okay it's very powerful and it doesn't mean that you're weak it actually means that you're strong you're control if you meet someone for the first time and you're speaking with them try to make a point to remember their name I know that this is tough for a lot of people so what I do is I try to connect their name with something that I already am familiar with everyone is different and they can associate names with different things or maybe they may look like someone or have the same name with someone else but trying to find a way to remember their name and if for some reason in the conversation you forgot it by the time the conversation ends ask them again it's better to ask them in that first conversation if you can can you please remind me of your name again I'm sorry just say it like that and people understand that you're not gonna remember their name the first time and they'll repeat it and nine times out of ten they're gonna ask you for your name as well because they also probably forgot so remember names and if you can in the conversation say before the conversation ends you can say it was really nice to meet you see them or if the person is helping you like in the service industry once they're done helping you you can say thank you very much dammit because you've read their name tag right so you're drawing that connection and you're showing that you're there you're present you're grateful and they're important I also try and remember specific details about people so if I'm having a conversation with someone and they tell me that their grandfather is sick I try to make a mental note and when I see that person again or if I'm thinking about that person throughout the week I make some them a text or a call or email and just say I hope everything's going well with your grandfather or if I see them again I'll say hey how's everything going with your grandfather try and remember things that people tell you when they're important okay because that allows them to know that you were listening that you cared these small gestures go a very long way especially if you're in business or if you're in the workforce and you want to learn how to move up or how to gain favour in people's eyes having matters and applying these things that I'm telling you are going to make you stand out they're going to make people remember you you're going to be someone that is valued and someone that is regarded very highly ok so just keep that in mind this could be applied in every situation in life another very crucial tip is punctuality being on time okay that means being on time - dates being on time - meetings being on time - birthday parties being on time - appointments in general is very important everyone's time is valuable and it does say something about you if you don't show up on time okay it shows that you're either careless or you're irresponsible or you don't care about other people's time or maybe you don't care about the job so if you're going to be late the proper etiquette is to let them know ahead of time directly don't tell someone else to tell someone else that you're going to be late you contact your boss and say I'm sorry I'm gonna be about five minutes late to the meeting let them know as early as you know don't wait until it's the last minute maybe you think you can make it and so you wait and wait and wait and now there's a traffic jam and you're like an hour late and you could have never expected that as soon as you're leaving your house and you know that you will even be ten minutes late you let them know I'm sorry I'm running late okay so let people know ahead of time same thing if you can't make an event if someone's having a birthday dinner or something that's important and you commit it to it even if it's not important if you've committed to something and you can no longer make it let people know ahead of time now I know some people struggle with this especially if you are someone who is very nice or cares a lot about people's opinion of you you might be very anxious very nervous very hesitant to tell someone that you can't make something because you're afraid of what they're gonna say or how they're gonna feel or what's gonna happen next however it is a lot more stressful irritating and it does actually leave more of a bitter taste when you do not let them know early enough because maybe had you let them know ahead of time they could have made other arrangements they could have invited someone else and they really wanted you there then sometimes they might even change the location or change the date or move things around so that you can make it you really want to see that person if it's very important to you and you just couldn't make it then maybe send a gift some flowers or let them know that you can take them out on a different day and in return if you're the person who hosted then you would reach out to people and let them know that you are grateful that they attempt that you had a great time and you look forward to seeing them in the future if they gave you a gift then you definitely should let them know that you received it that you're thankful for it and just show your appreciation and gratitude for the gifts do not ever receive a gift and not say thank you the think you should be immediate if someone mails you something in the mail like a card or present don't hold on to it for a week and post it on social media and not even let the person know that you're thankful if it was a big event like a birthday party or your child's birthday party or an event like a wedding or something bigger then you can actually mail out thank you cards you don't have to individually call people but you do have to mail something formal out and let them know that you're thankful and that you received it this is so important because when you stop doing this when you stop showing your gratitude for things then people also stop doing things for you now let's talk about some manners and etiquette when you're outside of your home and just kind of walking around whether it's in the store or like at the mall or just out and about in general okay one thing that's very important is when you step out of your house make sure that if you're on your cell phone you're being mindful of others it shows very poor manners to be out on your phone talking loudly okay if you're in the store and you're having a conversation other people should not be able to hear what you're talking about I've been out in the stores many of times and I've seen adults on their phones having very inappropriate conversations while there are children around they may not be their children but they're still children and they're listening to what you're saying a lot of times it's very inappropriate or they're using curse words that does show that you're not being considerate that a child is around and they're being exposed to the things that you're saying also on the topic of phones if you're out on a date or in a meeting or getting your nails done or just anywhere where you're around other people if you're on your cell phone I let them know say excuse me I'm so sorry that I have to take this call let them know that you don't want to have to do this because truly you should step outside into it but if you have to do it you can simply say I'm so sorry I have to text my daughter to make sure she made it home or you can say I'm sorry I'm expecting a call in a few minutes that I'm gonna have to take if you're getting your nails done and you know you're gonna be on the phone the whole time and you're not gonna be engaging with the person helping you then you let them know I'm gonna be on the phone is that okay so that they don't feel like you're disrespecting them so let them know why you're doing it so that way they have an understanding and they don't take offense to so if you're out and you're dining with others make sure that your conversations are appropriate for dining so try to avoid topics that are gross or that are devastating or tragic they don't make good table side manners they don't make good dinner conversations they can make people feel very uncomfortable they can make people feel physically sick and it doesn't make the experience Pleasant because it's hard to enjoy your food if you're now becoming emotional about something or you