Don’t Let The Fear Of Rejection Stop You

do not let the fear of rejection control your life if there's a girl you want to ask out if there's something you want to do if there's just some idea you have present it do it because what you don't want to do is wait around and never get the opportunity to do that and you're going to regret that and the pain of that regret is going to be way worse than the pain of rejection the pain of rejection is temporary the pain of rejection helps you learn things it it it builds you it it desensitizes you you know what I mean if you scared of fire and you stayed around fire more you would become more used to the fire right same thing with ice baths and stuff like that it never really gets that comfortable but you build a a certain uh you know sensitivity or desensitivity to it so all the times in my life when I have missed out on relationships when I missed out on things it came from me waiting around it came from me not wanting to face rejection because rejection is scary but the more you do something as I said the easier it becomes now if it's all up to you it's all about your perspective if you perceive rejection to be scarier than regret you're going to always avoid confrontation you're going to always avoid approaching people you're going to always avoid presenting who you are but if you think that regret is scarier than regret uh rejection if you think regret is scarier than um inactivity all those things I mean activity your life is going to change me one of my biggest fears is being on my deathbed and regretting my life regretting that I didn't do this regretting that I didn't do that so that makes me and it it motivates me to do things so when you approach things like you see this girl over there you like man I don't want to go over there and get rejected your mind should be saying man I don't want to regret not going to talk to this girl you know what I'm saying and when the more you practice that the more you you present that it's going to be fake bravado at first because you you got to be delusional until it works once it's once it's worked it's no long longer delusion is just who you are but you're going to have to build up that courage and practice being more courageous and be simple most people approach girls with the idea of dating them it shouldn't be that way you should approach a girl with the idea of talking to them because you could truly never get rejected if your goal is to talk to them let's be honest if you walk up and say hey mission is complete now what you do with that conversation is another story so really really key into that simplifying things and just knowing or you know what I'm saying understanding that that pain of regret is going to last with you forever and you don't want to do that it was this girl I like when I was younger man I was in love with her I'm not going to lie to you but I sat around and waited sat around and waited I was like man I don't want to ask out I don't want to ruin our relationship I don't want to do this I don't want to do that few weeks later she got a boyfriend and I ain't going to lie to you I straight up ask I said why did why did you do that like we had a thing going on why why did you do that to me why did you do that to us and she said I liked you but you never showed me and I was like but but but but I used to walk you to class and you know we used to hug and I used to text and call you all the time and she was like but I thought you didn't like me I thought I thought you just seen me as a friend or something so I you know and when I tell you that sent me on one of those like damn spend some time away getting ready for the day you know what I'm saying I was like yeah I had a whole playlist that I called sad it was it was uh it was that bad man but don't wait around man you you literally never know what's going to happen and on the other side of things I was like you know what let me just try it and bro the things that I accomplish with within years of talking to girls and beating around the bush and approaching girls you know before I actually got over that fear I was accomplishing those things in two three weeks if that because I was being upfront I was being honest and I was communicating what I wanted and I was wasting less time if you get rejected that's just less time wasted you know what I'm saying because we know what we want from a person regardless like if you meet a girl and you're like all right I want to I want her to be my girlfriend but you know we got to take the proper steps be friends then you know blah blah blah blah but if you go ahead and build that from the jump and like yo you know I want you to you know be my girlfriend you know blah blah blah blah and she's like well I don't really see you like that that lets you know you you two weeks in you already know all right well cool then you might back off and then just because you back off she might come back I didn't tell you that though but anyways I I do understand why the fear of rejection is so strong especially in these days because I don't know if y'all ran into it but women be rude as hell like they will literally try to humiliate you for no reason you simply say hello they make you feel like you creeping on that was one of the big things I had to get over it it always the way they acted it made me feel like I was a creep which I know I'm not but it's like they like it's like why are you so Disturbed all I said was hello you know what I'm saying I approached you I didn't come behind you back and tap you like hey like I literally seen you I approach you but you seem so bothered it's like all right cool when they do that just walk away my bro no worries uh you have a nice day walk away you know what I'm saying but like I said I do understand why and then you have you know you don't want to end up on Tik Tok approaching a girl end up on Instagram going viral but let me tell you something if that is your biggest concern you are never going to succeed in anything in life because this world is Twisted the same world that I'm talking about is the same world that makes fun of people for trying it makes fun of people for pursuing their dreams it makes fun of people from for working to provide for their families there's people who are unemployed