(pensive music) (quirky upbeat music) - This is presents for Girlie's brother. Cooking stuff, a clock for the house, some computers, my cookbook. It didn't survive too well. When I'm living there I'll be surrounded by
things that make home. (Dale laughs) I met Girlie on the internet. It was on FilipinaHeart. I used to go on it at night
and just talk to Girlie, and she never asked me for money. One thing led to the next, went to Manila, pretty soon we were going
out with each other. (quirky upbeat music) There's a good 50 years. Not so much you should
notice, but it's there. But it doesn't seem to phase on anybody. Whether it's right or wrong, I don't know, I just know that her life's a
better place 'cause I'm in it and my life's a better
place 'cause she's in it. I think I've fallen in love. I've lived my whole life as a half and now I've met the other
half and I'm a whole, and that's the only way I can explain it. (airplane whooshing) (cheerful music) - I'm in the Philippines
for the very first time. I'm here to see my dad and his fiancee, who he's crazy in love with. Everybody's a sucker for a romantic story. From behind a camera I have the ability to ask any question. My dad and I have never been close, so why not use my job to
get to know him better? (exciting music) I'm surprised my dad would come here because this seems so out of his element for someone who never travels. Obviously he came here for Girlie. I don't know why I'm so
nervous about meeting her. She's half my age. I'm freaking out. Girlie just showed up. I'm sure she's trying to be nice, but this isn't what I expected and this isn't what I wanted to be the way I wanted to meet her. Now she's here downstairs
and I'm going to go meet my potential future mother-in-law. Mother-in-law? No, my future step-mom. My future step-mom. (April sighs) All right. Totally shaking. Hey Girlie. You surprised us. It's so nice to meet you finally. Do you want to come upstairs
and we'll just grab our luggage or do you want to stay
here and have a drink? - Oh no, no, no. I'll come upstairs with you. - Okay. - Help you with your luggage. - Woo-hoo. My dad's had a motorcycle
accident and broke his foot. He's going to be fine. So Girlie's taking me to
the hospital to pick him up. - So is this, like, considered
a nice area of town or? - Yeah, I think so. I like this town because it's not that crowded like Manila. We do it every time we pass a church. - Oh really?
- Yeah. - So you're Catholic? - Oh yeah.
- Yeah? - Very. - And I'm looking forward
to see them as a couple. Do they look right together or is it as awkward as
the pictures are? (laughs) 'Cause she's really young. Is this a a good hospital? - Good hospital. Room 309. - Hey, dad. How are you? How could you get your foot ran over when you were riding a bike? (Dale laughs) - I had an argument with the
gravel (mumbles) and lost. (Dale laughs) - [April] You're really lucky. - Very lucky. I think God was in my corner. - Well, it's nice to see you. - Good to see you. - Other than your feet you look good. So this is the first time I've actually seen you guys together. She's wearing a wedding ring. My dad isn't. I'm curious to see what sort of situation him and Girlie live in and see what their new place is all about. My dad's been bragging
about it for a long time. - I'll see you at the house. We've been living together
now for two months. She makes sure I take my meds, which was the probably
before is I'd forget my meds sometimes two, three days in a row. - The main thing is for his heart. This is morning, evening,
morning, evening, evening, morning, evening, then evening, and then this for dinner
too, this for morning. That's all. - It's just weird having
someone else in charge... Yeah, it is. It's weird having someone
else in charge of my dad who's so young. - [Dale] She says God brought us together. My life has reborn. - Supper is ready. - Thank you. - No, no, no, no, no, wait. How are you gonna eat? - I'm gonna eat it here.
- Are you sure? - Yeah. Thank you. It looks very good, thanks. - [April] In the Philippines, the woman takes care of the man sort of? - Mm-hm. - [April] It's very different in Canada. - Oh really?
- Yeah. - He's not helping in dishes and I don't want him to help too, just sit there and relax. - Oh yeah? (Dale laughs) Help me understand this dad. - Girlie just does it
on her own accord too. - Does she? - [Dale] Oh yeah. - I think you kind of enjoy
this whole man of the house. - [Dale] Girlie, did I not tell you that women are equal to men? - Yep. - [April] Do you believe that? - I think so. - [Dale] You know, we don't want to make a bad impression on the girl. - [April] We're not
making a bad impression. - [Dale] You're just trying
to westernize her now. - Probably.
