Choose Carefully! Words Have Power | The Tony Robbins Podcast

hello there everyone and welcome to the Tony Robbins podcast welcome Tony Robbins welcome welcome Mary thank you Sage I like to attend my own podcast we always enjoy having you it's such a funny you ladies do such a beautiful job I don't have to even show up it's great to be with you it's great to be with you and with all of you listening in or viewing in thank you for taking the time to visit with us we hope that today we'll touch your heart and provide you with some beautiful tools to enhance the quality of your life yes and we wanted to uh touch upon uh the power of the spoken word and that our words uh whether verbally or uh in the written word uh they carry an energy they carry a currency uh they carry um words create uh and words destroy they do indeed they do indeed or they can bless or they can be harmful and it's it's something that innocently we as human being um don't always put enough attention to possibly yes and so we're just inviting you as we invite ourselves uh into the awareness of the words that we choose because it is a choice it's a choice uh the words we speak uh it's a choice uh you know to choose words that are kind compassionate loving considerate um and sometimes we can fall asleep and we don't realize the that words Emit and that they land somewhere and how are they landing and what is the effect of that uh therefore here we are I love you but I know you do you know we have very different approaches and I love how we all come together me too it's complimentary and it's different and I'm sure that you can find that in your own families for those of you who are listening in um Mary thank thank you for being here of course what are your thoughts on on Words and then I'll kind of give my view of it sure well as you guys were both talking I was just thinking about if anyone is listening and they're like oh the power of spoken word like I I know this I got this this Old Chestnut uh I think that it's Al when I think about it now in terms of where the world is right now in many is in many ways I think this is one of the central issues of of our time like that's what a lot of ways what the arguments are about out there it's like what can you say what can't you say the fact that we're even having the Free Speech discussions in 2021 it's like that all gives Credence to the idea that words are so powerful that there are sides of of people think that maybe there should be censorship should there be intervention whether it's big Tech or big Media or Independent Media and all these all these fractions that are happening right now I really think the root of it has a lot to do with the power of our spoken word and what we're trying to convey and the frequency like like you said that that all carries so I think that it's more relevant than ever and it starts with our own utterances around a dinner table at a coffee shop in in a classroom and then of course it goes broader and at scale and with deeper intensity but what comes out of our mouth is is very important and we should wake up to it I agree I think it's not just the spoken word or the written word I think it's the words you use within yourself as well amen so let me give a context of how I look at it um I look at it as the quality of your life is the quality of your emotions it doesn't matter how many people love you respect you it doesn't matter how many great children or family members you have you're not going to have a a very fulfilled life unless you're feeling emotions each day that enhance your experience of life whether it's love or gratitude or Grace or whatever excitement passion but emotions are created by meanings and all of our meanings are shaped through words primarily yes we can have images and thoughts but the thoughts tend to get into words very quickly and the words we select and many times we don't select them consciously to develop habits you know most of the research shows that almost 58% of what we do in a day is Habitual in fact somewhere I read I don't know how they come up with these statistics like I mentioned it once before but there's like 165,000 individual thoughts a person has in a day the only problem is 95% of the ones you have today were the same ones you had yesterday so your life doesn't change but think about in words meaning words create meaning our experience of life is not life we only experience the part of life we focus on and that we label and when we label when we bring words to an experience it changes our biochemistry so think of it this way I call it transformational vocabulary if you want to know what'll transform your emotion transform your life a different set of words will I know that sounds overly simplistic because what makes meaning happen is what's happening in your body physically but it's also what you focus on and it's the label you give it and so it's imagine like we all have the same experience like a funnel we all had the same visual a aor kinesthetic all these triggers come in but my habit was to have a cookie cutter of pissed off and frustrated angry so that generates the emotion like some people no matter what happens they're angry some people what happens they're fearful they're worried they're overwhelmed and the words we use literally the words you attach to your experience become your experience biochemically so you really want to be conscious of those words and I can tell like for example if I'm really run down physically I'm exhausted I got to push through it my language becomes more colorful quite frankly and um colorful even that's a nice reframe that's right colorful I'm sure my grandmother would call it colorful keep going but honey you're a real master of softeners you know like when it's a real negative experience you use softeners and it softens it I remember my mom got rest her soul she I wouldn't be who I was without her so I totally honor her but she always was humiliated if someone didn't answer the phone she was humiliated if every because anything uncomfortable that's the cookie cutter word she used over and over again and so she really was humiliated she'd say it she'd feel it she'd experience it and so you have to become aware of that it's like simple ones I always tell people you know I'm doing a financial book I'm going to leave in a few minutes because I have to go do the audio recording but I wanted to join you for this because it's such an important topic but I'm doing this new book on the Holy Grail of investing and one of the things I've noticed is the difference between have to and get to you know that's a good one it's like you know I have to do this before I get to do this I mean you know most people can have a lot of money and they're still not free because they still I have to do this right no we get to do this and so just a it sounds so simplistic and stupid and positive thinky but it's not it's biochemical and it's real I'll give you one more quick example and then I'll shut the heck up um you know we all have a good friends of John and Julie gotman they're some of the most amazing relationship experts in the world they can watch anybody have a conversation and a couple and in 15 minutes conversation they have a 94% accuracy of predicting whether they'll be divorced or not 94% in 15 minutes how the hell do they do that well they notice the pattern of language and one of the things they've learned is not only the there are certain words that push people over the edge as well as certain things rolling your eyes things of that nature as well that add to it but they also discovered that if you have in your words with your vocabulary with your communication to your partner if you don't at least have a 5:1 ratio of positive and negative words emotions experiences you will not be able to sustain the relationship now you think about us you know as a family how often in a day do I say I love you or I'm so lucky to have you we all do it with each other constantly we have like a 20 to1 5 to1 is just to maintain a relationship but words have power they change your biochemistry they change your relationships they change the meaning of anything so my hope is that as you spend time with my dear loving family here that they share with you their perspective but I want to plant the seed with you that this is not a minor subject are you a terrorist or a freedom fighter right right now there's tremendous conflicts in the world that's happening in the Middle East and it's a lot of that is which one are you and which one are you can literally make the difference between hate rage love support and so it's not a minor question but most of our words are unconscious they just are habitual and if you have habitual words you're going to have the same experience if you want to upgrade your experience of life if you want a greater quality of life then maybe it's time to look at your TV your transformation vocabulary the words that shape you and become aware of the ones that put you in a great state versus the ones that are negative and some words are like playful they don't they're not even words we have little funny words sometimes we use to kind of make ourselves laugh I just think it's worth doing an inventory and if you do it I think you've got tremendous