Best Motivational Speech Compilation EVER - POWERFUL | 2 Hours of the Best Motivation

failure is a step to success falling down is a step to success losing is a step to success pain is a step to success but quitting is not never give up on what you really want to do this is the instinct that says you've had enough this is the instinct that says you've given it your best shot you can you can stand down you can back off you can take a knee don't stop when you're tired stop when you're done we are relentless we are powerful we are forward thinkers we are the generation of hard workers innovators and creators and these are the ones who network never surrender and never quit on our goals this is the instinct that says do not listen to that instinct do not listen that instinct is a liar and wants to bring you down you don't judge a person by where they stand in times of comfort and convenience you judging by where they stand in times of challenge and controversy when you work for something and give you a different type of attachment to it the harder you work the harder it is to surrender as long as we're willing to put the work in we will get there in the end as long as we never quit they stomp on pretty mine so what's the pretty in mind let's say it's day one of a job interview we all know what that feels like you have your clothes laid out you got your [ __ ] food ready to go in the morning you've been prepared for weeks two weeks a week and show up and you bring your best self get the [ __ ] job merry [ __ ] Christmas all right that's a couple months you start showing up to work a little later you don't look as good your clothes aren't [ __ ] laid out your breakfast isn't ready your minds getting softer we do that [ __ ] everything in life we're new yours coming up guess what don't have a [ __ ] quitting mind repetition every day stay hard and if you ain't got more heart than me if you ain't been looking harder than me if you ain't sacrifice more than me I'm gonna destroy you and I'm not retreating I'm not running I don't care what they say on paper I don't care how many games you want I don't care if you say we outnumber we live by this and we die by this we don't retreat we don't run every man my searches also the biggest battle you will fight is with yourself this battle will never go away it's a fight you will have to battle for the rest of your life you are the only person that can get yourself back up but you're also the only person that can lie down and allow yourself to be defeated don't fail yourself today quitting is never an option don't fail yourself today is it so many of our limitations are self-imposed mm-hmm you know and we sets we set something up in our brain we program our brain one way and that's our limit and until we can get past that and see what we're really made of and like get uncomfortable and experience pain you can't real you don't really don't know what you're capable of when you feel you've exhausted every option remember you haven't if I could count the amount of times I was told no though I created the mentality in my head of taking no as no not right now not no this isn't for you if I had given up after the first time I had said no I wouldn't be here and so it just you know not letting someone dictate your future if you believe in something so strongly and you want to do something so strongly who's gonna tell you to not do it there's never a failure unless you quit so if you keep going there's not a failure just keep changing and moving the person with big dreams is more powerful than the person with all the facts but it's not so much about the opposition and adversity that we face as it is about the perspective that we have about the opposition and adversity that we face meaning perspective drives performance every day of the week how do you view what you do will always affect how you do what you do don't stop when you're tired stop when you are done once a quitter always a quitter prove them wrong you are relentless you will never stop this isn't a game to you this is life or death people don't burn out because of what they do people burn out because life makes stuff forget why they do it character supersedes talent every bit of week no retreat no surrender you never we die by this everyman my searches on a soul at a certain point don't let your actions betray your words you are not going to give up because of a little pain you won't quit because of a bad situation it isn't in your nature to give up on this you don't stop in your time you stop when you're done you stop when you get the job done you finish when you have done enough work to make progress a little pain along the way is your rite of passage it is the battle scars of the successful the marks of a warrior who succeed at this adventure through life what will your scars say about you how many battles will you pull through to come out the other side a winner come out the other side and ultimate version of yourself never give up on what you really want to do and they'll say it's not your fault and they'll tell you it's okay to stop it's okay to settle it's okay to give up [Music] and that is the instinct you need to fight you need to push back to smash into the ground do not take the easy way out you think that successful people have some lucky charm well let me tell you something I woke up this morning I couldn't find my [ __ ] lucky charm I and other successful people wake up every day doing the same thing fighting fighting back against the distractions the fears the doubts do not give up based on instinct if you are forced to stand down to retreat so that you can rebuild Andrea tack so be it and we learn over time we build into a habit to spend more time having control instead of more time being out of control it does matter but make that decision based on logic not on the instinct of surrender and defeat opposition adversity challenge never forget why you do what you do I'm not talking about college I'm not talking about when you first got to the lead and you got drafted I'm talking about you is coming up using the street or use at the paw and your mom had to go sacrifice and work so you get your pair clean and talking about that bite is everybody on remember that your will and desire to win are greater than anybody else's I know you are aware of how bad you want this I know you are aware of what you would give to succeed I know you want this I know it is all you want I know what you would give for this so do it show it prove it show the world kill them that anything you can dream up can become your reality success is getting back up and learning from these Falls learning from the pain and the losses success lies and getting back to your feet and trying again how does a young kid with its Liam and I believe in himself and for many times I laughed I did not believe the input you know what nothing external can can can defeat the internal the only girl that can take someone down or break you down as internal nothing external is strong enough it's just about making sure your internal dialogue in your internal belief and just have a strong enough that it can withstand the external the external is there you've got to accept it you've got to embrace it you've got to understand that and be aware but don't let it seep into into your internal dialogue don't fail yourself today for most people man you could be great but you haven't even pulled a strip off the activator right like you can be great but you live alone reserved right you didn't you didn't empty the bucket right you didn't give everything you had to every aspect of your life like for most people they're great professionally but they end up becoming a public success and behind closed doors they're private failure not because they don't have the talent or the skill set they don't have the character right that they can apply it and be consistent in every aspect of their life and empty out everything they got to everything right of course you don't just give everything you've got all the time right you get to a point to where you learn to be efficient and effective in every aspect of your life and for most people is not a problem of skill set that's a problem with character and empty the bucket is having the right character to be consistent and empty out everything you got in every aspect of your life [Music] there was a lot of moments in my life career it was people that saw things in me that I couldn't see in myself and they believed in me in a way that I couldn't believe in myself yet and I rented their level but for me it's how I got strong enough to possess my own I [Music] just like when you're young and see you and it's like even when you start out doing what you do it you can be talented right and somebody older than you are more experienced than you can see you in know like oh man if he did this if he does this and he could be great right and they can come to your sake they came and got something you could be great by it like my teachers and my coaches when they came to me and like son telling you to go to college man like you really I know you're talking about it but your circumstances are saying different I think you can do it right and when they said it I'm like oh I can I can do it but not gonna make it happen because they're believing in me making it happen I think I can do it like I think we show you think that's powerful I think exposure sparks inspiration by exposure its parts motivation and my mindset can never go back to the way that it once was because I have been exposed to something different to something new so I think belief an exposure or two of the most powerful things that can happen to a person like when you're young or when you do something in your novels right and you start out doing it and you might think you can do something with it or you might not you might do it and it's being driven by your passion and then somebody comes alone that's a little bit older or even more experienced and they can see it in a way that you can't see it right and so I think is important with belief because if a person believes in you in a way that you don't believe in yourself you can rent that person's belief until you get strong enough to possess your own right and you use that person's belief to feel you every single day right because you can have a level of belief with what you're doing but you can go back to a certain set of circumstances that tell you now it's not gonna happen and so you read that person's belief until you get strong enough to possess your own I firmly believe every person's purpose is tied to somebody else's purpose in destiny and so your purpose my purpose is tied to somebody else like when I speak when I do what I do like people say all it may man I really need to be here that right that helped me do this that helped get me through this that helped me with this that's my purpose being tied to other people's purpose destiny beliefs and dreams that's the power magic of purpose right I don't think it can be a purpose without being tied to other people's purpose destiny dreams and aspirations right I think that's the power in it but realizing it is another thing the only thing I felt I had that advantage in my whole life was my work ethic and I took pride in that right I was never the biggest the fastest the strongest never had the most resources but I had a workout thing I think what's most important is when we go through something what's the perspective that we have up right because for most people when you go through something the person's natural perspective is okay what did I lose right what happened to me like I took a loss right people never look at it and say okay man tell me what did you gain right even though I know it hurt you didn't want to go through it but look at it in a way to where you can say what's the lesson than this right what would you say life is trying to teach you from dealing with this and affirm you believe the quicker you can shift your perspective from yourself to others when you're in the midst of adversity the quicker you'll get through it I think I think having a purpose it's that thing that that makes us tick that gets us up every day and gets us over the hump of opposition and adversity and a reason that I champion adversity in opposition is because I think for the most part in life people pretty much know what to do when things go right right like when things go right they know how to feel they know how to act how to react but it's when that opposition and that versity comes and it creates a level of misunderstanding right now the vision is blurred now you don't have clarity about what you're supposed to do now you question if your existence matters and I think when you have a purpose it's powerful because in the midst of the Opposition it makes you realize that you've been put here for certain reason [Music] this too shall pass right the reason I would say that is like I said I champion diversity all right we know what to do when things go right but the next time it gets tough the next time you question your purpose the next time you question your existence your mission if you're supposed to be doing what you're doing and it gets tough and challenging just