Choosing a Righteous Wife || Ustadh Abdulrahman Hassan || AMAU Academy

I mean foreign my beloved brothers and sisters in this second episode I want to go into the first thing that you need if you want to have a happy household in our plan in our previous episode in our last episode I mentioned that the house is a place where you find tranquility that's what Allah he says Allah [Music] made your households a place of tranquility and a place where you find comfort and happiness now brothers and sisters pay attention to this the same way that the household can be happiness so does Allah mention the same thing about a wife Allah says um Allah mentions in this verse subhanallah that he created from Adam Hawa I mean ayati from the signs of Allah is that Allah created from Adam Hawa why did he do that Allah tells us so that you find Tranquility with your wife Allah has also made Allah has placed between you and your wife means compassion so very important brothers and sisters that we understand this that having a household that is foreign and also a wife who also possesses those qualities it's a must that's why Allah says Mary from amongst yourselves those women who are what is righteous women so the first thing that you need to do that if you want to have a happy house you have to look for a righteous wife choosing a righteous wife that's why Allah commands us here marry a righteous wife this also applies with this to this to the brothers early to the sisters when you're marrying a brother don't marry a brother because he's got money or he looks a certain way or or the brother spends time in the gym or he's Famous online marry him because of his religion a person that when you talk to them you remind them of Allah you say to them Allah that they know that word has weight has weight it's not something light in their eyes they know there is a day where they will stand in front of Allah and they will be accounted for what they said and they done and Etc so that's type of person that you want to be with um he told us a woman is married for wonderful reasons this is the this is what everybody does everyone you see in this world is marrying a woman for one of these four reasons the first one is limalija he's marrying him because she's a very very wealthy woman she's got money so he wants those he wants that money from her or he's marrying her because he wants to use that money with her he marries her because of her lineage she's from a certain tribe she's from a certain uh ethnic background so that's what he's looking for he's like this woman's lineage and the people she's from that's what I'm looking for the third one is her beauty he sees her and the way she looks and he's taken back by her beauty so her beauty and the way that she looks and the way that she appears is is what it's his priority so this attracts him and this is what he goes or runs after and the fourth one is religion well he didn't have her religion so the first the fourth group or the fourth person is the one who goes for religion the prophet then reminded us the importance of going for the Lost he said he did run and hasten to marry the woman who has religion may your hands be dusted go for the woman who has religion in other words brothers and sisters make it your first priority the first option the first choice is religion once that is met then look for everything everything after say is she beautiful because she have lineage and Etc lucky if there's no deal saying I'm going to change her I'm going to work on her I mean I wouldn't advise you in any way shape or form to do that and brother where Brothers some people have misunderstood this word uh well he really had her religion religion here doesn't mean she's knowledgeable she's a student of knowledge and she's gaining Islamic knowledge and she's into it doesn't necessarily mean that no not at all if that is the case alhamdulillah does additional to a woman who has religion you might find a sister that doesn't have much Deen but she grew up in a very good household her family nurtured her cultivated her cultivated her beautifully very well disciplined she's been taught about the rights of her husband and the things that she needs to do she's been raised to understand the things that Allah wants from her she knows how the things that are obligator on her to do to things that she she needs to stay away from them she's a very shy girl she is she stays away from interacting with the opposite gender she stays away with from yeah any uh free mixing she's a woman who's Pure Clean from all of that that woman is the Hadith what he's referring to if she has all of that which I mentioned and on top of that she's got Islamic knowledge then my beloved brothers and sisters this is a blessing upon a blessing and the the one of the fundamental things that a woman's religion is is shyness she's very shy from her religion brothers and sisters what she believes from the fundamental things This Woman's Aki that is she believes her belief her faith is correct she doesn't believe any evil you can find sometimes brothers who complain that their wives are putting on Towers she's putting in Arabic on the hand of the child okay so that she can protect him from evil eye or she puts that you know that that I okay on the child's neck this is going to harm your family it's gonna harm your wife it's gonna harm your children so you married woman is right from the Eva arcades that women can sometimes have is feminist liberal a mindset that's the evil where she believes this feminist mindset this goes against marrying a woman of religion from foreign at its current stage at the current Wave It's on is it's a belief system that opposes the fundamental concepts of Islam a woman cannot be a