Entitled Girlfriend tries to FORCE ME to GIVE UP MY FUTURE, or we will BREAKING UP - Reddit Podcast

my girlfriend is demanding that I give up my opportunity to go to a prestigious master's degree program in Europe simply because she doesn't want to be alone in our home country she even went as far as to threaten breaking up with me if I took this opportunity and left her in our home country and at this point I seriously don't know what to do so my girlfriend and I have been dating for three years now and we really love each other we have met and begun dating during our college graduation year in 2020. I had always planned to pursue a degree abroad after graduation but my girlfriend says no to long-distance relationships for context my girlfriend and I are from a poor country and life here is very hard our degree doesn't have much weight on International Job markets and today we are both working full-time jobs but none of us are happy with our life here in our home country we are also very underpaid she's an internal auditor for a big International cigarette company but gets paid about 250 US dollars a month and I get pretty much the same salary for being a consultant at a boutique firm we are both unhappy of our current situation and that's why I want to go study abroad to be able to access better opportunities my girlfriend is a very lovely person with almost no close friends and most of the time she feels depressed when she's left alone when I first introduced my plans to her of going abroad one year after graduation she was totally opposed to going into a long-distance relationship she believes I am the only one that can make her happy and be able to Bear living with in addition going abroad to study had never been a part of her plans although she complained all the time about our living conditions it seems to me that she was fine with it for the most part she has always believed that there has to be other ways to improve our living condition without leaving our home country which is an idea that I totally disagree with as our country is literally falling apart all indicators have been worsening during the past 50 years years have gone by and last year in 2022 we finally agreed that we would do our best to find in international study opportunities abroad either we succeed together or one of us succeeds this year and the other one has to make everything to join the other person next year unfortunately I was the one who got accepted in a prestigious University in Europe while she didn't manage to get a single admission offer and this is mainly because she applied to master's degree programs which required things we didn't learn at school although we have already agreed on what we would do in this situation she is now asking me to stay with her and reject my admission offer which I believe is a once in a lifetime opportunity she said to me I wasn't serious when I agreed on that I thought you would love me enough to stay with me let's just break up I'll just return to my miserable lonely life please just reject your offer and let's try again next year although I love her I believe if I refuse my admission offer I will regret it for the rest of my life I was lucky enough to get this offer in the first place so now it leaves me questioning everything and I seriously don't know what to do you would be crazy to give up that opportunity and also your girlfriend's being a complete idiot like let me get this straight you live in a very poor country where you only earn 250 a month and now you have an opportunity to expand yourself and earn more money and your girlfriend wants you to give that opportunity up like what are you talking about if she seriously wants to break up because you're moving forward with your life then that's on her that's not on you it sounds like you had some kind of plan going but now that that plan's actually happening she's like oh psych I'm just kidding I didn't want to actually do it you should give up on this opportunity or I'm gonna break up with you like clearly this is her true colors coming out in full force and I would not listen to that in the slightest so please for the sake of your education as well as getting out of a country that is clearly very poor I would take this opportunity and not look back and hopefully your girlfriend can get on board and follow along with a plan you guys set up because giving up this opportunity simply because she's jealous by the way would be really ignorant and it is incredibly toxic that she would request that of you in the first place if you like am I the jerk you're probably going to love am I the genius check it out link Down Below in the description am I the jerk for spending a lot of time in my bunker away from my family so my grandfather was an incredibly talented man who also suffered from paranoid schizophrenia and he was convinced that the nuclear apocalypse was going to end the human race at some point so he built his own bunker and then buried the entrance because he was so convinced that both the KGB and the CIA were absolutely watching him and he wanted to keep the bunker a secret yes he was a crazy man my dad inherited his house but never lived there so when I had my first child in 2018 and got married in 2019 my dad made an incredibly generous offer for the house I mean I bought computers that were more expensive than the house the bunker became kind of an urban legend mostly because my old grandpa used to tell a lot of crazy stories but out of curiosity I went looking for it and I found the entrance the old man really did it so thanks to being stuck at home during the uneventful 2020 and 2021 I started to remodel the bunker to look less like a Fallout vault and more like my own personal man cave everyone loves it especially my kids so the house is decorated to my wife's