- Yeah. That's why, you know, we shouldn't bring these
girls over to Canada, we should keep them here so you guys don't get their
hands on them and ruin them. (Dale laughs) - I grew up thinking, okay, my
dad has lot of sexist views, but nothing like this. I'm hoping my dad's
giving her a better life. I'm not sure if the payoff is worth it. I want to see where she comes from and be able to compare it to here. - All right, you ready? - Do I hold onto you? Is it a big step up for her to be living here with my father
than where she used to be? I can't support this unless I
know she's happy in all this. (pensive music) - And this is our house.
- Your house? Okay. How many brothers and sisters do you have? - I got one sister. That's years and years ago. - [April] Yeah, it looks like it. So everybody sleeps in one bedroom? - Yeah. - Four of us are sleeping in one bedroom and my parents sleeping in one room. - [Grace] This is me and her father. - [April] They're getting
by, but it's a step away from not being able to eat,
not being able to live, and it's very tenuous. What do you think of Dale? - At first I don't like
when I knew that they chat. I said, "Do not chat anymore." I told her if he will come,
I will not face him. (laughs) I will not face him. But he is, what you call it? Gentleman.
- Yeah? - Yeah. He's a good man, so okay,
you can have him. (laughs) And besides, they love
each other, so why not? - [April] So you want them to get married? - Yeah.
- Yeah? - Yeah. I want. - I really do want to see
her succeed and get ahead, and away from the poverty that she's in. - When Dale came to my life, then he taught me a lot
of things and he said, "You've got only one life
so you have to dream. "So if you have a dream,
make it a big dream." My really dream to have stairs like a queen when you come down. (laughs) Yeah, I really like that. Especially if there's occasions,
you're wearing a gown, then you can come downstairs
and just very nice. And then at the back of it there's a swimming pool
out there at the back. Yeah, like that. If you got that kind of
house, you're a good person. - [April] In Dale and
Girlie's relationship, Girlie's getting a home, food, security. In exchange, Dale's getting
someone to take care of him. (Girlie speaking foreign language) I think he's taking a little
too much advantage of that. Apparently older men
are a trophy and a prize for young Filipino girls. He considers himself a trophy, so Girlie is lucky to have him. - Here in the Philippines,
if you're white, you're rich because you can afford to be white. Being with him is a pleasure for me because white man is
somebody for Filipinos. - [Dale] She feels very lucky to have me and I feel very lucky to have her, so it's a good relationship. - My dad's having a big fiesta, which is a really big
party with all the food to introduce me to the
rest of Girlie's family. - Let's eat. (exciting music) - How are you doin'? (Dale laughs) It's a good life, and
everybody's happy, and laughing, and I've never experienced the way people treat me when I'm there. It's something that's very special and I kind of want to treat
them back that way too, so. - I'm excited to have grandchildren, to see how they looks (laughs) because Dale is white. I'm happy to see grandchildren like that. - We're in Boracay, in the Philippines. White sand beaches, boats,
all kinds of activities. - So a floppy hat? Yesterday kind of got to
know Girlie, so it was nice. Oh, I look so Julia Roberts. - You can hardly see you now. (April laughs) - I like her now I think. I'm not sure. Today's Valentine's day, so they have lovely "I
love Boracay" t-shirts on. Guess it's going to be a romantic day. Tim is my dad's friend. Fortunately he's a really big guy and is able to help haul
my dad's butt to the beach. - All us white guys hang together 'cause we're sorta like
alcoholics anonymous, only we're all married to Filipinos, so we have to look after each other. (Dale laughs) - [April] What do you think
about my dad and Girlie? - I mean, it's a little
weird for me, you know? - [April] Yeah. - But I know a lot of
other guys it's the same. I think most elderly men come here because they want to find a woman here that can take care of them. I think it's also because
a lot of the foreigners could never get what they can
get here in their own country. You see a lot of foreigners here walking with young girls on the beach. I mean, for them it's a dream come true. - [April] Everywhere I
look, I can see examples of older white men dating
younger Filipino women or men, and it's quite normal for them, but it's still really
hard for me to understand. - It was here that I
noticed her womanly tributes (Dale laughs) and started thinking of
her as something different than just a little girl. I stopped thinking with
my head and my brain. She fills all my needs and
I fill all hers I believe. - [April] I always cringe when my dad talks about women's bodies, but Girlie seems not to mind at all. - He treats me very good. I'm very lucky. He's don't smoke, he don't drink. He's doing the best he can
to give me a good life. He's a very good man
and he's reach of that. - Yeah.
