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is Pulitzer prize-winning journalist Jonathan Capehart
at the Washington Post. You also see him at MSNBC. It's hard to believe
it's been a year since we been introduced
to the Fab five. Since then we have learned
to French Tucker shirts, remind yourselves too
much stress every day but most importantly
to love ourselves more. We met every day Americans
become inspirations and heroes like Palm of Georgia, mama Tammy
of gay Georgia, Jess of Kansas and the Jones sisters
of Missouri. [applause] You have
to admit this one, through three seasons we have
all laughed and all cried. Please welcome to
Washington and to the Library of Congress the cast of
Netflix Queer Eye Bobby Burke, Jonathan brightness and
Jonathan K Capehart. [music] [crosstalk] >> That was good content. >> I was too late. You've all been introduced, I
assume you have been introduced. I'm Jonathan Capehart
from MSNBC. Thank you to the library of Congress were holding
his incredible gathering of these incredible men who have
given us an incredible show. As you can see here
I have questions. You know what, I will put this
aside because I don't know if you know this, but we asked
the audience to submit questions and so, I have them right here. I'm going to ask the questions that have come from
the audience. The first one if you hear
your name it's almost like the price is right. If you hear your name
no coming on down. I hate to be the buzz kill, but
scream so we know where you are. Thank you! Sally Morgan. [applause] Sally
Morgan is years old. >> Hi Sally Morgan! June [crosstalk] Sally
Morgan years old, how can kids be more
confident in themselves? PS it's pronounced squirrel! [applause] >> That's why I didn't
strike you. [laughter] >> That's a gorgeous question. I think confidence
is so easily swayed by comparing your
experience of other people in comparison in general. What is the most sure thing
you will ever have is your relationship with yourself. As you proceed in your education in your life the
more you can love and accept yourself the
more other people's opinions and goings-on of the world
won't rock your opinion of yourself so much. And then honey you are
confident you know? >> I just want to add to that
I think in education helps as well, not only the
education you get in school but also leaning into things
that you are passionate about and where your interests are and just learning
how to nurture those. The more you know about something the
less fearful you are in the more confident
you will be in yourself. Whatever that is for you whether
it's music, art, history. Whatever it is. Find people of similar passions. >> What about math? Don't forget about math. >> The jury is still
out on math. All the other things I think
have pretty much been proven. [laughter] >> Can I ask something
about the show before I go to the next audience question? It seems as though y'all
have been friends forever. The chemistry between all of
you, all five of you feel like, binging on the show it
feels like a been dropped into these well-formed
relationships. How long did it take to
get to know each other? >> During casting there was about when we finally
came in together. The five of us within
the first day, day and a half all
found each other. Even before your cast we
instantly felt a connection to each other and I think
the producer saw that. It was very natural for us to
be inquisitive about each other and learn more into
like each other because we automatically
liked each other. When you're catapulted into filming a show together
we are together days a week you spend more time with each other and some people spend
an entire lifetime. We have learned so
much about each other. The good, the bad, the
pretty and the ugly. The everything. It's made us have
the type of chemistry that you can't manufacture. >> Do you have a pet
peeve about the other? >> Jonathan was asking about
a pet peeve and this is where you let him know
about the temperature. >> Stay on your side. >> The only pet peeve
we have onset really, the only time we argue
is with the temperature. >> Bobby runs very hot. [laughter] >> Put the mic down. Take his Mike! Jonathan always wants
to wear something that may not be always
seasonably appropriate. Those three are a nightmare. >> We are the easy-going ones. >> Or any of my long
hair people out there? You get very sweaty in your
hair is freshly blown dry in here six together and you get
the dreaded Bermuda triangle. Which is like this triangle
of skin that flashes out. You have your hair parted
in the middle on the side in your scalp sticks out
and this is my nightmare because the writings
on the wall. My mom graduated high
school with no hair. I'm living on borrowed time. That's why get worried. It's not the temperature
is sweating in the hair sticking together. If I had to volume it and
I had a gorgeous cough like you I would not worry
about my sweaty forehead. You don't know what it's like. Rebecca York we just
work through it. Hi Rebecca. Rebecca asked, Queer Eye
highlights the positive in our society and how we can
build bridges across difference. While that is important it
brings up some real issues that actively affect LGBTQ. In your opinion, what are the
most pressing issues for youth in our community and what best
can we, especially the members of Congress in the room, and
pointing at you Sean Maloney of New York, what can they take
to do better for our youth? >> I think that there
is a laundry list, but to get started I