taste while I can do whatever I want in the bunker I can play games I can fix a computer I can set up a whole Home Server work from home there Etc however lately she has been complaining about me being distant and spending a lot of time there and less time with her and our child she is pregnant again so she said she was worried but I just promised to spend more time at our house after a few weeks that wasn't enough for her and she accuses me of abandoning her honestly I'm asking for a judgment call here because I'm trying to be there for my family but this bunker feels like it's the only thing that's really mine and it's the only place where I can actually have a break but my wife has said she's going to seal the entrance otherwise I might miss the birth of my child and not even notice should I just move all my stuff into the house and forget about it am I really being neglectful here or is this just her pregnancy hormones talking to be clear I do help with the house chores and spend time with my son when I'm there and I have an intercom in the bunker so my wife can just call me if she needs anything so it's not like she can't reach me so am I the jerk for spending a lot of time in my bunker away from my family honestly yeah you're kind of the jerk in this situation your pregnant wife is raising your kid practically by yourself meanwhile you're escaping to this bunker and spending your alone time without anyone around like you're married you do know that right you have responsibilities and you've got things you need to do around the house much more than just chores and responsibilities like you really do need to spend time with your wife and kids and here's the thing I don't think you're the jerk for spending time in the bunker mostly because it kind of seems like he works remotely in the bunker itself for work so that's not a problem like that's part of the job okay go for it but it's the fact that your wife is saying hey I really don't want you spending so much time down there and you're just straight up ignoring it if you're gonna start a family this is no longer all about you so in my opinion your actions need to reflect what's best for your family and not just what's best for you and your needs my entitled dad made me abandon my dog right as they're about to be put down and I'm so unbelievably heartbroken by this I seriously don't know what to do for the last 12 years I have been essentially one of if not the main caregiver for our family dog my dog's name is Max and I was the one who would be mainly responsible for taking care of him as I was typically responsible for letting him out and feeding him three to four times a day including as I was getting ready for work and my full-time job I would also be the one responsible for cleaning up the dog waste on a bi-weekly basis and when it was time for everyone else to go on vacation I would regularly be the one to volunteer to stay behind just to take care of the dog Max was one of the two main pets our family had and the other one passed away a few years back from old age he was also a significant part of the reason why I probably did didn't fully unalive myself because at the time I thought I wouldn't be able to love him and care for him as well anymore and that they could have also just brought down his quality of life which has been decreasing lately as he gets older and there had been signs that he was going for a while now like how he was getting more lethargic and he was unable to control his bowels and he was drinking excessive amounts of water while eating less and less though he had gotten even worse within the last week as he was suddenly vomiting multiple times throughout the day he was drooling and had a runny nose and he was unable to consistently stand sit or walk especially on stairs without any kind of help so that mostly catches you up to more recently when yesterday my parents scheduled Max to be put to sleep at our local vet clinic and this would all be done as we sat around him pet him and held him and just talked to him at this point I had asked my parents if I could call into work so I didn't have to go in for at least a day after because I knew I would be a complete mess and we don't actually need my money from work for anything like rent or groceries so me having the day off would be fine but my dad said that he didn't want me to skip out of work and we work in the same building and we live together so I couldn't take off work without him knowing and yelling at me so I figured I would just go anyways then this morning we had another session of trying to give Max as much love as we could all before we took him in my father my youngest brother and I went in with Max and we were taken into one of their exam rooms and it looked like it was just for animals who were ready to be put down we got him up onto the table where they could treat and groom the animals and we tried to give him some love for the last time while also trying to keep him on the table and trying but failing to not cry as we waited for about 10 minutes after which time a nurse came in to check in on us and then another 10 minutes later she and another nurse came in to insert some kind of catheter in through his arm and I assume so he wouldn't make a mess as he went away though my dad had walked us out of the room by this point I assumed it was because he didn't one is distracting the nurses or our dog or because it would have been too crowded in the room then about 15 minutes later they finished up and went back into the room where I thought we would stay until Max fully passed away but apparently my dad only wanted us to go back in just to spend a couple of minutes to say goodbye before they even sedated him or done anything else I was really disappointed by this as I wasn't there at all when our other dog passed