- Yeah. - And he's a very good businessman, so he told me he's been a
millionaire how many times? I forgot. But he's, yeah. - He's been a millionaire? - Yeah, he says. So I just said, "Oh, okay." - What is the age difference like? Like, my dad's so much older than you. - [Girlie] Yeah, I know. - [April] Is that hard or
is that normal here or-- - It's not. It's not hard and it's not normal, but like what I've said,
age doesn't matter. as long as you're
comfortable with each other. - [April] You want to move... You'd like to move to Canada? - Yeah, if I can. - Yeah? And you'd like to get
married with my dad, right? - [Girlie] Yeah, and-- - And have a family? - Have a family of course. - If you moved to Canada
and you have children and my dad passes away, then, like, I will be your
only family over there, like his family over there. We'll be your family. - Yeah, I know. That's why I want to know you better and I really want to be close to you. - Right. - So if I'm in Canada,
I have something to run, I can run to you or
whatever happens like that. - Yeah. I like Girlie and I care about her. If he gets her pregnant I will, fuck, I don't know how, take care of her. If she got pregnant, I
would feel responsible if he passed away. - She wants babies and get married, and, I mean, I'm not really keen on that. I go through the motions, but pray a lot. (Dale laughs) - Prayer isn't a birth control. Are your plans to bring Girlie to Canada? - Not right now, no. Right now I have the best of both worlds and I'll probably live in the Philippines the majority of the rest of my life. I kind of got spoiled. - My dad's lying to Girlie. The money, the everything, he's
conning her into believing. he's a bigger man than
he is, because he's not. Girlie is young. She's easily conned. - Oh, you got water on there. (Dale laughs) - I'm not sure where my loyalties stand. I'm not sure if I should be helping my dad or helping Girlie, who
needs to know the truth. I honestly don't know
Girlie well enough yet to tell her what's right for her, or judge the fact that if
this is worth it for her. All I want to do right now
is just try to figure out where this is all leading. (cheerful music) We are just outside Kamloops, BC, Canada where my dad lives. He's here six months
of the year plus a day because his pension plan dictates that he must be living in Canada for him to get his pension money. It's hard, 'cause I don't... You know, I want my dad
to do the right thing, which is pay for Girlie's education, but my dad is broke. The relationship seems to have changed. Girlie seems to be getting a
lot more of what she wants, and she wants to come to Canada, and Dale is now agreeing
that he's gonna do everything he can to get her to Canada. - [Dale] I've accepted a responsibility. I have to follow through
with that responsibility. After she finishes her schooling we'll probably be living in Canada, so there's a future for her here. - The house, it's an awful house. Girlie's gonna come,
it's gonna be shocking. The house that Girlie
lives with with my dad is nicer than this place. This is going to be a step down for her. This is false advertising. Champagne dreams on a beer budget. It's not going to happen. - It'll be expensive, but there's really no
future for her there, so. I haven't had anybody cook me breakfast for such a long time. When did I leave the Philippines? (Dale laughs) - Woo-hoo, breakfast. - Thank you, dear. And you're gonna join me? - Yep, coming. You've given her a home. She's got a new scooter, a new camera. How much do you pay for Girlie a month? - We're up to 450, 500 a month. - Right. And how much is the education? - Probably another 100, 150 a month. - [April] So in your
budget, $600 a month is... - Is a lot of money. - [April] Yeah. One time I felt sorry for her, that my dad was taking advantage of her. Now I feel like she's taking
advantage of my father and getting everything she wants, and I don't like either extreme - I don't think anybody wants to be alone, it's just not a good thing. And over there, Girlie and
the family, her parents and everybody comes over, and they're all concerned about my health, and it's very reassuring. I have the great fear
of an old folks home, and I don't actually right
now even feel capable of looking after myself. I can live in the Philippines like a king. Each one of our dollars
is worth 44 of theirs, so I can live very, very,
very well over there. I talk to Girlie every
day on the internet. - [April] When we were in the Philippines you guys were considering getting married. - Well, if you're living with somebody you should marry them. Don't you think? (Dale laughs) - [April] What is the plan? - I want to get married in Hong Kong, probably around the first part of October from what I've been told. (Dale laughs) I'm excited about it. Gonna be kind of neat. - [April] Before I leave
Kamloops and go home, I want to go visit a park that my mom loved to go
visit before she died. - And this is where she was the happiest, back in here. - It's pretty.