power there's a great list in the last episode the last episode of the Tony podcast was on Mental Health oh yeah that's right um and we talked about unlimited power Tone's first book Tony's first book and today I while I got you I wanted to talk to you or at least tell our listening audience if you haven't read awaken the giant within in a while there is its own chapter on the on the vocabulary of ultimate success is the title of the chapter but there's this really great list exactly what Tony's talking about here today and it gives you words and then it gives you like the the alternate like rather than saying I'm anxious you could say I'm a little concerned or I'm expectant yes you know um there's there's tons of examples okay great rather than saying I'm disappointed I'm a little underwhelmed you know or or instead I'm overwhelmed on Curious right so there's a this is there's a huge list and even like you said tone I think um there's an exercise in here where you're saying we use we oftentimes we do we go to those same words all the time and if you don't know what they are about your family or your friends could tell you you could ask them like what do I say all the time and you might not even know that's what you're saying all the time and the people you surround yourself will so if you're open to feedback open it up and and ask folks that you're surrounded by kids often know what we're saying more than we do they'll tell us what do you think it's so true and you know we're speaking about the external written word and Tony you mentioned this at the beginning or external uh verbal word words but it's also what we say internally as you mentioned earlier and if you miss something it's like oh I'm such an idiot like why did I do this wrong why am I so stupid it's like I hate it when I do that rather than another uh consideration is all right well that was less helpful let's let's let's choose again because life is always giving us an opportunity to begin again and there's power from that perspective because we're all human we all miss we can all fall asleep in a moment and yet the the internal um language of it represents sometimes that internal War repres can represent the external war and it happens with our words of words about ourselves and so you know uh be mindful of that internal narrative and if you do something that you feel is is maybe you've missed rather than it's like oh I'm so stupid it's like okay you know let's let's begin again here there's an opportunity when you actually connect from that creative space that we learn we're meant to miss we're meant to miss the mark that's how we tunee that's how we evolve that's how we grow and from my own experience if I'm beating myself up or having harsh words about myself I get arrested I get stuck in a state because mind is believing those thoughts and we're attaching to that identity for ourself and so you know having our daughter and watching Love uh live through her yes watching Love uh flow through as our nature animating her I recognize that one of the greatest most powerful gifts I really believe that we can give ourselves never mind our children is the example A lot of people speak about self-love where does that begin it begins actually with our own internal word choices and by the way this doesn't happen it's not like you're going to listen to this and say okay I'm going to speak perfectly there's no such thing it's about catching ourselves be aware we're so aware of what's Happening externally in the war in in the world it's my experience as we start to become aware what what am I even say believing or or what are the words or the thoughts that are coming through that I'm actually believing in this moment that's such a powerful perspective because we can change that we can't always change the external but as we change the internal those narratives that we have about ourselves when we feel more at ease or supporting oursel it I know this sounds so simplistic but therefore we affect the external because there's more to offer you know I watch the innocence of watching our daughter she's two and a half now and you know you you watch the innocence of no stories you know no overlays to an experience it's just the experience when I I got when I just walked into the kitchen when you were in there with our daughter just a little while ago I said hey what are you up to and she said I'm enjoying some blueberries and that I had like as soon as she said it I'm like she got that from you you you that's part of your selft talk but you do like our self talk sometimes bleeds out in into the ethers yes and you use that word enjoying and I was so delighted to hear this little two and a half-year-old go I'm just enjoying some blueberries and in that moment I was so grateful to you that you use the words that you do and that that's what our child will will absorb and and that's often what happens and it's time maybe you take a look at what you've absorbed and where you'd want to go your vocabulary your consistent vocabulary is producing your consistent emotions and your emotions are creating the quality of your life or lack thereof yes and it's when you beat yourself up which I used to do a lot of myself when you're beating yourself up as you beat yourself up more and more and more there's a point in which you can't beat yourself up anymore you can't handle it and so then people externalize it and they often externalize it by being irritated by something outside themselves and they usually pick somebody that's safe to do that with I.E somebody who they actually love and is loved by which you see people sometimes say things to their love of their life or their partner that they wouldn't say to a stranger and it's just because they think it unconsciously it's safe but it's not safe for your partner it's not safe for you because those things stack that's why the Gman thing is so important I think starting with your own internal world it's like there's two worlds you got to master there's the internal world and the external world you can Master the external world all you want but if don't Master the internal world you're going to have a terrible life it wouldn't matter how much success or business or economics or whatever else the heck it is that you do but you know you think about it think of words as the original thoughts and that thoughts create that's really what we're talking about in the Bible in the beginning of the Bible in Genesis it says you know in the beginning was the word and the Word was God you know and you know there was nothing but darkness and God said let there be light and there was light those are those are metaphors for what God has given us I believe what our creator whatever your idea of our creator is has given us the ability to create our life and we create it with words your relationship is the culmination of the volum and the the words that you use if the words you're using over and over in relationship are not supported not inspiring not loving not passion not caring not compassionate we can predict what your relationship's going to be like any relationship is the sum total of the communication that's happened so you got to think of communication it isn't just words obviously because you're nonverbals you're rolling your eyes or your true smile or whatever you're expressing is a huge part of communication it's bigger than words but the words are the origin of the organization of your thoughts which then produce the emotions which that out of emotion comes your actions your actions change if you're pissed off than if you're feeling you know curious or if you're feeling uh delighted or if you're feeling you know excited about something and so I think a taking an inventory of the consistent words you use the emotional words you use not every word and this isn't like you know Saturday Night Live Stuart smly if you're old enough to remember that going to the mirror and going I'm good enough I'm strong enough I'm by goly people really like me but there is power in incantations um I transform my life through incantations when I was a kid and there was nowhere to go and I was on my own and my mom kicked my dad out and then she chased me out as well and I'm walking through the streets in the rain trying to figure out what to do the the gift in my life is I had read some books and I remember again I recommended this before the first book where I really read was the magic of Believing by Claud in Bristol and he kept talking about programming your mind with words or incantations and incantations are not affirmations you affirm things I'm happy I'm happy I'm happy I'm happy and your brain goes BS you're not happy happy but if you speak something with total congruency consistency intensity you you model what you're speaking and we are creators we forget we're creators most of us think we're the manager of our circumstances but we are the creators of our lives but if we're unconscious then we will just be managed by the environment it's like a spell over and over it's a form of hypnosis but you can hypnotize yourself into your better self or you can hypnotize yourself into your lower or weaker self we all have weaknesses and strengths the question is who who's in charge and incantations to