away three years ago and being there in the last few minutes of him being alive was like 90 of the reason I had actively wanted to be there for him plus I know that when a Pet's owners aren't there for them when they go they often are way more nervous and scared which is something I knew that would happen both because he was acting fidgety the entire time that we were there and because he had always been nervous and high stressed especially when he was separated from all of us or when he was around new people or in a new place all of which was happening right now so I protested as being there for him would literally just take another 10 to 15 minutes at most and it wasn't something that I couldn't just come back to do later he kept insisting that we had to go even though the nurses specifically mentioned how we could be there as long as we needed but in particular until he passed away I initially didn't understand what a rush to leave was but I was not in an arguing mood nor was I even sure what was happening or if we would maybe come back again after they set some more stuff up or whatever so I just decided to follow him apparently though the reason he wanted to leave and leave permanently and entirely not just for a couple of minutes like I hoped was because he just wanted to get home so he could start getting rid of all of Max's things like his dishwater and his bed and all of his stuff as well as specifically vacuuming up to get rid of all the dog hair and everything I was hoping to at least keep some of his things since it really helped when other dogs passed away to have things and pictures just to remind me of when she's gone I feel like not only did he let Max down for not being there for him him he also let him down by basically trying to erase his memory from our entire house and letting us down by not letting us grieve and mourn him properly or fully I also feel like he wasn't emotionally prepared to be there for it he could have stepped outside himself and given us the chance to stay but instead he took it away from both of us then basically made a point of how over it he was by not letting us keep any of his stuff and mentioning how he had plans to go to work later as if we should all just be moving past it or whatever like he is I'm not sure how long it's going to take to fully move on though but I feel like the drive home is definitely not enough especially since I feel like I can't stop Imagining the worst case scenario of him passing away feeling scared alone and afraid I don't know how I'm supposed to remember that over anything else like taking him on walks or on vacations or to the dog park or anything this is also heartbreaking and I seriously don't know what to do honestly first and foremost this is really heartbreaking I can't imagine not being able to say goodbye to a loved one just like that and for me a dog is a loved one it is a pet yes but it is absolutely a part of the family in my mind and that dog is relying on you and it trusted you to take care of him and the way your dad acted was unbelievably heartless and cruel to not allow you to sit there and be with your dog in its last moments especially after you were the one that took care of it for so many years is unbelievably toxic and that is not something I would take lightly in the slightest I mean I would be heartbroken and he is clearly trying to erase any memory of Max from the house I totally agree with you I mean keep something keep some kind of trinket something to remind you that this was a good dog and that you loved and you cared for it Max helped you through some of your darkest times in your life and that is something you can absolutely hold on to so truly I'm so sorry your dad is a complete jerk and you absolutely did not deserve to miss out on this moment in Max's life my teachers demand that we stop picking mangoes off the tree behind our school so as a result of us maliciously complying the mangoes begin to rot and it causes so many problems for the school here's what happened so this happened back in 2010 in middle school and for a bit of context I live in an old rural Town not in the United States the only Middle School in this town used to be a nursery the kind where plants and trees were grown or sold not a medical Nursery most of the trees were cut down when the place became a school and a few of them were fruit trees with three or four of them being mango trees all of us kids love taking them home by the bunches to enjoy them with our families or eating them during lunch and breaks occasionally some kids would try throwing rocks or sticks at the tree branches to make some of the mangoes fall over and one of the teachers didn't like this understandably throwing rocks can be dangerous but nobody was throwing them at each other and they were careful looking for any people passing by as not to hurt anyone now the most logical thing to do would be to forbid students from throwing things at trees right but instead the school passed a rule that any student caught picking up the mangoes whether they be on the floor or trying to get them from the tree would get in trouble and eat even face suspension we all thought it was a dumb idea but me and a few other students could smell the eventual disaster from a mile away so nobody protested and everyone at school agreed to comply even the kids who were known to be rebellious well about a month or so later the whole school was absolutely stinking of rotten mangoes and for those who don't know mango season usually Peaks during early spring and late summer plus where we live rainy season hits in the summer so imagine old rotting mangoes in muddy water puddles that sit for days at a time in the summer heat trust me when I say this this is not a good combination of smells the teachers by that point told us that if