- Yeah. - It's weird 'cause she doesn't have a gravestone to go look at. A park will do. How long has it been since
you've been back here? - A year.
- Yeah? - I don't come down here just about. - You okay?
- Yeah. - I haven't been back since the fire. I don't want that to be
my last memory is the... - No, I don't either.
- The fire and... - Everything gone. Everything. Everything I've worked for, all of sudden with nothing again. - I know it was hard losing mom, and the way it happened, but the part about you being lonely I don't think I fully appreciated. - I like looking after somebody. I like caring for people. I'm not sure I can handle this, April. - [April] Okay. (PA announcement in foreign language) Dale and Girlie are
actually getting married, so we're off to Hong Kong. I'm bringing my daughter,
Tessa, Dale's granddaughter, because this is a big family event. If she ends up getting pregnant and having babies or whatever... - [Tessa] She will always be there. - She will always be there. So could be part of our
family for the rest... For a long, long time. And I talk about her a lot. - Yes, you do. And you say negative and positive things, so I think that I can't really
make a judgment about her until I fully meet her face to face. - Girlie's always wanted
to come to Hong Kong, so I thought that we could get married and have our honeymoon at the
same time all in one place, and get away from everybody and have a chance maybe
to get to know each other even a little bit better than we do. - Should you have flowers or something? - I probably should, yeah. But that's not me. (Dale laughs) I should just be me. After all, when you got this,
what else could you want? (Dale laughs) - It's a nice airport. - Isn't it beautiful?
- Yeah. - Girlie and her dad coming through. - Yeah. - [Dale] Her father came
along and my granddaughter. Holy smoke. - Hi Girlie. Nice to meet you. - Hi Girlie. Nice to see you. You have a good trip? - Yeah, I had a good trip. - How are you?
- Hi Dom. Nice to see you. It's been six months since
they've seen each other and they walk up and
kind of give each other a little kind of chummy
hug and a pat on the back, and I expected hugs
and kisses and romance, and there's none of that here. - Look, they're on their way home and there's fireworks going off. Pretty neat. I was happy to see her. We're shy around other people because we know all the people, they... We're an odd couple. - Dad, you should be
carrying Girlie's bag. - She won't let me carry it for her. - [April] Oh, okay. - You've got to be kidding, poor old me? (Dale laughs) - So weird. - [April] While we wait
for the wedding paperwork, we're off to explore the city. One big happy international family. - [Dale] I can't believe Hong Kong. Holy crap. All of the new buildings and everything, I think it's probably the nicest city I've ever seen in my life. - The gang is going to an amusement park. Dale says it's because Girlie's always wanted to go to this place. Lots of rides, lots of fun
things for young people to do, and he's the discount admission. - Two adults and a senior. - [April] Are you excited? - Oh yeah. - She's really stoked. This is apparently what
she's been looking forward to for such a long time. I am not so sure he can
go on a lot of the rides because of his heart condition. I don't know how much it's
going to be participating for a senior citizen. Are you okay? - It's just stairs. - I was shocked that my dad
wanted to take Girlie here, that he was willing to do this, but it seems like he's willing
to do anything for Girlie. - Do you want something or? - I'm okay. - I like getting her stuff that I know that will make her happy. Half the rate, 85. - 90 (mumbles). 90, 90, 90. - No, 85. - 100. Go to 90, cheap for you now. Okay.