whisper to yourself this too shall pass this too shall pass if you actually want something you can have it you have to treat yourself like you matter because if you don't then you don't take care of yourself and you become vengeful and and and cruel and you you take you take it out on people around you and you're not a positive force none of that's good so you suffer more and so does everyone around you and there's a malevolence that enters into it none of that's good so that's what happens if you don't treat yourself like you matter the first thing I would say is well you should be afraid of taking risks and pursuing something meaningful one of the main reasons that people don't get what they want is because they don't actually figure out what it is and the probability that you're going to get what would be good for you let's say which would even be better than what you want right because you know you might be what wrong about what you want easily but maybe you could get what would really be good for you well why don't you well because you don't try [Music] life is a challenge that in some sense can't be surmounted so there's no way out of your problem but there are certainly proper ways of dealing with it you sit on your bed one day and ask yourself ah what's what remarkably stupid things am i doing on a regular basis to absolutely screw up my life I would say that the goal in life is to conduct yourself so that life improves you should be more afraid of staying where you are if it's making you miserable clock is ticking yeah and if you're miserable in your job now and you change nothing in five years you'll be much more miserable and you'll be a lot older people don't get what they want and they need because they don't aim at it and it's a hard lesson for people to learn because they're cynical to begin with and they presume that there's no possible way of moving forward but it's not so unreasonable to assume that you're not going to hit what you don't aim at or you're not going to hit what you aim at and don't shoot at we're built to contend with the world we're built to contend with reality you want a challenge and the best way that you can take on a challenge because the challenge fortifies you so you don't want to be secure you want to be strong and you get strong by taking on optimal challenges and so you lay out your destiny in the world and you take the slings and arrows of fate and you make yourself stronger while you're doing so and you might fail and fortune might do you in but it's your best bet huge part of the reason that people fail is because they don't ever set up the criteria for success and so since success is a very narrow line and very unlikely the probability that you're going to stumble on it randomly is zero so you want to set yourself a task that's difficult but not so difficult you can't attain it and then what happens is that you step up improvement across time incremental II and there's also a certain element of humility to it right which is don't bite off more than you can chew right don't set grandiose goals but incremental improvement will get you a tremendous distance [Music] [Music] it's a luxury to pursue what makes you happy it's a moral obligation to pursue what you find meaningful and that doesn't mean it's easy it might require sacrifice if you need to change your job to let's say you have family and and and and children and a mortgage you have responsibilities you've already picked up those responsibilities you don't just get to walk away scot-free and say well I don't like my job I quit that's no strategy but what you might have to do is you think well this job is killing my soul all right so what do I have to do about that well I have to look for another job well no one wants to hire me it's like okay maybe you need to educate yourself more maybe you need to update your your curriculum vitae your resume maybe you need to overcome your fear of being interviewed I think what you have to do and this is part of humility is you have to look around you within your sphere of influence like the direct sphere of influence and fix the things that announce themselves as in need of repair and those are often small things you know and they can be like your room put it in order because the thing is it isn't exactly so important that your room is in order although it is what's important is that you learn how to distinguish between chaos and order and to be able to act in a manner that produces order three years from now you can have what you need you got to be careful about it you can't have everything you can have what would be good for you but you have to figure out what it is and then you have to aim at it and when you're in the zone you're expanding your skills in a manner that's intrinsically rewarding because you're succeeding and so you want to set if you are good to yourself you think okay I need to set a goal but I need to set a goal that someone is stupid and useless as me could probably attain if they put some effort into it you know if there are things about your life that are bothering you or things about the world that are bothering you then you want to decompose them into solvable subproblems you can do something as simple as just sit on your bed and think okay there's probably like five things I could do today so that tomorrow morning is slightly better than this morning was at least or at least I'm not falling behind and those will usually be it's like having to eat a toad in the morning right it's like it's not gonna be something you want to do there'll be things you're trying to avoid there's snakes essentially bury yourself to who you were yesterday not to who someone else is today I've dealt with hundreds of people in my clinical and consulting practice and we set a goal we develop a vision and work towards it and it things inevitably get better for people so it's not a luxury it's it's difficult it's a moral responsibility and it isn't happiness it's it's not the pursuit isn't for happiness well greatness is what reveals itself when you when you attempt to formulate when you attempt to carefully articulate and live out what you believe to be true it just happens because there isn't anything more powerful than truth right that's the antidote to suffering truth if you ask yourself instead of telling yourself you know what is it that I could do to set things more right today that I would actually do it's usually some small thing cuz you're not that disciplined you know then you can go do it lay a disciplinary structure on yourself get the chaos in in in check and then you can move towards a state that's freer well what happens if you don't treat other people like they matter well you lie to them you cheat them you steal you you you enter into impulsive relationships with them they can't trust you that doesn't go anywhere they don't like you you you end up alone at best and maybe like incarcerated at worst like that doesn't work and so you watch the people around you who thrive regardless of what they say they act out the proposition that everyone matters if you're hungry and you eat well that's good but it's over and then you're on to the next thing right it's not exactly sustaining it's just necessary that's called consume Ettore reward by the way this other reward system is incentive reward and the incentive reward system works on dopamine this neurochemical dopamine which is also the neurochemical tracks that opiates and cocaine and amphetamines the drugs that people really like to abuse alcohol often for some people activate and so you might say if you don't have enough meaning in your life then you're more prone to addiction and that's definitely the case even with rats if you take a rat you put him in a cage by himself and he has nothing to do and then you give him access to cocaine he'll get addicted to the point where he won't do anything but take cocaine but if you throw the rat back in with a bunch of other rats and he gets to do rap things then it's very hard to get him addicted to cocaine and so the purposeless rat is prone to addiction well it's the same with human beings kind of have this idea that that you have a certain delightful wonderful positive freedom as a child and then that's given up as you approach adulthood but the truth of the matter is is that you have a lot of potential as a child but none of that is capable of manifesting itself as freedom before you become disciplined and discipline is a matter of the imposition of order and the order is necessary especially for people who are hopeless and nihilistic and lots of people are hopeless and nihilistic way more people than you think and part of that is because no one's ever really encouraged them the magnitude of the reward you experience as you're moving towards a goal is proportionate to the importance of the goal so that means the more important the goal you pick the more possibility there is for the kind of reward let's say that it's really a state of being that is life-affirming and it is directly life-affirming in that you know like if you're in a football game and you're and it's an important football game and maybe you break a finger and you know normally that's that's a problem it hurts and you're gonna stop doing whatever you're doing but if you're right in the middle of the game then you'll be so amped up on this reward system that its analgesic it stops the pain it also suppresses anxiety [Music] people that have extracted unbelievable successes out of catastrophic failures and so and I'm not saying that in a naive way I know perfectly well what happens to people you know you're doing fine in life and then you get cancer and then six months later you're dead and all the heroism in the world isn't going to save you at that point but that's not the point that's not the point life is bounded by mortality but that doesn't mean that you don't get out there and contend and you develop by contending and you minimize the net amount of suffering in the world and that's something man that's something to do we're working our ass off working hard you know we've been working out hard in the gym for a month but we haven't seen any results so we get off down there poopy pants you stay for 30 minutes for a test and you do as much talk what do you expect you're not putting in the work you have to do more may because what is your secret man what's your secret about business what you think about this what you think about that you don't want the answer the answer is you see these hands the hard work man yeah they look at suffering as almost like I look at failure to succeed you must fail learn from yourself learn from life learn from your failures learn from your insecurities learn from your self-doubt [Music] the truth of the starting line authentic so who are you what are you standing what do you believe in [Music] there's about successful people in this world who still feel empty inside and they wonder why they still feel empty said trying to make another minute to minute dreaming and spot a new car new house new boat let's buy more everything then the day it's still a few more empty inside for me I would even be successful I still empty so I'll turn the high-ranked securities my doubts always born so all China just up a turn and reach out to us at the turn you're still a turn it's like a turkey get a turkey for Thanksgiving you'll know what you're doing you cooked that mother without going inside or cleaning it out you gotta clean the insides out before you start dressing up same thing with Mike if you don't get inside your soul inside your heart and fix it people are gonna war with yourself it's not magic it's literally you're gonna have to wake up yeah and you're gonna have to sit there and say today is gonna suck and then when that day is over you're gonna wake up the guiness thing yeah the next day's gonna suck you're not putting in the work you have to do more and the only way to see who the baddest [ __ ] is to suffer when you find out who you are us we start living your life don't fit in just for the sake of fitting in in life make sure that you have something to say say it within the suffering go in there and I call it the live autopsy the live box I've seen how you find out someone died they crack you open after you're dead how you can live is do it while you're alive in the only message I'm gonna get across to people is once you change one thing your mindset you can attack everything go back in your brain crack it open while you're alive don't wait until you're dead to figure out why you died do it why you are living go in there go into the suffering go into the pain of your life and say why did this suck for me so bad why am I afraid of all this though it's in these nooks of the suffering within your brain in the scarring or all the answers to why you are on the couch going sideways gasps stop telling yourself that you're doing enough in life is never enough until you feel this overwhelming feeling oh man I'm out working the crowd I'm not working everybody I'm doing more it's not until then once you get there that's when if you know you've got enough in failure in and suffering all the answers are in there all the answers to all the test