from boyhood to manhood: the mindset that changed everything

[Music] yo what's good man this is what boys got to understand before becoming man it's quite simple bro like Can't Nobody Do it for you that that's what it comes down to like can't nobody think for you can't nobody put the work in for you and shouldn't nobody be telling you really what direction to go into in life people can help you people can guide you but it's up to you you are now 100% responsible for your life once you understand that once you grasp that once you accept that then and only then do you really truly become a man only then do you become the best version of yourself only then can you transform from a boy to a man cuz what's Boyhood Boyhood you you're dependent on other people fully to eat to operate to get from point A to point B things that you can't can and cannot do people that you can and cannot hang around you under a particular household you're under a particular roof so you got to follow these particular rules and that's just the life of a boy and a lot of times people are thinking for you and leading you in a direction of where you should be and so instead of doing that you got to do some reflection and understand okay I'm 18 all right I'm I'm getting older now you know me personally I'm 22 um I know I look older but I'm I'm 22 cool I get it man I get it like I'm 18 now okay what what's next what's next is understanding that now that you 18 you got to start thinking for yourself even before 18 you got to start planning figuring out your purpose even if your plans don't happen step by step you still got to to set it in motion you still got to understand that once you reach a particular age nobody can pay your rent I pay rent every month bro nobody's giving me a a a check nobody's giving me a deposit I got to do the work I got to put the work in I got to earn the check I got to do it there's nobody else doing it there's no free money everything come with a price everything in life come with a cost that's real man Hood right there you going to have to provide for yourself you going to have to not just provide for yourself or work for yourself that's what y'all think you think it's just that basic level no bro it's deeper than that you going to have to think for [Music] yourself you going to have to think for yourself you're going to have to choose the type of life that you want for you there's nobody that's gonna wake you up in the morning and say you got to go to work you got to put in the work you got to go to extra mile it's either you want to or not it's either you're willing to put in the work or not it's either you're willing to put in the consistency or not it's either you're willing to put in the discipline or not there's nobody that's going to be by your shoulder tapping you and saying let's [Music] go when you become a man you got to understand the value of your friends who you hang around and how important it is to be surrounded by the right people how important it is to be surrounded by good people how important it is to be surrounded by people that want to see you in you can't just associate yourself with anybody and everybody being a man you understand that most people don't care most people don't care about what you're going through how can you still stay disciplined how can you still stay consistent as a man bro we understand quickly ain't nobody getting on their knees for us nobody's doing that see this pose right here my knees down here nobody's doing that nobody's really doing that bro that's something that we do once you find a girl that you want the girl of your dreams the right one the queen you got to get on your knee and propose to her and take care of her and her family the life of a man bro you got to become a provider you got to be be that guy you got to be that dog you got to have that discipline ain't nobody going to do it for you bro ain't nobody going to go to the gym for you bro ain't nobody going to take care of your wife for you then then you start having kids now now you got to teach the kids how to be a man and the cycle [Music] continues when you become a man you need to start thinking about your future family if you want kids one day you need to start asking yourself this question am I the man that my kids can be proud of come on bro your kids ain't even here yet that's how you level up that's how you become a good father that's how you level up am I the man that my kids can be proud of my answer today is no out of all all my accomplishments everything I'm doing me helping people all nah I'm still not the man that that my kids could be part of it's a everyday growth it's a everyday process there's things I can get better at there's things that I need to fix about myself there's things that I need to [Music] heal and as a man nobody really cares about that healing process but you all that trauma you went through in your childhood all that hurt you probably went through whatever your story is don't nobody care they want you to show up to work the next day and provide that's the reality of a man can you st can you stick through that can you be disciplined enough to grow through that can you be disciplined enough to handle that can you be okay with that can you not let that stop you can you not let that stop what you got going on or are you going to be all in your feelings oh nobody care about me oh oh my God no when you become somebody what you already are all you doing is stepping into your greatness then people start to care when you surround yourself around good people purpose-driven Brothers they'll care I care the people watching this with you they care they care about you go ahead talk to them in the comments they care there's good people out here I'm not saying nobody cares but I'm just saying once you leave your friend group once you leave this video the realities of the world when you walk outside nobody cares nobody cares if you didn't pay the rent this month nobody going to pay it for you they trying to pay it too they worried about their own rent they worried about their own problems so how can you be a problem solver and not a complainer how can you be a go-getter these are the things that you need to start asking yourself what's going to keep me going what's going to motivate me what's going to push me through as a man you realize your biggest motivation is your future your biggest superhero is your future self your biggest motivation is your future family that's not even here yet your biggest motivation is getting your getting your parents out the hood or out of a bad environment giving back to your mama that gave everything to you you start to realize what's important in life it ain't the partying it ain't the drugs it ain't the [Music] it's the things that actually have value it's having a connection with God having a connection with family having a connection around good people you start to realize what actually matters when you a man bro all that kid stuff gets put away only thing childish that you holding on to is your dreams you still holding on to your heart that's your purpose who you want to become in this world don't you ever forget that you hold on to that you don't want to lose your inner child but I'm telling you bro the childish things the not working hard the not being consistent caring about other people's opinions when you a man bro you can't care about that bro I care about other people's opinions oh bro we care about other people's opinions no of course not why don't we care about other people's opinions Malik because they don't pay our bills because they don't care about us because they wasn't there when we was in the trenches they wasn't there when we were struggling they wasn't there when life was tough they wasn't there when life was hard they wasn't there when we barely afforded rent they wasn't there when we was going through the struggle they wasn't there for me when I was in the hood with Mama and working two three jobs they wasn't there they don't know they don't understand what we've been through me and