think to started off, if you look at LGBTQ youth
growing up today it's based on the assurance and confidence
that their heterosexual or gendered counterparts
felt basic civil rights. That affects you on a macro
level of how you are perceived by society and also
on a personal level of what your self-worth is. >> The equality act is
what he is talking about. >> In making sure this
country has a system in place. You can have demonstration
in schools but also guns are
huge issue for people in high school in this country. [cheering] The targeted
discrimination that the transgender community
continues to face and how that affects people's
education is also relevant. Let's get out there! Sorry, I love you guys so much. You may disagree but
you don't have to leave. Give us an hour! I think one of the
most important things, a lot of times people
say you're going into these very conservative
homes and you're just ignoring
the fact that they have very
different political views and they may have voted in a way that really does
affect our civil rights. If we are not visible,
it will never change. If we are not out there showing
those people who may have voted in a way that is very judgmental
towards our civil rights, if we are not showing them we
are people just like they are, and they aren't thinking
about us when they vote. And they are thinking about
people that are different than them in the way
their votes affect us. I think our biggest
ally is visibility and making sure we are
setting a great example in making sure we are out there
and proud and showing everyone out there that we are
just like everyone else and we deserve the
same rights as they do. [applause] >> I'm going to be really
honest I'm not as informed on American politics
is my counterparts. >> He's British. [laughter] However the thing I
see that's very problematic is we seem to have a
government that does not speak out when injustices committed
against our community and even if the laws take a long
time to change I don't agree with why it takes
so long to change, but even if it does
take a long time to change I wish the current
administration was speak out against the hate that
is delivered to our people. >> The problem is our current
administration is speaking the hate. [applause] >> I do know. >> I can understand why
you're so concerned. Rebecca I see where
you are concerned and I'm sure you feel
a lot more confident in this country felt the
leadership supported your basic human rights. As long as the people that are in power I worry will never get
the security we should expect. Not just hope for but expect. >> And deserve! [applause] >> With this incarnation
of Queer Eye you are not in the bubble of L.A. or
the bubble of New York. The first two seasons
were in Atlanta. This current season . [laughter] >> Which is great! This current season season
three is in Kansas City. Kansas City, Atlanta
of the South, we talked about the
current administration and what it is or isn't doing. There are voters in these
places to support the president. I'm just curious what was
it like being Queer Eye, the Fab Five in red states? >> I felt really powerful
going to those places. I don't want a Queer Eye that
stays in New York and LA. That's a low hanging fruit
as far as I'm concerned. The gaze already hopefully
don't hate us for being gay. It's good for us
to be around people who have not had
the exposure to us. I going to those kind of states
and having real conversations with them to say forget
what party you follow. Forget what your
opinions on the president. One on one conversation with
one of us for a week and then at the end of the week
tell us that you hate us. That's not possible. You can't hate us for who we are because we are showing
our humanity. >> What I loved, I grew up
in Missouri I spent years of my life try to get
the hell out of there. Going back actually
felt really good because I saw how
much it has changed since I was -year-old kid trying
to get the hell out of there because I was being persecuted
and it was not accepted. To go back now and see how
accepted we were granted it was a little different. We are coming back on a
T.V. show, but you could see that things have changed
and it really gave me hope in this really drove
home the point of the more we are visible,
the more people will accept us. The more people realize,
people's biggest fears about things they don't know. When they see us more
they accept us more. >> Yes. And also
what I really learned in the last two years is the
importance of state legislature. [applause] One thing that
I experienced when we got to Atlanta the election
was going on and it's all that I could talk about first
three weeks I was there. That was the timing
of what went on. I remember talking to an uber
driver on the way to the airport to go shoot Game of
Thrones on a weekend and nobody knew who I was. I was not trying to name
drop that but nobody knew who I was then and nobody
knew that I was talking to them about anything. And they said who
are you voting for? And I said if I voted
it would change. What will it matter to me? As a -year-old kid who lives in downtown Atlanta
it matters a lot. So complacency and knowing
who your representatives are, obviously this is
a federal election. Stacy Abrams honey
came so close. [applause] The state
legislature we may change in Georgia we made
gains in Missouri. I think what we have
classically considered to be more red states
are changing and. I think some people are going
back into the middle of America and migrating out of L.A.