questions the test is your life all the answers are in there you'd have to live in suffering and pain and failure all the time you have to learn I need to visit it like people hate working out you're only gonna visit working out maybe an hour a day 23 other hours of the day you're not in it but how you become in shape is you must visit suffering visits working out one hour a day all I wanted people to do in my life I care about money i care about Fame I care if you I care about all my followers go away tomorrow I wanted a lot of people that doubted me to look like a Paulo Cree did in that 14th round because I got back up repeatedly [Music] and when you keep on getting back up like that no matter how strong the person this is beating it out of you they eventually look at you and say you know what I'm tired and I just want people to be tired it's funny I walk around for the talk to me that said man that may be silly you have to make your school your you know airforce tank PD the funny thing about it then I think about is if they know that part of me this is the part I don't know about myself I felt the ASVAB test to get the military three times in the Air Force taught pararescue and the seals it took me three times to get through Navy SEAL training this is what I know about me so I'm saying is this you can't live your life being afraid to fail all those failures maybe the success in the day most people who are failing are trying their ass off I don't want to set out so there's an a for good stupid no I want to turn it in a million time you say you failed you failed nice okay Roger that and sit there and analyze what I'm doing wrong never forget the train come on make sure my you do have to do sickness you have to say live don't want me to fetch even be don't be scared to be who you are look at your audience who's criticizing you first of all yeah they're not even in your for yes you don't even talk to me yeah block him out go to these places that people don't go anymore cuz office social media and everything is computerized I want to go to that dark place my - okay how are we gonna get this done when I was tours in 97 pounds and I was bad as hell trying to be a Navy SEAL the scariest thing in the world to me even to this day was that that could have been the rest of my life I thought then I was trying hard sometimes life is [ __ ] hard so when I first joined the Navy I had to join the reserves because I couldn't get an active duty time so fast so being at reservists I got tired a lot of times it's a weekend warrior in the reserves you work one weekend a month two weeks a year a lot of us live our lives that way we can't work out without purpose the biggest purpose in life isn't all that it's how you respect yourself how you look at yourself I see every day for journey you're not working your butt off are you not trying hard enough we all think we're trying hard but what are you engaging that off of in life from office work up ass off trying to get to a better place a place that makes us feel better by ourselves [Music] but guess what happens once you get to the actual an event your mind isn't ready your minds not prepared you've been studying you've been trained you've been working out but your minds not prepared story for you without 19 years old going through the Air Force trying to be a pair of estimate I would do a push-up sit-ups swimming I'll turn off and knocking out the park when the best in the class but a second of obstacle got my way I wasn't prepared for it really so everyday should be getting after it we look at determination I'm self-discipline we look at hardwork all these terms almost like we tread them it was like a punishment those are the biggest words of all time as far as respecting yourself trying hard is something in your mind just doesn't stop only those people who have been there a million times in their minds and have suffered a million times it realized my legs may break my knee may break and accept that I know right now whether you hate me love me I'm gonna come up there some of that whatever you want to think I made it the Washington Bullets select Tyrone votes now they got the call up the shortest Tyrone books he is now the shortest player my ronbo at the age of five you know I got shot blowing up in the city of Baltimore was challenging you know as a kid you know it was a lot of drug infested areas in our neighborhood a lot of shooting a lot of violence unfortunately for me at the age of five you know I got shot you know being outside being at the wrong place at the wrong time my mom and dad was going crazy not knowing that I was outside then knowing that you know I was one of the kids laying out there with a couple bucks shots all over his body was very frightening and scared for them as well as myself but it was a it was our life you know it was a man of growing up I mean no one felt like that no one thought they'd have a life expectancy's past 20 you know and then which was very strange you know knowing that that was the case but that was the mindset back then because we had a lot of guys at a young age time mainly because you know they wanted that fast money they wanted to get into that world a lot sooner and they wonder you know possibly take care of that family as well as to try to provide for them you know for their household so you know people did all sorts of things in terms of try to make ends meet but luckily that we had a game called basketball and in sports you know sports was really a mechanism that kept us really at a safe campus of where gave us a safe haven place to really feel comfortable with that was a way of keeping us you know off the streets keeping our mind you know active in other area as opposed to thinking about you know hey it's time to try to go there and get through those quick dollars you know at that time I had no inkling I know I did that you know I wonder pursue this as a career you know just a hobby it was just something that I wanted to do but unfortunately for me you know being small and trying to play a sport that didn't know at the time was supposed to been meant for a bigger taller player you know got a lot of criticism from you know a lot of backlash a lot of name-calling you know which could affect which confidence well at the beginning you know it was challenging it was tough you know many days as many nights go home just crying to my mom and just telling her how cool the kids are out there and you know how many were I wanted you know you know it wasn't just gonna set if I satisfied with would someone else had planned for me you know I want to create my own destiny and I would start to understand that I was in position to do that and you know when I became 12 and 13 years old you know words never met you know it came to one day out the other you know I was on the journey I was on my path trying to become this basketball player that no one felt like he had any and you know any opportunity to do some little jokes that stuff was out there you know you're short you know you need to be sitting on the curb with your feet swinging off you know we could put you in the drawer when we traveling you know as they said growing up as a kid when they say sticks and stones may hurt your bone in the world with words would never hurt you it's not true words would hurt you now they killing folk so words are very powerful and you know that was very deterring at the time but it didn't distract me because of your heart you know it measured it pretty much doesn't have a height to it you know pretty much set the tone of who you are and which we have to accomplish you know and the high fact it was the game of basketball so you know my heart was bigger than mine so I didn't have no no second or no no hang-ups on I'm believing that I belong with you know the best of us you know because my heartbeat just you know this is the biggest there's things that haven't happened to me in my life allowed me to reflect allow me that to resonate Who I am especially when I got shot you know those things became so clear in terms of hey I almost wasn't here you know so while I have to worry about this we're now saved that could hurt me and deteriorate me can become who I want to be so you know that changed my mindset you know I remember early on when I used to go down on the court with my basketball that he and all the words and her know that you know the criticism about me being short but after I got shot I remember going back down there and hearing those same criticism about myself but it didn't have the same impact you know when everyone in I thought that I lived it to earlier everybody has some sort of opinion about who you are don't give them that platform don't give them the ammunition that's their opinion I mean that is true about who you are so you know anything is possible positive thinking is also translated today everything happened for a reason no regrets or the negative things that happen I'm thankful for it because I learned hopefully I learned from those situations and all the positive things I'm humbly grateful that those able to take place and still strive and be the best I can be and no going forward hopefully out in the terrace and kids would be the best date we all human beings treat one as you will want to be treated [Music] you may be watching this right now and you have these incredible ideas and what you think is missing is motivation some point everything's gonna go south on you everything's gonna go south and you're gonna say this is it this is how I end now you can either accept that or you can get to work that's all it is you just begin you do the math you solve one problem then you solve the next one four hundred trillion to one I just want everybody to hear this this is the reason I'm happy 24/7 365 for the rest of my life four hundred trillion to one the odds of becoming a human being if you want to be a grocer or a general or a politician or a judge you will invariably become it that is your punishment they've crunched the numbers on you being born and do you realize that the odds the odds of you at the moment in time he was born to the parents you were born to with the DNA structure that you have won and 400 trillion if you never know what you want to be if you live what some might call the dynamic life but I will call the artistic life if each day you are unsure of who you are and what you know you will never become anything and that is your reward if you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you if you can trust yourself when all men doubt you but make allowances for their doubting too if you can wait and not be tired by waiting or being lied about don't deal in lies or being hated don't give way dating one and four hundred trillion all day long you have ideas that could change your life that could change the world that could change the way that you feel now what do you do with them things we've worked the hardest for we value the most so I think you know the purpose of the goal is not getting it anyway the purpose of goal you know is what who you become well you become is gonna make you happier it's gonna make you sad so I'm not looking for an effortless approach it's too late to be scared [Music] not had an encouraging bloody word a real encouraging word in their entire life it just takes a little bit of of encouragement and carer so that they're willing to accept themselves straight to some degree and start trying it's just a catastrophe that that's that's so rare in their lives that if you're doing something that you're not totally committed to if you're doing something that you're not totally passionate about you're compromising yourself every day some people do ultra racist they're starting to PR during training some people won't be a lawyer or a medical student so they're taking these practice tips guess what happens once you get to a key event your mind isn't ready your minds not prepared you've been studying you've been training you've been working out but your minds not prepared [Music] transforming the walls into doors changing obstacles into opportunities by the time that they closed the second restaurant it was an $800,000 loss I don't I mean that meant our entire home equity line gone run it meant kids come I get just choked up just thinking about how terrifying it was and so I found myself at the age of 41 like just feeling like a complete failure because the way that our minds are wired and the fact about human beings is that we are not designed to do things that are uncomfortable or scary or difficult our brains are designed to protect us from those things because our brains are trying to keep us alive and in order to change in order to build a business in order to be the best parent the best spouse to do all those things that you know you want to do with your life with your work with your dreams you're gonna have to do things that are difficult uncertain or scary which sets up this problem for all of us you're never gonna feel like it motivations garbage you you only feel motivated to do the things that are easy right and at some point I think we all hit that moment in life where things just are not going how you thought they would go and and what's amazing about those moments is