DIVORCE in China - Husband Takes ALL!

[Music] well you see there's a sign over here reminding me about family court well not really I'm just making that up as an excuse our topic today is how different it is in China family quarter basically hey sumo what is that sign remind you of [Music] which one this one or this one that one once we have a bathroom that doesn't remind you family court looks like family cor exactly and how different genders are treated differently in law proceedings involving divorce yeah see at least we're on the same page so we're going to hit the road and we'll continue with the Sussex so tea milk yes let's not let's not get into politics here because this is a very contentious kind of thing there's just basically state facts and you know then we can be good with it okay but basically in the West whatever the circumstances that have led to it right now if you get embroiled in any kind of family court let's say you're married and you get divorced yeah the courts in in Western countries especially where I come from South Africa and I'm pretty sure the same in America and the UK the court will always favor the women in any kind of situation so I'm talking about custody of children you know something like eighty percent I don't want to mix the numbers here but a huge percentage of women will get the custody rather than the man okay and when divorces happen the women will usually get a big portion of the husband's possessions like maybe 50 percent will get the house or you know there's always a big settlement sort right in divorces and that's just facts nobody can dispute those so we're not going to talk about why that happens or how bloody unfair it is because that's not what we're doing here what we want to tell people is how in China it's actually pretty much flipped around yeah that's it yep so maybe you can start by talking about some divorce statistics well back in the day about 10 years ago there's about point zero sorry zero point eight divorces per 1000 marriages it okay and America is held true at about three or three point two but then last year just last year actually it's gone up to two point eight per 1000 marriages so it's quickly catching up with America's divorce rate why the reason is is you know the importance of property and owning a house here in China so what happens is culturally so actually we can't really blame this on the government's laws as much as we can blame it on how things work in China and that when you get married the son basically his parents will buy a house for the wife and and husband right and of course that that a house will either continue to be in the parents name that you know the sons parents name or transferred to him yes so there were some laws enacted because you know as there's a famous quote as Mao says women hold up half the sky right compared to some other Southeast Asian countries China is actually pretty good on women's rights and actually the divorce law was sherry chair would you having to say fairly fair for women when things split up but in 2011 they changed the law to basically favor the property owner so that people weren't getting screwed over by getting divorced randomly just so they could have certain properties right because of the housing bubble and not you know the price is kind of skyrocketing so what happened was in 2011 since then the court pretty much ruled in favor of the man and you know there's been stories of women that have poured their heart and soul and they're getting a lawyer and trying to get their property and half the possessions and stuff but it's you know that's the greatest reward that we were able to come up with on the internet was about two hundred thousand RMB and of course a house or an apartment it's worth a lot more than that so when you said it's looked on it said it's you know the polar opposite it's absolutely true because the men end up with pretty much everything even the kids when a divorce essence in yeah it's got a lot to do with the way society is here but actually another reason the reason why we've got such a high divorce right now is because couples are on purpose getting divorced so that they can get around property buying rules you know because basically the government's been putting in some strict controls to try and stop people speculating so much and owning like 10 properties my department and part of this law is basically they say married couples can only own like X amounts of properties right yeah so then people are getting divorced so that they can purchase more properties they still live together and they still husband and wife but they're getting legally divorced so that's that's skewing the numbers a lot gotcha anyway you talking about you know the whole buying a house yeah it's definitely part of the culture here there's a almost like you need a dowry in fact you do need a dowry a lot of cases some of my friends have married Chinese women have actually had to pay cash dowry I did as well yeah it depends on what status in society that woman has yet you know it'll start from as little as like 10,000 RMB and go all the way up into hundreds of thousands of RMB yep it's not million yeah and it kind of reminds me of Africa because in Africa they've got something called a in South Africa called a la bola which if you want to marry someone you have to give the father of the bride like ten cows or whatever that's the same thing it's kind of talent lies in a lot of a lot of countries does it yeah you know ten bales of hay or whatever you never know where to place yeah but can be an a the thing is you have to you're basically buying the wife is what's happening right yeah for so I think that might play into this as well someone's like well I paid you you know you know what I'm saying right it's a bit weird but you know this um the culture in China is quite chauvinistic you know and the man is always going to put first yeah and it's reflected in what happens in divorces and all the other laws are there service get past these noisy trucks although the laws are there to also protect women China's a country where connections and guanxi are very important so if if the woman is married into like a rich family and then she gets divorced first of all there's going to be a lot of shame put on a woman because a divorced woman is looked down upon here in China in a big way but we've talked about this before and it's like if you're divorced if you're a single divorced woman it's actually very difficult to get married again yes yeah so you've got that issue and then you've now been divorce is going to be very difficult to fight against the rich family to try and get your half of water or custody because if they've got money they they've got connections with all the police and all the cords and stuff so you're pretty much screwed right yeah so what else can we add to this about it pretty much it's a it's just another one of those things about China you know I think things are changing the laws are there but you know it's just the way things run and there's no way to change it so if you're a woman here in China and you get divorced like my wife is previously divorced she got nothing not a thing from their abuse marriage not one thing not a thing to be fair if I got divorced inside I'd end up with absolutely nothing because I'm a foreigner and guess what we just talked about the difference between male and males and females and how women get shafted here so you get the most shafted yes bar knows or even worse yeah they'll just if you try to kick up a fuss they'll just deport you yeah you hear that subscribers were lower than women yes women are always higher than us man come on I just got to expect the tip yeah it's the fact of the matter is like yeah we will actually get deported and all our assets will be seized if we kick up a fuss anyway so for sure for sure that's life okay so let's end this cheery topic by saying that I hope if you're in a marriage it like that it bloody laughs and that you're happy you know like it like that I'm in a very happy marriage I love my wife she loves me we're good exactly right court yeah awesome so wishing the best of luck to everybody up there who is married or planning to get married let's hope it never does end up in divorce right cool so anything you want to say to our subscribers before we sign off well whether you've tied the knot or have not oh my god and I hope you like on the end subscribe because it really helps us out sweet and whether or not you are somebody who considers marriage as part of your life plan or somebody who just says screw it you know let's go through life and have like partners or whatever you want to say we love you all the same so until next time you know the drill stay awesome [Music] you feeling we I remember you you make me stronger thank you remember remember I remember you [Music] you and [Music] [Applause] thank you [Music] [Applause] [Music]

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Id: -oPubZ4jB2w

Length: 10min 9sec (609 seconds)

Published: Sun Jun 04 2017