feminist and also be a Muslim at the same time no way can she be it so if you're marry a sister you want to marry her you want to make her your partner you want to make this person someone you want to spend the rest of your life with it should not be a person who opposes the fundamental matters of the deed how is Allah going to bless this marriage how is Allah going to bless you bless your progeny and your Offspring and your wife believes in this about ill so select your wife correctly Brothers some men they let their wives believe these things or they marry a sister who has these beliefs and he says inshallah I'm going to work on it you know there are sisters out there that don't need you to work on them that their family have already done that for you that their parents have already educated her and taught her the responsibilities and the wedge you back upon her and how she has to get to Jannah is to please her husband every righteous father a renewable father raises his daughter to teach her the responsibility of being a good wife that's one of the rights that a daughter has on a father that he teaches his daughter that inshallah when you grow up my daughter be a woman who pleases and makes her husband happy he is either your gender or your not I said that is our religion the second um Hadith I wanted to share is that the prophet said to us I'm still on the first point choosing a righteous spouse I haven't left that point but I mentioned first Hadith I mentioned was a woman is married for one of four reasons we mentioned that now we're going to mention the second Hadith the prophet told us Brothers pay attention to this this Dunya that we're in is a joy it's Mata it's it's fun it's a place to enjoy yourself the prophet told us and the greatest joy of this Dunya is what what is the best thing to enjoy in this Dunya a righteous spouse a righteous wife pay attention to that it didn't just say a wife and that's where many of us stop our full stop is there a wife you need a righteous wife a noble righteous wife they under brothers and sisters a righteous wife will bring you happiness she will bring your children happiness you'll be a household happiness also the prophet Allah he said the prophet said narrated in his Muslim the prophet he said that one of you should have a heart that shows gratitude foreign and a tongue that remembers Allah a lot a wife a wife that helps you in the Affairs of the hereafter Allahu Akbar this wife that you're married to she's gonna help you in your affairs this woman here what's he doing she's getting you closer to Allah she tells you go seek knowledge go learn the Deen of Allah have you read this have you read this Quran today honey have you have you done this go give dawa she supports every higher that you want to do get closer to Allah is that because her aim and objective is to be with you in Jannah and so if you become better that means that your wife will be with you in Jannah she wants to be with you that's what she wants her observation is and this Hadith I thought about it for a long time in my life where the Hadith says it shows that this wife is not thinking much about the Dunya hence why she is saying or why she's helping her husband in the Affairs of the Hereafter she's a woman whose heart is connected to the she's a woman who's thinking on what's on the other side so this is a definition according to the Hadith of what is a woman who is what Allah oh save of a lot she helps you she helps you in the Hereafter Affairs so it's not just a woman who is good within herself she's not just a righteous woman who's higher and she's doing good things no she's also helping you to come with good deeds that will help you in the hereafter and that's also an uh is also the definition of what the woman you married let her be a woman of religion it means a woman who will help you in the Affairs of the Hereafter that's what it means if we put the Hadith parallel to each other it explains it here so the second Hadith mentioned the third Hadith I mentioned is what the mother of and the woman of religion is a woman who is what was a woman who will help you in the Affairs of the Hereafter I also thought about the Hadith even more and guess what I realized if you look at the first portion of the Hadith it mentions that she helps her husband in this which is to show a heart that is filled with gratitude and she helps her husband to have a tongue that remembers Allah a lot so Ponder here again I thought about the Hadith even more the beginning of the honey says so the wife is showing her husband okay how to have a heart that shows gratitude and why is the reason why many of the women end up in the Hellfire what is the reason the prophet told us that a lot of women are going to go to the Hell Fire is because they lack this quality of gratitude they lack this what quality of gratitude she lacks it or this woman lacks it so then that's why a lot of women end up going to the whole fight because of it the prophet told us Allah that the man will do so many years he will be doing for his wife so many things and then she would come and she would say you haven't done anything for me when she's upset with him she would dismiss all the good that he's done and all of the credit he's been doing for her is as though it never happened they would turn a blind eye to it and the prophet then said that's why so this Hadith if the woman is aiding her husband to show gratitude to Allah that means she's coming with it she's a woman who has the quality of a shukur she's very grateful for what her husband is doing for her and she's also grateful for the blessings Allah has bestowed upon Him upon her and also what is also important because the majority of uh punishment the