we all respond very differently I believe desire and will to win is everything I don't know why I'm like I am but my butt's always burning there's always something say aren't dadgummit you're supposed to go for it aren't dadgummit you're supposed to be somebody you're supposed to make a difference with you lie what does the $500,000 your person do the $50,000 your person doesn't do you looking outside and study those two individuals everything seems to be the same they both are the same sex they both are the same age have the same train the same positions the same contract the same fringe benefits they both are successful they work hard they're good family people make tough commitments but what's the difference what does the $500,000 your person do the $50,000 your person doesn't do he pays the price a little bit more he works harden a little bit more he's loyal to the cutting a little bit more he believes in a little bit more he makes Maine a little bit more he saves money a little bit more if you want to win in these United States you got to be tough and you can't quit I wore one branch manager down to the point that he says to me Gardner based on persistence alone we go give you a shot cause at some point we all bought into this lie that you got a feel ready in order to change you know what you said I couldn't do it but guess what I started two weeks we bought into this this complete falsehood that at some point you're gonna have the courage at some point you're gonna have the confidence and it's total [ __ ] maybe watching this right now and you have these incredible ideas and what you think is missing is motivation failure is part of life the difference for me though is I like a failure as a stepping stone to success it's a speed bump every time you learn something you learn because something you get didn't work and that exposes you to the part of the world that you don't understand every time you're exposed to the part of the world that you don't understand you have the possibility of rebuilding the structures that you use to interpret the world I know I'm gonna fail but it's not failure if you learn something and so every time I do it just becomes it becomes a way for me to explain to someone else what it takes that's often why it's more important to notice that you wann that it is to prove that you're right people don't value what they don't fight for baby steps count to as long as you're going forward and one day you had all those baby steps up in you might be surprised at where you can get to people have an unbelievable capacity to face and overcome things they don't understand and not only that that's essentially what gives life its meaning the Buddhists say life is suffering and you think well if that's the case why bother with it well now that we can see how short life really can be what are you going to do with the rest of your life that's a trigger that's the biggest trigger that I have ever experienced what are you gonna do the rest of your cavalry ain't coming you got to do this yourself ain't no backup okay [Music] as our minds are designed to stop you at all costs from doing anything that might hurt you and the way that that that that this all happens is it all starts with something super subtle that none of us ever catch and that is with this habit that all of us have that nobody's talking about we all have a habit of hesitating hmm we have an idea you're sitting in a meeting you have this incredible idea and instead of just you know saying it you stop and you hesitate now what none of us realize is that when you hesitate just that moment that micro moment that small hesitation it sends a stress signal to your brain it wakes your brain up and your brain all of a sudden goes oh wait a minute wait wait wait why is he hesitating he didn't hesitate when he put on his killer spiky sneakers he didn't hesitate with the really cool track pants he didn't hesitate with the NASA t-shirt now he's hesitating to talk something must be up so then your brain goes to work to protect you it has a million different ways to protect you one of them is called the spotlight effect it's a known phenomenon where your brain magnifies risk Y to pull you away from something that it perceives to be a problem and so you can truly trace every single problem or complaint in your life to silence and has those are decisions and what I do and what's changed my life is waking up and realizing that motivations garbage I'm never going to feel like doing the things that are tough for difficult or uncertain or scary or new so I need to stop leaving until I feel like it and number two I am one decision away from a totally different marriage a totally different life a totally different job a totally different income a totally different relationship with my kids your life comes down to your decisions if you change your decisions you will change everything what makes life powerful and meaningful and substantive is the expiration day you do what you love doing and you do it well then everything's just sort of fall into place if we were to live forever we could be slow full and lazy and indifferent cuz we'd have forever to get it straight but the fact that the clock is ticking puts a sense of urgency on each and every one of us and I know you're saying well I'm 20 I don't need to yeah you do you need to hear that because you won't be twenty long so many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality what we really want seems impossibly out of reach and ridiculous to expect so we never dare to ask the universe for it I'm saying I'm the proof that you can ask the universe for it in the few months you'll be 21 and two and three and four and five and it's ticket on everybody procrastination then becomes an enemy because we cannot afford to procrastinate with the tires that we do not have most of us right now are looking at where we are with a certain degree of disdain expecting to have gone further than where we are by now we look back and wonder what I'm really a good steward of the time that God gave me imagine if you will be on your deathbed and standing around your bed the ghost of the ideas the dreams the abilities the talents given to you by lightning at you for whatever reason you never acted on those I you never pursued that dream you never use those pallets we never saw old leadership you never use your boys you never wrote that book and there they are standing around your bed looking at you with large angry eyes that we came to you don't eat you could have given us [Music] that I really might revise my life and the question is if you die today what ideas what dreams what abilities what talents what gifts will die with you the truth of the matter is no matter how productive you are all of us have been guilty of wasting days at wasting time and sometimes wasting opportunities along the way in fact what makes you start to get wiser as you get older is that as the sands begin to fall more rapidly and you begin to recognize that you're running out of time you begin to mark certain things off of your list I'm not gonna let that worry me I'm not gonna let that worry me this was not important I'm not going to do that stupid thing again I don't have time to make that mistake I've got to redeem the time I gotta make it count I cannot mess this up my time becomes more valuable the more it becomes limited my father could have been a great comedian but he didn't believe that that was possible for him and so he made a conservative choice instead he got a safe job as an accountant and when I was 12 years old he was let go from that safe job and our family had to do whatever we could to survive death is the destination we all share no one has ever escaped it and that is as it should be because death is very likely the single best invention of life its life's change agent it clears out the old to make way for the new right now the new is you but some day not too long from now you will gradually become the old and be cleared away your time is limited so don't waste it living someone else don't be trapped by Dogma which is living with the results of other people's thinking don't let the noise of others opinions drown out your own inner voice and most important have the courage to follow your heart and intuition they somehow already know what you truly want to thing else is second I learned many great lessons from my father not the least of which is that you can fail at what you don't want so you might as well what makes life powerful and meaningful and substantive is the expiration date I [Music] have spent my whole life scared free things I could happen might happen might not happen 50 years I spent like that I need myself awake at 3:00 in the morning [Music] you know what ever since my diagnosis I sleep just fine my history did not have to become my future for whatever reason most people their associations are to avoid anything that's uncomfortable but it's so illogical because when you look at comfort and you look at success in progress and the eventual the feelings of accomplishment and of getting past certain hurdles and in terms of like how you feel about life a lot of those are connected to discomfort like discomfort is your friend I was one who swam against the tide of what is expected and what is but the establishment wants from us I began to see the possibilities of not being where I was I came to realize it's that fear that's the worst of it that's the real I will stand I will put both of my feet in the ground and I will stand for something because if I don't stand for something I'll fall for anything if you live your life just acting constantly on the momentum of other people's expectations of you wanting to be liked by these other people so get up get out of the real world [Music] we yield the pain we're gonna come inch by inch play by play or finished [Music] you are going to incur an incur a lot of disappointment a lot of failure a lot of pain a lot of setbacks a lot of defeats but in the process of doing that you will discover some things about yourself that you don't know right now what you will realize is that you have greatness within you what you'll realize is that you're more powerful than you can ever begin to imagine what you will realize is that you're greater than your circumstances that you don't have to go through life being a victim was born in Miami Florida the area called Liberty City in an abandoned building on a hardened Olien floor someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality I mean if you want this if you want bling bling if you want to buy the Jets if you want to do work that's how you get it how do you get money to do what you love you don't right I lost a load of money when I started doing what I loved what you do is you position yourself to succeed so for example if you're doing something else at you and you want to do this thing you love you do it after hours you work 9:00 to 6:00 you get home you kiss the dog and you go to town right I mean you start building your equity in your brand and whatever you're trying to accomplish after hours you everybody has time stop watching lost the reason people aren't patient is they value other people's opinions too much you need to bet on your strengths and don't give a about where you suck at you're gonna weigh too many people in this room we're gonna spend the next 30 40 years of their lives trying to check the boxes other things that they're not as good at and that you're gonna waste a load of time and lose I highly recommend auditing yourself or if you have no empathy or EQ or self-awareness then find somebody in your family or friendship that does and let them tell you who you are and once you believe that either for yourself or someone else told you go directly all chips all into that because that is the only possible way in my opinion watching from the outside that is in place that is a very highly likely way of over-indexing because the truth is if you want to be an anomaly you've got to act like I think there's massive confusion around entrepreneurship entrepreneurship sucks I mean it's lonely it's high-risk I mean I can't live without it but it's like a bad boyfriend right a girlfriend right like like it's there's a ton of bad days being an entrepreneur not to mention 98% of entrepreneurial ventures are gonna fail so there's gonna be a really bad day in your future ability to adjust is the entire game like I'm so proud that I changed my mind every day my dad used to get so pissed when I was building Wine Library he would always be like he's like you would say like three months ago you said Ricky was gonna be the best employee and like I changed my mind he fire him or or he's like you said sparkling wine was important now you just eliminated it from the key spot I'm like I changed my mind like my ability to only be comfortable in massive chaos has been my biggest asset as an entrepreneur like I would never take a note like that scares the piss out of me with these we're doing right now there should be some sort of friction from somebody who's leading up in front and sees everything and is driving a company versus people that work in it who are in the like they're different like my job is to be