Divorced Couple Shares Each Side Of Their Love Story

what do you think the divorce it was the hardest you know time of my life at least it was just it was just a dark dark time Jimmy chai 40 years old - Letha chai 41 oh my god don't believe him we were in college working for the the college newspaper and he came running in and he had long hair at the time it looked like Asian Jesus I don't know there was just something about him that I liked and I hadn't even really heard him talk much just something about his presence I like thought up something to ask him and we just started talking from there she borrowed money from me Hey there was a time when I'm at night where we were just bored and just laying out the paper and so there was a calendar of quotes on the date on the table and you would say like these inspirational things and so I would tell her hey as a joke anytime someone walks to the door I'm just gonna sneak in a quote to the person and to see if they catch it and she would die laughing you know anyway lesson the jokes I think I just want over so that's what I knew so many [Music] so many what be here okay actually I don't know she was there you tell her this story but I'm gonna say it anyway can you hear me no one time she she she was driving home and she had to go to the bathroom she'll pee and so instead of pulling over because she was rushing home and I wonder why she was rushing home but she had a coffee cup in her thing and so she peed in the coffee cup she's gonna hate me for this by the way I know what you mean but it's okay we just without saying anything know what the other person where they're gonna go and what they're gonna say or almost like finishing each other's sentences or something she's a very like probably the most pure hearted person I know like we have two beautiful daughters right now and I wouldn't want anybody else to be the mother of my children looking back it's like you forget the little moments you know like I was telling him the story about how we used to have the calendar remember and never enough to close what people would walk in and you'd be dying laughing yeah yeah yeah things that other people would think would just be so wrong yeah with us as we're like no that's bad I knew I wanted one of my children because of who you are it was just like a hands down Tilly just gonna be an amazing mom and I wanted this woman to be the mother of my children early yeah it wasn't what I would call a typical dating courtship where it leads up to a proposal it was very up and down it was an emotional rollercoaster well we were still just so disconnected at the time and so our communication really wasn't there like I don't know we just sort of let it pass by that couple unit just seems like to other people right I got to say the one thing that we found common ground in always was Seinfeld this is what Seinfeld was huge and the one thing that would always bring us back together dating up okay it's like Seinfeld okay we're finding this much time so I think all is good with the world I was on the living room floor and I was playing with our two children it was just like late at night and I remember realizing all of a sudden that I was very lonely and that I felt like a single mom they were three and five they wouldn't remember a whole lot I just knew that the healthier route would be to do this now and we weren't were people that would not want to live our life like that it was a lot of this is how you're supposed to be like why won't you be like this no to be honest with you looking back it was just more of a frustration from my side and I blamed her for a lot of stuff so I played a lot of victim and I felt very stifled but looking back it was more me than it was her I knew we shouldn't have been married to begin with so it wasn't like a I knew the marriage was over like we fought on our wedding day the whole time I was crazy we were so attached to the way and looked like and on top of that I had pressure for my family it wasn't fair to her and like she had no shot to be honest with you with me not looking back oh my gosh i self-sabotage the whole way most of my life it was just easier to just keep everything inside deal with it myself and just react to things and so I regret not telling you in a in a really productive way what I needed most which was why a partnership to walk next to each other it was just awkward Vil for a very long time eventually just the friendship started to come back we we talked about the same things we find the same things interesting he is one of the longest relationships that I've had in my life besides that we've had in our lives besides our parents and our siblings we just want to be the best people we could possibly be our marriage was filled with just holding our faults to each other and you know holding holding what was right or wrong about each other against each other and now we're really obsessed with that there is no right and there is no wrong and we're really obsessed with not giving up we're really obsessed with that this is a process I mean to be honest with you if you look at our relationship now people would think we're married because we get along so well and I don't know too many couples that get along like us whether you're married or not married it's difficult for my relationships that I have now with girlfriends because they don't understand this I can't and so that's what I'll have that's why I'm single that I value this relationship that has been such a big part of who I am because we have children I know that we're gonna have a relationship for a really long time and I guess just sometimes I imagine the end of my life being able to look at you and without saying a word know that we shared a pretty amazing journey I I wish I was kinder to you I wish I was more understanding I wish I was more authentic I wish I was there more no idea what I regretted the most was not being open enough and really telling you what was on my mind for me it was I wish over kinder to you honest authentic loving and another thing that I didn't say it was like committed I was one foot in one foot out a lot of ways and it wasn't fair to you yeah we see the world the same way we just don't live in the world the same way we've been talked about us as a unit in a very long time it's always about the kids so it's pretty interesting yeah to us this is really the only unit that we know I talked a little bit about just how friendship was always just an underlying thing so and we are always really good friends to each other okay nice to meet you nice to meet you yeah

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Length: 9min 38sec (578 seconds)

Published: Wed Aug 09 2017