- She's not just some fan
girl, that she is an equal, and that she can offer him correction. I love it, I love her. Even if it was just her, I would watch. I love this character. What are you truly looking
for in a romantic partner? What are the things that
you absolutely must have even if there are other
things that are inconveniences but you're willing to overlook them because these are must-haves? Star crossed lovers from separate worlds is a tale as old as time. And yet "Bridgerton"
breathes new life into it, largely because Eloise
is the best character. Mended Light.
(lively jazz music) Okay, Eloise is the oft overlooked sister of the "Bridgerton" clan. I'm sure we're gonna get a season specifically devoted to her. But here, right here,
right now, she is searching for Lady Whistledown, the gossip columnist who is destroying lives left and right, leaving just a trail of broken
reputations in her wake. And Eloise is trying to track her down. And so she figures out the print shop where Lady Whistledown
has been sending out her anonymous newsletters. And Eloise comes from the upper crust. She's from a very wealthy,
well-to-do family. And yet she finds herself drawn to Theo. And Eloise is somebody who had no, no intentions of love or
marriage or dating or romance. She wants to be educated,
she wants to have a career. She is a strong, independent woman in this version of regency era England. But then we get to a little
bit of (tsks, whistles). No, actually they don't do anything. - Is the shock you seem to
be displaying at present due to the fact that I appear
well read and articulate? Or do you suffer from some medical ailment about which I should be told? - She's got sass for days, which is why she's my favorite
character on the show. - What's your name? - Eloise Bridgerton. - Pleased to meet you, Miss Eloise. - Gender equality.
- I'm Theo. - I know.
- That's where she meets him. - You know. - As I know there are several
errors in your arguments that I must bring to your attention. Have you a pencil? Nevermind, you may borrow mine. - So she can't help
even when it's a me cue and she's flirting with someone whose writings on gender
equality she admires. She has to assert herself that
she's not just some fan girl, that she is an equal and that
she can offer him correction. I love it, I love her. Even if it was just her, I would watch. I love this character. - Do not tell me you've
traveled at this ungodly hour to offer more corrections of my writing. - It was the only time I could
leave without being seen. And on the contrary, I've come
to ask for your discernment. - Is that so? - Do not be so pleased. It is a rare occurrence that
I doubt shall be repeated. I have questions about the
writings in this pamphlet. - Well, the ideas can tax a fragile mine. - Well, perhaps your means
of communicating them leaves much to be desired. - Perhaps you have not
seen enough of the world to make sense of them yet.
- Ah! - What of Lady Whistledown? - Spoiler alert. So there's her friend Penelope, who is actually Lady Whistledown. Penelope's spying on her
because she doesn't wanna be found out as Lady Whistledown because for Penelope, this
is her way to have a career. This is her way to have a voice. She's so trapped and
overlooked in her family and in her social circle that nobody realizes her brilliance. - You have not seen enough of the world to make sense of them yet. - Ah! - What of Lady Whistledown? She speaks on everyone without remorse. - No, no, she does not speak of all. Perhaps she simply does not know that there are some beyond the
ton worthy of attention too. - Are you speaking with
Mr. Sharp again, El? - I have heeded your warnings. Theoretically. It would be foolish of me
to continue to visit him. - And what in actuality? - I visited him just the other day. But it's not nearly as scandalous
as you make it out to be. It is only his thoughts I'm interested in. - This is a friendship then? - Of course, what else could it be? - The truth is the best
relationships are built on friendship. We often start with sexual
attraction, romantic interest and try and retroactively
build a friendship from there. And I'm not saying that's
wrong to spot somebody who piques your interest, but
without a solid friendship, you will not have a lasting relationship. And Eloise recognizes in
Theo a kindred spirit, someone with a common mind, a common interest in
the good of the people, in this case, gender
politics and gender equality. But Theo is equally concerned
about the plight of the poor. And for Eloise, who has
had it with the ton, the ton is the rich upper class
society that she comes from, she's kind of bored with
it and she's done with it. And she's done with the stuck upedness. And she's done with the superiority and all the drama and she wants real life. And she's drawn to Theo. And Theo, for his part, has disdain for where she comes from, because to him, the upper class are oppressors. And yet he cannot help but
be impressed by her mind and be impressed by how
quickly she latches on to ideas and then expands on them. - You've come quite a long
way to ask me something. So go on. - I have thoughts. - I can see how that might pose a problem for someone in your world. - Thoughts I would like to share with you. - And are you not sharing them now? - What I am failing to say is that often when I read something new
or interesting or provoking, it is you who crosses my mind. It is you I would like to speak
with about those thoughts. - I see. - And so I am wondering, you might also have thoughts
of me when you think. - I've read all of these. - And? - And I set them aside for you. Thought perhaps you would
share your thoughts on them. - So in this time, and
sadly, too much in our time, a man who values a woman's brain, a man who just can't wait
to hear what she has to say and what she thinks about
things and to engage with her in a dialogue is a rare thing indeed. And this is something that she prizes and cherishes, this friendship. And obviously, there's this chemistry, this hope for something more. But again, what is actual love built on? It's built on respect. And it's built on seeing somebody for who they actually
are and accepting them. And he doesn't see her