like oh there's an iceberg I'm gonna move this way and everybody who's downstairs is like what do you mean the water's been super clear the whole time I'm like no no there's an iceberg but they're in the basement they're like it's been such a nice ride like this has been so smooth leaders need to understand what's happening next there are a million reasons why not but there's one great reason why which is you've just gotta persevere no matter what it is it's just the way it is it's hard being an entrepreneur it's hard building a business everybody thinks it's so easy what really pissed me off in tech world was when Steve Jobs his book came out when he was dying when it was all about Steve three or four years ago I literally watched a lot of my tech startup friends start being like a to their staff because Jobs was tough everybody fell into the romance of like I have this big vision and I'm gonna be in like Steve right and I thought that was really interesting for me to watch that half decade like literally watching people I know and then watching them act differently because the status or the icon of the moment and you see a lot of that and so like that is probably the energy I'm trying to bring to this class today which is you can look at like how people roll and like it's great to admire and things of that nature but it's so damn important to stick to like your DNA right and like what you're good at in a success world please understand that success is happiness not net dollars in we are strongest when we strong we're just being sold that we're not because there's a lot of money people always say that in Russia the biggest epidemic in the world is people talking not doing and especially now and people always do that but now what social media does is expose people it doesn't change people all the hate in the system that's exposing Twitter to make you evil you're evil you know and same with talking and not doing Twitter and Instagram didn't make you waste time and not do in 2001 it snowed in New Jersey on December 23rd which was one of the busiest days of the year typically December 23rd is the busiest day of the year in a liquor store and a woman called us we just started shipping and her case of behringer White Zinfandel wasn't delivered first of all I appreciate the people that know what behringer white sin is good job the entire case by the way 15 pack the entire 15 pack case cost $45 we're doing about $40,000 an hour in the store she calls [Music] I find out about it somehow it was buzzing cuz I was up on the floor selling I am the premier salesman on the floor as you can imagine I find out about it and we're debating what to do she needs it for her Christmas dinner I grab the case throw it in my car and drive to Bergen County to deliver it takes me two and a half hours to complete the whole thing and the best part was I delivered it all pumped with myself and she said great and closed the door awesome everybody especially my dad who was pissed that I left because all the customers that came in asking for me or that I could have sold everybody who's baffled I can't tell you what the ROI of driving through the snow in my car to deliver a case of $45 pink to a woman that look like yo to us but I can tell you this over the next two the three years that story became the foundation of how we treated every single bus it became our competitive edge and those are the things that matter to me you need to do you like some plenty of people that make a lot more money than me and one bigger to take notes the key the key though the key is way too many people are doing like here's a good one you know what really pissed me off I'm completely driven by like happiness and like I'm crippled by like chaos like I think I've fired four most talented smartest people that have worked for me because if you don't know how to play with the other boys and girls you're out because I suffocate under you know conflict and negativity and like nobody's better than me so you got to go building a business is hard and you know what makes it really hard everything that happens every day of every moment so you can pick time you can pick money as the one or two things that you think stopped you from winning your game but the truth is there's a million reasons 99 percent of businesses go out of business for a reason and that reason is it's hard and so if you're watching this show I've got a sense of who you are and you need to start creating layers and layers and layers and layers of skin to be able to get through I'm a humungous believer that ideas are and that executions the game right we've all got ideas everybody's got ideas do you weave the ideas we all have here we can probably sit here for the next two hours draw them all out record them and predict the next 78 great startups over the next nine years and so I think the thing that is another theme in entrepreneurship is there is a way too much fodder brought to the idea goober was magic cab three years earlier there's not an idea Euler existed it's got magic but the guys that executed sucked so they lost so I think you know if there's any level of romance left in this room about your idea I'd like to suffocate it because I think the actual situation is what you actually do with it if you do anything because of this key note there's only one thing I ask you to do because as any as I got I'm a practical here's what I want from you when you go home look yourself in the mirror and audit everything you and your business do I promise you that if you audit from top to bottom of expenses and effort and time and energy and payroll and all that if you audit all of it even the best of us even the invents which is the company that bought Budweiser they built their whole business unlike printing on both sides and favorite all that work even the most efficient ones of us are doing 20% dumber if you take that 8% that 13% that 16% of dump that you're doing paying that person that's not bringing any cultural value to your business having that contract that you've just been in am you just renew because busiest whatever you're doing if you take any piece that percentage and you apply it to giving up about your customer it will be better for your business going forward because for the first time since we all lived in small towns where your reputation was the complete backbone of how you did business for the first time because technology is putting us back together in a small town for the first time being good and caring and following up matters nor let have to be your life stop you are the master of your own mind create that masterpiece be proud yourself very integral we've kind of lost touch with the cultural narratives around death that gave it some meanings so now when it happens it's just this absurd scary thing that we don't know what to do with the only narrative we have that we have absorbed I guess is that of the brave battle that someone's fighting if you're going to try go all the way otherwise don't even start that this is this is when we can bring out if we have the opportunity to bring our stories to some kind of ending what your film will read a book that final scene makes sense of everything that's happened before this doesn't happen in life author of our stories more than at any point before death if you are going to try go all the way this could mean losing girlfriends wives relatives jobs and maybe your mind main characters are our loved ones or the doctors or people making all these decisions and we kind of get sidelined go all the way it could mean not eating for three or four days it could mean freezing an apartment it could mean jail it could mean division mockery isolation isolation is the gift it's not okay for you to be weak loser it's not okay and the reason it's not okay is because you could be way more than that and it's a crime an ethical crime for you to allow all that necessary potential to go to waste it hurts you it hurts your family hurts the world really really it does [Music] all the others are a test of your endurance of how much you really want to do it and you'll do it despite rejection and the worst odds when I was 15 years old I had a very important person in my life come to me and say who's your hero and I said I don't know I gotta think about that give me a couple of weeks I come back two weeks later this person comes up says you hero I said I thought about it you know who it is I said it's me in 10 years so I turned 25 10 years later that same person comes Mingo so are you a hero and I was like not even close no no no she said why I said because my heroes meet at 35 so you see every day every week every month and every year of my life my heroes always ten years away I'm never gonna be a hero I'm not gonna attain that I know I'm not that's just fine with me because that keeps me with somebody to keep on chase only person I can really work accountable with myself the second I stop where people and blame myself I change it will be better than anything else you can imagine if you're going to try go all the way there is no other feeling like that you will be alone with the gods and the nights will flame with fire [Music] do it do it do it do it all the way whoa the way you will ride life straight to perfect - laughter it's the only good fight there is [Music] tomorrow they said but tomorrow never came for them it never came [Music] it's easy to sit on the edge of your bed and to think there are things I'm doing there are things I'm not doing that I should be doing that I could and would do small things you don't want to get grandiose but you can you can start to improve your life incrementally by eliminating those things that are self-evidently making you bitter and miserable but you have to decide that that's what you want you are willing to burn off that Deadwood to sacrifice that bitterness and that unhappiness even though you may feel but you're justified in in in in harboring it you may even be justified in harboring it because people have very hard lives and sometimes they're very badly mistreated but you need to think it's okay if things improve and it would be worthwhile for me to start to abandon those things that I'm doing that I know to be harmful to myself [Music] every single person who has ever done anything worthwhile or exceptional or difficult or extraordinary anyone whether it's great artists or authors or mathematicians everyone encounters difficulties there is no easy road it does not exist it is impossible everyone has issues when you come up with excuses for why other people are successful you're not we all go through hard times we all go through depression we all do go through doubt and then moments in your life where it's really difficult and you're trying to figure out what your path is gonna be it's hard that is what makes you a person and those difficult moments are what build your character show me a great man who's the son of a great man these kids that are born billionaires - you're never going to be a self-made person you think that successful people have some lucky charm well let me tell you something I woke up this morning and I couldn't find my friend lucky charm I and other successful people wake up every day doing the same thing fighting fighting back against the distractions the fears the doubts and we learn over time we build into a habit to spend more time having control instead of more time being out of control [Music] it does matter it mattered last night when you laid down and you put your head on a pillow you were going to get up this morning and you were gonna make it matter everything you did today we're going to do today was going to have a purpose behind it it was going to matter if I want to be successful I do it right now stop talking about the future and do it now tomorrow may never come action is in the mind you don't need everything to be in a perfect position to get started if you want to open a business you can do it right now you can start writing the business plan you can start the research and working the numbers businesses start with an idea they do not start on opening day businesses start with an idea they do not start on opening day we get caught up in the Hollywood film version of opening a business but it isn't reality you don't arrive on day one and start serving customers in the shop plot on Main Street you start waiver [Music] I speak to so many lost young men with dreams and aspirations of opening companies and businesses but all of them without fail are waiting for the perfect situation the spark they are waiting for savings to accumulate they are waiting for the right economy but it will never be the right time to start so you might as well get started now the wind may be blowing the wrong way it may be rain it may be an economic crisis but whatever is going on you must get going it does matter it mattered last night when you laid down and you put your head on a pillow you were going to get up this morning and you were gonna make it matter everything you did today we're going to do today was going to have a purpose behind it it was going to matter this is still an awesome life there's still a lot of awesome [ __ ] to do and don't think that you don't have