had to picture something that that was displeasing it can really just kill your appetite and ruin the mood so keep conversations when you're eating a very light and appropriate for the dinner table when you are dining with someone it's really important to make sure that you're mindful of how much food you're putting into your mouth not talking with food in your mouth chewing with your mouth closed not smacking and this is something that you have to practice at home when you're at home you should be practicing all the things that you do outside of your home so that they're natural if you think that it's okay to have poor manners at home you are subjecting everyone in your household to that and almost making it seem like it's okay for them to hear you're smacking because you're at home and when you do something at home all the time it's a lot harder when in public to restrain yourself it takes so much mental energy so practice at home so that when you're in public it comes natural it's second nature and the same concept applies to over the phone if you are eating you can let them know I'll call you back and when you call them back brush your teeth or rinse your mouth or some things that you're not still rolling your tongue around your mouth while you're on the phone with them are doing and making noise sounds with your mouth when you're on the phone because the phone actually amplifies it they can hear it even more if this is something that's very difficult for you or you just have no idea no one has ever taught you tableside manners then look up some videos on YouTube there are plenty of books also written about it have a mentor have someone who you like the way that they present themselves when they're out you like their manners watch them watch how they sit watch how they eat watch how they move and mimic that okay I have mentors on YouTube that have no idea I even exist I've never even commented on their videos I also have my own mentor it's a woman from my church that presents herself in a very feminine and powerful way and I love her and we meet once a month but we always go to eat and I watched her and I watch the way that she sits the way that she eats the conversation she has around her food the conversations that she has with the waiter the way she treats the waiter i watch all of it and some of the things I knew some of the things I didn't know so it helps to have a wide range of information and learn from whoever you can but don't be afraid of picking up behaviors from other people when you like them okay don't feel like oh I don't want to be like her I don't wanna be fake that's how you learn okay everyone that makes people okay that's behavior that's how we learn how to behave we mimic so if you don't know it's okay but start paying more attention and making those behaviors if you feel like you don't know how to start now some other matters that are very helpful is when you're at a store and your annoyed okay maybe you walked it and no one helps you or maybe you're in line and there's like 25 people in line and one cashier and they're just like oh my gosh well they open up another register and you're just irritated okay that's not the proper way to behave especially if you want results don't go around complaining and talking at 20 different people and telling them how annoyed you are there's only one register open okay what you can do is you can politely ask another customer service rep if it's possible for them to open up another register and say it with a smile okay don't come off annoyed and food and irritated complaining it doesn't solve any problems it just makes it appear that you are frustrated and you don't know how to handle your emotion and in terms of emotions in general in public you should never ever be arguing with anyone there's really no reason to ever argue with anyone in public or arguing in general arguing is competitive its aggressive and it's just unnecessary now it's important to state how you feel and state where you stand state your standards all of that but not to argue so if you're in public and you're speaking with someone and it just feels like it's about to turn into an argument or you know yourself and you know that you might start to argue don't if you're with someone that you know and you guys are having an unfavorable conversation and argument continue the conversation when you get out of the store and you're behind closed doors and no one's around to watch it is not attractive to argue in public it doesn't attract anything positive to you and honestly you might be asked to leave because it cheapens the entire environment it ruins the move and it's just poor manners so please don't argue and if you do save it for when you get home as a feminine woman it's gonna be very important for you to learn how to control your emotions this is one of the most difficult things to do and I'm gonna do a separate video specifically talking about emotional control it's important to learn how control them when to use them and how to use them so we will talk about that in a separate video when it comes to manners and etiquette and just treating people right there are so many things that I could tell you guys because it does differ from conversation to conversation but the most important thing is to be polite to be soft to smile don't be aggressive say things in a way that doesn't turn people off so if you didn't hear what someone said say excuse me or pardon don't say what or say what or what was that or what happened don't do that okay it just comes off as unprofessional it comes up as rude sometimes just say I'm sorry about with that or excuse me what did you say I'm sorry I missed that or part of me just give it another spin okay a softer more feminine just remember ladies that being polite is free it doesn't cost you anything to be polite and when you are polite you will start to see doors open for you so just remember in order to ignite your feminine energy in order to just exude woman and softness and beauty and love it's important for you manners to radiate this is gonna be the tool that pull in everything that you want in life because you are putting out good and you will receive it back so just be mindful of the way that you present to the world both in your outer appearance and in the way that you behave be very mindful of your manners treat people with kindness and love be respectful to everyone it does matter who they are what job they hold how old they are and again if this is new information for you or maybe you just didn't see the importance of having good manners then you can start today because I promise you your life will change the moment that you start incorporating all of these things into your life and I will make a video specifically about the benefits of femininity and the things that have happened in my life or the things that happen on a daily basis in my life that stem specifically from me being feminine I will talk about that just to give you guys an idea of what does change in your life like what can happen in your life what things you can receive by being more feminine so please leave comments I know that there are so many other tips with manners and etiquette that can be used we all want to know we all want reminders so please leave tips on things that you might do on a daily basis in terms of matters that really make a difference thank you guys so much for watching this video I appreciate all of your support all of your love I really really do and I'm so thankful that you guys are really benefiting from this and I can't wait for the future videos if you guys have any questions about anything please leave a comment below make sure to follow the feminine impression on Instagram and I will see you guys in the next video because it's t.o.p love and light [Music] [Music]

Channel: Dr. Michelle Daf

Views: 148,456

Keywords: femininity, feminine manners, feminine behavior, how to be feminine, how to act feminine, feminine dark skinned woman, how to be more feminine, manners, manners for feminine women, feminine ettiquette, manners and ettiquette, how to be classy, how to act royal, how to be royal, charm school, finishing school, feminine finishing school

Id: jFPMYDAE2CA

Length: 20min 58sec (1258 seconds)

Published: Sun Dec 01 2019