DANDIPANI - The Energy Alchemist

hi good afternoon everyone firstly thank you CBA for having me back again at wide for wonder it's an absolute pleasure and honor to be here and thank you Sarah and her amazing team for putting this two wonderful days together my talk today is on energy and how to manage it directed and invested into the things that matter most in our life my clickers are working okay there we go so life is a manifestation of where you direct your energy it truly is and what we should really start with is to actually look at energy the same way we look at water if I took water if I took a watering can and I watered a garden bed with the weeds grow the flowers grow both right water has no ability to discriminate between the weeds and the flowers whatever I water starts scrub energy is the same way as well if I took energy and I invested it into something negative it will grow and become more negative if I took energy invested it into something positive it will grow and become more positive energy has no ability to discriminate between what's positive and what's negative whatever you invest energy into starts to grow and manifest in your life right now you are the sum total of where you've been investing your energy throughout your entire life so the goal really in life is to figure out what it is you want right what's your purpose in life who and what's important in your life and be able to direct energy towards that so that you can manifest that in your life so where do we begin with this we begin by understanding how the mind works I'll have to say with you after living ten years it's a celibate monk in a cloistered monastery in Hawaii this is probably the most important thing I could ever share with you understanding how the mind works from a monk's perspective of understanding a monk and experience of a month's affective or understanding the mind and experience of the mind in my perspective in my experience of the mind there are two things we need to understand awareness and the mind define what they are let's define awareness as a glowing ball of light so imagine an orb a glowing ball of light that can float around let's call that awareness and put that aside now let's define the mind let's define the - a vast space with many different areas within it one area of the mind is angry hatred jealousy joy happiness sex food art science technology a whole bunch of different things right Yoenis that ball of light can actually move to any area of the mind you want it to go to so if your awareness this glowing ball of light goes to the happy area of the mind it lights up that particular area of the mind you become you become conscious of being happy are you happy no you're in an area of the mind called happiness if this ball of light goes to the angry air of the mind it lights up that particular area of the mind are you angry no you're in an area of the mind called anger and by using your willpower and your powers of concentration you can actually take your when as this ball of light to any area of the mind that you want to go to and here's the most important part where your awareness goes that's where your energy is flowing so the awareness goes to the anger of the mind your energy is flowing there it's actually strengthening that particular layer of the mind so this is a theory of it so let's do a little practical exercise to see if this actually works or just some monk talk ok so for that I need some audience participation I need all of you to sit up straight in your chat ok and put your feet down on the ground and if you're leaning back in your chair sit forward a little bit keep your spine straight roll your shoulders back you can keep your head nicely balanced on top of your spine your eyes are closed don't worry we're not going to chant or hold hands until later just kidding so take a slow deep breath in with your eyes closed take a slow deep breath in slowly exhale and take another slow deep breath in again and then slowly exhale I want you to become aware of the chair that you're sitting on is it comfortable is it not comfortable the temperature of the room is it cold warm what about your body posture is your spine straight your shoulders roll back you're sitting a little bit forward your head nicely balanced on top of your spine now I want you to become aware of the most recent wedding that you attended do you remember whose wedding it is were you happy for the couple getting married try and think as much detail as you can about the wedding to remember what you wore to the wedding do you remember what the bride wore did you make a good choice with her dress how was the food of the wedding alcohol did you drink a lot was they good music did you dance did you do some crazy wedding dance now I want you to become aware of the most recent vacation that you went on what kind of vacation was it was it a surfing trip yoga retreat holiday shopping camping backpacking try and think as much detail as you can about the vacation what was the weather like where you went was a cold rainy hot humid dry snowing do you remember the favorite Hotel you stayed in how was the food land spicy did you get sick eating the food did you shop a lot what was one thing you bought on the trip that you really liked your eyes are still closed I want you to become aware of the room again try and feel the temperature of the room is it warm is it cold the chair you're sitting on is it comfortable is it not is your spine still straight are you hunching your shoulders roll back okay slowly open your eyes and you can lean back in your chair well thank you very much for doing that exercise with me that exercise is really to prove two things to you one is there's a clear separation between awareness and the mind two completely different things second is you can actually take your awareness and move it to any area of the mind you want it to go to well you gave me permission to do it Tijuana's from the room I took it to an area of the subconscious mind where the memory of the wedding resided and then I took you to the vacation area of the mine and then back to the room again how do I know you were thinking about the wedding well I had my eyes open and your eyes were closed and when I asked questions I could see the reactions in your face did the bride make a good choice with a her dress a couple of un ok did you drink too much a few heads went down so I knew you were thinking about the wedding right so I took your wareness different areas in the mind this happens all day all day we allow people and things around us to dictate