opportunity consistency will knock the [ __ ] out of motivation every time it's nice to have someone say that you're great or whatever it be like to be totally honest that never really matters to me I'm not great I just work really hard I just hang on [Music] something I wanted to mention here is I hear people talking about how they have a hard time with consistency and sometimes they have a hard time with motivation a good way to handle motivation is to eliminate it as a factor sometimes the greatest decision you can make is no decision sometimes the easiest thing to do when you struggle with something is to abstain from it you have a drug addiction you have a sex addiction you have a food addiction fasting not allowing yourself to make any choices eliminates a lot of the confusion and struggle and poor decision-making skills that you tend to make each and every day with your food because you're fatigued you're stressed and so on the same thing is true with motivation if we just don't really worry about how motivated we are and we just go and do then that that kind of settles that you're already in it you're already on it you're already after it you're already going right now how do how do you get someone to do that that's the tough part but it ain't that hard because I got advices for you here's what I would do here's what I would suggest things need to have a very strong you always need a strong foundation if you have a strong foundation that's always something you can pivot back off of again if you don't have something strong you got something wobbly it's not gonna it's not gonna really work in a long term because work in the short term which is cool so you get your momentum towards your goals but we need stuff that's gonna really work in a long term and what's gonna work in a long term is to just have a schedule try to have a schedule even if you don't feel like that you're not let's just say you don't feel like you're an organized person let me just share something with you guys about that I don't feel like I'm an organized person but I'm a lot more organized today and I've ever been in my life and some people may identify me as not being very organized but if you had to do the [ __ ] that I did in a day your mother and head would be spinning too and look I'm not complaining this is stuff that I choose to do right changing your dialogue is really important and changing the message you give yourself so if you don't feel like you're an organized person that's okay it's okay to identify that as a weakness but that doesn't mean that you can and that doesn't mean that we can't get on a schedule and that doesn't mean that we can't get on point and that doesn't mean we can't build consistency because consistency will knock the [ __ ] out of motivation every time he will knock the [ __ ] outta motivation every time if we can build consistency we ain't gotta worry about how fired up we are to go do something you could be in a good mood you could be in a bad mood you could be in a sad mood you could be in a [ __ ] mood you can find out the worst thing and you will just shrug it off and delay this is what I'm doing [Music] that's the way I handle my workouts as I just schedule them we're doing this and like they're not scheduled like weeks out you know for some of you you may want to try to you know have a specific routine I don't really love routine but I do flourish on it I'll admit that and I think that's probably true with everybody everyone probably you know there's a reason why the military works the way that it does why they're able to produce leaders the way that they are because there's a routine involved and people respond really well to routine look at how broken a lot of the people are that go into the military and look how strong they are sometimes when they come out and we all admire that right what did they do that's special they exercised really hard right they got on a schedule and we're all we're all you know amazed at the discipline and like man how do they stay so motivated thought there's no motivation it's a schedule it's a routine we're doing this and then we're doing that I have never experienced military training I have never experienced what it would be like but I can only imagine everybody kind of knows what their schedule is if you're having a hard time with consistency with your training write down when you want to train the day before 24 hours ahead of time so whenever you're done with your last training session whenever you're done with your last training session if you if you finish a training session at 4:00 p.m. and you're like you know I really love to train to morrow morning I love to Train like 6:00 and see what that feels like write it down none of this maybe [ __ ] none of this hey you know what if I'm feeling I'm gonna go and I'm gonna go give it hell none of that [ __ ] that is [ __ ] understand that myself and many other you know fold unquote fitness professionals fitness fitness gurus or whatever you want to call people understand that we hate it sometimes too we don't want to do it sometimes too we love it and I realize look there's other there's way worse things to cry about in this world than going in and doing a hard training session so I'm not trying to be a [ __ ] about it I'm not trying to be a baby about it I'm very grateful for the life that I have and I'm very grateful that we have the freedom in this country where I can go I can go play weightlifter for the day I can go play powerlifter for the day I go you know exercise and pretend to be a bodybuilder or whatever right like what it wouldn't meet I mean that's something that you should all realize right like your people talking a lot about gratitude well I'm very grateful I have a lot of gratitude towards that fact everyone's life is a little different people not different people have different amounts of money and different things like that but this is still an awesome life there's still a lot of awesome [ __ ] to do and don't think that you don't have an opportunity you have many of the same exact opportunities that I have or anybody else it always seems like the rock is on cloud nine right it seems like he has so much right but what does he have he probably has great people around him it seems like he has a great significant other it seems like he has a great family it seems like he has a great job we all have the same exact right towards happiness as the rock does we ought we all possess the ability to be just as happy as him are you picking up when I'm putting down are you downloading this [ __ ] or you're on page 43 because that's the page that you need to be online because I've said so we're on page 43 that's the page that we're on that's the page roley's on whenever on any other page because we got to be on the same page class guys write it down write [ __ ] down write [ __ ] down I don't like the write stuff down but I respond really well to it how do you make yourself accountable find a training partner and text them safe or am I just mean see you tomorrow 4:00 a.m. you have to be there for em and what happens when you miss the guy calls you a chump the guy's like dude what's all this 4 a.m. talk you know if you want to get on point you want to get on schedule and create a schedule right one down why would you miss an 11:00 a.m. workout if you planned your day around it like what that what a stupid thing that is right but everyone's always looking for their pre-workout to do something great for them and what about the pre-workout that happens on your own the food that you ingest the planning that you do think about how empowering this is you know I think everyone's always just waiting for somebody to do something for them I think a lot of people are waiting and I'm guilty this is the only reason why I'm ever able to speak on any of this stuff so please don't ever think that I'm some pompous [ __ ] I only know how to speak on things because I am a failure I am the biggest failure you'll ever meet I have messed up many times my mindset has been broken and poor and I've made bad decisions I've done bad things too bad to people I'm never gonna claim that he's special but I am proud I'm proud of the things that I've worked on I'm proud of the things that I've worked towards think about how empowering this is though right I could say something to you right all right we could meet and I can say hey man dude you look like you look like you can lift a house you know and maybe that uplifts you and you get excited because you've been training really hard for a long time right sometimes things like that they last a while and sometimes from the right person and then deciding to me still this day I get a compliment from somebody I admire it feels great you know it feels great when somebody tells you you look dirty it's a good feeling right somebody says wow I can't believe you looks like you've lost about 20 pounds you've been losing weight you know I can actually I did I lost about 18 pounds things are going really good I'm feeling really good or a friend of mine shared with me more recently he thought he grew up thinking he was ugly what a horrible thing to do right there horrible thing to put on yourself he thought he was ugly godlike vanity issues and one day a girl said hey mean a bunch of my friends think you look like so-and-so it's a famous actor and I said you you think you're really cute and he was floored by that and he was just so excited by that that helped build momentum really for the rest of his life what changed though when that person said that what changed nothing changed nothing changed right like everything changed because he made changes because his he that's dialogue in his head his mindset shifted he couldn't believe that somebody that somebody said that to him but isn't that crazy like nothing actually changed nothing physical change he didn't do anything different it's it's your own inner speaking to yourself the way that you treat yourself and then we are really rude and disgusting to ourselves we say a lot of mean [ __ ] to ourselves we put ourselves down a lot which I actually think put yourself down here and then it's actually effective telling yourself you're too fat telling yourself you're too skinny telling yourself that you want to make you telling yourself things that you have control over and that you're gonna do something about it I think that's healthy but I always also say never kick the down opponent never kick a downed opponent someone's down you never kick let's say you have somebody that's out of shape so you have somebody that can only perform they can only do one pushup they make a decision in one day they say you know what let themselves in the mirror they say self you know what you add a shape and you really haven't let's not feel bad about it because if we're being honest about it haven't done anything about it right he would be like if I went to go play baseball one day and I struck out a bunch of times that I'm really really frustrated I struck out well when's the last time I played baseball how much have I been working on that I haven't been working on it so I shouldn't be frustrated about it if you really haven't been working on trying to be less satirist then you shouldn't be sad about being fat I'm not saying you should be proud about it either but you shouldn't be sad about it you should plan a an attack about it if a person is out of shape and they make a decision to go to the gym and they can only do one pushup and then a couple a little you know couple days go by they hit the gym again boom I hit the gym again I hit the gym again like man I had to try I really suck at those push-ups now they can do two push-ups now they can do three push-ups now they can do five push-ups that'll be the most empowering thing that probably ever happens to some people because you want to know why because some people never get one pat on the back their entire life it's nice to have someone say that you're great or whatever I would like to be totally honest that never really matters to me I always think it's kind of weird you're great well I'm not what am i great like that's that's a weird thing to say I'm not great I just work really hard I just hang on I I don't give up and a lot of it has to do with my upbringing I say this every day I have two awesome parents I have an awesome brother I grew up with two awesome brothers one died my oldest brother he died he you know he was addicted to drugs he was addicted to alcohol he was addicted to all kinds of crazy stuff but I think the most dangerous thing that he was addicted to is addicted to all the wrong [ __ ] he couldn't figure out a way to be happy even though he was famous even though he was a professional wrestler he got in the ring with the Undertaker with Bret Hart he got in the ring with just about every single top level guy from that era you could think of he was division one football player he did all kinds of cool stuff but he couldn't find the thing that allowed so many you didn't find that inner peace because he couldn't earn self-respect because he knew he was making mistakes and he felt like he had no control over a lot of them you're not alone and feeling that way there's millions