- 85. I would never buy anybody
and I don't intend on it, but on the other hand if I can get Girlie things
that make her life better and help her with her life
and so she has a future, I see a difference there, but I'm not sure everybody
else does, but I do. - Ask her if she'll take 50. - Would just take 50 for this? Thank you. - She has a new laptop, and a new Blackberry,
and a new nice camera. And I mean, like, I worked at my part-time nine hour minimum wage job and got myself a used Blackberry. - Do you have a laptop? - Do you have a new camera? - I don't have a laptop
and I don't have a camera. So it's like, how is she
coming into all of this? (Dale groans) - Do you want to get up? - I'm up. - What would you guys like to do? - Have a nap, but I had that. (Dale laughs) Yesterday we tuckered my dad right out, so today it's just Tessa, me, and Girlie. That's really nice. Tess, what do you think of that? - I'd like you to get to know each other, to see the Girlie that I know, and I'd like Tessa to get to know her. - Today I'm glad, because of course we get to know each other
and get closer to you. Can't wait. - God, I wish my feet were this small. Can you walk in heels like that? - Yep. I can. - [Tessa] No! - [Girlie] If I live in Canada, I think me and Tessa would be friends. - Look, they have little backpacks. You should try it on. - [Girlie] She's fun to be with. - I guess she would be
your step-granddaughter. - Uh-huh. - So how does that feel for you? - The most important thing
in my life is family, so her as my step-granddaughter
doesn't really matter as long as I can consider her as family. - That's cute. It's like a little face. - These are cute. - Seeing Tessa and Girlie
together is strange, but it's just the beginning. Tomorrow, Girlie will
be part of our family. Six months ago when we talked to my dad he wasn't ready to get married. Do you know what changed with him? - I'm not really sure about that. It's just one day he told
me that want us to... He want us to get married. That's it. - And did he ask, or did he
propose, or was it just-- - Of course he did. "You want to marry me?" Something like that, and yeah, of course. - You take the age difference
plus not getting married and it would kind of makes
her look like a tramp, and she's not one, so if we get married I think it changes some things. I don't know whether it does or not. I'm not good at crap like this, so. She'd like to buy a dress. I gave her the money,
and it's not that much, but she's free to spend it. - [April] What were you
thinking for a dress? Well, I saw a dress in the Philippines that I really, really like,
but it's not this kind. I like one, but then
it's of course expensive. I love him, so getting
married, it's a good thing. It's like when two people get together and they're being one. Like if you decide to do this, do that, you have to confirm to him. We're legal in God's eyes, so that's the biggest thing I wanted. - Oh, it's not zipped up all the way. That's why it's too big. Here, hold this. - Do you look so fat with this? - No.
- No. You look great. You like it? - Yeah, I like it. - [April] You look nice. Good job, Tess.
- Thanks. - [April] Looks so cute. - [Tessa] I like how white it is too, it's like really fresh and
really good and pretty. - [April] You look very beautiful. - Thank you. It's becoming so real so quick, and seeing Girlie in a wedding dress just makes me realize
how vulnerable Girlie is. This is life changing and Girlie may not be
ready for all of this. I want to make sure Girlie
has all the information she needs to make the right decision. I'm older, so my job is to give advice. And I looked at you as
being a young person and with your whole
future in front of you, and I want you to look at the future. So, when you have... Short term goals are like new phones, or new this, or do that. - [Girlie] Yeah. - Long term goals are
getting a good education, making sure that if everything falls out from underneath you, which it could, I don't think
you can depend on my father to give you a longterm financial future. And what he has in Canada
is pretty low for a Canadian and has been our entire life. Like when he said that
he's been a millionaire, it's never been a millionaire. And he's always been... Financially my dad's
always been struggling, so you have to have bigger dreams, and it can't be just marrying my dad. It can't be the end of
the rainbow for you. He's not your prince in shining armor. I've spent 40 years
believing those big dreams and it doesn't work out that way. And it's crushing. You gotta have your own dream, and you gotta be able to
do the things on your own, and you have to be a strong woman and not depend on him at all. And I'm making you cry. I'm sorry. Why are you crying? - No. - Is it 'cause I'm saying stuff you don't wanna hear about Dale? - Can you give me a break, please? - Yeah. I'm sorry. I've told Girlie what the
reality is with my dad. At least she knows everything as they take care of the
final wedding details. Marriage office called this morning and there's some paperwork
that needs to be done. It's a lot more complicated than expected. No cameras allowed, shit. - The only way to really resolve
it was sit down with them. And then it was just, like, basically one thing after the other. It was like she was playing a game with me to see how many things
she could find wrong with my application. Can't go ahead with the wedding today. - [April] So they can't
do anything this week? - Well, they have to post
it for two weeks period. - Right. So that means you guys are
gonna have to fly back here? So why do you guys want
to get married here? Why don't you just get
married in the Philippines? - Because of all kinds of stuff. - Right.