me are still invaluable so incantations and another example of where words have such power as often times just in a different context and while I have you both I didn't tell you guys I was going to do this but vows and I wonder like well there's a lot of uh emphasis placed on for example wedding vows you guys have been married over 20 years do you remember do you recall your vows is there things that come up to the surface in your marriage at this point in your life that you're like this is this is is what we this is what we got into this for what's the secret well I think I think the problem with the vow is if you speak at once it's not it's it's a promise but I think a vow has to be reaffirmed on a regular basis and we've done that for 24 years now at this stage which has been the most magnificent gift of my life honey thank you to and and it evolves yeah without a doubt it evolves like if I think of gosh I think I maybe 26 27 when I got married I I don't recall but I was a baby and and what AOW meant to me uh then and what it means to me today it's different and I look at it as ever evolving really uh the if I think of you know answering that question from the perspective of uh where I am here today and and and what love means to me it's more about I vow to claim responsibility for my experience of life um I vow to accept I vow to allow uh I vow to embrace all the parts of you and all the parts of anybody I love for that matter because I I I feel like that can be such a disconnect um we have these strange expectations of our beloveds of our partners of our parents of our children and yet we so innocently are doing the same thing maybe in a different form but what we want the other to do so I really believe that the vows are really more Marv a way of life they're practice I see you guys use that now in just I mean in just in your kitchen conversation but I wonder know it's very trendy now for people to write their own vowes that they're winning I'm wondering if you guys have any recol I'm actually asking CU I've never seen your love you matter all when people do their vows for a wedding very often they're trying to make it sound so beautiful and everything else for the setting and so forth but some of the simplest vows I love I vow to love you no matter what no matter what happens to the end of this Earth and Beyond those things in your Soul are the ones that really matter as opposed to what sounded beautiful at the time we had a was part of ours we had so so it was a beautiful experience so yes remember them but on a day-to-day basis it comes down to what's most important I think the the way to bring vows into it is I think there's ceremonial vows and then there's a core one it's it's like life's purpose people write life purpose statements and there like four paragraphs and it looks beautiful they put on their wall and they never read it again right um it's better to have something that's at your core that's so simple that it shows up in real life in a pragmatic practical way as opposed to this beautiful thing that you never read again and I think so I don't think people should change their vows and weddings I think it's a beautiful tradition and I'm I love ours as well but I think it's more important is how are you going to be my vows are to be loving to be passionate to be curious to be there for you through thick and thin like what are the ways you're going to be right you know I'm that matters to me more and that's something you can measure on a daily basis as opposed to something that sounds beautiful so both Happ go hand in hand I think it's Emerson that said you what you do speak so loudly I can't hear what you say exactly right what were you going to say well I I yes I I look at vows from the perspective of more of a way to to live and to be as exactly what Tony said and it's more internal of what I can affect so I vow to forgive uh myself uh and others you know I vow to understand it's it's really as as I'm as I'm speaking it's like the St Francis prayer of Lord make me an instrument of your peace where there's hat words beautiful words I feel like there's such uh wisdom and such profound uh I suppose wisdom and understanding through uh that particular prayer and it's really it's it's it's the turnaround of of you know what I want to get to who I am I claim to be you know to console rather than to be consoled to understand rather than to be understood and I feel like when you have that position that willingness it's a humble position because you recognize that you're here to give you're here to embody and to express that love and uh when you commit to that it's a vow not only to your beloved it's a vow to yourself of how you commit to your own life because then loving is a given loving is it given because it's our nature and if you vow to tidy it up you vow to uproot what's false you vow to you know to have an inner reflection and and and uh take responsibility for anything that gets uh in the way of of loving your beloved because mind is doing what mind does and as we believe on true thoughts it gets muddled it gets clunky gets painful and so that I I really feel is is such a a powerful position and sometimes in romantic love it gets lost in hey I'm you know it romantic love it's like we and it feels good and it's like you know I I want this rather than I'm I'm committed to being this and simply offering that no matter what I think it's we've talked about this before relationships place you go to give not to place to go to get if it's a place to go to get it's there and I think vows are beautiful but what really matters is what's consistent right what you habitually speak what you habitually think what you habitually communicate that's what matters and the value of incantations is like a vow but you're doing it over and over again I would say to people it's not enough to understand these things like right now if you're listening okay this makes sense you know there's some words that piss me off make me more intense and some words that probably soften some words that would probably break my pattern when I'm upset make me laugh maybe I should discover those words that will move me emotionally when I'm doing my RPM when I'm doing my planning the reason I don't just write down what the result is I don't write down a to-do list it's like what do am I after what's the result and why do I want it but the why is is the power and the different words I can put a couple words there and it totally change my state again have to versus get two if it's impact if it's making a difference if it's based on love it's if it's contribution there's certain words everybody has different words those words for me move me they now I want to go make this thing happen as opposed to it's a to-do list that I got to go after so I think it's the most important thing for you to do is do the inventory and to get serious about the power these words have in your relationship in your own self I mean our daughters describ she doesn't have those internal dialogues of I'm so terrible I'm so screwed up I'm so anything like that so she's able yeah uhoh yeah uhoh no problem no no problem she's got our vocabulary in those areas and a lot of your vocabul in those areas Hal has her own vocabulary come here Halo um so those those habits are the most important habits of all because they're the ones that shape how you think how you feel and how you interact act that's your whole life so think about how you create what if you wanted to create a new life what new words would you use to describe things when you're really upset or frustrated overwhelmed that would change you instead overwhelmed I'm in demand that's I make myself laugh like oh this is so overwhelming why is it there's a million call no you know I'm in demand I'm in high demand that's a damn good thing you know it sounds silly and it's designed to be a little silly because it breaks my pattern versus listen to people who are angry or sad or depressed or overwhelmed and they have a very specific vocabulary that they use over and over again to puts themselves in a trance CU listen every emotion is a trance when you're angry it's a trance it isn't who you are it's a certain state that you're going into and some people have done it over and over again for some people it's feeling sad over again or depressed or worried or feeling Injustice I mean like today you know people offended people are offended by everything I'm offended you know it's not my preference you know what I mean I'm offended by what they do I I prefer they use different words but I can't control them so let me focus on what I can do you know different words create a different life and if there's anything you're going to take from this conversation I hope that's valuable for you would be to really get clear on the words that make you feel strong good empowered moving forward and notice the words that make you disempowered angry frustrated overwhelmed and then notice the words you're using that starts with you then what about the people closest to you and where what are some substitute words and you can make it fun it's like create a little menu for yourself and playful things that you can do I think that's one of the simplest gifts you can give sometimes you know