to New York and going back to the cities that maybe
the hope is not lost on people Missouri and Georgia. We have to talk to people
and engage with people. Like Kim was saying it's
hard to hit people up close. I think people that
don't know it's because they just not
have been exposed. We have to work really
hard to get in those uncomfortable places and have those uncomfortable
conversations with people because I think it's
on the table y'all. We can do this in the
Senate it's not that hard! You got to be talking to uber
drivers and talk to people. You to chat about it
it's not that far away. [laughter] I made a
mistake and I said Kansas and you're in Missouri. Jonathan I will pick up on
something you just said. Having those uncomfortable
conversations, have you had an uncomfortable
conversation that did not make it on their? >> Me and Joey had a great one about minimum sentencing
in Missouri. We were in the salon for a solid
eight hours we talked a lot about the injustices. [crosstalk] >> That was a fantastic
transformation, wow! >> That someone who I would not
think was a corrections officer would have the same feelings I
have about the militarization of the police force or
the failed war on drugs. This was actually someone
who when I was wheeling and dealing all the things
you know I wheel and deal about on my twitter honey, she
actually we went that far apart and I was very surprised
by that. That's why it wasn't
on the T.V. show. >> Re-surprise your
points if you were similar? >> Yes because she
was an officer in a corrections facility. At that it would be
looking out of there looking like Angelica from Rugrats. >> We filmed - hours per week and the show gets
down to minutes. Episode two of season one,
the police officer has a sign in his yard make America
great again in his bedroom. That episode ended up being
more about the relationship between him and Cromwell. Corey and I had a two
hour car ride for the week and talk about the election. We talked about why he voted
for Trump in his reasoning in all his reasoning
was incorrect. [laughter] He was talking about
how he just really does not like how Obama never ever
talked about blue lives and it was always black lives. Where did you get that info? Yes he does. He absolutely supported
everyone who was in the right. Where you getting this info? And I said you only
watch Fox news? He said I don't watch
Fox news at all. I got them to think about
where he was getting his info and started to educate
himself more. Corey has now gotten into
local politics . It goes back to having the uncomfortable
conversations we have to listen to people though. How I got him to opened
up was I listened. Don't go in there
telling people your point of view, listen to them first. >> I'm typically
likeliest to the hair. Sometimes were not scary
just to look at my twitter. >> He's very good at
listening intently. >> I want to listen over here. [laughter] >> Anthony did you
have a conversation that was uncomfortable
in any of the seasons? >> Uncomfortable
conversations with me? I tend to I don't know if it's
the fact that I'm Canadian and I feel like even though have
been in this country on and off for over years, I still
feel like I'm a guest here and I don't feel like my
spot here is very safe. I've heard stories about
Canadians who cross the border and come back and
aren't able to come back because of basically
being asked to the support and having what's it called? Having border patrol. [laughter] I've heard those
horror stories and I tend to trade a little
more carefully. The conversation personally that would make me a
little more uncomfortable for the main reason why
I'm so comfortable being on the show talking
about my sexuality which is something I've always
kept very close to my heart. Something that I have shared
with loved ones and friends and family but not anything
I've ever really spoken about in the public space. I look back at her time with
A.J. for example in season one, that was an opportunity
where he was sharing so much about his experience in the
type of man he wanted to be or that he thought he should be. The fact that he did not
want to be too feminine in his clothing choices
I realized holy ship if he's willing to share
so much with me I have to be able to do the same. I'm sure there's some
interviews somewhere but I've never referred
to myself as gay. I've always felt more
comfortable fluid. I've been in love with women
and for me personally it feels like in some way
disrespectful to them hi, it's okay because
it means something to those relationships. It's not a judgment against
people who have a label because if it's something
that is important to you power to you absolutely. For me personally I've always
felt more comfortable not having one in just considering
myself fluid is the word of the day for me. I may change my mind tomorrow
but that's how I feel today. The point is I don't feel
like I have to decide I want to continue to be myself. My father says be humble
and don't be a dick. [laughter] >> I'm sorry I actually swear
the least out of all of us. I apologize. But yeah. [laughter] >> Addison more. Where is Addison more? There's a whole section
over there. [cheering] Addison more what
is the best way for someone who is LGBTQ to use the platform