- There's reasons. - Everyone was acting kind of shifty. They were so determined to
get married in Hong Kong. Dom looked nervous and upset, and they're all being
very secretive about it. And they didn't even notice that I was standing right over
the shoulder the whole time. Look at her birthday on her paperwork. They had the passports open and then Girlie's age was right there. On the far right side, under his hand, it says June 21, 1994. She's not 23 like she says she is, or my father says she is, she's 17. Younger than Tessa. My daughter is two months older than my future step-mother. It just floored me. It was wrong before. It's just uncomprehendable wrong now. Dom is visibly almost crying. His eyes are all watery. This is why he had to
be here for the wedding. He's giving permission for
his 17 year old daughter to get married. Dom had to sign something that said that he was giving away his daughter. A declaration that
because she's under age, so he had to sign over
permission to get married. - I say this to be true and I give here my oath
and permission of release. - It's beyond understanding of why Girlie, and her parents, and
everybody's doing this. He knows exactly what he's doing. In the Philippines you have
to be 18 to get married even with your parents' consent. Dale took Girlie to
Hong Kong to get married because that's the closest country that allows weddings under
18 with parents' consent. He was having sex with her at
16 and he was okay with that. Her dad's signing her over, her mother's signing her over. Everyone's giving permission
for this to go ahead. Everything's changed. Now I have to do something. I just don't know what the fuck to do. If it was my daughter and
this was happening to her, I'd want somebody to fucking do something. And I just don't know what to do. You kind of go through your
life and you think that you have a nice family, and you know your dad's
a little bit weird, but then you get hit with my dad is fucking a 16 year old girl. There are no words to describe
how incredibly sad I feel. I wish there was a way of stopping it, because I can't witness that
knowing what I know now. The wedding has been
rescheduled for next week, again in a Hong Kong. I've decided to send
Tessa back home to Canada. I'm going to the Philippines
to figure this out. You can't knee jerk reaction
in something this big, you have to think it through. This is the scariest choice
I've ever had to make. I'm really falling in love with how great the Philippines is. The people are so genuine
and family so important. And then I see my father taking what is great about it
and abusing it, and using it. Dale Butler is the worst thing
that ever happened to Girlie. If I have anything to say to
let this wedding go ahead, I'm equally abusing Girlie
by letting it happen. - If you come home after school we'll go get some money
and pay some bills. - And you have to change your shirt, okay? - All right.
- And shave. Okay?
- Okay. (Dale laughs) Bye. - [April] There's nothing
more to figure out. What dad is planning is wrong. I have to get him to stop. - [Dale] We got all the arrangements and we've got our marriage license, so that's all we need I think. - [April] I don't want you to get married. - You don't? - [April] I saw Girlie's age. - Yeah. - [April] So you know she's 17. - I do now, but I didn't to start. And she told me 26, and then it became 22. - [April] So how long
have you known she's 17? - About... Well, when all this
marriage thing started, then that's when I found out. But by then, I'd already
lived with her for... Slept with her for six months. - [April] So when you found
out 17, you still said, "Yes, I'll marry you?" - We'd already been
together and lived together. - [April] You were having
sex with her when she was 16. She is your granddaughter's age. - Yep. Probably, yeah.
