Brittany Cartwright Spills the Tea about Reality Tv and Navigating life!

yay networks hi there I'm Nia Sanchez and you may recognize me as Miss USA and first runner up at Miss Universe well there is so much more to me than the sash the crown the dresses the chicken cutlets and the buck Glo yep that's a real thing and we'll get into that later I am a fourth degree blackbell a women's self-defense instructor a mother and a wife to my amazing co-host Daniel booko we are keeping it real as we dig into relationshipss parenting confidence self-defense travel all the joys and struggles that come with living this beautiful thing we call life so pull up a chair and throw your hair in a messy bun as we chat with all types of Life experts so make sure to like follow subscribe and look out for hold my crown wherever you listen to your favorite podcast welcome back to another episode of hold my crown I'm here with Britney cartright hello than for welcome yay I'm so glad you're here so I just had to change your last name to match your last name on your Instagram profile so we're all good to go straightened up in my phone yes I was like what name do I say right now I took that off of my Instagram bio like a month ago yeah and of course everybody noticed instantly it became like a thing but I never actually legally changed my last name to couchy it's always been cartright but I put that on there because when we had Cruise right um his Instagram little handle was like @ little Bab couchy and everybody was like where did couchy come from right nobody had any idea cuz it's Jack's Taylor which in reality he's Jason couchy oh my go but he goes by his stage name Jax Taylor so I just feel like it was so confusing and I didn't want Cruz to be the only one that was like using it but like now I'm like he's about to be a cart right don't act right you got to do what you got to do girlfriend and then even with Michelle who also was on the show with us I I told her I was like I need to change your last name my phone I haven't done that yet either yeah we got to got to get that right get that fixed pronounced I think sunny sunny ey Sunny ey I was trying to practice I need I was like girl I am so country you're going to have to tell me how to pronounce that last name 20 million times exactly we'll get it eventually yeah so um I need toix it's really pretty last night it is pretty so we got to get that all situated but Brittany um I feel like my pageant audience unless they watch reality TV might not know all about you so I want to kind of give like a little mini intro but I would love for you to give more of the intro because obviously you know you you've been living your whole life um but what I know and from our friendship really has started in LA but I know you're from Kentucky and that's one of the first things we connected on yes because well I want to I have a question for you so let's first have you tell me about you and then I have a question for you about how we first met okay um well yes I'm from Kentucky I moved in to LA in goly it's been nine years now almost on on the fourth of July it'll be be 10 years oh my gosh so I literally packed up my little Ultima coup and drove it cross country by myself and drove to a Fourth of July party at Sheena Shay from V pump rues really house and that's where like Jax and everybody was at having a party at her parents house oh fun and I just drove all the way across the country stopped and partied at her house all night and that was my first day living in la oh my gosh um yeah so then ever since then I've been on vayer pump rules I I started Vayner pump rules on season 4 was on for Five Seasons um did a peacock show like watch with Jackson Britney did a bunch of different jobs and things and here and there commercials and different stuff that's been really fun and then now of course we have the valley yay I love it now so sheena's parents house is that the one that Summer's birthday party was at last year that was her aunt's house that's her aunt's house yeah but it's in that same kind of area okay got it got it isua is where they're from so she's from Sheena is definitely more local yeah the no one in La is local so she's one of the like actual California she's actually from a the valley like not really ours this Valley a valley a valley in Southern California in the LA area exactly yeah crazy so yeah that's kind of my story I love it so I wonder if you remember like what do you remember for when we first met do you have any memories of when we first met um I just well I do remember ja coming home from the football game and being like I really think that you're going to love um Danny Nia was Miss USA like telling me like all about you and like all this and I was like oh my God yes I would love to meet them and then I just whenever I did meet you I just thought you were so sweet and we kind of like instantly clicked over different things and you were just like you remind me even though you are you've been here for a long time as well but you remind me a lot of my friends back home like how like honest and real and like sweet you are so you just felt more you felt like a piece of home even though you were in La a I love that I feel like that's probably how you feel to everybody because you are like the most kind warm welcoming person than that's what I tell anybody about like oh they say how was your experience when you like Jack and Britney and I instantly remember so I met you on New Year's Eve at your house that was like the first time Asher was 6 weeks old like all wrapped up all little snuggly little so you been to my parties like right after having the baby literally after having the baby and every day since like all the parties but um and we were talking about about pageants and you had said that You' done pageants before and then we talked about Kentucky and the Miss USA that year was from Kentucky and then you told me how you worked at hoers and she had worked at Hooters and there was like all these like fun like touch points of connection and then yeah you're just so