unemployed broke have no dreams have no aspirations and they pick on people who work and provide for their family they pick on people who actually try and fail while trying you understand what I'm saying but a failure is not a failure it is just a lesson there's no losses only lessons but this world picks on people for that and the same things that people have been picked on for many years have become Trends now so if if the way the world is scares you it shouldn't at all I I really hope that perspective gives you some insight on why you should just be yourself and lock in who you are because the way this world it it doesn't matter my friend it really does not matter and I'm going tell you something also let's say you was to approach your girl and you ended up on Tik Tok there's going to be a lot of stupid comments but it's going to be a chain of people who like all he did was say hello like this is stupid why did you even po this guy is not a creep you just want attention it's always going to happen because the truth the law of the universe the truth had to come the truth has to come out it has to come out and when you know who you are you don't have to worry about anybody saying anything there's no girl in the history of you know my liking or communication that can say I creeped on them that I stalked them that I did this that I did that because I know who I am whatever they could say it wouldn't bother me because I know who I am so you just really have to key into that man and understand man life is just life you might be you know what I'm saying you might be 20 NOS away from finding your dream girl if I told you you had 150 NOS until you found your dream girl do you know how many times you would approach hey how are you doing you want to be my girlfriend no I'm excited to get to the next one you would keep going and keep going and keep going that's why people tell you to keep trying because you're going to build that desensi that mean that desensitivity and you're going to get closer to your goal the more shots you miss the closer you are to hitting your goal you understand what I'm saying if you don't shoot you never know you'll never know so my friend for the reinsurance if you want to ask her out ask her out if you want to talk to her talk to her always be respectful never be too pushy but communicate what you want and communicate what you're willing to do like if I was talking to a girl right now I was like look we got a good connection we got a good vibe I honestly like to have you around you know what I mean and um you know I would like to take things to the next level well what do you mean I was like well you know I want you to be my girlfriend simple right you can also use this cheat code right this is a cheat code I use when I'm talking to a girl and I really want to move things to the next level I sprinkle in these little seeds I tell them things like I really don't like hanging around a lot of people now look look look pause no homo you know for the immature people but I'm going to place you in the uh perspective of a lady okay so I would tell her something like this I'll be like look um I really don't like being around around people but you know I enjoy your Vibe and when I like people I you know I give them this and I give them that and I like to spend time with things like that and what's going on in her head is like we already do those things so he must like me blah blah blah blah blah blah blah you know what I'm saying and I just keep doing those things you know I I really don't like being touched by people I really don't like sleeping by people but if I if I could sleep around you I really like you and I'm really comfortable now her mind is thinking well he just slept by me this for and it's just going on and on and on and on right and then um you I be like but you know what you know I you know people come in and out of my life but I just I see you as one of those those long-term friends long-term people in my life so I really want to establish some type of boundaries like you know what what are some thing what are your dos and don'ts what you know let me know a little something and you could even go a little deeper and be like so what what's your take on relationships what do you look for for and relationships and things like that and she communicates hers and then you communicate what you like and then you sprinkle in well I don't think we'll have any problems I think we're pretty good fit boom it's going to light her world up man and then after that point that's when you uh you know you continue to do the excursions you touch her a little more you become a more a little more delicate and Angelic and Majestic in the way you touch her and talk to her and you look into those eyes you look at those lips and you look into those eyes and you look in those lips what what are you thinking about nothing don't worry about it don't worry about it you know what I'm saying but anyways um that turned into a whole thing but look man if you like the girl let her know if she rejects you who cares move on find something else and just uh always better yourself man you know what I'm saying if your acne is bad eat better Foods clear your skin up if your hair is uh Shaggy and it needs to be cut you know what I'm saying if if you can make the long hair look good I'm all for the luxious beautiful Majestic Hair do that um if your clothes are not the best you know what I'm saying and I I don't mean like I said I always have sensitivity for the people who don't have the most you know what I'm saying but look if you're not as fortunate man look them secondhand shops I get a lot of my clothes from the thrift shops cheap stuff you know what I'm saying but it's all about the way you do it and you got to own your clothes clothes don't make the man the man make the clothes you know what I'm saying so do just improve yourself man for you so that when you approach other people you're presentable and you know what I'm saying you look nice you smell nice and things like that so always increase your chances by improving yourself so I love y'all man always nice to talk to y'all and I hope this helped somebody peace

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Length: 12min 37sec (757 seconds)

Published: Fri Jan 26 2024