for queer, trans and non-binary? >> I will take that one. I didn't want to talk too much. [laughter] I think visibility
for me, being visible and being in my community no matter what
the comments will say whether three people watching the
million your voice matters. It does not matter how
many eyes look at it, it's how true you
asked the question? It matters how authentic
you were to the passionate you're
bringing to your platform because I think that brings
her humanity to your voice. You can't be afraid
of people up close. You are a celebrity and
everybody so lovely. Most people are so lovely. I think it's really staying true to what moves you makes
you feel passionate. When someone is coming
for your people get all up on that twitter. [laughter] >> Actually sometimes twitter
yes, but maybe call you up and get on the center for
transgender equality and get on their twitter make a
little donation honey. Also money moves
things no it does. We have to raise money for
candidates for non-binary and transgender and where
people are protected. With the equality act. [applause] >> I will ask a question
about Jeff, Skyler. I will come back to Jeff. Talk about pull my heart out. Based on your experiences
with your heroes, what help can be provided
for this aced LGBTQ? Just was kicked out of her home when she was because
she came out. Skyler was a transgender
man also kicked out. >> I live in Salt Lake City Utah
and we have a system for people who need support and most
importantly LGBTQ youth. They can put you in touch with
resources and if they have a in Utah of all places,
there is bound to be something similar
in every state. I would suggest you find your
organization in your state that can offer you support. Also, the younger generation, you guys have access news
Instagram and Twitter a lot. The use Insta handles. You love some social
and that's a good thing. >> I watched seven hours of
gymnastics videos alone today. [laughter] >> There's nothing
wrong with living social and it can be a great tool. There hashtags you can
find local support systems in local communities that can
truly offer support you need. Yes, social can be a great
resource if you're struggling to find something locally to
you it can be hashtag away. >> There hotlines
available as well. To hear a human voice, somebody
speaking so you don't feel like you're having this
conversation on your own. >> National suicide hotline
that something that could apply to somebody which is on
my instagram account. >> If you are one of those
youth who are lucky enough to have parents who are amazing
and love you no matter what and accepting no matter what,
find those local LGBTQ places where kids who aren't as
lucky as you have to go. Go there, volunteer, donate
close you have grown out of. Give back to them because
you were lucky enough to have parents that love you. Help them. [Applause] >> The main theme of Queer
Eye is love yourself. How do you then say
two teens were going through it, emotionally. How do you connect them to let them know not
only it gets better which is a future message, but
that they can get through this which is a here and now message? >> For me having gone through
those type of situations, it does get better in
the way I show them and tell them is I
went through a lot. I did things I'm
not proud of just to survive, to make it through. Every single thing I went through has made me
the person I am today. I did not kill me,
it made me stronger and it will make you stronger. You will get through it. It will get better. [applause] Everything
that you go through in life is what makes
you the person that you are. None of it is bad. Hang in there, stay strong. The more you go through
the stronger you will be in more successful you will be. >> I used to see this positive as affirmations is a
very American thing. The bricks are very cynical. [laughter] I have been in
America a few years now and and I started practicing
positive affirmations for myself years ago
and it really does help. [laughter] >> What is your positive
affirmation? >> I will share them with you. Let me tell you why. >> How do you not sure
your positive affirmation! >> It's a personal thing. Private. >> He tells himself he
loves himself in the mirror as he's brushing his hair. >> I will segue into letting you
continue to finish a thought. Out of all of us he has
the ability to show one set with a smile on his face. >> A professional. [cheering] >> Can I tell you what it is? You might make fun of me! >> No we won't. >> Sit here while I tell it. >> Repeat yourself affirmation. >> There are so many people
saying something negative especially in social media. The amount of times
or the something on social media that's negative,
the clause are always out and people are fighting
the fight. I thought I want to something where I feel better
about myself. Every day you mentioned when I brush my hair
that's not my do it. When I brush my teeth it
takes me about two minutes. >> Some brushes have timers. >> While I brush my teeth
I do in my underwear. I do my underwear for a reason. >> He doesn't want to get to
preach on thpaste on his shirt. >> Let me finish! It gives me time
to look at myself and really say these