where awareness goes in our mind let's do one little exercise again just to emphasize this point because to me this is really really important and it's the crock of crux of really managing energy in your life can you remember your first kiss to remember who it was to remember his or her name do you remember where it took place back at dad's car behind the garage what was the experience what was the emotion that was associated with that experience come on real think about it wasn't that long ago come on we embarrassed were you nervous do you remember remember the person's name ok some people are laughing blushing did you remember the first time someone you loved someone really close to you passed away do you remember that do you remember getting a phone call being told that this person that you love has just died how did you feel what was the emotions associated with that experience did you have the blessing of being able to see the body before it was cremated or buried do you remember standing next to the body wondering how it felt knowing that you never see this person again how did it feel for you do you remember the emotions isn't it interesting in the space of 60 to 90 seconds I take your awareness from an area of the mind where all of you is smiling or giggling or slightly embarrassed to narrow the mine where all of you are completely sad on that salad is feeling the vibration of the rooms has completely changed right and I could take your awareness now to an angry air of the mind where you all get anger you get up and you leave and Sarah and a team would be really upset with me and this happens all day right all day we allow people and things to dictate where awareness goes and because they dictate where our ends goes that's where our energy flows as well and where our energy flows is what manifests in our life so really the goal in life is not really to control your mind but rather to control where your awareness is going in within your mind so don't control your mind control where your awareness goes within your mind how do we do that we do that by learning how so your spiritual practice or your homework for taking away is to control where your awareness goes in your mind throughout the day and that's really it how do we do this we learn the fine art of concentration first let's define what concentration is I define concentration as the ability to keep your awareness on one thing for an extended period of time so if I can keep my awareness on this lady and hold it on her I'm concentrating if I allow my awareness my ball of light to move away I'm getting distracted I use my willpower and I bring my awareness back and I hold it on her being able to do that allows me to concentrate most people can't concentrate for two reasons right one is they've never been taught how to concentrate second is they never practice concentration how many of you growing up here in school had classes on concentration every single day that you the same way you had classes on geography on math and science anybody I travel all around the world and I asked this question and nobody puts their hand up how many of you when you were growing up in school were told to concentrate isn't it amazing you get told to concentrate but you never get taught how to do it right when I was growing up I got told to concentrate all the time down the paani concentrate on doing your homework dhandapani concentrate on eating your food anybody want to show me how to do it no how many of you have kids how many of you tell your kids to concentrate have you ever showed them how to no right and then if you don't show them how to concentrate how would they know how to do it and then if you want to be good at something you have to practice it if you want to be really good at concentration you need to practice it all day people are good at distraction because that's what they practice all day long it's not that they don't have the ability to concentrate they've just practice distraction and become really really good at it so how do we concentrate we concentrate by practicing doing one thing at a time and integrating this practice into our everyday life so for me I look at my average day and I ask myself what's a reoccurring event in my life every day I speak with my spouse every time I speak with my spouse I give her my undivided attention I keep my awareness on her it drifts away I bring it back it drifts away I bring it back I keep my awareness on her I give her my undivided attention now every day I also speak to my clients I speak with my clients I speak with my friends family every time I speak with somebody I give them my undivided attention if I'm on the phone I give the person on the phone my undivided attention I practice doing one thing at a time by the end of the day I've talked about maybe six to eight hours of practicing concentration six months later I've become really good at concentration twelve months later I become really good at concentration the best way to become good at something is to take a tool and insert it into a reoccurring event in your life and this is the best way to become good at something rather than to create another practice in your life just take a tool and insert it into the practice into a reoccurring event in your life so your homework is to give someone or whatever you're doing your undivided attention pick one person in your life for the next one month that you will give your undivided attention to every time you speak with that person stay completely focused on them keep your awareness on them the rest of the day you can go ahead and be a squirrel but on just whenever you're speaking with that person give that person your undivided attention and you need to practice and build in incremental steps the other thing we need to learn to develop is how willpower right everybody is born with bare various levels of willpower but one thing we never get taught to do is to actually develop willpower and willpower is like a muscle I call it a mental biceps if I could draw biceps around my mind there would be my willpower the three ways to develop willpower one finish what you begin to finish it well beyond your expectations three do a little bit more than you think you're able to do all of these three ways require effort and that effort is willpower right so how do I develop willpower I take these three methods and I apply it to things that reoccur in my life what's something that reoccurs in my life every day every day I sleep what a great opportunity to about willpower before I go to sleep I floss I brush my teeth put on my