Be The Leader You Wish You Had - Best Simon Sinek Motivational Speech (very powerful words!)

uh what does it mean to be healthy you're asking me the question what does it mean to be a great parent like i don't have five things to be a great parent right it's a lifestyle and it comes number one with the commitment that i am responsible for the life of another human being the growth of another human being the closest thing to leadership is parenting you have to be an infinite student of parenting you know you want to be a parent you ask your friends you ask your own parents you join groups you read magazines you watch talks whatever it is you're constantly consuming how to deal with this constantly changing challenge of being a parent and it's ups and downs and successes and failures you know and that's what it is leadership is the same leaders great leaders are students of leadership no matter how achieved they may be they're still learning and it's a lifestyle it's the lifestyle of what i need to do to look after people which includes things like listening learning how to give and receive feedback um learning how to have effective confrontations how to discipline when necessary in a way that's constructive um roam the halls get to know people learning what it means to to ask somebody questions how do you ask questions you know like some people are naturally good at being curious about other human beings and some people are uncomfortable because they're introverts or whatever socially awkward but we can learn you know how do you learn to remember people's names well i'm bad at names no you've just decided you're bad at names we can learn to be good at names so that when we walk down the hall and say hey tom oh my god he remembers my name it's a nice feeling it's a lifestyle it's a lifestyle there are many many things we have to do and constantly work on to be a great leader to create that environment everything that we talking about in the infinite game is really really really really hard it is so much easier to build a company based on short-term ambitions than it is an infinite cause it just is right it's also fun right until it's not um less inspiring but sometimes sometimes fun right hitting a goal feels good right um it's much easier to just hire and fire people frequently hire fast fire fast as to hiring slowly and and firing slowly because we we try and take care of our people as best we can it's just it's hard to build teams all of that stuff we talked about leadership like what am i supposed to do to build a trusting team well i wish i could give you a list of five things it's really really hard to be a parent it's much easier to be an uncle or an ad or not have kids right it's hard right so why do it you know it's fun and and exciting to be to try and beat our competitors you know but to to have to face our own weaknesses every day oh that's exhausting you know existential flexibility i'd rather not i just would rather not so so the reason this takes courage to completely change our mindset a about the game that we're actually players in um and how we want to approach these things and do we want to shift our mindset and our organizations to prepare for the infinite game to be organized for the infinite game it takes courage because we're going to be swimming upstream in a world that is very finite driven you know the pressures on us are overwhelming from wall street or our own egos or from internal incentive structures or our bosses whatever it is the pressures are overwhelming for us to play the finite game and so how do you stand up to massive external pressure courage and courage is something that comes from relationships you know it's external a a world famous trapeze artist would never attempt a brand new death defying act for the first time without a net they would never do it so why do we think that we could do something difficult without external support too i've had the opportunity to meet real heroes people who've risked their lives to save the lives of others with the belief that they were gonna die and they didn't and when asked why did you do it they all say something similar which is they would have done it for me it's external and so we have to have we have to take the time to foster and take care of people around us to nurture our relationships because when we're going to be doing something difficult when we're going to be swimming upstream when we're going to be innovating and and and doing something different there are days we're going to doubt ourselves there are days we're going to get knocked in our ass there are days that storms are going to rise and we have to have people who say i got your back you need to do this we need you the world needs this keep going i believe in you you know um and so courage courage comes from from not only our willingness to do that for others but then their willingness to do it for us and if we commit ourselves to a just cause and we're willing to to do those things then you know the great thing is we take a lot of people with us and change the world for the better and isn't that sort of the point of an infinite life to leave this world in better shape than we found it to leave the companies that we work for in better shape than when we started to leave our families stronger and better capable than than what they can do without us you know is isn't that what it means to live an infinite life that we can literally literally live on beyond our own lives so now when people have that and they take that mantle on and they have the ecosystem around them that gives them that powerful support that they need to really be courageous and i'll assume for a second that the people watching this they have that one thing that i imagine a lot of people feel helpless to do is influence the culture of the company that they're already in so is your what is your advice for somebody that's in a company that they they don't have an infinite minded culture don't don't be there no don't try and influence that which you cannot influence don't control that which you cannot control you know an infinite mindset means that is something i can't do but i can influence and take care of the people to the