of people that feel that way and I cannot think of one other way that you can fix that without going in the gym and lifting some weights because you're not gonna get that in a boardroom you have to get that at work you're not gonna get that from selling insurance you're not gonna get that from selling advertising you're not gonna get that from Instagram you're not gonna get that from Facebook you're not gonna get that from social media period you're not gonna get that from YouTube you need in real life hugs and even in real life smooches and in real life hands being put together for you and for some of you that don't feel like you have got one person in your corner that doesn't [ __ ] for you we're almost always all fortunate to have like one person there's always like one mentor in there I'm a believer a believer that everyone ends up with one even when they have the people that they want to love them don't love them they end up in somebody's hands that do love them enough so you got that one person so you got that one reason to kind of hang on hang on for yourself hang on for at least that one person you can make yourself proud and by making yourself proud it'll be the most powerful thing that you ever do you're not trying to compare yourself to other people you can try and compare yourself to your former self and not comparing yourself to where people are right now it's this is you versus you as Elliott Holt says the war has begun it certainly has and it's a war against yourself every single day because if we can gain self respect and we can earn self respect self-respect has to be earned it's not something that's ever gonna be given out if you go to the gym and when you start it on day one you can only do one pushup and now you can do 10 you earn that and that's not anything that could be outsourced it can't be handed to you I can't be purchased it can't be bought I mean dreams are dreams but goals are different goals are things that you you know are gonna happen that you know you're capable of and you want to know what there's no reason to be overly concerned or worried about them because they're gonna happen because everything that you need is inside of you already to get you there you're already there and some of the things you've accomplished maybe you're not that proud of some of them but I bet you there's a bunch of stuff that you are pretty proud of lean on your strengths everyone's always talking about working on your weaknesses what about working on your strengths and amplifying those doubling and tripling down on those and when you are able to build momentum you're gonna recognize this you're gonna recognize and understand that people that are put in places to run things your be in charge of things or they're not any smarter than you they're not any different than you they're probably dumber than you the only way to grow is the go through [ __ ] that's hard and [ __ ] that's difficult and you're gonna go through hard [ __ ] anyway in your day to day you're gonna go through tough [ __ ] in your day day to day stuff anyway regardless of what you do or how you do it there's gonna be good things there's gonna be bad thing you're gonna go through all kinds of stuff in your life it's very simple this is what I believe and I'm willing to die for it period it's that simple you can't be scared to die for the truth the truth is the only thing that's ever going to be constant the only thing that I see that is distinctly different about me is I'm not afraid to die on a treadmill you might have more talent than me you might be smarter than me but if we get on the treadmill together there's two things you're getting off first or I'm gonna die it's really that simple you're not going to outwork me it's a it's a very is such a simple basic concept the guy who was willing to hustle the most is gonna be the guy that just gets that loose ball you know he got the okay he got to oh god he's puzzling grabbed out when I was gonna be out of bounds but he said back in it's like the commodity that I see the majority of people who aren't getting the places they want or aren't achieving the things that they want in this business is strictly based on hustle it's strictly based on being out work is strictly based on missing crucial opportunities I say all the time if you stay ready you ain't gotta get ready greatness is not this [Music] wonderful esoteric illusive [Music] godlike feature that only the special among us will ever taste you know it's something that truly exists in all of us what to do good I want the world to be better because I was here want my life I want my my work my family I wanted to mean something and it's like it has if if you are not making someone else's life better then you're wasting your time you know like that your life will become better by making other lives better [Music] the first step before anybody else in the world believes it is you have to believe there's no reason to have a plan because it distracts from plan a [Music] I realized that we needed to have the level of success that I want to have is difficult to spread it out and do multiple things it takes such a desperate obsessive focus it really gotta focus with all your fiber and all your heart all your creativity I've never really viewed myself as particularly talented where I excel is ridiculous sickening work ethic you know while the other guys sleeping I'm working what other guys eaten work the road to success is through commitment and through the strength to drive through that commitment when it gets hard and it is going to get hard and you're gonna want to quit sometimes but it'll be colored by who you are and more who you want to be being realistic is the most commonly traveled road to mediocrity why would you be realistic what's the point of being realistic I'm gonna do it it's done it's already done the second I decide it's done it's already done so now we just gotta wait for y'all to see I'm motivated by fear you know here of what and fear of fear I hate being scared to do something and I think what developed in my in my early days was the attitude that I started attacking things that I was scared I don't want to be an icon I want to be an idea you know I want to represent an idea i want to represent possibilities I want to represent magic right that you're in a universe in two plus two equals four two plus the only equals four if you accept it two plus two equals four two plus two is gonna be what I wanted to do you know and there's that there's a but there's that there's a redemptive power that making a choice hat you know rather than feeling like you're at effect to all the things that are happening make a choice like you just decide what is gonna be who you're gonna be how you're gonna do it just decide and then from that point the universe is gonna get out your way this light is water it wants to it wants to move and go around stuff you know suffering from need I want to represent possibilities I'm gonna represent the idea that really can't make what you want there's a necessity to make a difference I feel very strongly that we are who we choose to be the child my parents always told me you could be whatever you want to be you could do whatever you want to do and you know that that office that position of the highest office in the face of the earth it was something I heard my parents saying it but I didn't totally believe it yet I went out in the world and I carried myself and I held my head high and I stood there and I look people in their eyes and I talked to people as if I was deserving of everything that this planet has to offer this is one year he wanted a new the front of his shops he tore down probably about 16 feet high and probably about 30 feet long he just completely turned the wall down and my brother had been a six-foot hole it would mix in the concrete by him we were building this wall for a year it was just myself and my little brother and I remember standing back looking at that wall there's going to be a holder for after the half later we laid the the final breath and if I buy this feedback and look at me and my brother said it all John never tell I learned very young you you don't try to build a wall you don't set out to build a wall you don't say how many think though the biggest baddest greatest wall that's ever been built you know start there you say I'm gonna lay this brick as perfectly as a brick can be laid there will not be one brick on the face of the earth as will be laid better than this brick then I'm gonna lay in this next ten minutes and you do that every single day soon you have a wall and I think psychologically the advantage that that gives me over over a lot of people that come have been in competition with in different situations is it's difficult to take the first step look the task the task is never huge day we didn't grow up with the sense that where we were was where we were gonna be and we grew up with the sense then where we were almost didn't matter because it'll be coming we were becoming something great the greatest thing in my my career has been the constant commitment to putting something in the world of value not putting something in the world that makes me look hot you know though I think as long as you can stay focused on delivering your art and delivering yourself and delivering your energy and delivering your ideas for the world to be better the difference between depression and joy right and I think it's purpose right it's like when you wake up in the morning your life means something to somebody other than you that you have a purpose if you don't go do the things that you're going to do people's lives will suffer and I think that that kind of purpose that like to live in service not to you but to live in service to humanity to live in service to your family to live in service to your church to your city to your country to the world living in service is that I feel like that is the purest form of Jordan the separation of talent and skill is one of the the the greatest misunderstood concepts for people who are trying to excel who have dreams that want to do things talent you have naturally skill is only developed by hours and hours and hours of beating on your craft he who says he can and he who says he can't are both usually right and I want you to keep in your heart just know that you can now somebody once said you can take all the money in the world out of the hands of everybody out of all the wealthy people in the world who are really successful given to other people it wouldn't take too long those people have it back in their hands it's not because they're manipular that's cuz they have a standard the reason people don't put themselves in a position to fail the reason people aren't patient is they value other people's opinions too much you have to monitor your self-talk monitor your self-talk if you go around keep to tell people oh I have a horrible memory I'm not smart enough I'm getting too old fill in the blank take those three magic words and live them raise your standard if you fight for your limitations you get to keep them you gotta be willing to do it afraid see you might be waiting for the fear to stop should leap leap afraid you chose to withdraw because you were afraid we're actually tougher than you think you never knew that and maybe you didn't want to take on the responsibility people are rewarded in public for what they've practiced for years in private Farren guard to your mind because your mind is always eavesdropping on your self-talk your mind is always eavesdropping on your self-talk either die leaping then on the edge figuring out how to get the courage to leave okay I'm gonna go make this happen I'm gonna go make this much money I'm gonna transform my kids I'm gonna create the ultimate relationship of my life I'm gonna transform my body whatever it is and then you don't have strong enough reasons and you don't lose use it you don't follow through it's because you didn't back up your standards with what makes those standards real and that's rituals you constantly remind yourself after every defeat after every setback every time you get knocked down I've got a saying if life knocks you down try and land on your back because if you can look up you can get up see a lot of people because of failure they stop they stop believing let me share something with you you will fail your way to success so many times we're waiting we're waiting I'm waiting eight out of ten millionaires have been financially bankrupt you will fill your way to success it doesn't matter how many times you fail it doesn't matter how many times people tell you that you can't do it it doesn't matter if you don't have a dime in the Bakke you will fail your way to success what's the standard they hold himself to and then what are all those little rituals that up because think about it success and failure are not giant events they don't just show up you don't just suddenly become successful or suddenly have this cataclysmic event that makes you fail may look that way but failure comes from all the little things you're just kind of waiting you're waiting to get everything in order you're waiting you're waiting so that everything is is Inuits