Does Grieving Ever End? Mastering The Waves Of Coping | Life Over 60

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hello and welcome this is life over 60 with Sandra I was going to upload another video today but because my channel is about honesty and real life as we live it I've decided to share with you something that happened to me yesterday you probably think just a little heartbreak and heartbreak fades [Music] you probably think I'm hurting the Cowgirls Don't Cry [Music] hello and thank you ever so much for stopping by just a few minutes today for this conversation that I'm going to have something happened to me yesterday and it was an ordinary day you know it started out really great it had rained the day before so the humidity was down a little bit here in Florida as you know in Florida our summers are pretty hot I had spoken with all of my children on the phone so I'd been in contact with my family a good day I decided to come up into my room and start organizing my files I have a lot of paperwork since I lost my husband and to kind of get things together go through my closet and do things that I had been neglecting for quite a while and I love music you know I love music so I thought well I always have music in my house and I thought maybe I would like to listen to some 80s rock music because that reminds me of when my children were growing up and we always had music in the house and my team my kids were teenagers in the 80s so that's basically what I listened to whether I liked it or not but I got to like it so I thought I would listen to some 80s rock music while I was doing what I had to do and I asked Alexa to play me some music and she misunderstood me and she put on 80s country music well I thought you know I'm so busy I don't I'll change I like country music and the 80s country music would be a nice uh type of music to listen to while I'm working so I was listening to the music and going about my business and doing everything then all of a sudden song came on by George Strait and it was in the 80s and uh it's called the chair and all of a sudden grief hit me so hard that I began to cry I just could not stop the tears but this was grief from 53 years ago 53 years ago and I don't know whether it's because now I've lost Arthur and uh maybe I'm a little bit you know under stressed and a little bit depressed but all of a sudden grief from 53 years ago just overwhelmed me so much that I just couldn't stop the tears that were running down my cheek and I realized that this music was the kind of music that my late husband my first husband Jennings heart always used to have playing on the radio in the car and always used to have around the house and I didn't understand at the time something that I understand now is that grief lives with you forever somehow you carry on you live your life you fall in love again and you rise above it but in reality it really never ever goes away but that grief that we have had throughout the years is down there deep inside of us suppressed and it just takes a trigger to bring it all back again now I was not grieving for the Jennings that I knew at the end of his life because he was mentally ill that I was grieving from that song about a man and a woman who meet and become acquainted and really feel a connection there I was grieving for that man that I met when I first met him and felt a connection and felt very deeply deeply in love sure we carry on which is what we really should do and we rise above it but somehow in reality and in truth it never goes away and the reason is it's because it's an experience that we had in our life and it is part of all the things that have happened to us in our life that have made us who we are today I was feeling and I was remembering that initial attraction that I had way back then and the loss that I had at that time in my life I really am beginning to understand that grief can trigger all types of emotion and grief for each and every one of us is unique what triggers your grief and the way that you are feeling maybe just out of the blue is unique to you all of us have different triggers but one thing that we really should always understand that we do go on and we do build lives and we carry on because that is the way life is I don't know what triggered this wave of grief within me other than that song it could be because of what I've been through I'm still a little stressed and maybe I'm still a little depressed as I said before but I think the lesson that I learned from this is that whatever grief that I'm going through today because of my loss currently of Arthur will also shape me into whomever I am going to be in the future and that I do have to carry on and that I do have to accept that loss is just a part of life but the fact that I am still here means that I really have to keep on living and I honestly do have to keep my purpose while I am here don't forget how important it is to recognize your grief to share and get a support group around you is extremely important I think also one of the things that I have learned through being a widow twice is that we really have to be patient we have to be patient with ourselves and we have to ride those waves of grief whenever they come but understand also that those waves are making us who we are today and are a natural part of our being thank you for letting me share this experience that happened to me yesterday just out of the blue and it really took me by surprise pleased to try to if you are grieving understand that it is a process and life does go on and you will regain some normalcy in your life be kind whoever crosses your path and of course be good to yourself let's all share the love and of course pray for World Peace and if you are feeling alone right now and going through this process please know that you are loved and that you are never alone take care and I will see you next Tuesday for another conversation [Music]
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Channel: Life Over Sixty With Sandra
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Length: 9min 52sec (592 seconds)
Published: Tue Jun 13 2023
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