Chris And Mike Thurston Reveal Why They Stopped Drinking Alcohol

something else that's changed with you recently which I've been very very enjoying watching happen I'm wearing more clothes on my Instagram pictures that's been nice for me personally as well yes don't lie but your relationship with alcohol Oh yeah talk to me about your relationship with alcohol and how it's changed yeah so I um I pretty much barely drink anymore um I used to be I guess that's because of the whole British culture I actually drink numerous times per week particularly when I was growing up University then even throughout my 20s I was very much into my fitness but at the same time there was always at least one extremely heavy Blowout at the weekend and then um it just carried on like even I think when I was when I was the just before no 29 at the first experiment where I went sober for six months and that taught me a lot because I was put in situations where I would normally drink and because I was doing this challenge I wasn't allowed to drink and I think that was the first time that I was in situations where uh usually I would be drunk and like in a relaxed State whatever it might be but this time like I was sober I was doing something which I would never do and I actually realized it wasn't that hard to do and actually quite liked it and I think I just life is this short and I can't afford to have days wasting away feeling sorry for myself being aggressively hungover which at the age I'm at now it was a pretty aggressive yeah yeah yeah yeah but what what I'll do now is I will I will still drink but it usually tends to be when I have done achieved something or I've got the job done and I can celebrate it's like okay you've achieved this let's go out let's celebrate have a drink if you want to have a drink once that's over then it's back to the Grind again what else have you learned from your time going sober obviously the reason for doing it is that you don't want to waste your days so much but what else have you learned I actually really enjoy my reality being sober um I actually don't really like the feeling of being drunk anymore I think now I'm at a point where I feel like I'm very much in control I like that I really like the person who I am now when I'm sober I can I'm extremely a lot more confident now I can have conversations with anyone I can charm people I can you know have a laugh I can have a dance I can do it whatever I need to do but I can do it sober and there's actually no real need for me to drink and when I do drink I realize actually I start to get a little bit sloppy with my words I say things which I wouldn't normally say might potentially regret and then there's parts of the night all conversation which I won't remember and then I wake up feeling like absolute trash spend a lot of money as well out here on alcohol which is usually just not wise so it's uh when I compare the positives to the negatives there's actually very few positives yeah so this I mean you know this is something I don't know I'm thinking now like what so why did I dream that's the question I had on the tip of my tongue like you've you've laid out this balance sheet of positives and negatives why did either of us and this is both of our upbringings right you know our formative years in Newcastle and then both of us stuck about once we finished our degrees going out drinking trabs you know you can get absolutely annihilated for like 10 pounds correct yeah so again for the people that don't know when we were at Uni could have got three travel vodka mixers for a fiver and you would usually get a free Jager bomb with each of them so that's nine shots of vodka plus three shots of Jaeger for a fiver and the way that it would work is you couldn't carry all of them back you would have to pour all of the Jaegers in together drink that drink one of the trebs and then carry two back um so what I'm thinking is why is it that we ever saw it as something that not only we would do we would willingly do we would repeatedly do two nights a week throughout all of uni why I think from thinking back when I was at University I actually don't re now that I recall I don't know anybody that didn't drink I feel like every single person drank yup and if there was anyone that didn't drink they were just they will wait you wouldn't hang out with them but they weren't a part of the social group yeah they weren't part of the Social Circle um I definitely remember drinking a lot just feel more comfortable to reduce the anxiety me too um yeah because especially when you're having you're in uh a club the music's really loud there's lights everywhere there's people everywhere talking it's really overwhelming so the alcohol would numb that and then you would feel more comfortable just to interject that think about the modern world but this 2023 version of the world someone would say that if that was a challenge that you were coming up against that that's because you're like a blue pill beater simp guy who hasn't worked on his masculine Essence and stuff and I think that just to bring it back to what we spoke about earlier on about like why young guys struggling specifically now this expectation again that you should have your together you go really I didn't yeah I didn't I absolutely drank so I had confidence to speak to girls I remember I used to have this I had this uh like pink polo shirt and pair of jeans and one night I pulled because like and I was adamant that it was because of this particular outfit I'm like oh that's like that's the one and I was so drunk that I could barely remember what had happened during the night and you think what like what how that's that's compensating for the fact that it's just a really highly stimulating pretty anxiety-inducing environment I think it it would probably make more sense just to not go out but that was that was like the biggest part of university was going up particularly Newcastle correct and that was like the reason why I choose I chose is that correct yeah so yeah I don't know I guess at that age you really don't have much responsibility like I think back to University I mean I just he obviously needs to get the bare minimum done you have to do a bit of studying you didn't have a job you're just living off the student loan you just haven't because you laugh yeah you might so if you did wake up hungover then so I wasn't didn't really spend the spend the day watching the Rugby World Cup or whatever was going on the Six Nations or some other thing on movies in the in the common room and then get back to it yeah I am so I again I get that but I think the number of people that drink the number of young people that are choosing to go low and no alcohol Lifestyles massively increasing yeah I'd love to say that this is Downstream from a trend that I kicked off but I think it's bigger than that and I do I I can't work out what's going on there I wonder whether I think it's more it's just accepted now I think it was really not acceptable back in the day unacceptable to not drink yeah unacceptable whereas now it's like okay yeah fair enough maybe that I think there's a lot more informative content out there which is showing just how bad alcohol is like humans than the his video about alcohol listen to that and you're like I wanna drink again yeah it's terrible yeah it's really really I think more people are waking up to the negative side effects of drinking alcohol um but it's still there's still a lot of people drinking I still have a lot of friends who are drinking yeah but I just don't give a if I'm gonna offend their feelings I wonder whether part of it comes to choosing first off choosing the kind of events that you go to and then secondly that that growing in confidence because you're right if you're in a banging loud student nightclub with 1500 sweaty freshers and The Killers Mr Brightside playing at ear bleeding levels which is like beards spill on your face correct you're that's not the place for you to what advantage do you have in being able to have a better conversation that you almost need to drink to be able to cope with the environment that you're in to be able to make it good and this is the thing that I've been saying for like seven years like if you need to drink in order to be able to enjoy your night out you're choosing the wrong nights out like what you're saying is that the experience that you're going on is so bad that you have to anesthetize yourself you have to numb yourself to the experience yo what I was like saying I'm going to go and do this push I'm going to go stick needles through the skin on the back of my hand but I'll take some painkillers it doesn't hurt so much yeah hang on a second as you grow up you start to do different sorts of events you'll go for dinner more you'll go to quieter venues you'll go to somewhere where there's live music where you can have a conversation and that is that sort of enjoyment is facilitated more by being sober uh so I wonder whether it's a byproduct of kind of events that young people typically attend I wonder whether Darren my business partner is still doing all the voodoo in the UK I wonder whether he needs to I know do coffee and cocktail hour at five o'clock in the afternoon or something I don't know I think that's as well when you're in an environment where everybody else is drunk like that is that's full on when you're sober and you're just looking at people yeah oh that's it's heavy like I'd I feel like if I'm in an environment where everybody's drunk I almost need to be drunk just to deal with it tolerate it correct yeah what's happening people if you enjoyed that then press here for the full unedited episode and don't forget to subscribe peace [Music]

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Length: 10min 26sec (626 seconds)

Published: Wed Mar 29 2023