welcoming and even everybody else in the group I remember meeting so many other people that were from like the Vander pump show and all of that and everybody was nice but you were the one that actually made me feel welcome yeah I love that okay so I have a few kind of reality TV questions because it's your world that you've been in for so long and it's new to me it's crazy it is crazy and like especially this like second to last episode and this when this episode of hold my crown comes out the most recent episode we'll have just aired on Tuesday we come out on Wednesday so craziness we might touch on that later but in general reality TV World um what is like well let's let me say your second to worst moment on TV thank you for not making me talk about my worst moment we don't want to talk about everyone who knows who I am knows what that is yeah we don't want to talk about it second to worst moment like something that was like crazy or hard or awkward or whatever and then like your most fun or silly memory golly there's been so many um I think one of the toughest memory or toughest times on the show oh gosh I mean there's so many different things that are like coming to my mind but also that's been nine years of my life so it's like hard to you kind of forget you filmed and like a lot of times these things will pop back up on I'll get tagged on Instagram and I'm like I completely forgot that I filmed thatt I completely forgot that was a part of the episode whatever yeah um so yeah that was obviously we know what the hardest part was for me and then something else that was hard to watch back was uh whenever I was getting married this is a kind of a rough topic too but whenever I was getting married a lot of people didn't agree with the pastor that I had from Kentucky and I got a lot of like hate because that wasn't about me and I was kind of being looked at in a light that about things that I never said so um that was like really hard for me cuz a lot of times people don't understand that you don't know every single thing that happens you know but I tried to fix it I ended up having Lance Bass marry me it was like from insync so that was so that was like the best thing ever how do you know him um I met him through like Lisa Vander pump and the whole thing so yeah he married me and Jack it's such a small world married me he was ining Mary Britney I love it he was my judge at Miss USA yeah oh my gosh see everything is connected yeah we're all connected yeah I think that was just a hard time because it's like coming from Kentucky and then living in La the everything is very different and I'm I'm sure you understand this but it also like I felt like it wasn't a reflection of me it was just you know kind of like things that were going on in the media and stuff and that could be so hard because I think the hardest part about being on a reality show is whenever people judge your character without even knowing the real you totally and I feel like I've never shown any side of me other other than like being caring and love for everybody everything so that can be difficult yeah totally and the thing is even with like and I feel like I've heard you and Jax talk about this on your show as well we film for hours but like a minute makes it on the show literally 1 minute out of 1 hour maybe so it's like and it's the juiciest parts of that minute exactly so there's so much that people don't get to know from behind the scenes like we share things on social media and you know we have our interaction with people in real life but there's so much that someone might assume about you the assumptions is exactly where where I was going to that can be like super hard and I know a lot of people are facing that right now even with the valley so you know it could be troubling but at the end of the day I know who I am everybody knows who I am and I feel like I proved myself no matter what you know absolutely and the thing is like over the years I think hopefully people look at the big picture of what's shown they that's not like who you are as and I believe that people can have bad moments and doesn't mean that they're a bad person 100% overall I you know me I and we're probably very similar like I get people the benefit of the doubt and I like you do so many times as well so it's like people have bad moments doesn't mean they're a bad person yes it is what it is I'm like the queen of given second and third chances sometimes it comes back to bite me but I try you know I always try to stay positive in every situation so and then you don't have regets like I wish I would have tried one more time like you tried and now you know yeah okay I tried enough exactly exactly many a situations there's always a Breaking Point yes um best part yeah fun moment silly moment I heard when you did your episode with Michelle the stories you were telling about the like Shak cuner board and everything yeah I had never heard of what a shakery board was so that was crazy I mean there's been so many funny things that I look back on like I crack up whenever I watch myself um at my bachelorette party in Miami and we were all wearing these like huge extravagant tacky wedding dresses and I'm like freaking out cuz somebody brought a sign out that said like it was like the bottle service girls like holding up a sign and it said Britney don't do it and I took it personally and this was at a night club and I took it personally and I just started like crying and I was like let's get out of here I can't believe that I did that I would do that probably yeah like I actually took it personally instead of like as a joke oh I would have taken it personally yeah so we go home and we go back to the hotel and I'm like crying in my huge wedding dress and like putting my head down on the table I laugh about it now cuz it's like such funny TV you know things like that like I have to like laugh about my gosh but that that was one that was so funny um you know I was watching a clip the other day like talking about May Mo's beer cheese for so long and just like how we like really