are the things I love about myself physically
in these of them as I love about myself emotionally. Then assessment for the day no
matter what happens in the day, no matter what somebody says to
me, if they say something vulgar or say something racist or say
something homophobic I think at least there are three
things a little about myself. At least I'm finding every
opportunity to make myself happy as opposed to just accepting
the hate that is thrown my way. >> I would never
make fun of that. I love that! [applause] >> At first you think I feel
cheesy AF but I don't want to be the reason I am not happy. >> I won't be the
reason I'm unhappy. Wow! >> That's so get out of
your own way sort of thing. I love that. I can't believe he never told
me did positive affirmations. [laughter] >> You literally in a
room of all Americans. >> I married an American
I can say that. >> That's not how
it works but okay. >> That is true. >> I don't have a last name. Jackie ? Thanks Jackie
when you felt lost or stuck in life what helped
you move forward? >> Celine Dion. [laughter] >> There goes my answer. When I was most lost
in my life was probably when I was in a pre-college. My early s, I was
back in Montréal, I was studying commerce. No shame to anybody
who loves commerce and I still can't fully
explain what the major was. And I was very unhappy
and had no direction and no idea what it was I
wanted to pursue in my life. And there was a teacher,
his name is Victor giveaway and he was my English
teacher and he called me into his office one day and he
basically looked over my grades and basically told me,
we started chatting about what I wanted to do with
my life and he became a mentor. I used to go see him
sometimes unannounced once or twice a week just
to check in. Sometimes just to hang out. Other times to just silently
read a book for or minutes and just be around him. Ended up actually getting me
in touch with the social worker who got me in touch
with a psychologist. Most the question? [laughter] >> I was thinking I
think he got off track. >> What was the question? [laughter] >> I have a point. >> I wasn't ready to admit
to myself that I needed help. My parents were not
available for that hill. I went to a teacher and I realized throughout
my life whether I was in high school or the University
I have always sought out mentors through teachers that
would actually listen to me that I respected. I think during all the darkest. Because of my time I did
a lot of things wrong, but one thing I did write
is that I did not keep it for myself too long
and it comes back to what I was saying previously about when you have
a conversation in your own head
starts become a problem. Actually reaching
out to somebody and getting some
professional help in the end was the best thing I
could've ever done for myself. Something I continue
to do to this day. >> I came back! I got ADD but it comes back. It comes back. It's how we get through
hard times and what helped you
move forward. >> Mine is more sinister. Yours is beautiful. A true reflection
of your personality. This is a true reflection
of mine. [laughter] You know me too well. I was not meant to have the
life I have now I was raised in a very strict
community and household. I was told this was not a
life that was okay for me and every day I encourage myself
to prove my worth and show that I can have the
life I want to have and be incredibly successful. One of the most successful
people in my community. And will prove it one day. That drive got me
through every day, every time I was feeling shit
about myself that's motivation that got me through thinking
I would prove my worth. >> You know that all too well! >> If you find yourself in
a dark prolonged dark rut, as I have often, doing
something that I was passionate about has always
created a thread that has created every
success in every moment of happiness that
I have ever had. Whether that passion was
helping people or learning to figure skate or
whatever, it has been. [INDISCERNABLE] For a long time. It was honestly growing
up in a rural town being mercilessly bullied. It was cheerleading. That was a group of people only
codify her only myself backwards those girls would protect me. I was passionate about
learning how to cheer. Whatever your passionate
about learning to do that will put one foot
in front of the other to get you out of that dark rut. >> Jonathan since you brought it
up, my next question was going to come to you about bullying. Since you brought it up,
you have long talked before about the fact that you
never fully experience being in the closet. You have been bullied
as a result of it. How did you cope with it? For the LGBTQ plus kids
and maybe some adults, how do you deal with
the bullying? How do you cope with it? >> Great question. I think that when I was young
growing up, it was a lot of watching figure
skating, watching gymnastics and eating pop tarts and
praying for it to be over. Honestly. I think what I
have realized as an adult because having the success in the public eye has
also brought a fair amount of criticism and
bullying and kind of like they were again
put it so much more intense than it was in junior high. The feeling of bullying is awful
whether it's on that the scale or whether I was I think