pajamas I go to sleep when I wake up in the morning I finish the process of sleep how do I finish the process of sleep I make the bed every day so every day I wake up in the morning I make the bed what's something else said you every day every day I have breakfast if I have time to make breakfast I have time to eat breakfast then I have time to do the breakfast dish and put it away right so I finished the process that I begin and I bring this into everything that I do then throughout the day I develop willpower the more I practices the better I get now I have tremendous amount of willpower after six months I've developed a lot of willpower every time my awareness drips away I use that mental muscle that willpower to bring my awareness back then I use the powers of concentration that I've developed to hold my awareness and what I'm focused on and because I'm focusing on that where my awareness goes energy flows in my oh now my energy is flowing towards what I want that starts to manifest in my life that's why it's so important firstly to understand there's a separation between awareness and the mind two completely different things you control way awareness goes you control where your energy is flowing and you control what's manifesting in your life and you use your powers of concentration your willpower to hold your awareness on the priorities in your life the next thing we want to do is to learn to manage energy in our life right this is based on the premise that we only have so much energy each day we have a finite amount of energy each day each day we have this much energy we take our energy and we invest it into people and things around us we keep investing investing investing so we have no more energy left we get exhausted that's usually around 11:00 or 11:30 or midnight we go to sleep our energy builds up again we go out the next day and we invest our energy into people and things so we have no more energy but but the one thing most people don't do is we never evaluate who and what we're investing i energy in so I always tell people to treat energy the same way you treat money it's a finite resource that needs to be wisely managed wisely reallocated and wisely invested no matter how rich you are you only have so much money right and before you spend money most of us think and evaluate what we're investing our money in if somebody asks us for five thousand dollars or thirty thousand dollars to invest into a start-up or a company we would ask questions we just wouldn't hand them thirty thousand dollars we would ask what's your plan with it what are you going to do with this money what's my return on my investment because it's a finite resource so why don't we do the same thing with energy before we invest energy into someone or something why don't we evaluate if that person or that thing is deserving of energy because if you only have this much energy in fact ten percent on my energy and I gave it to John that's ten percent I could have given to my spouse my business the things and people that I love remember the law of thermodynamics energy cannot be created or destroyed but it can be transferred or transformed from one thing to another right so I can't create energy if I give 10% to John I want to know he's going to do something good with it because he this is going to squander it I'd rather take it and give it to the people and things that I love so why is it important to manage energy for me the greatest impetus for managing energy is is death that is the greatest impetus for me to manage energy I realized that life is finite that I only have one life as me and regardless of my beliefs I know I have one existence and has done the paani and what happens after death I'm not quite sure we all have different upbringing different religious beliefs some people say when you die you go to heaven or hell some people say when you die it's game over that's it nothing happens afterwards some people say when you die you get reincarnated as a man or woman another say you get reincarnated as a man woman may be an insect of an animal but no one really knows we have our beliefs and we hold strongly to them but no one's ever died going to have and taking the selfie comeback posted it on Instagram and say look at me here and having hashtag pearly gates right so we don't quite know but the one definitive thing is that we know we're going to die and I know I have a finite amount of life I don't believe life is shot by I do believe it's finite and because I my life is finite I want to be extremely clear where to focus my energy there's no point learning to concentrate if you don't know what to concentrate on so along with learning concentration it's really important to also learn what to focus on so what I would recommend as a homework is to be clear what your purpose in life is one way to do this is to spend five minutes each morning reflecting on what your purpose of life is get to know yourself most people are happy to spend time with other people and things but very few people actually make time to spend time with themselves so when you wake up in the morning take a shower go to a quiet place in the house sit down and ask yourself questions about you what do you want in life what's my purpose in life why am I here what do I love what am i passionate about how many people can genuinely answer this is my say this is my purpose in life very very few people once you clear with your purpose you know what to concentrate on and you know what to direct your finite amount of energy to it right so the next thing we want to look at is energy consumers right people and things are two of the biggest consumers of energy and people and things also give you a lot of energy since the subject is vast and time is short let's focus on the people that consume energy and how we can deal with them I call these people energy vampires all right that's what a vampire that's right bytes in and I can suck the life out of you and some people consume tremendous amount of energy essentially speaking there are three types of people and let's keep this simple monk simple they are uplifting people they are neutral people and they are not uplifting people okay let's define what this is okay well they are an uplifting person I spend five minutes with an uplifting person I walk away I feel great and go like wow that was an amazing conversation a neutral person I spend five minutes with them I walk away I'm still the same a non uplifting person I spent five minutes with them I walk away and I go like oh my god that was exhausting right and you probably experienced