didn't know anything and Jax was like acting like he's going to run the business and can't figure anything out I mean there was so many hilarious moments that we filmed oh my God it it's hard to talk about not really hard to talk about now but my wedding was like the my favorite thing that was ever filmed cuz it was like my dream wedding it was in Kentucky at the castle that I always wanted to get married at I knew since I was a little girl I would get married there and I got to like bring everybody to Kentucky show everybody how beautiful Kentucky was and that was like really special to me oh that is so special I love that and it is so special that you have these memories captured that you can look back on cuz even with the valley I'm watching these episodes and the girls are like five and six weeks old so little even Cruz looks like so little to me like he's gotten so much bigger so I mean time flies yeah there's that's the one of the great Parts like I have my engagement on there I have my wedding on there I have like whenever I came to La for the first time on there like first time I ever met Lisa Vander pump first time I met like all my friends and it's like it's really cool to see you kind of watch me grow up in La a little bit yeah absolutely oh my gosh I feel like the Vander pum people have so grown up on TV like I cannot imagine having those years and like you know drunk nights and things that moments that I've had that I wouldn't want to be televised to the whole country and more oh yeah oh my gosh but that's what makes a good TV show is whenever you're super honest and open and real and you're not trying to hide things cuz like it always will come out yeah and that's something that you told me when we first started filming you were like you don't need to watch other shows to try to figure out who you want to be or how you want to be just being you and I I took that advice and I was like coolly going to be me and hope it works out and I told that to every single person that came new this season I was like be yourself you know no matter what don't try to like fake scenes or do anything like that cuz it will show on a TV and I felt like I was so proud of all the new cast members cuz you guys all did such a great job and like really like showed your life like Jesse and Michelle are being so good like they had a life coach on like you know everybody's doing great so like showing those like deep moments like yeah I could be personal and like feel like oh my God I can't believe I'm doing this but so many people relate to that it's so true and then I don't know about you because I'm sure you've cried on camera before I obviously have cried on camera we've all seen that in episode one right off the bat but like I feel so in the moment I felt so awkward after crying because I'm like this how I'm really feeling and I'm really sad but like oh this is going to be on TV obviously I was postpartum hormonal I ex did a lot of and because it was everything that I was feeling in the moment but then after I'm like oh gosh this is going to be on [Music] TV know the Sunday scaries even if you're not drinking it's real it doesn't have to be Sunday you know it's whenever but I feel like that's that's kind of what you do and also it goes by so fast you kind of forget what you say how you acted and then the next day you're kind of like oh my gosh what did I do why was I crying what this what was that but you know it's real emotions and real things and you literally had just had twin baby girls and started filming right after so I gave you all the props for that thank you crazy they always talk about my break in between bner pump and the valley and I was like you know that was kind of tough to not be on the show for a while but at the same time I'm glad I had that time with Cruz and not had like dealing with postpartum I had gained so much weight and I was like I give so much props to like Shea going through that and you knowz Lala bounced right back but me and Shea both had a little bit of things that we were going through yeah um so like I give all the props to you guys for being able to do that on on TV and going through all the emotions that you're feeling on top of it it's wild yeah I don't know what we were thinking but I'm glad we did it at the end of it but in the moment I was like what are we doing but also I I also want to give credit to you because I feel like the only reason not the only reason but the like convincing Factor was you talking to me because like you know Jax and you both brought it up to me and Daniel in like the begin of like hey let's do this together like we're all friends like let's film do something fun in the summer and then I was so we're both so on the fence and I feel like you telling me like hey it's just us friends we'll film we'll have a good time like it'll be memories that we're going to create that like was like the thing that just kind of like took us over the edge like okay we're going to do it thank you yeah Jack tries to take all the credit and I'm like I went to everybody individually and tried to convince them to do it and make them see all the positives yes that was happening so thank you for pointing that out everyone listen there was multiple conversations and then and you also like really reassured me and you always told me like I'll I'll be here for you if you have any questions if you need anything and of course I was so nervous I've never done anything like this I've been on a pageant stage but this is just a completely different experience it's so different and you know I'll always be here for any questions and anything you have you know you're got one season down now though so you're you're starting to figure it out okay I have one more like General reality TV question and then we can kind of wrap up with the fan questions from Instagram okay so did you watch reality shows before you met Jack like what shows did you watch and when you knew you were going to start filming theer pup did you like do research and prepare or you just go into it like how give