what really has got me through is the relationship
with myself. That is the only thing
we come into this world with an is the only
thing you leave with. Everything else not that it's
not important, but you have to have a really strong
relationship with yourself and know that none
of this is permanent. Success is not permanent, the
not success is not permanent. Your love is not. Nothing is permanent. Hate to break it to
you but it's true. >> Can I ask you also Jonathan. I don't think we fully
answered your question earlier. I think we fully answered
your question earlier. We concentrate please? [laughter] You asked me
about loving yourself and I think we need to add
in one more thing about that. So many times we see in her
show that people don't take care of themselves because they
think there is some shame and loving yourself or that
they feel like it's selfish. I think it's important
what you say, but also add in there is no shame in
accepting that you love facets of yourself and parts
of yourself and allow them to flourish. So many times we see on
are shown people just feel like they can't show
themselves love. They can't practice self-care
because it is selfish. There's nothing selfish
about that. >> That it's vanity. >> Yes! >> Knowing that is not permanent in the relationship
itself is so important. As I've experienced this success
of met some people I looked up to my entire life and what
I have realized is you are no different than you and you
are no different than me. The people we looked up to and
read about, the president Obama! Everyone that we really look
up to the have insecurities, they have all sorts of stuff. I think it's really helpful
to know that Jonathan and is insecure and worried about things just the
way was when I was . Everyone is going through
the same thing it's really not permanent. If you are being bullied and
you're in a bad situation now, it will not last forever. Find your obsession with
guinea pigs or figure skating or whatever it is for
you and just taste that down as much as you can. Until you can leave the
bad situation you're in. >> Bobby? What is your
fascination and your obsession? >> His is figure
skating, what is yours? >> Ranch dressing. [laughter] >> We had the most beautiful
pizza today, wood-burning oven, real Barada, tomatoes the most
airy, fluffy leaves of basil and this one's like I
want a bowl of ranch. [laughter] >> Now were growing up? Growing up honestly I
put my passion in music. I love to sing, I
love being in bands. It's a lot of times
were queer kids end up. Everybody is so accepting
and loving the matter who you are what you are. Now my passion is
really the environment. I'm the one going around onset
making sure things are recycled and vacation were not
wasting electricity. If we don't stop
what we're doing to our planet literally
nothing helps. For me it's the environment. That's my passion. [cheering] >> Ali Steinberg
American University pride. >> That's a fantastic name. Age 20. When doing so much
emotional pay attention! [crosstalk] >> I'm getting a workout appear. >> Ali Steinberg
American University. When doing so much
emotional labor for people on the show how do you leave
enough time and emotional energy for yourself and your family? The question I wonder after every episode I
watched, when I figure it . >> When I figured out
I'll let you know. We are exhausted. For me it's like
a pocket of joy. It used to be that my
old minimum of recouping after doing people here
in the salon that day, s and I was go home,
order something gorgeous and don't leave until Monday. Saturday, Sunday,
Monday just wrecked. Now that pocket of alone time is from three hours
instead of the weekend. It shorter I have to
condense it honey. You tube figure skating
live with cats go to sleep. Yoga! What about you? >> It's easier to answer the
things that bring me joy before that I long for now that I
fantasize while I'm filming. >> I did not realize are
going in this direction. [laughter] >> It doesn't have
to be sexual ! Self-care for me is
actually sitting down and reading a book
or just sitting down. >> I'm a Pisces and
a level bath. >> Please try to take only one
once a week it wastes a lot of water. [laughter] >> Isn't the bath
better than the shower? That whole plastic thing
the whole straw thing honey, I was so scared. The bathroom is very important
to have my float in my soul to my records and
that's another big one. >> How long do so? >> I get super pretty
nice day for an hour. When it starts to get
really cold that's when it's time to get out. >> You don't add water? >> In Japan our bathtub
self regulated its heat. >> I just for myself
so badly and that. My Google translate would
not work on the button. Honey I was scorched. Wow! But they were
electric honey! [laughter] >> Not necessarily
from ending episode but just my life
has come to we get to experience incredible
nights like this where we get to share our stories
and everything. The time spent with family, my
family have neglected so much since the show came out and
that's one of the sacrifices about having a life like this
is that when I have five minutes to just even check in
with my sister needs to feel guilty I stop
calling her for a while. What I realize now is