years ago you know when I people started know who I was and I developed a certain level of Fame you know I started getting stopped and it went through different stages but people didn't stop me like you know my movie friends in those days who want an autograph or these days everybody wants a picture um they stopped me and they wanted me to like to help change their life right now and I I learned I like I want to be able to help somebody in a few seconds and so I started focusing what I call profound knowledge profound knowledge is anything that's so simple that once you understand it you can immediately change your life for someone else and transformation vocabulary the words you use the words you speak the words you create with is one of the simplest tools in the world to change it but it still requires a habit and that's why I recommend incantations coming up with certain things you're going to say over and over again which is how I built me I created this Tony Robbins guy he's me obviously but the part that dominates who that shapes who I am I created by certain words over and over and over again that isn't the only thing I did but it was a huge huge part of what I did because it's laid the foundation for the different kinds of thinking different thinking creates different emotions different emotions create different actions different actions create a different result well that's incredible nice word choice off the menu uh thank you for uh coming to the table today tone my pleasure I'm going to go I'm you guys will hopefully be seeing soon this new book I'm doing the final third in the trilogy of my financial books it's called the Holy Grail of investing so watch for it actually can I think you can get it online now but I'm going to go do the audio of it but it's of the three books I've done they're all I'm thrill with all three of them but there are some breakthroughs that are so amazing here in a world where people have such uncertainty right now about where the world's going what to do financially I decided to do a little bit what I did in the beginning on a different level I decided to go for interviewing 13 Masters of the Universe I did you know 50 for money Master the game but most of those people were different types of investors most people don't know that if you're trying to build your financial future it's all about compounding and if you look at the S&P 500 the basic stocks and you see that's done about over the last 20 years a little over 9% private Equity private credit and and um private real estate has a very different response it's average 14% plus so it's 50% better per year compounded so I interviewed all these people that make 20% and more north of 20% compounded for 20 25 30 years and I've pulled out the principles and the tools of what they're doing so I'm so excited about so it's a little commercial I'm donating all the money I'm not looking for anything from it again defeating America but I I hope you'll get this book it'll blow your mind it'll take you beyond the words it'll take you to the pathway to creating true Financial Freedom and knowing things that most people have no clue about so I'm going to go up and do that I'm going to leave the balance to you guys love to everyone listening I hope you find some words that make your life more magnificent more beautiful more compassionate more alive uh just more fulfilling than you've ever been before that's uh my heartfelt prayer and wish for you thanks Ladi for letting me join you thank you [Music] Robins all righty hi Sage Robbins hi Mary nice to be back with you nice to be back we're here on the bside so to speak of the power of the spoken word episode of the Tony Robbins podcast and and Tony had to run but we've got a few more thoughts on this subject you know Sage I am uh I'm excited to have this conversation with you not for uh flattery but people truly respond I'm I feel so lucky to witness the way folks respond to your ability to offer words of comfort to offer words of healing um when someone is grieving it makes me emotional when someone is uh has just received a diagnosis or after a death um often times people call you and you're able to be not just a shoulder for them and I'm wondering if you could are you aware that that's something that is a real gift of yours the language of love is an art and it's an art that is at times um I can't say lost but maybe there's less focus on it and you know in a different day say in the 50s there was so much by the way that might not be historically correct whether it was a 50s but that's where my mind took me uh there was such a a focus on etiquette or politeness and and and you know that can be a part of it but if it's paired with Dogma uh or if it's paired with right and wrong and then it's you do it to be nice and um you know it does feel nice but it's beyond good and bad or right versus wrong or it's beyond civility or or uh political correctness it's it's it's really about love and um the language of love it has a tonality to it it has a a a a sense to it it's it's uh cous it's steeped in gratitude you know what as I'm speaking right now I don't think I answered your question I actually you did and you did right off the bat it's it's we've been calling it spoken word and we've been sticking with word but right away you said it's the art of the language of love and when I was thinking about even just I didn't even know how to go about asking you that question but I've heard you do it i' I've heard you take people's hands when they seem inconsolable and often times I find myself naturally thinking like I I would not know to say in this situation and you I don't know you just you have a way of disarming people comforting people grieving alongside of people but not it's it's not somehow it still has like a a buoyancy to what you're able to do with your word and I realize it's that's why cuz because it has that frequency of the language of love it's not it's not some word you're using it's not some technique it's not some script and it's love that that's interesting Mary you also manage a lot of folks you manage everyone in this home that most people say functions more like a hotel than than a than a private home um you over the course of a day will manage many folks back at the company um and you're always you're really holding people accountable to their word and so we can talk about the power of the spoken word and you bring that to life and what that really means and you'll often you know some of your what I even overhear as I pass through a room of you having conversations with people is you'll call out any kind of trouble talk and maybe out in the world they might call it gossip you might call it something like trouble talking or or if there is a Schism you'll often say the phrase are you adding to the Schism or are you working towards a solution and just um little hacks I would almost call it like that that you offer people and it's it's so it feels generous m because there's no blame to it but you use these words uh that I think call people so so you don't get ins snared by like truth and lie and and words that have real charge and black and white and right and wrong kind of Vibes you open it up to people and and say things like you know are you untying a knot or can you speak to that power of of the words that you offer folks a little bit sure well I I really believe we rather adding to the harmony of a circumstance um or adding to the Schism as I you know and how do we do that well uh the Schism is um a disconnect of you know he should do this she should do that you know he's whatever judgment or opinion we have Harmony is is you know we meet in this space of understanding of understanding of willingness to to hear and to receive and and also what you commit to not being a part of anymore uh Gossip or trouble talking it's talking about other people that's lousy have you ever experienced that it's it's it's really like the beginning of bullying of what one would call to be quote unquote bullying what is it it's just human beings unconscious sharing you know trash talk garbage or or whatever you want to call it or trouble talking about another human being or a group of human beings and how is that even helpful you know maybe maybe it Strokes your ego maybe it makes other people laugh but is it the fullest truth is it I don't know it feels lousy to have it done and we all have you know it's what's happening right now on social media you post something and everybody's this world doesn't need any more opinions it doesn't need any more judgment it's it's love that really transforms our life and our reality and so Harmony Harmony is our nature it's our nature to when we are in right mind and we're in our heart it's it's natural to be harmonious and when there is a confusion how can I bring Clarity to that well it isn't it isn't about um talking about what's wrong it's it's really just noticing it's like okay you know I sent out an audio the other day to our team at the company and and the notion was as a leader and by the way we are all leaders this isn't a hierarchal leader as two lead to notice that it's like hey I can focus on the problem or I can focus that this is an opportunity this is an opportunity for us to come together