me the the background okay so I've been asked this question so many times I did not know who Jax was when I met him I didn't know who any of the Vander Pumpers were I met Katie I'll tell the story really fast I was um in Vegas my best friend Cara have you met her oh yeah you went to Mother's Day with us she lives in Vegas now and her birthday is May sheena's birthday is May 7th so I was in Vegas for Cara's birthday Jax and the whole crew was in Vegas for sheena's birthday we happen to be at a bar in Old Vegas called The Gold Spike or something it had like life-size Jenga and all these things and Cara noticed Katie and wanted to take a photo because Carol watches V pump watch Vander pump rules so I go over there and I take a photo of her and Katie together which is like so funny because they ended up being my mate of honor and my matron of honor cuz it was like Katie who we met first um and then Schwarz came over they were so nice they were asking us about our accents whatever we go to the bar to take a shot that's whenever Jax came up to me and like that's how we met whatever that's how we met so a lot of people like always wondered how that happened I forgot what your original question was I you cuz that was part of the question like the story like when you guys first met but then also like did you watch reality TV before like what shows did you watch kind of growing up like what other shows have you seen so I definitely did not know who they were Cara obviously told me after I started hanging out with Jack my mom knew all that but I didn't watch Vander pump I didn't really I didn't watch any Housewives not really any Bravo show sorry Bravo love you now but um I didn't really watch any Bravo shows back then it was more like I love TLC so like I loved like Trading Spaces and like all the interior design show watch John and K plus 8 I watched John and K plus 8 a little bit I also used to watch like um Jersey Shore yes and the hills Hill yes the hills you know I thought it was so cool whenever I came to Viner pump the same production company did the hills that did mine and I got to meet them all so like for me that was like a full circle kind of moment I was like this is crazy you know lagona beach stuff like that but that was about it I wasn't like crazy into reality TV but I love the TLC shows like they're so funny yes I watch those two and I watched like the Jersey Shore for like a few seasons and all of that so I feel like we have very similar things but I never watched the bander pump yeah my mom did I feel like at that point it was like older people kind of more on to Bravo and now it's kind of gotten a little bit more of a younger crowd watching you know toally totally yeah it's really quick episode okay Capri oh yeah dinner I feel like we can just touch on it and then okay so like what were you you knew kind of what was going on in Capri the Capri dinner I had no idea when people started yelling I was just like Homer Simpson like that like me when he's like backing into like the fence because he's like what is happening so I was just kind of like Jaw on the floor he like why are all these people yelling where is all this drama coming from because when we had the girls night I was in the house crying yeah so I missed all the comments that were happening so like give me like your perspective in it because I was just like not present for anything I think that it was just because Kristen had brought it up at the party out of the out of thin air kind of like the girl night the girls night party cuz she I I know for sure she felt back into the corner and she wanted to take the pressure off of Alex being invited to the guys night or whatever off so she just kind of like blurted out these things that she shouldn't have and I'm sure she instantly regretted it like Kristen I love Kristen she has a great heart and I know I'm sure she instantly regretted it because it like it was kind of a betrayal to Michelle you know so then whenever we're at the Capri party um it just was like the elephant in the room yeah and everybody was still fuming off of it I think everybody had a chance to like think about it and be like what had happened last night Michelle was in shock a little bit like she didn't really know how to take it she was like where is this coming from and then Janet wasn't even at the party so name was brought into yeah her name was brought into it so Janet sitting here thinking that she said the racist word I hate even having to talk about it but it was brought up so and um and whenever Janet's doing that FaceTime she was actually thinking like I never said that yeah you know so it was a game of telephone that needed to be like fixed and that's what I really wanted was I'm always trying to smooth things over fix bring people admit what you did say you're Sor and let's move on um and then I feel like at the party it was a lot of I'm sorry but and then it just kept boiling up boiling up boiling up yeah yeah I mean it was wild and I remember my blood was like running so hot I was like you're you're kind of your heart is racing and you're like it was so intense and and I feel like when everybody is watching it they can see how intense it was but it doesn't to me doesn't translate as intense it was in the room I mean it just felt like I love that they had the sounds of the Crickets in the background because it was like it was so intense like you're saying and I mean it was just it was just a lot and I was also so confused by a lot of things because even though we were living it I was like where is this coming from why is this being brought up and also like who's actually saying what cuz nobody was like owning up to what they had said at that point you know so it was a lot of back and forth a lot of like going around and like nobody was really owning up to everything fully exactly just a little bit here and there but nobody really knew what was going on exactly and then also one thing I didn't know about Janet was that she could be so spicy because I remember her like snapping at Kristen and like getting