prophet told us that the people are going to face the day of judgment is the tongue as the prophet told us the tongue is the biggest organ why many of the people end up in the Hellfire guess who our brothers and sisters who are the people who talk the most who say the most who gossip the most we all know the majority of it is attributed to women even though the men are not less anymore and are on a high level now it was known to be that trait of women so if this wife is telling her husband to remember Allah a lot and when a person comes with Victor one of the benefits that it has is that the thicker preoccupies you this is you from Gossip and backbiting if you're doing bigger you know back about nor do you gossip because you're busy with doing something else so his wife is not only she doing liquor but she's also bringing him in to do liquor with her Allah this is what a man needs in his wife a woman that's going to help you in that that is the first thing brothers and sisters if you want to have a happy household you need to look for this also another relayer the prophet sallallahu he said yeah the prophet said Allah expand more on the reward of Muhammad by hakley's wedding expands on it even more what type of wife you need to look for by the way this is the importance of bringing the narrations together my beloved brothers and sisters so you're understanding in more details what the prophet is saying the prophet said again this shows you that the prophet was concerned with the the household of a Muslim and a home he says a heart and upon you is to have a heart that shows gratitude to Allah a lot and also the creation that remembers Allah a lot and upon you is to get married a wife a righteous wife she's not gonna only help you in your world Hereafter Affairs she's also going to help you with in your worldly affairs this Hadith shows us that a wife who's righteous is the wife who says to her husband your food your clothing your children all of these other Dunya leave it to me sleep I've got this for you I will cook I will clean I will be at your service she's going to help you in your wealthy Affairs in your religion again pay attention to this if a wife takes the responsibility of the Dunya from you and you now are focused on the and she also helps you in your the prophet said it is it is the best treasure to ever have there is no one better than you out there brothers and sisters there's no one better than your brothers if you have a wife like this who makes you her mission who makes it her goal to fulfill her husband's worldly Affairs and the Hereafter is a professor what is that man going to be towards you sister that husband that you stood up for his worldly Affairs and he's Hereafter affairs this husband that you've taken care of is Dunya and his deal what is it going to be for you if it's a smart man he is going to be the best towards you he's gonna care for you he's gonna honor you it's going to protect you he's gonna shower love and mercy I can there are some dim-witting in men who when all of this is done for them the problem is with them not with the sister my beloved brothers and sisters something else I want to add on to before I end the episode which is the prophet Allah and he mentioned the woman that you should marry the woman who is a righteous woman or a woman of religion we expanded on it it means a woman that helps you in your Hereafter Affairs it also helps you in your wealthy affairs but there's also other qualities that makes this woman a religious woman is that this woman she has this quality which is the prophet he said marry a woman who has two qualities the false Other Women of religion she is and she is is a woman who makes it her mission to make her husband love her she'll she wants to grab her husband's attention she's not like I don't care about you do whatever you want not at all she makes it a vital important part of her marriage that she makes her husband love her that she's the attention of her husband she puts it she she places herself at the Yani focus of her husband in the way that she talks to him the way that she treats him the way she respects him the way she looks up to him so that's what she does and the second is she wants to have so much children for him she's never saying let's stop unless his medical issues she's like let's have more kids when a woman wants to have children for a man it's a sign that she loves this man she wants to increase his children she believes that inshallah he will take care of her children she believes uh that inshallah and good is going to come from this so that's what it means but today is subhanallah it's not the case sisters are told to look down at this quality how am I going to make it my life mission the woman sister says how am I gonna make it my goal to make a man happy no I don't want to do that hear the prophet Allah that's why I say brothers and sisters this feminist concept has encrypted into so many people who don't even think or know that they've actually adopted these Concepts they may not attribute themselves to feminists they might not even like it they might disagree with it but a lot of them have these thoughts have steeped into their heads and Minds she'll say why would I make my why would I spend my time wanting to make a man love me I don't care he loves me loves me if he doesn't keep it moving and then this false concept of self-love is then that's then me taken to an extreme concept and that's another series that needs to be talking to spoken about self-love here is a it's a love for the muhim a term that is what does it mean self-love it's taken to a level of worshiping yourself giving yourself freedom of doing whatever you want no boundaries no limits brothers and sisters