- Probably? You fucking were with them
for the whole fucking week. She is two months younger than Tessa. What like brings a man to
do that and still be okay? And you're still going ahead with it! You should be stopping. You should not be in the same bed. You should send her back to her family, sent her to school, and get
the fuck out of her life. And it is sick that you
have sex with her still. Why aren't you doing the right thing? - The right thing by you
or the right thing by me? To a certain extent, and you're right, and I agree with you. - [April] So the right thing to do, and you tell me if you're
willing to do this, is to walk away, pay for the
house, pay for the education, and move back to Canada. Or move to somewhere else
in this in this neighborhood where you don't have to sleep with her. The right thing is to not
sleep with her anymore. - All I want for Girlie is for
her to get an education and-- - [April] That's bullshit,
'cause you're sleeping with her. - I've been trying not to. I've told her I don't want to. And I've told her I want her to... - [April] So she's forcing
you to have to sleep with her? - Well, she's not. It's... - [April] It's sick. I just, I am nauseous by
the idea that you would... Even at 22 it was slightly wrong, but 16? - [Dale] It's not something
that I'm happy about, so. - [April] Marrying her
will be the worst thing you can do to her. - Well, you ask her what she thinks. - [April] No, you. - It does come down to her, April. It's my life.
- No, it comes down to you! You're the fucking grownup here! She's a baby. She is a child. She is a child. She is the same age as Tessa. I fucking live with that. She is a child. She cannot make decisions. You're the fucking man here. You're the one who fucked up. You need to figure it out. So what are you gonna do? - Probably not a hell of a lot, April. I'm probably--
- So you're gonna get married? - Probably will, yeah. - [April] Fuck you. You're such a fucking creep and I'm sick. So embarrassed that you are my father. - Well, that's your... - Seriously? 16? (solemn music) It's no longer a documentary
about culture and family. My dad is a man who will
not do the right thing. And I couldn't stand there
and condone something that was so wrong. It just negates your whole life with him and your whole being childhood
and growing up and thinking, "This is my father." And then you see this, and you
hear this, and you know this that he's the person who raised you but he has nothing for you. And it can all just be traded,
and it's all just imaged, and it's just... It feels like you have no roots and everything is just hollow. (solemn music) I need to be left alone. I have to figure out
how to get through this. (solemn music) It really makes me question who I am, where I came from. I've never been so confused. I have to find my place in this family, however that is. Dale and Girlie wanted me to see them as a happy, married couple, so we agreed to meet somewhere neutral. They haven't had a chance
to have a proper honeymoon, so they've picked Bali
because it's very romantic. After the last time that I saw
my father, I kind of lost it. I got pretty angry and it
wasn't a rational conversation. I think if him and Girlie are truly happy and he is taking care of her then I can feel a bit better
about being his daughter. Just love to see one nuance of a, "Hey, he's not a horrible,
horrible human being," because he's my father. (exciting music) First night in Bali and we're going to see Dale and Girlie in another day. Tonight's the Ogoh-ogoh parade, which is meant to banish
evil spirits from the Island. Kind of ironic to me
because this is how I feel, like we're banishing all the evil spirits from the last four months since I've seen Dale and Girlie, and the day after the Ogoh-ogoh is the day that you're supposed to meet family. I hope to see where their relationship is and make a decision. You know, they've made the choice. They're together. They're married. But they're permanent, so what does that mean? How do I fit into all that? Do I even want to fit into that? I'm still drawn to my father. - Hey.
- Hey. Welcome to Bali. - Hi.
- Hi. How was your trip? - Good. Yours?
- Good. We show up and it's just Dale. I'm like, "Crap." Like, "Where's Girlie?" - She couldn't get out of the Philippines, so we'll have to do that another time. (Dale laughs) - So couldn't get out of
the Philippines because? - I'd rather not say. - Really?
- Yeah. - I found out the
government is warning Girlie not to travel with Dale until she's 18. So we are gonna have to say something about why she's not in the Philippines. What do you want us to say, why she couldn't get out? - You know, she's taking practical nursing and wasn't really good for
her to leave right now. - Right.