so intense like yelling at her and I was like whoa Janet and like you know that because you're like closer with her and I became closer with her through filming and like I've known her and loved her but I've always just seen like the sweet soft Jan she was mad because she felt like her name was brought into it anybody would [Music] be I have a few questions from the fans that we'll kind of wrap up with and I really like there was one that was phrased really well okay um so this is from loli Jenna Gina and she says what changed within her within you to help find her peace and voice in her marriage because obviously you know I feel like I've heard you mention like something happened there was like a big moment but like before that I feel like you had to have found that strength and that peace like what kind of changeed there yeah I mean there had been so many things it w like I know I've talked about this like one big fight that made me like actually pack my stuff up and get out of there but this had been piling on me for a couple for a while like it did yeah that one fight was my Breaking Point but I feel like I was just like things had just been piling up piling up piling up but also I think Cruz gave me my strength like after becoming a mom and like noticing that was like so important and I didn't want him to be in living in a toxic situation like I wanted him to grow up in a happy home no matter what are you going to cry going cry you just going to cry I'm trying not to cry um it's just I mean yeah it's your child and that's like what he sees as like love and you want him to see a healthy strong beautiful love exactly and me and have so much love for each other and I still love him dearly but like I cannot let my son grow up watching that and thinking that's normal like what if he grows up and then thinks that that's normal for his own relationship like he doesn't deserve that so I feel like I got all my strength from him honestly and I just knew that that you know he was worth it and I deserved better and you know I just kind of just like got way stronger all of a sudden and like was able to I always say that like it was like a veil was lifted and started to notice everything that was wrong and everything that I was putting up with and just letting slide I'm I'm very I try to be a very positive person all the time so for me it was like we would get an argument and then he would say he was sorry and I would like let it go and try to like move past it but like internally you're like just adding that stuff in into your mind and into your heart and like it's like it'll bubble over if you don't like face things and that's what I had been doing for so long like letting things slide taking up for him all the time for him all the time cleaning up his messes all the time like that like weighs on a person it does and I feel like just from what you're sharing even right now like if and when things were to work out you have you guys have so much to work through because it's been piling up but it hasn't been processed or actually dealt with exact just been pushed so like if you can process it and all the things you said you have a I you know heard many interviews and we talked like you have a few things that you're like hey these need to happen if that happens you still have things to work through to get to a healthy point but I'm glad that youly you have that strength and that makes perfect sense that you're baby of course of course you're baby you want your child I would hope I think most mothers and fathers that want their child to grow up in a happy healthy household and Jax wants that too like you know he's a great father it's just we were not working it was just not a good living situation anymore it was like I was living with a roommate that I was also fighting with who wants to do that no no thanks no thank you all right so last question is from Mrs Edith Foster and it says how do you balance being a M and working cuz you're doing all the things like you're so busy and you're an incredible mother thank you that means a lot to me um I just think I've always putting Cru first and then like just trying to work hard on everything I else that I do while I can like you know you have to have a balance and luckily me and Jacks are doing really good with co-parenting so like if I'm busy um I can drop them off over there he'll watch them if he's doing something he'll drop them off to me um you know and also I have Cruis in a lot of activities and certain things so it's like if he's sleeping I'm like working on my or I'm doing ads or I'm like doing this taking interviews doing this this that like it just depends but you know as a mom you just kind of fit it in honestly I just go with the flow I don't really have like a secret recipe or anything like that like everybody parents so different and for me it's just like take every single day as it comes I feel like that sounds like you're saying you're flexible I'm F you have to be with kids I get it I get it oh my gosh same here it's like Mayhem over here and we just got to go with the flow and make it work exactly yeah okay so where can people find you on social media um on social you can find me at Brittney b r t t n y I love that I'm like so jealous you just got your name nothing else that's incredible it was a random night I was lucky I had already been um verified under ATB in cartright and just one night I was over at saucy's house and I was just like hm let me see if Britney's available and it was available that night so I called my publist and it had not been available ever it was like something was telling me to check it out so I called my publicist not cuz when you're verified you had to get it changed so like I got it changed and I was Britney it was crazy people can't believe how I got that jealous so happy for you okay so at Britney thank you so much for being here on the whole my podcast and we'll be back next week with another episode see you later guys yay Networks

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Published: Wed Apr 10 2024