that in your life so then the next question is to ask is are they an energy vampire the two ways to figure this out one is I can judge I can evaluate right what's judging and evaluating judging is this I'm at a party in New York City in a penthouse the two hundred people in the room the door opens this guy walks and he's got white shoes a purple suit he's got a cane and the top hat he's wearing a chain with a big clock hanging off his chest I look across the room and I go he must be a pimp or drug dealer that's judging right I didn't get to know him I just judged he was a pimp or drug dealer evaluation is this I spent 50 occasions with Jon over a period of two years 49 of those I walk away from and I go like oh my god that was exhausting it's safe for me to evaluate that jon is energy vampire okay then there are two types of energy vampire the next question is are they a transient energy vampire inherently an energy vampire right what's a transient energy vampire just say John is going through a hard time in life because his dad is dying of cancer for example and for three years consumes a lot of energy you know he's always down you need to uplift him he's feeling very sad it's okay you give him that energy because he's your friend and that's what we do we express compassion empathy and love and we support our friends during difficult times what someone who's inherently an energy vampire someone who's inherently energy vampires are always been this way for decades theses haven't changed they're just not an uplifting human being at all so how do we deal with someone who's inherently an energy vampire so before I go there quick question for all of you how many of you in this room feel like you have someone who's inherently an energy vampire in your life that's a lot of people in this room right so how do we deal with someone who's inherently in energy vampire right my guru taught me the best way to do this is to practice the art of being affectionately detached but always kind gentle sincere and loving towards them what does this mean so to say John is inherently an energy vampire I live in New York City I'm walking down Fifth Avenue I see John walking towards me what do I do do i cross the street that's not very nice I meet John John meets me what do you say when two people meet each other I know what you guys say in Australia g'day how's it going Mike right do I say that no do you know why I don't us how are you because I don't want to know it's true you have to understand I'm in the Munk business when I ask somebody how are you they tell me the entire life story it's a confession time so I don't even ask how are you John asked me how are you I say I'm doing very well thank you very much and then I reply what a beautiful day in Sydney right it's true I'm being sincere I'm being kind and then I say to him please excuse me I have something really important to do it's true my life is finite and I'm very clear what my purpose is right I'm not I'm not lying and then what do people say at the end of a conversation it was a pleasure meeting you actually it wasn't let's do lunch why see you later not really don't want to why do we say the things we don't mean and ask the questions we don't want answers to so at the end of a conversation I say have a wonderful day which is true I know he's inherently an energy vampire but I do wish he has a wonderful day so the concept of being affectionately detached is to not engage with someone right is to be kind to be gentle to be sincere and loving towards them but not engaging with them what's another way to protect yourself from an energy vampire is to place the burden of responsibility on them what does that mean I'll give you an example I have a client of mine who's a expert in social media right so a lot of people want to get together with him have a cup of coffee a glass of wine let's catch up for lunch let's do dinner why because they want to pick his brain right and get information from him and he can't sustained us because everybody wants a a little bit of his time and it's just can't live this way so I told him this is what you need to do you need to you need to tell this person who wants to meet with you to read your favorite marketing book read your favorite marketing book write down seven key points and email it to you once you receive the seven key points from the book tell them that you know you want to see what sends out to them in the book once you receive these seven key points you email them and say let's meet up on this day for a couple hours and we can discuss a marketing strategy for you strategy for you you know how many people actually read the book and email him the seven key points nobody as soon as you place the burden or responsibility on someone they don't do it I travel all around the world I speak people come up to me and want to ask questions I always give them my personal email address I tell them please don't share it with anybody can you put your question down on this email and send it to me one will give me time to reflect on it and I can give you a proper response and they always say for sure I'll put it all down an email I'll send it to you you know only people email me nobody emails me simple little tasks right I'm not asking them to do yoga to meditate to breathe out of one nostril just send me an email with your problems and they don't do it so place the burden a responsibility on someone if you somebody who's developed a particular skill you're an expert in a particular niche in a particular area and you find that people want your time they want your energy the one simple way to protect yourself is to place a bit and responsibility on them give them a simple task to do and see if they do it and if they fulfilled that task and come back to you then go out of your way to help them okay another thing I want to talk about so your spiritual practice is to every year evaluate the people in your life right so go through a process evaluation and reallocate your energy between people who uplift you and people that don't about uplift you and this is something that I do all the time right another thing I want to talk about and wrap up with is mental energy vampires what's a mental energy vampire mental energy vampire is a unresolved emotional experiences that are sitting in our subconscious right most people how much subconscious mind looks like this Indian flower markets just packed with stuff because people don't resolve stuff as they go through life right everything that is one pass through wants passed through your conscious mind in the