- Yeah. - That's what you want us to say? - Yeah. It just really wasn't a really
good time for her to come. - All right. I am shocked. This is serious shit. The Filipino community is so
against Dale marrying Girlie. So Girlie's in Manila while Dale's in Bali on
his honeymoon by himself. - Can you see me? (Dale laughs) Got a silent movie going on here. How's my babe? - What I say about his
relationship being inappropriate isn't good enough, and I'm hoping that the
government saying it may start Dale thinking
that this is inappropriate, or else I can't be part of this. So, I mean, how many
other couples do you know who are like this? Like, is this happening
a lot in the Philippines? - Probably. There's a lot of young women
are married to men my age, yes. - So if Filipino society is fine with it why wouldn't they let
Girlie out of the country? - You see, now you've got in and now the conversation is over. - No, I want an answer of why it's okay. Please just sit down. Why is it okay? - It's not it's--
- It came in your head. - Conversation is--
- It's not. I need to know why it's okay. - You need to know? - All right, then this is it. This is you and me over. - It's not about you,
and me, Girlie, April, it's about what you're doing to promote, and I don't want to see you again 'cause that's all you
care about is your movie, and hurting people, and doing
all the damage that you can. - [April] You know what? All I've ever wanted
was you to be my father and you never, ever have. - Very, very sick. - People will always say, "Why did you do this to your father?" But it's just the truth, and I was able to see
who my father really is with the help of other peoples' eyes. Because when you step
back and look at stuff through a filmmaker's eyes, you can see what is really there. I went into this documentary hoping he would be the nice man who, you know, marries someone
who's 50 years younger, and treats them nicely,
and makes her life happy, and, you know, becomes more of a family, and I grow closer to my
father, and things are nice. I wanted that. I really hoped for that. I've wanted that my whole entire life. Just that warm feeling that, you know, you see on "The Waltons." And in the end I was smacked
with reality of, nope. - Mommy! - [April] What I take out of this is no matter how grown up you get, you always want a father. I know now that it's not possible and I've stopped searching for
something that isn't there. I realized that I had
what I needed all along with my children, husband, and friends. It feels good. (hopeful music)
Oh my GOD Girlie was 16 fucking years old, the same age as his granddaughter when that disgusting creep was perving and having sex with her! And he knew it was wrong, otherwise why was he initially lying about her age??
And to no one’s surprise, he is a sexist to boot with that whole ‘we need to keep these [Filipino] women in their own country so they don’t get ruined by feminism and western ideologies’! He sounded like such a disgusting incel.
Good on the daughter for standing her ground on not supporting that bullshit. Sad she never had a real father in her life, but with a father like that, she’s better off without.
I need to go take a hot shower now to wash off all this secondhand skeeze.
At about 14:30 minutes in on the beach when he says I noticed her womanly attributes and stopped thinking of her as something other than just a little girl
I think I actually felt sick for a second. So let’s get this straight... he was out there admittedly and proudly doing that at that time? And now he’s saying that like it’s no big deal? HOLY SH
Him: Do you plan on bringing her to Canada? No. I plan in living in the Philippines for the rest of my life She wants children and I’m not keen on it. I’ll go through the motions but I’ll pray. I have the best of both worlds here really.
Her: I want to move to Canada and I want children. I want to get close to you so I have family when he dies.
They are on completely different pages in different books. It’s so obvious he’s using her for sex
Wow. What a story. Thank you for sharing.
I am at a loss for words right now. Thank you for sharing this. I have been TRYING to shed light on this practice of mail order brides since this all began. Now I’m wondering about Rose’s true age because I have always speculated she wasn’t older than 18.
This filmmaker is my hero. She vacillated from time to time but I realize she was always speaking her truth and I respect that.
And I have ENORMOUS respect for her. She called her father out for what he is, despite him being her father.
I could go on but really, THANK YOU for sharing. And dear Filipinos, there’s NOTHING special about white skin. Please please know that. Why do I HATE they believe this ? 😥
Oh I love all the Real Stories on YouTube!
Tragedy.
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I’m so addicted to this channel! It’s like Cable TV from 15 years ago where they could show some crazy things with little editing for “story” purposes (like how all reality tv is these days).
As a Filipino, and having seen this kind of relationship almost everywhere back home. The creepy old white man comes to my country, gets treated like a King by his young Filipina girlfriend/wife in exchange of his pension money. They get to live the way they want, cheaply. And some pedos can play with other young girls because they have money to pay them. It is disgusting. Even my husband was disgusted when I took him for breakfast in a diner. He was the only 32 year old white man there, and all of the White men with their young Filipina girlfriends were in their 60's and 70's. We were joking to each other, "Look! It's the old White men with their caregivers"😂🤦