together you're waiting to not be afraid you're waiting to have the courage you're waiting to have all the money you're waiting you've got five seconds and that's it should die seconds gone talk yourself out of it failure to make the call its failure to check the books its failure to say I'm sorry all the results in your life are coming from your rituals rituals define us knowing that you're never gonna feel like doing all the work that it takes to have this business be everything that it possibly could and all those little failures day after day come together to one day some cataclysmic event happens you blame that that event happened because you missed all the little so what you want to do it right and you want to wait too you're not afraid you want to wait you ever all together oh you made it about you again see Nelson Mandela did it he just did it not knowing if you were right Mahatma Gandhi just did it not knowing if it were right mother Teresa just did it not looking for affirmation or confirmation is this right Martin Luther King did it not even knowing if it would happen before his life ended what are you waiting on are you willing to do it afraid are you willing to do it knowing that you got so much work to do to get it better to get it more perfect but are you willing to do it inside your imperfection do you realize that in your imperfection you're perfect for the job though bite-size steps little things you do each day that after you do them you get so much momentum that it's easy to succeed you're not overwhelmed you have these victory day after day after day on little things the brain is gonna screw you over the brain is gonna go into autopilot the brain is going to tell you it doesn't feel like doing things raise your standard from the moment that you have the idea from the second you have that idea you've only got five seconds to take action otherwise it's gone there's only one rule when it comes to productivity there's only one rule when it comes to six there's only run rules to getting everything you've ever wanted and here it is you're never gonna feel like it ever in any area of your life that you don't have what you want whether it's the amount of money the amount of people on your team the amount of sales the amount of trips for your family the reef you only did the things that you don't feel like doing you'd have everything you've ever wanted they'd cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek you have these victory day after day after day on little things if you'd went to ultimate edge I'm sure you learned about the hour of power or the fifteen minutes to be able to be fulfilled or 30 minutes to thrive where you literally just condition your body and emotion with a couple little rituals so it doesn't matter what's going on in your world you feel that strength and it's not fake it's not some pump up it's coming from inside you and it works rituals define us it doesn't matter where you start it matters where you finish you just have to do things you never think you're gonna have to do in order to survive and get through it when you're going through hell don't stop don't pitch a tent in hell don't build a Holiday Inn in hell it you know it takes as long as it takes I hate to say that you know hey you know you can go to the gym for nine hours but you won't get into shape but if you go to the gym every day for 20 minutes you will get into shape but the problem is I don't know how long it takes it'll be a little quicker for some a little slower for others and so there's no app for trust there's no app for that you know this is a human condition and we have to do the things that are right for human beings and you won't build trust with everybody on the team at the same pace some will be quicker and some will be slower how long does it take to make a friend you know I don't know I just know that if you do the right thing you will link a friend got to get up you got to get out the amount of time you spend outside your proximity or location where you sleep gives you a better chance of being successful so get up get out go meet the world head on folks no matter how bad it is I'm gonna tell you something that a lot of people 99% of people disagree with me everybody says follow your passions I say this [ __ ] right I say follow your efforts it's amazing how we're all passionate about things we are all passionate about something helping veterans and helping this organization helping this crew that's great [Music] but it no matter what it all nets out to where do you put your time because when people put in their time you get better at things and when you get better at something you get good at something then you have a chance to be great at something you know what I've learned nobody ever quits anything they're great at and once you get great at it it's amazing how passionate you become about it follow your efforts you are the architect of tomorrow sometimes in order to stay on our priority pathway yeah you got to say no kind of thing so I've really become a master of saying that's just not working for me but in years past I was too cluttered so every single organization on the planet even our own careers always function on the same three levels what we do how we do it and why we do it everybody knows what they do these are the products we sell the services we offer some know how they do it these we these are things we call our unique selling propositions or you know our differentiating value brothers whatever the things that we think make us stand out from the crowd but very very few people and very very few organizations can clearly articulate why they do what they do and by I don't mean to make money that's a result by why I mean what is your purpose what is your cause what is your belief why does your company exist why did you get out of bed this morning and why should anyone care and what I learned is that organizations or leaders that start with by telling you what they do are less able to inspire people to do business with them inspire loyalty where those who start with why whether it's Steve Jobs or mama Gandhi are able to command loyalty and are able to innovate in ways that others cannot and the reason I say that every company functions this way is because the model is not based on highfalutin management theory it's based on the biology of human decision-making this is how the brain works that when you start with Y it talks to the part of brain of the brain that is responsible for decision-making and feelings like trust and loyalty but it's not responsible for language which is why it's hard to put into words [Music] get up get out go meet the world head-on go meet whatever it is okay you got to make up to somebody you got to apologize for something you've done you got to make up by the damage of of years of neglect and maybe betrayal and look I've done all that I've had all those things where I screwed up over and over and over again my reputation sucked I was 20 between the ages of 15 and 25 years old it was like I was doing everything I could just to damage damage my reputation okay if it made me look bad I did it so here today I'm gonna spend ten days 14 days something like that up here with that view you can fix anything I'm proof that you can fix anything anything can be fixed anything can be fixed but you got to fix it you got to fix it you can't just sweep it under the old rug you gotta fix it you gotta clean up the damage you got to pay the price clean up your debts do what you say you're gonna do become the most dependable person in your space and come to go to person oh I can put that person on stage and know exactly what they're gonna get for me I can put that person in the game and I know what play they're gonna run I can put that person on the floor and I know they're gonna get it done be the go-to person you know those first couple months I remember thinking to myself I'm in business two months now you know I remember getting to the point where I had $15,000 in sales probably six months into the company and I'm still living in the hole and thinking okay I can do this I can do this and along the way it was lots of trial and error you know there were things that were new to meet things that were terrifying to me things that would just break out into a sweat but I always remember going into my customers and just trying to be brutally honest and say to them if I can help you right if I can bring value if I can make your company more competitive more profitable will you work with me and you don't have to put money I'll do the work to prove it and if I get it done then we'll met you know we'll figure it all out you know or they agree to a price and then they'll pay it at that point and one by one I just kept on making customers happy and lost some you know for everyone I lost picked up three and I got I was so nervous about the whole thing that you know I just I couldn't imagine slowing down you know and so people talk about you know life family balance I hadn't done I mean I literally remember dating some girl this is and it was like we've been dating a couple years like it mark you're so into your work I mean I want to pick a fence I want a house I want kids you know I mean you it's me or your job and I was like or me and you're me or your company and I was like what's your name again I'm 60 years old and I'm everybody who works for me is younger than me and they'll tell you I worked you up under the table vision is an internal thing right it is the world that you want to live in right Jobs was the rebel and he always was against big business all the visionaries that we know has some sort of personal experience and imagine a world that is different to the one they live in now and we'll use their businesses to help build that world that doesn't mean they're the only ones doing it but what makes them a leader is they're the one leading towards that place right so vision has to come from you if you're the founder of a company your business is not the only way you do it what have you quit your business and start another one it doesn't matter they should all be contributing towards this vision and you're not the only one doing it but if you're the one preaching it and you're using your company to advance it that makes you the leader that's where everybody copies you but it's not about anticipating the market trend which is an interest thing you're asking me it's got to start with values the interest comes second [Music] you can make mistakes in you like make them fast right you're gonna lose a deal make them lose the deal faster you're not gonna make any money on the deal make sure the deals quick there's part of you that either once you create a business or you all obviously already have created a business the hardest part is taking that first step right there's always that line like I was talking about earlier that you have to take a step pass but the thing people always say well you know you're not afraid to start a business why aren't you it's terrifying or you know I just it scares me to do it and my my attitude has always been if you're prepared it's not a risk right Bobby Knight who was the coach at Indiana University used to say everybody's got the will to win but it's only those with the will to prepare that do win and the same applies to business we've all seen her friends go out there and just wing it you know it's my passion we're all passionate about something I'm passionate about basketball doesn't make me an NBA player right it's not just about passion it's not just about saying I'm doing it it's not even about incorporating it's not about the idea it's about are you prepared and are you willing to do the work you gotta quit you got to quit saying nonsense occult stuff like you know I'm happy where I'm at and we're good we're all good you know this is just good everything's good and I'm better off with somebody and that you got to comparing yourself to other people you got to quit talking like the middle-class like like you've somehow arrived because somebody in Iran is suffering yeah you know you're good until you're not there's nobody watching that gets enough money to charity yeah okay everybody watching should be able to give a million dollars a year to charity but you can't you know why you can't you would if you could but you can't because you didn't know you didn't produce enough because by the way it's not your money anyway yeah somebody else gave you the money and you pass it on most of you like I'm really charitable I'm really good but you never do enough why because you never have enough because you didn't produce enough because you didn't work enough because you didn't expect it so I would just say to people look have some loftier goals you are at your best when you are authentic to your core and you have to be what you are not what they call you you know I I tend to believe that there's no finality or anything you know it's not like you know your even though we do our lives are finite life is infinite and your life goes on and for me the goal is not to produce something that has an end point but to produce something that has momentum that kind of you you

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