form of experience is resident in your subconscious mind and all these experiences have emotion attached to them all right one simple way to deal with unresolved emotional experiences to do this exercise called the baton AHA Tantra that's a Sanskrit name for it and what it really is is to take a piece of paper and write down the problem on it every experience has emotion attached to it and I want to share with you a quote from Tesla which I think really income encapsulate s' the philosophy that I believe in though that I was trained in in the monastry Tesla says if you want to find the secrets of universe think in terms of energy frequency and vibration everything is made up of energy and it's vibrating in a certain frequency so if I have an experience it has emotion attached to it it's vibrating in my subconscious mind my goal is I can't do anything about the experience because it's already happened but what I can do to help myself is to remove the emotion that's attached to experience so I take a piece of paper I write down the problem s I write down the problem something really interesting happens the experience moves from my subconscious mind to my conscious mind because I'm reliving it the interesting thing that happens is the energy the emotion actually comes out of the experience flows through my hands into the piece of paper now I crumbled a piece of paper and I burn it in a fire it could be a garbage can a fireplace it doesn't really matter does the fire destroy the emotion no because you can't destroy energy but what it actually does is transform the emotion in the paper into heat flame ash smoke and a whole bunch of different things I remember the first time I ever shared this exercise was with a group of entrepreneurs in Perth actually about five years ago and one of them said to me look down the ponty I realized that experiences have emotion attached to them and I realized as well when you relive it or you're writing about it it goes from your subconscious mind to your conscious mind but this whole concept that emotion comes out of the experience flows through your hands into the piece of paper it's find it really hard to believe I can't find it that's a little bit too spiritual is it fair enough so I asked them do you have kids he says yeah I have a couple of kids now for you and six-year-old I said on Father's Day on your birthday do they ever make you cards they said they do that all time can you describe the card well they say usually go to the back of the house they find an old piece of cardboard they draw on it they stick a bunch of things on it stars and and a bunch of ribbons and then on on Flast day on my birthday they hand me the car I said how does it look the gun wall doesn't look that great made by a foil but I said to you let me ask you this way if you saw it in the store would you pay money for it and they got like no no way but do you keep it he says he I keep every single one and asked him why said well it's so full of love so wait a minute do you know you're telling me you're your kids no monk magic because two minutes ago I told you about putting emotion and piece of paper and you looked at me like I was a crazy person and now your four-year-old son knows how to do this right because he's taking a piece of paper put his emotion in it a piece of paper that you don't want a cardboard that you didn't want put his emotion in it and now he's giving it to you and you hold it so you can actually transfer energy from you emotion from inside of you into another matter how many of you have kids and have one of those not so attractive drawings at home do you keep them why you never be able to sell it to anybody nobody want to buy it right you keep it because it's so full of love it's full of emotion right so you can move emotion out of you so the exercise here is really if you ever find that you have unresolved emotional experiences sitting in your subconscious consuming tremendous amount of energy take a piece of paper write it down and then burn it in an ordinary fire how many times you should you write well depending on the emotion if it's an intense experience you might have to write about it three or four times if it's not so intense maybe once or twice so just to wrap up over here to know yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself it truly is right most people don't really understand themselves they don't understand what they want in life and therefore find it extremely difficult what to focus the finite amount of energy on I want to leave you with two quotes one from my group the first one is proceed with confidence right proceed with confidence believe in your ability to manifest something in your life because you can how do you manifest something in your life you take your awareness you focus it on that thing you know how to develop concentration now you keep your awareness on it when you awareness is on it that's where your energy is flowing when your energy flows that it starts to manifest in your life and believe in your ability to do that and proceed with conference confidence the next thing is life is meant to be lived joyously it truly is and if you're not happy with life then something needs to be changed if you ask most people what do they want in life they'll always say most people often answer I want to be happy happiness should never be pursued don't pursue happiness pursue a lifestyle that results in happiness and that's for me what I do I never chase happiness I pursued a lifestyle where the byproduct or the lifestyle is happiness in order to find out what their lifestyle is I need to know what my purpose in life is in order to do that I need to spend time with myself each day to find out who and what's important in my life take that finite amount of energy that I have each day focus it into those things that starts to manifest in my life the byproduct of that is happiness all right so I want to say thank you and I want to leave you with a small gift if you go to this website address you'll find a five-week online course on understanding the mind and also on how to develop concentration and willpower you're welcome to sign up for it you just need your name and email address and you'll receive that every week on email thank you very much everyone I hope you enjoyed it you

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Published: Tue Nov 15 2016

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[u/ocherthulu]

Wonderful video. I needed something like that this week.

(Notice how he put the burden on you at the end? Who is going to sign up??)