Mama do so that's going to be my motivation that's going to be my inspiration and we going to keep working harder and we going to keep getting 1% better that's manhood you start realizing what's important in this life bro and you start realizing that we've been lied to and the things that they told us is important ain't important at all it's not important at all you know I've been getting comments and people saying man Malik I see you you doing great things or you know that that that that ain't even important I don't even need the validation there's a there's a perspective that we trying to reach there's a reason why we doing what we doing it's my purpose I don't need the validation come on man I ain't trying to kill you bro you know it's flies around it I ain't trying to kill him man come on man just leave me alone let me record this video G oh you back come on man come on that's the distractions I'm still focused on the video These Little Bees been flying around the whole time it ain't going to stop me from what we doing how can you not fall for the distractions how can you be about the ACT how can you put action first these are the questions that y'all got to start asking yourselves man and I don't have all the answers but I tell you one thing as a man we wake up and we got to figure it out bro that's manhood did y'all know that that's manhood bro it's figuring it out we just got to figure it out how you going to make money you got to figure it out you got to figure it [Music] out part of being a man is just figuring it out that's all we doing each and every day every opportunity that I have every chance that I'm awake I'm really just trying to figure it out you know I'm I'm just trying to figure it out you know people telling me you know oh you're doing great you're doing this you're doing that and I'm still figuring it out life is all about figuring it out the daily discipline is all about figuring it out you never you never going to be perfect bro that's not what we aiming for that's not what this is about but it at the end of the day it's about trying it's about effort it's about figuring it out it's about waking up and and choosing to win waking up and choosing to be the best version of yourself that's manhood that's manhood man we we not we not stressing them we got we we we can't do nothing but work and take care of ourselves part of part of being the man is putting yourself first because we tasked with taking care of so much other people and we know the simple the simple method bro is if we taking care of everybody else and we never taking care of ourselves then nothing really gets done does it because we not going to be able to help others if we can't help ourselves I said we not going to be able to help others if we can't help ourselves so you got to take care of yourself maybe you partying less and you just at home more you taking care of yourself more you know you you meditating more you getting closer to to God more whatever whatever it is whatever you need to do to be at peace you got to keep doing that that's what's most important you know this just again bro if you don't take care of you the world's going to eat you up the world's going to ruin [Music] you you know part of being a man is is setting boundaries telling people n man I'm focused on my goals right now I'm focused on on this discipline right now I can't hang with you right now you know being a man is is Going Your Own Way creating your own path you could be inspired by the Kobe Bryant of the world the Michael Jordans of the world you could be inspired by your dad you could be inspired you could be inspired but you got to create your own path you got to find out what works for you you got to find out what you're doing on Earth you got to find out what your purpose is cuz we could be inspired all day cuz we could be inspired all day we can be inspired all day Cody we could we could be inspired all day but but life is about action life is about work truth is life is about results it's about results the hardest thing is to start something that's that that that has never been there before but that's how you create your own way when I started my YouTube channel this channel never existed before I had I had the channel name Ted on me years prior Purpose Driven I had this tatted on me for years and I always told myself I'mma Be Purpose [Music] Driven I had that tle on me for three years and then 3 to four years later I started for Purpose Driven [Music] men you can't make this up and when you first start something new and you don't know if people going to rock with you you make your first video you just make your first video and then you actually see people watching you see people tuning in and you just keep being consistent and you just keep showing up for your dreams and you just keep showing up for your goals I didn't listen to the haters I didn't listen to the naysayers I didn't even hear haters or naysayers cuz I don't surround myself with them I'm surrounding myself around positivity I'm surrounding myself around good people sometimes I can't even surround myself around nobody cuz ain't nobody there I'm just surrounded by myself doing what I can to be the best that I could be right listen [Music] man if you click this video looking for a blueprint I'm sorry if you clicked this video If you clicked it look at for all the answers to be a man I'm sorry there's going to be things that you have to figure out and that's what being a man is all about figuring it out seeing what works for you seeing the life that you want you can't be just like me you got to be just like you you [Music] know a big portion of being a man bro is having faith understanding that you're a warrior you were made to fight you were made to go through life you were made to struggle and overcome it just like a superhero story you know everybody say Batman was rich nah it ain't about that Batman lost both his [Music] parents he had trauma growing up and he turned that trauma into something that he could do good for society with to continue his dad's Legacy and he became [Music] Batman even Superman with all the powers he had he was like the last dying breed off his Planet they said we might not be able to save ourselves off this planet but if we could save that one kid right there to keep our our Legacy [Music] going and send him to a habitable planet and that planet was called Earth and they sent Superman [Music] here Superman ain't even get to meet his parents Superman had adopted parents parents that adopted him do y'all see what's going on here through trauma comes being a superhero through hard work through discipline through the unfortunate events of life you can turn that into positives only if you believe though and I believe you super Z but you can only turn that into a positive if you believe I believe y'all are Kings but you can only become a king if you believe believe in yourself and put the work in and figure out a way figure out a way life is all about figuring out a way so what do boys got to understand to be men it's all on you now bro yeah people going to help you along the way yeah this video is going to help you along the way yeah you might find a couple good friends that can help you along the way please surround yourself with mentors cuz yeah mentors can help you along the way but what you got to understand is it's your way it ain't mine it's not your parents' way it ain't your friends way it's yah way and it's your way that's it that's it your connection with God and you and and y'all got to figure that [Music] out there's nothing else to it there's nothing else to it man so I hope y'all appreciated the video [Music] and I'll see y'all in the next one [Music]

Channel: For Purpose Driven Men

Views: 272,149

Keywords: purpose, masculinity, men, self improvement, boyhood to manhood, brutal truth to becoming a man, become a man, boy to a man, prepare for manhood, how to be a man, Mindset shift, mindset, changed everything

Id: c0ew5HmgPJo

Length: 19min 19sec (1159 seconds)

Published: Sat May 04 2024