left of me and to the right of me i can take care of the people who work for me i can even take care of the person i work for sometimes we have a toxic boss not because they're bad but because we don't understand the pressure they're under sometimes to simply exhibit empathy to our boss you know hey boss you were really harsh on us today everything all right what's going on i'm worried about you you know um i'm here like we can we can succeed together i'm we're here to help you you know if we're no matter where we are inside our organization leadership is not about rank or authority leadership is taking responsibility for the people around us and so any anybody on any team at any rank at any level can be a leader the first choice is that we have to want to be a dear friend of mine lieutenant general george flynn from the marine corps said that the first criterion to being leader is you have to want to be one um so any of us can volunteer to be a leader and that's what you do you commit yourself to seeing that the people with whom we work on a daily basis love coming to work they feel that someone's got their back they feel supported they feel that they have top cover they feel someone cares about them as a human being listens to them knows their story allows them to be themselves we can be that leader and what you start to see is those teams becomes really high performing those teams become super tight and you start to hear rumors across the company because everybody wants into that team because apparently it's a great team to work with to work on um and before you know it one of those people goes and moves to another team and they take everything that they learned because leadership has learned and they do it for another team and if we take that infinite mindset then eventually the tail will wag the dog and it doesn't matter if it's this ceo or another ceo because we will outlast whoever is in charge right now and that's the goal we're doing this for the good of the organization we're doing this for the good of the cause right and the tail can wag the dog i love that i think you've got your finger on something so important right now and i can feel this shift it was it i can feel that there's a shift happening but they need the words to understand it and i feel like your book delivers that and to me it was when you were explaining that the breakthrough moment for you was when you read about infinite games and suddenly you had the lexicon with which to conceptualize all this and i feel like what your book is delivering on is giving people the the framework with which to understand it i can't remember where i saw this but there was something that said oh there's this color a shade of blue that's been lost forever not because it doesn't exist in in wave forms of light but because we don't have a word for it and because we don't have a word for it we can't conceptualize it and thusly our brain just shunts it off into one of the colors that we do have a name for i thought whoa that's so powerful and so true and so accurate to the way that the brain works and reading the book that's what this felt like it was like now people are going to be able to talk about it in a way that's going to let them conceptualize what a company culture can be the way that the company can be driven by something bigger than the profits it gives them that organizing principle i think that's so incredibly powerful thank you i appreciate that and i agree and i mean that's what happened for me which is i found words for the discomfort i had i thought i had words for you know when people called me naive and said you don't understand how business works i didn't have a response because i didn't have words i just had a feeling and they had more success than me and they had more power than me so i didn't say anything you know call me old-fashioned i'd like to work for a company that outlasts me i'd like to work for a company where i can feel like i can be myself when i go to work i'd like to work for a company where i feel that my boss actually cares about me like i'm a human being rather than a you know just a number and a spreadsheet i'm with you there where can people find more about you where can they engage in this movement um you know i think the the question is you know when people say how do i join the movement how do i be a part of it um i always ask people the same thing which is be the leader you wish you had become a student of leadership study it read about it watch things about it practice it every day you know like be a parent you know like join the movement means i'm going to take care of my team sometimes i'm in a leader leadership position and sometimes i'm not and it doesn't matter i'm going to practice leadership if i'm a salesperson you know if i'm if i work at the if i work at the check-in counter of an airline i'm going to take care of the people i work with and take care of the customers as if as if they're my family you know like practice leadership learn about it study it because i do these things because i i recognize i'm just a piece of a jigsaw puzzle you know it's one of the reasons i wanted to come talk to you on camera it's because you know when we do a jigsaw puzzle the first thing you do is lean the picture of the the box against the wall and then you start putting the pieces together to build that picture my job in this movement i'm the guy who points at the box right i'm the one who's pointing at the picture pointing at the picture maybe pointing out a couple of the pieces and where they go but i need lots of people to join me we need lots of people to join us who say i have a piece of the puzzle i'm willing to lead this way i'm willing to abandon milton friedman ideals and and do something bigger something more follow that you know live with an infinite mindset lead with an infinite mindset and put their piece down and say how can i help build that vision we there's we need the army and so how people can engage in the movement is actually practicing all the stuff more than anything else that's what we need [Music] you

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Length: 11min 26sec (686 seconds)

Published: Mon Jul 20 2020