to create to to understand to appreciate to uh possibly it's the people are calling it a challenge or a problem because there's a confusion it's like okay that let's let's let's come together right let's come together is such a powerful uh position cuz we're better together it's my experience and I love that about you you really will never stand for any kind of behind I was laughing earlier because I've never heard you say trash talking you always call it trouble talking I don't know why that made me laugh because it's it's almost like you going into the realm of sports which made me almost uncomfortable but but um you really this is not just you talking this is who you are if even if as a team we're you know sitting in the work room and having a cup of coffee and something comes up that someone on the team or something you won't stand for it and usually the first thing you'll say is like bring them here and and did you did you ask them were you clear about your request or you'll look to bring that person in there's no behind the back talking there's no you know gossip there's there's none of that and I just think that I've learned that from being around you that that the stories just stop and it's like okay then that is that is what contributing to the Schism looks like yes and so unless you are going to try to harmonize and bring that person close and work out whatever caused the disturbance in the first place it's it's not helpful any other way you do it is not is not going to be a balm as you would call it oh sorry sorry Mar go ahead no please I was this reminds me of before I came to work with you folks previously I spent time in in journalism I and and there's a a term in journalism which is used you know in all over in pop culture now too it's just on like are we on the record is this on the record which like if you're sitting down with a journalist and you have a story sometimes you might want to share something off the Record which kind of means like if I share this it's in a vacuum and it doesn't go anywhere and my time as a journalist I was aware of that and I realized like that really does happen like if you watch TV shows or something and people are speaking on the record or off the Record that that really is how things can work but for me personally one little reminder I have is like your life is on the record our whole lives are on the record so if you're going to talk in one room when someone's not there and then say something else in the room where they are like I I got to believe that's recorded somewhere and I don't want to do that and you have really I don't know you've you've brought that to me and you've put that in ways that I'm like yeah like you can't do that we can't do that wow that's that's a beautiful notion on the record that life is on the record and if you think about it say if you're out with you know people from work and there's new individual that's you know possibly a part of your company and and they're speaking about how this person did this or said this and it's just one more thing to consider I I love the notion of fullest truth you know because it it's a piece if it's a fraction it's this person's possibly experience but is it their experience or is it their opinion of the individual and I feel like that gets lost and so you know thinking is can be a lost art actually Discerning for ourselves and reflect ing people when we so innocently believe that the truth is coming externally it's like somebody says something about somebody and that's their opinion you know that might be their experience in the moment but it's like what's more important your own experience of the individual don't miss that we give our power away to others and believe their thoughts about places people uh religions or groups of people and it's like have we actually even experienced it it's secondhand information we're disconnected from reality and the reality is our own experience and reflecting and tuning rather than presupposing that what an individual or what the news or what social media is saying about an individual or a group of people that's on us it's on us to connect to tap into a deeper truth and I I feel like that is such a powerful uh perspective cuz that connects us then we've all been misjudged if you're human we've all judged and misjudged both of of others and have you ever had somebody that you thought that was you know the most horrible human being and then life offered a circumstance for you to experience them differently I think that's isn't that that's love to be given choose again another opportunity to a fuller truth a fuller truth to receive somebody to experience them for them to experience you and in that change there's no that's just Soul meeting Soul human meeting human and sometimes as we point the finger outward or we um jump too quickly to a conclusion rather than having our own experience our own tuning in our own thinking and reflection not judging but uh pondering I feel like um that's a position where it includes where we look to notice and appreciate rather than uh demonize and sometimes the words that folks use when they're telling this juicy story can be very seductive and even if we don't come into a conversation believing any of that about say the person that's being talked about it's like you know someone can get going and it's it's like this little like carrot dangling like this is pretty juicy I watched this is just coming to me right now I watched one time we were at a a party at your family's house in Canada a big a lot of people over and I watched someone you know your dad I often talk about your dad he's a strong silent type man of few words and someone approached your dad MH and had this I didn't even know who they were talking about right but but I watched like the energy you could just watch from afar and see the body language and the energy of this person going to your dad and just unloading on your dad like about someone else and your dad was just like is that right and he said is that right about like you know and so so sometimes like for me when someone's really giv it to me I have a hard time even if I if I'm not uh if I don't agree or if in fact if I disagree with what they're saying sometimes I'm like like well what am I supposed to say like clearly this person really believes it and I chuckled and I really learned from your dad and there's like not a day goes by where I don't think of that moment I've never told you this but your dad just going hm is that right like like what does it look like to not give something any energy what does it look like to not feed into a story buy into a story throw a l on the fire it was just like is that right I was like this is classic dad just like that's how you just kind of let it roll off your back doesn't give anything okay that you've you've done your job for that person you've been on you've been an ear but you're not adding to the Schism you're not adding more knots and what an extraordinary powerful question right is that right it's actually really accurate the word of it that right is that so you know is that true is that true it allows us to ponder and to reflect uh so I feel like that is a very powerful practice because that's really what that is so if you're out of dinner and maybe having a few drinks and people are chatting or this person's talking about their husband or their wife or their neighbors or so and so at work you know catch yourself catch yourself not to contribute uh that's one way another way is offering something that you've noticed that is maybe a fuller truth something kind and beautiful about this human uh or you know as our parents are a different generation we have nothing nice to say don't say nothing at all I love that there's wisdom in that my mom my mom used to always say that but uh you know that that's truth that's truth and so there's enough same same goes on social media if somebody posts something and even if mind judges and it's like oh yeah and you know we get can get so quote unquote righteous about what our opinion or what's this or what's that you know once again uh I don't know that our opinion is really even relevant uh but you know where there is Darkness let there what is it where there's Darkness let there be light when you're wondering what we can do in the world where there are many wars happening where there are people in such turmoil or um are terrified uh let there be light through our words if you don't know what to do rather than offering an opinion be a be a gift be a blessing offer kind or considerate or thoughtful or we love you we're we're praying whatever is true I I don't know I can't speak for you but whatever your heart offers that is the language of love and let there be light that's how there's light this Divine orchestration needs a vehicle that happens to be you and it happens to be me and so as we choose wi wisely our words our actions that allows us not Perfection but that allows us to be a vehicle for that illumination that love that kindness that's what light is it's like we all know somebody when you walk by and it may just a kind smile that's light you're feeling the a light of their smile of the beauty of their of their their own beingness it's that's that's a there's no