as a spoiled rich brat. He sees her as a woman of great
compassion and intelligence. And she doesn't see him
as coming from the slums and below her or beneath her,
but a person of integrity and great intellectual power,
and she's drawn to that. - People from the palace
have been asking about me. I was almost thrown out today. - Yes, I think that may be my fault. The queen, she, she saw me
visiting you the other day and now believes me to be
Lady Whistledown herself. Ridiculous, yes? - What is ridiculous is the
fact that you thought it wise to come back here again. Come for more books, did you? - What? No, I came to make sure
you were all right, to get our story straight. - Our story. This is not the least bit surprising. - What is that supposed to mean? - It means that you are
a lady who has never had to endure any real
difficulties in your life. You may have the
protection of your family, of your society, but I, I do not. You've taken your pleasure
from lowlife, Miss Bridgerton, now I think it best you return to Mayfair before you get me into any more trouble. - So in this case, the
queen is on a witch hunt for Lady Whistledown,
the gossip columnist, 'cause Lady Whistledown
disparaged the queen herself and believes it to be Eloise. And he is trying to get
her to keep her distance. And we are gonna see in just a second that as cruel as this
seems, and he didn't mean what he said, that she hasn't
known the hardships of life like he has because of his poverty. He also doesn't know that
she's lost her father. He doesn't know the things
that she's been through. But we see also in just a moment what was really going on when
they had this conversation, even though it was hurtful for her. - You got my note. - Why did you not tell me sooner? Why did you continue lying to me, carrying on with me when
you knew this entire time that the real Lady
Whistledown has been using this very shop to print her scandal sheet? - I couldn't tell you. Not when she was still watching me. Why do you think I ended
things the way I did with you, despite wanting to do the very opposite? I did not want her to see
the two of us together. I did not want her to
write cruelly of you. - A little late for that. - So real Lady Whistledown,
he's trying to protect her from being part of the
gossip magazine herself. But she had to, and that's
all part of the plot and all the story, but as
far as this relationship, it's hard when you feel like I must lie to protect the person that I care about. And when it's not a TV
melodrama, when it's real life, that's almost never a good idea. Far better to speak the
truth, even if it hurts. Far better to speak the
truth, even if it divides. Because speaking the truth builds trust. And I've learned that the
hard way sometimes in my life, if you've seen some of our other videos. But it's true, it's a true principle. - I owe you an apology, Miss Bridgerton. For everything. Whistledown's now taken
her business elsewhere. I thought you deserved to know the truth. - I deserve more than that. - [Theo] Forgive me, I'm... - This is absurd. - I would never- - No, this whole thing,
it is, it is absurd. I, we cannot continue to meet like this. - This was your idea. - I know, I know it was. - And now she wants to protect him. - [Eloise] And I'm sorry
for wasting your time. - One thing about
different world's romances. - Or are suddenly
dropping out of this hunt for other reasons? - People are already
talking about us, Theo. And no, I do not normally
care what other people think. But yes, I care about you. And if we continue on like
this, I cannot live with myself if you are the one who has
to face the consequences. - I should have known. That you cannot be any different
from all the other ladies. - But she is. - [Theo] It's all right, Miss Bridgerton. - And that hurts. - You dipped your toe into my waters, trying to make yourself feel better about the advantages of your birth. Now you can go back to your life, and I can go back to mine. - And he is handling this
the only way he knows how, 'cause it is a rejection, right? How does this look in our lives? Our parents are very invested
in who we end up with, how we spend our lives,
the choices that we make, our friends, our social circles, people from church, people from the club. Wherever you come from, you have people who truly care about you but still impose their opinions
and their judgments on you. And people who really
only care about themselves and they see your life as
something to be mocked. Either way, we can allow
others to push and pull us away from what our heart truly
wants and who we truly are. And this is heartbreaking
for both Eloise and Theo. I was really rooting for them. I wanted them to end up together. But the point is, you're
going to be judged no matter what you do. You will have people who disagree with you no matter what you do. You'll have people who shun
you, who criticize you, who shame you, no matter what you do, no matter what choice you make. Because the people in your
life have different viewpoints, different opinions. Some of them hold them very strongly and they're very sure that they are right. What do you want? Who do you want? And who do you want to be? And is all that based
on wise decision making? Because you can want somebody
who's not good for you and you could have people
warning you and you ignore them. I'm not talking about that situation. I'm talking about when you
follow your heart and your mind, where does that lead you? You've only got one life, so choose what's really
going to make you happy or at least give you
the best shot for that. If you found this helpful, I encourage you to check out a video of ours called "What Does Real Love Look Like?" that's gonna pop up here at the very end. What has been your
experience with the push and pull of family members
and society and others when it comes to your life
and especially your love life? Have you ever followed just
your heart and what you wanted? And how did that go for you? Let us know in the comments below. If you need help with your
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that we teach in therapy and you can go at your own pace. Until next time, folks, keep shining, because we need your light. (lively jazz music)