even if I called her and I literally have two
minutes in a car about to get out what is going to call
you tell you I love you. Now tell me about all
the medical issues that your cats having endeavor
issues with the kid or whatever. Tell me normal things. Little pocket like that to
connect with loved ones. >> We have a common theme we
only have very little time, but we are usually away
from her loved ones animal with my husband a lot. But what brings me so
much joy is being at home. If I had three days
off I will sit on myself will with
my husband and . >> You always Insta
story when you do. >> I love to cook and bake so
spend the majority of my day in the kitchen and sat on
the couch and set my husband and I don't want to
talk to anyone else. I just want to watch . >> You love nature. >> He wears TiVos willingly. >> I'm so granola when I'm
in Utah you have no idea. >> Granola! >> Bobby a way to get
in on the question and I have five minutes
of lightning round. >> Season one and season
two there were many nights where I would come home
and cry because it was so emotionally overwhelming and
the connection to see us make with our heroes are real. And again they are -
years of connections that are condensed
down to you minutes. There's a lot had to work out
myself and my own feelings on how to deal with that, motions I tucked away
for so many years. I find that keeping myself
tethered to the things that I did before, making
sure I'm spending time with my husband, the hikes,
spending time with friends that have been there
for me and family. If your family is not there, your friends that
are your family. Spending time in making sure
that you're making those moments with people you love the most,
that's how you keep grounded. I also love orange theory. >> You love to do
physical activity. He does! [laughter] >> What I want from each
of you and I say this now so that you can think of
your answer, but at the end of the show there is always
the Q eer Eye hip tip. Maybe give one that has been
on the show preferably one that has not been on the show and I will start
with you Jonathan. >> You just want hip tip? Just explained to
you what this is? I'm sorry I was zoning out. >> On the fly hip tip. >> If you need a
minute I have got it. >> The items in your closet or
saving for a special occasion, why saving that special
occasion? Don't want to feel
special every day? [applause] >> Where that ball gown to work! >> My issue is when is the
Queen actually inviting her over for tea? Probably never so use that
tedious for another occasion. >> I figured mine out. >> Where prom down to Class. >> If it makes you happy
it can't be that bad. Cheryl Crow! [laughter] >> I will do my hip tip but
pretend this is a haircolor box. Thinking about doing a
box of color at home. No you're not. And then those who spend
now is going to staying here for the four years we grew out. Your wallet and everyone
around you will say thank you so much put it down away
from the haircolor isle. [applause] >> This is literally not
a wives tale in nice had so many ugly headlights
because people live. Once your hair has had haircolor
on it in their it's not though, it was four months
ago it's gone. No it's not. Four months is up. My hair, my link right here
that is three years of hair. You need to think about that. If you do not have money for
your whatever you want to have that ruin the permanent line. It's a nightmare and
expensive to get rid of it. Are you still watching? [laughter] >> Bobby? >> My hip tip is
passionate is in my home? What are the trends? Screw trends. Find the one item you love if
that item really brings you joy as Marie conduit says
it's a big inclination that it's a design direction
and you should do it. Find the item you love
and go from there. >> It's Bobby's one
item policy honey. >> His one item was cat stuff. >> I'm kind of thinking
a special -year-old girl who is here. >> Sally. Where is Sally? [applause] >> Thinking about what it was like when I was years old I
was living in West Virginia and I used to bring
these lunches to school my mother
would take great pride and care in making lunch. [crosstalk] >> Come here Sally! >> It's happening,
it's happening! [applause] >> You could have
tripped you ran there! >> I apologize for my breath. I think back about what it was
like being in West Virginia and I would see the
difference between the kids who have lunches in
the kids who did not. I remember how much it
affected me and it was only - years later that I
started thinking about it and thinking I had
the opportunity to actually give weather
was have my sandwich or half of my meal and I
did not do that. I thought about it but I
was too embarrassed to do it when I was 12 years old. And these kids often
the didn't have lunch at school I can only imagine
what they had or didn't have for breakfast or dinner. If you're in a position
where you can share your food with somebody, you may never
know what effect will have on their lives, but I think it's
a really important thing to do. [laughter] >> Share your food! Enke for coming to say hi to us. us. [cheering] >> Thanks Sally. That's a great way to end this. Jonathan, Bobby, Antoni Kaz. Thank you so much for
putting up with us. [applause] >> It was really fun.