words to that but there is it's a language and so I you know I just feel social media is a platform and it's it can spew hatred or confusion more accurately or it can cultivate light can cultivate love it can be a currency of Love uh that's more profound than we recognize and when you say on the record uh I think that's a stunning thought to put love on the record of life for all of us that's gorgeous social media has also made people a little cavaliere with what they're willing to say because of the the veil of it and that because it's not looking someone in the eye and like why is it difficult to look someone in the eye and say simple things sometimes like I love you thank you please forgive me I'm sorry that exercise that we do those simple words are so powerful yet it's so easy for folks to to say what they hate like you said offer another opinion and you know this isn't meant to be preachy but just keep an eye on any word that you put out there because there's there is an energy to it you've got to believe that if this whole life is energy which you can scientifically pretty much prove that it is don't argue with me on that one then so are our words um so we got to we got to pay a little attention to it and one thing that I can mention is that if somebody comes to me and they have say you know a diagnosis of some form I that is not at the Forefront of my mind uh we all meet right here in this Human Experience in this moment and that's where I experience a greater truth that's where I experience a greater Beauty Beyond the story Beyond The Narrative because we all have that and if you've lived long enough hey you've had a diagnosis at a times you've lost your health you've gained your health you've lost a beloved and so we you know if we're if you're alive if you're listening to this we've all known loss or pain or grief or whatever label we want to put on that that and that relates back to and I hope you heard this in the first segment for me what really sticks um the phrase that he uses is the words we attach to an experience become the experience yes you know so when you say you miss the experience it's like right because what story or what other narrative are you overlaying on the experience that's giving you the experience that you're feeling the emot it's like the old adage of like there's the flat tire and there's the story about the flat tire it's like it's just a flat tire yes but all all of these words and emotions that we put on it great now it's now it builds into this now it has this greater energy and this greater frequency and we do that with everything like it's it's if we really look and we get honest we do that with everything I think that's the real life is just showing us our self it's it's a reflection and when there's a willingness to see yourself rather than the external demonization or the external blame that's where word be words become so charged they become so fixed with these identities you know this group of people they're horrendous they're this is it true all of them can not all of us every single religion race uh culture whatever haven't we all done horrendous things at times so is it human I heard the other day it was like they hate in America the hate in this country the hate in that in this country the hate is within us it's it's it's not a collective it's it's a collective of the world it's a collective of our sleepness it's a collective of our own disconnect from this Divine reality and so it's we're demonizing life we're demonizing God we demonize you know others and we miss we miss the the beauty of life I remember when Tony this is probably about maybe four or five years ago and he had an internal bleed he had an esophagal ulcer and he lost four pints if you remember at that time four pints of blood um and so he was here at the house and he had went unconscious uh he was white as a ghost and um this one particular doctor uh he you know I explained what happened he was on the phone and he said you know Tony needs to get to the hospital immediately it's dangerous and I saidwhat do you mean it's dangerous if he doesn't go there he could die and uh Tony's in bed I was like thinking of logistics calling and Tony wasn't certain if he wanted to call an ambulance yet and my heart was pounding I remember like everything all of a sudden got really really really quiet and yet I could hear my own heart and it was pounding and I was feeling so terrified and I came in this room here and I said a prayer and the thought came cuz a lot of times you know we we say a prayer and we don't realize that we co-create I saw this or heard this man's uh name Dr yaker uh he wasn't our doctor at the time but uh I thought gosh I need to get his number he's coming to my mind that's a prayer answered it's an Impulse an instinct where does that come from it's divine all of it is information when we tune in so I called him and I said Doctor I said I'm I'm I'm just I'm terrified I'm here and they're saying to take Tony to this hospital and the doctor said it's incredibly dangerous and he said hold on he's like okay tell me exactly what was what happened and I told him and he's like listen everything's going to be okay everything's going to be okay yes I recommend you take him to the hospital and everything's going to be okay and that reassurance uh he's become a dear friend and that reassurance in that moment when I was so terrified and when I had forgotten mhm I'd forgotten that everything was going to be okay um I was focused on the um you know gosh I might lose Tony and the words that someone else offered you that it's dangerous and it's implying it's not it's not going to be okay yes and and so the notion that it's it's all is okay all as well uh if I think about when you were mentioning those individuals who reach out at times I think that's the most powerful gift that we can offer is just the reminder it's not telling somebody it's it was his state it was his tone of voice it wasn't just he was like well Sage all is well you just go to the do you know you just go to the hospital don't listen to it's not it's not he wasn't telling me he he really offered his heart and his voice he was so it's the tonality and the the Cadence and the warmth and the presence in in in that moment that was like I will never forget it and it was just and then it just became functional I you know I pack we packed some clothes and took the hospital but by the way always well that's right the delivery of his words to You and the words that he chose and I know it sounds almost hokey some of the catchphrases like your word is your wand or be impeccable with your word or tell the truth or at least don't lie all these folks say it differently but um and if and if you just grab onto that then it sounds simplistic and it sounds but but it's like what is a living breathing example of what that looks like it's what that doctor offered you in just the kindness the words of comfort in that moment when someone's reaching out and saying what do I do offering that offering that and Mary you said interesting about the notion of lie and the truth is is we can all lie at times of course we can all go to sleep at times you know we all meet in that Human Experience and yet once again if life is about we have the opportunity in this moment here to begin again or to choose again it's like okay you know what H that wasn't uh the fullest truth and that wasn't the fullest truth and I I just recognized as I was reflecting uh I want to share this with you because I want you to understand my heart or I want you to understand and I'm sorry I didn't share this then I don't know why it didn't feel true but it feels true now sometimes as well if it's like oh my gosh I lied or he lied it's like okay maybe in that moment but what can we offer and Touch This Moment cuz that's where life Recon figures that's where life figures and it's like oh my goodness he he lied to me she lied to me how dare they it's like okay where have I lied because that's what we have the power to change or we have the power to affect that's right in the first segment of this episode Tony offered the biblical verse from Genesis uh let there be light this one's from Isaiah chapter 54 5: 11 and it says so shall my word be that go forth out of my mouth it shall not return unto me void but it shall accomplish that which I please that sounds like positive thinking to me I see a boomerang I saw the image I saw in my mind's eyes I saw like a boomerang that went out and it returned and it had like all these lights and illumination on it that's what I saw um that's a beautiful metaphor I think for our words it is and how they it's like maybe that's what karma is there is some sort of like it doesn't go out into a void there is something that comes out and comes back thank you for joining and uh tuning in to the words that we're here to share which uh conveys our hearts and uh our love of you for raising your hand and wanting to find a Kinder truer way um I do I meet you in that I join you in that and so for those of you who are listening and tuning in once again please join us let's um love this world you know uh let's offer our words our actions our gestures and let's spread the power and the gift of love um I trust if you're joining