there is nothing there is nothing better than staying within the boundaries Allah our minds our hearts our souls our body everything would enjoy it also brothers and sisters the prophet Allah he did say and this is not always the case but it's the majority of the case the prophet he said so the brother's choosing a wife the prophet salallahu said marry the Virgin a woman who's a what who is a virgin foreign the prophet mentioned certain qualities of a woman who's a virgin the first one is the woman who is a virgin she's not experienced anything so she's going to stick with this man she's going to believe uh the uh the marriage here is going to be very successful and prosperous she's also um content with a much less than the woman who is a a widowed or a divorcee the reason is because the experienced woman knows what she doesn't want her what she does want okay she does and it makes it very very complicated to turn things around a lot of the time she might say I don't want this because I've had bad experience I don't want to do this but the bad experience is not me it's somebody else that came before me okay so it's very rare or very little would it say rare but very little that you find there are will lie divorces and widows who are as the Hadith mentioned uh content with real little who are a lot of times want to have children a lot sisters who are divorced with children they do not want to have a lot of children they have this trauma where this guy's going to leave me I can't do it again I try I did it by myself Etc also when a woman is a virgin and she's never had a child of course the chances of her having uh children is higher than the divorce he was being divorced and widowed who's just being disconnected from having a children for a long long time so the statistics have shown that as well so brothers and sisters four sisters and also Four Brothers marrying especially the Brothers Marine somebody who's you're both gonna experience it together the Hadith even mentioned that the beauty of the Virgin was Hadith mentioned that one of the reasons why the Virgin is better is that they are less deceptive that's what Hadith says means what they're less interception brothers and sisters the prophet told us they're in this world there's full happiness and the wife is one of those for happiness to have a righteous wife and having a bad wife is from one of the four distresses as it's coming authentic Hadith of the Prophet Allah he said that he from the happiness is what a woman which type of woman you'll see her and she will Fascinate You when you see her you're fascinated with her she addresses up she dresses herself adorns herself for you when she talks to you and she Converses with you and her brain the way she thinks her conversations the level of yeah and immaturity that she's at you will be taken back by her when you leave her you you trust her with your children you trust her you trust you trust her with herself she's not like the West today is pushing the woman's cheating at the workplace and she's cheating at home and she's cheating here and she's cheating now subhanallah are also doing the same so here she you trust her in all of that you also trust her with your wealth so it's from the happiness to have a wife like that now when you're with her you're you're loving her when you're leaving her and your left Turner you know she's up to so much good that she's gonna be she's gonna grow and she's gonna work on your children for you and she's going to work on your household for you the prophet all the also said well I mean from the uh any problems and harm that a person can endure is you see how and it hurts you when you see her look what the Hadith then says she's a woman whose tongue is open so she talks to you it's filthy things that vulgar speech and disrespect and argumentations you don't see maturity from a very childish the conversation the way she takes it and the way she talks and she's raising her voice the neighbors can hear it the other people in the house she doesn't care she even gets violent and she pushes and shoves and throws and hits you all it is when you leave her and you turn away from Hannah let me tell me you can't trust her she gonna be faithful to me is she gonna be reliable is she gonna cheat and your wealth you cannot trust her with your wealth and all can you trust you with your family so brothers and sisters this is the type of wife brothers that you need to look for brothers are looking for women who don't have any of that he sees on social media she's screaming she's allowing laughing she's all of that she sees her on Tick Tock and Instagram and this and that and he's he's already crying after her he wants to get married to her there's two things you need to look at this is a summary of this if it comes to you a person you meet a woman foreign a person who has religion and a person who has mannerism and this also applies to sisters you marry a brother with religion everything I've said to about the sisters I also say same thing about the brothers you marry a man who has religion a man who has you're not marrying a man when he gets angry he punches you in the face and makes you bleed and breaks your bones and throws your stuff out of the window or packs your bags for you and says leave the house you and your children at 12 9 to 1 o'clock two o'clock at night time foreign so this is something important that we look at when we want a happy household it's alhamdulillah this was the second episode I'm gonna stop there inshallah anything I've said that was wrong or incorrect is for me his messenger are both free from it subhanallah

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Length: 34min 0sec (2040 seconds)

Published: Sun Jan 22 2023