we see a mango in good condition we could pick it up and we could eat it but we simply refused we couldn't possibly break the new rule that was imposed by a respectable teacher we had to maliciously comply and Obey like the good students we were the school had to pay a cleanup crew to dump all the rubbish and some of the parents my mom included complained about the way tastefulness of perfectly edible fruit the next year we were all enjoying some delicious mango flavored ice pops all under the shade of those good old summer breezes and the mango ice pops were made and sold by a classmate and as it turns out even the teacher that had originally started the complaints ended up being a loyal customer for these ice pops as well so in the end it all kind of worked out you can tell this story happened outside the United States because you can bet those mango trees probably would have been chopped down if any of the students got caught trying to eat them I personally really love this story because this is really funny instead of complaining they decided to maliciously comply and that caused a lot of problems for the school so maybe next time if the kids aren't bothering anybody and they're literally not hurting anybody else around them then maybe just leave them alone and let them have some fun because they literally didn't do anything wrong I paid my favorite artist to listen to my music and as a result they didn't like it and I got roasted by the nearly 400 people who were watching their live stream and not only have I never felt more embarrassed by something happening to me but I also feel very motivated and very inspired to continue making music and continue to do what I enjoy here's what happened so I have to preface this before I dive in the biggest thing is is that I'm not angry or upset about this this is more just getting my thoughts out there today I saw that my favorite artist was streaming live online listening to other people's music I've listened to this music for 10 years now and he's gotten really popular over time it's been amazing to watch him grow into the artist he is today and I will always love him for that I had seen him go live a couple of times listening to other people's music and I never participated I just listened to other people's songs and I just kind of hung out but today my fiance saw he was live and pressured me into paying for him to hear my song so I paid and sat in horror for two hours I was on my phone scrolling through Facebook when I heard him say my name and instantly my stomach dropped I regretted everything and I hated that I put myself in this situation the feeling only worsen when heard the beat come on and I realized there was 400 people watching I sat in horror as I watched his face sour up the Comets were also not very nice I wanted to make him turn it off but it was too late as the song ended I read all the comments about me being a clone of other artists and virtually everybody was roasting me a couple people enjoyed it but the general consensus was that I was terrible I was gutted I was completely embarrassed I went into my room and I cuddled with my dog for 20 minutes and then I realized something and I've never felt more clear as I said before I've listened to him for a long time I remember not liking his music at first but as time went on he got better and he blew up after realizing this I got up and I went to my computer where I record my music and I listened to my first songs all the way up until my new ones and I almost started to cry I heard myself grow I heard myself become more comfortable and I heard my story from my point of view when the events were happening it was amazing I'm so proud of myself and I'm so happy I paid to get roasted by my favorite artist because now I have so much inspiration and drive to continue to do what I do this story turned out to be way better than I thought it would be like obviously the original poster came into this saying you know what I want to have this guy listen to my music and then it all just kind of went South pretty quickly after that I really think this story is a good example of how you shouldn't let other people dictate your future as a creative person this easily could have destroyed this person this could have made them stop doing music pretty much for the rest of their lives getting that kind of criticism from somebody that you look up to as well as 400 viewers in this guy's chat potentially could have been devastating for this person but they fought through it they were able to take some time to themselves really process what was happening and then decide you know what I have grown as an artist because at the end of the day that really is what it's all about they were able to look back on their music and say I've grown a lot I've been able to learn a lot and even though this person doesn't like my music right now it doesn't mean that I won't be able to do more music in the future and that in my opinion is such a good lesson to learn and you know what forget what this guy thinks who cares if he's some big streamer who likes music and has blown up because of their own music their personal taste and what you create doesn't dictate your future in the slightest so I really like that the original poster was able to overcome this type of criticism and have some kind of positive outlook about the situation in general thanks for watching when you subscribe make sure to hit the Bell to turn on notifications so you never miss a video to finish listening to all the stories use the playlist at the top of the description and if you like am I the jerk you're probably going to love am I the genius check it out in the description below and subscribe

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Length: 20min 37sec (1237 seconds)

Published: Wed Jun 07 2023