in that is your deepest heart uh so thank you God bless and look forward to connecting [Music] soon I know I I'm just hesitant to even talk about it because I I know for some people it might sound Airy fairy but Dr oto's work yes of course where he exposed I don't know how you'd say it exposed water structures and then looked under a microscope at the crystalline structure of water that after exposing them to words M like the difference between I love you and I hate you to to water and then how that changed the structure of that you know and you could argue with that and say it didn't have the scientific rigor of of that studies are supposed to have and that's just Hokey Pokey but our friend Billy our Tony's trainer and our you know our best our best friend here our Godfather our Godfather of our child Billy is like like maniacal about conducting experiments of like with the control group and in a dark room and like double blind and repeating them and I think he's done this more than like 70 times he's done it with rice eggs lavender Sprouts like he loves this it'll come in every time he's in the middle of one of these experience experiments and I'll have you know and everything will all be sealed off and I'll have one just to in case you've never heard of this so say everything else is equal say he has these three pallets of sprouts seated sprouts and to one Sprout he'll go in the room they're all in the same room there's nothing else in the building the same lights come on every day at certain timing and he'll say I hate you I hate you Sprouts I hate you sprouts and then in the next Sprouts he'll say hey Halo shush Halo in the next one he'll look at the next palette of sprouts and go I love you Sprouts I love you so much I love you and then the third one he just ignores and it's it's just neglected basically you repeat it the same number of what and you watch these Sprouts or rice or whatever you have grow and inevitably every time he's done it more than 70 times and the Sprouts like Wilt that have been said I hate you sprouts and the ones that he's told I love you are like uses the I'm like well what are they like he's like they're robust you wouldn't believe it they're beaming and then ironically the worst ones are the ones that the worst off ones are the ones that are utterly neglected it's it kind of explains why people might stay in a uh negative relationship let's say rather than just get out all together cuz there's still some connection you're getting even if it's negative point being long story short words The Power of Words you're changing like molecular structure it's an energy or impacting a sprout or a grain of rice or a human being or whatever that is that that you are offering those words to implicitly explicitly or beyond what do you think about all that you buying it well I think it's beautiful I think it's beautiful that uh uh what I appreciate about Billy is that uh once again he's curious enough to have the experience and uh experience the reality himself and to show The Power of Love uh beyond the power of spoken word and I think that's super cool and we love you Billy we love you Billy you are super cool you weirdo maybe you're going to read something I couldn't find it oh okay good for you it's not meant to be sorry Isaiah there it is okay last one okay Tony so I I'll tell you a two-c story that might create a context for you I remember decades ago I had two partners in business I think I was about 31 32 years old the time and um one one both both of my partners were older than I was both were much more accomplished than I had been at that stage and um we had an experience together as partners where we're negotiating a deal and in the deal um I was young and I still have this tendency it's just I put everything on the table let's just make a fair deal for each of us thinking that that would be the same reciprocated on the other side and it was not it was a disaster and without going through the boring details of the story what I share the other side used disproportionately in a way that was really ridiculous and unfair to try to leverage us instead of you know putting together a fair deal but in the midst of it as we took a break um because it was getting really heated um one of my partners I just he just kept going on and on and on I was like pissed off I thought so this pisses me off I me I share with him honestly so my words inside my head was like this pisses me off this this this makes me angry it makes me mad as hell right that's what I was thinking but my friend my partner one of them was talking about this this makes him Furious and he's livid and he's in raged and he talked about I could kill them and he was so intense and I'm trying to keep my voice quiet cuz it wasn't that quiet I mean he was like yelling and because he was so intense I was like calm down dude like you can't be that bad like you know I was just pissed off was just angry but what struck me was at the same time I'm feeling angry and pissed off and I'm thinking he's a little crazy right now I'm trying to calm him down my other partner who is much older and wiser than probably both of us been around the block more than a few times very very successful man he didn't even seem to be negatively moved by it and I I remember pausing looking at him and I was trying to calm this guy down you that's not that bad right and my I looked at my other friend and I said like what are you feeling you're being real quiet about this and he goes well you know I feel a little peeved and I thought no excuse me he said I feel annoyed that's what he said the first time I'm annoyed I was like annoyed I was annoyed that he used the word annoyed it's like such a terrible sounding word annoyed that's all he annoyed don't you you understand and then my friend's like don't you understand like calm down it's not that big a deal we can handle it right and so I said annoyed I mean that that's such a weird word annoyed you're just annoyed after what they I mean they took advantage they did this and and so as I got upset my other friend got upset he got calmer so I thought for a moment I thought I don't think I've ever seen him that angry in all the years I've known him and I said you don't you get angry at things like this he goes no not really and he said you know I was a little tinkled he literally said tinkled and I was like you got to be kidding me you know he said tinkled he goes yeah you know it's tinkled I like I don't understand he goes what's the worst you've ever felt he goes I don't know tinkled peeved annoyed but I couldn't help but in the middle of the experience to notice that one friend is just out of control I'm feeling really angry and he's feeling annoyed peeved and tinkled and I said well what's your belief about getting angry and he goes well if you get angry the other guy wins and I thought interesting so the reason I tell this story is we all had the same event but we didn't have the same experience his is furious and rag kill somebody and his is annoyed tinkled and peeved and once I saw this I saw it everywhere I couldn't help but notice it's like I noticed how people use certain words over and over again but my wife Sage here my Pearl she's like she uses words like sugar and shoot what's some other ones man myft or um Flip Flip oh flip this is bad oh that didn't work isn't it beautiful yeah that's your that's my she that's her favorite phrase but isn't it no matter what's going on I remember I was so depressed and I was so frustrated I was so overwhelmed I didn't know what to do with my life I didn't know how I was going to make it happen and I always grew up poor too I had no economics trying to figure how to get money for my next meal then eventually you know I got I got a car and I'm sleeping in my car this Volkswagen and I started doing these incantations and I still do one right before I go on stage every single time I've done it for 46 years that's how long I've been doing this and I Now command my subconscious mind to direct me in helping as many people as possible today by giving me the strength the emotion the persuasion the humor the brevity whatever it takes to show these people and get these people to change their life now and I would do that hundreds and hundreds of times and I'd say it in different tones right now I'd emphasize the word and I was transformed by that it it awakened a part of myself that an Unstoppable part of myself that I still use to this day love joins love connects you know a lot of times we so focus on possibly what to say or what to do and it's my experience that um being with somebody that's right uh you know I had a family member called today and she was was really uh there was a you know a confusion or an argument if you want to call it um in their relationship and you know I look to just join her I've been where she's been she was so distraught and we've all been in a state of confusion and said things said words uh that possibly were harmful or or hurtful or experienced it on the other side and once again it's so easy to look at what another said or you know he was so mean she was so mean to me or whatever that looks like but truth be told uh if we're blind we can all you know it's it's it's less kind and so uh I just joined her I I I listened I was with her I um and reflected that love and that is powerful a lot of times we as human beings and I can only say this CU I can go blind in this we get so F focused on the doing we we want to fix something we want to help something and um you know there's nothing more profound than to join someone where they are it it's true you join with your words with your spirit with your beingness paired with words mhm um and you don't the other thing that as I'm like picturing you doing this is you don't like you join but it's different than getting into the trenches of the muck of whatever is going on in whether they just found out their cheating on them or their child has cancer or they have like you don't assume a superior position even if someone's coming to you and asking you even if they use the words I need your advice you join and never it doesn't feel like you know an advice calmness like wagging a finger like well like I think about when back our friends we talked about Beck and Siri on this podcast before and Beck gave us a phone call one Thanksgiving and you know Siri was going in to just have like a routine hip surgery and that's when she they did a a blood test that found out that in fact she had she had cancer she had leukemia and I remember the phone call and the distress of course at this the shock of something like that and again like these are friends dear friends of ours I was speechless dumbfounded more accurately of of even how to be be there or what to say and you did a few things one thing do you do you remember this like one thing it was like okay we're not going to say can we're not going to call this cancer like you I do I remember that moment we were in Sun Valley Idaho and sitting on the side of the road in our in our truck and uh Siri and Beck just called and you know as she was speaking what I noticed is I remember hearing her say you know and I went went in and I I went in she went in to go get a hip her hip done she needed a hip replacement and if it wasn't for the routine blood work that she had to have her hip replaced she never would have found out she had leukemia right and so my own my own the thought I had was oh my gosh what a miracle thank goodness she went in and thank goodness her hip was bothering her cuz if not this could have been silent and circumstances could have been much further along so the miracle the gift of her needing her the gift of her the pain in her hip was a catalyst to her going to get tested and that was a catalyst to her you know getting this because if you think of what is a diagnosis it's information and that information is saying hello pay attention to me help me support me and that's what she did right but if you're listening to this and you hear this story and your first thought was not oh what a blessing nor was it mine and I'm saying like that is I think that that that makes a difference like Tony and I you've heard us in the in the previous segment here we tease you about it's not just your your little softener words it is also your ability to say like okay like rather than just believing there's good in in any in anything even if it's a cancer diagnosis well what a blessing so grateful they could catch it when they did and and that narrative even the diagnosis the identity of that I have cancer and that a lot of times can be all how could it not be in moments all consuming and we get disconnected from how extraordinary that life was so supportive in the timing of that you know the the timing of that was what uh Sirin needed in order to heal this and um and I found that to be extraordinary uh and you know a lot of times you know Tony was speaking early about like the incantation uh we can also have a negative incantation I have cancer now that's information and that's information that your body is needing some attention and some medical intervention and help and support so there's many different factors I'm not simplifying it or or dismissing it in any way shape or form and yet just the awareness that uh to not have that be uh a continuous dialogue cuz I have cancer it's like you think that it's like what's the difference between I have cancer or I'm healing and so it's also noticing the Miracles is noticing the Miracle of Life the Divinity of this moment the fact that we are alive and um you know that that is something that uh I I find for my ownself if there's moments that I forget or if I'm feeling overwhelmed or I'm feeling uh scared about something with my own health or my family's health uh I'm reminded that um all is well and uh that the information alone is uh a catalyst for change I am wondering if you would speak to a little bit and I know that this is something for a lot of reasons that you don't talk about and you probably don't care to talk about um but I'm going to ask feel free to decline okay um when folks call you if they are if they have already received a diagnosis um if they're having one of those dark days of chemo or you know whatever that that we all everyone out there listening I'm sure has different levels of degrees of familiarity with this the brutal battle that folks can go through for their health fighting for their life but I'm just wondering like when someone calls and asks for you to hold space for them be with them join them offer them them something when they are I mean when times are dire could you give us a sense of what do you say well I believe we're all healers and uh we all are born with the power of that gift you know Tony spoke earlier about you know the power of an incantation or the power of prayer and once again it's the spoken word and there's an alignment with um life you know one of the gifts of a I'm sorry I'm I'm pivoting here for a moment but one of the gifts of a diagnosis is a lot of times it's a wakeup call you know we can all get so conditioned in our life that we fall asleep and then something like that it it's it's um decimating it can be rearranging but in that disrupt it disrupt is a better word uh it causes us to reflect and I find that that is the power of awareness that life is a miracle cuz all of a sudden death has come closer and so people are willing to they're not even willing they're just noticing you know wow this reality that intentionality of of word and I'll share from my own experience I was gosh maybe four years ago I was diagnosed with a pituitary tumor that was a wakeup for me that was a wake up to say gosh I I my body was speaking to me and I was ignoring it there was an opportunity to tune in to bring greater Harmony to support myself I had so much extension externally this was a time of an inward flow and it served me so massively if I think of where my life was then four years ago to today I'm so extraordinary grateful for uh that wakeup call cuz it felt like a smack you wakeup call that works I think that's a clear metaphor for people one word you didn't use just now but you use all the time and I love it is do you know what I'm going to say no not at all you say it in the context of relationship you say it in the context of if somebody's having two people are having like a conflict in their relationship or in their family or if they have had uh a Health Challenge you'll say this is reconfiguring life reconfiguring yes and you I've heard you say that word and it took me a while for it to really soak in and now I'm like that's right like no matter what you're going through relationship your health whatever there's a Recon figuring yes and then the words you used to describe that reconfiguring that disrupt is a gift that um the uncertainty even the pain of it is it's calling us and what's that call to bring our awareness our attention to this moment or this circumstance and that's the power of healing one other thing as you know we we mentioned about war and all the layers that it uncovers I feel something else that's just so profoundly beautiful is there's a a coming together of um human beings as brothers and sisters as uh Beyond a religion and uh I think it's really so profound that there's so many different faiths uh so many different individuals so many different groups that are just praying not for this country for that country but for Humanity for this world for life for peace and uh that is uh unbelievably uh beautiful to me and such a powerful currency of individual offering their time your mom you praying the rosary you know there's just there's so many different prayers and rituals and individuals and groups coming together in the Name of Love and what offering they're offering their word the word yes coming together in the name of peace and if we do want World Peace uh that peace does begin with me it begins with you and that's how we change the world we change our world and we reflect that love from there I am Harmony I am Joy what are the attributes the virtues and put words to that reality to co-create with this existence because we're all weaving this web called our lives and prayer and as Tony said uh incantations decrees uh affirmations whatever is true for you we all have different styles we all find our way home uh so there isn't one way that is the right way look to what's true for you

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Published: Wed Jan 03 2024