Art of body language | Kanan Tandi | TEDxGCT

the stock with one question how many of us have actually thought of reading somebody's mind horns I can see the hands yes okay few of them so what if I tell you that we always wanted to know what a person is thinking what is going on in a person's mind where the person is actually feeling let us start with this from head to toe what you should know and whatever I can tell you can be identified the deception in our daily lives yes we can we all have wanted to be that one body language trainer to identify what is going on there how can I decode this person okay have you ever felt that one little thing that we all call gut feeling intuition sixth sense that is a brain talking to us giving us the nonverbal signals so let us move on with the slides and the first thing I want to talk about here is in congruence what is in congruence we will be knowing in a few minutes this is the video that I want you to Monica Lewinski hmm it's back in the nurse well she's perfectly free to do that she is in my view an American who gets to express herself however she chooses very good Hilary is talking about Monica Lewinsky we all know what is the connection but we are not talking about the connection here so we are talking about Hilary saying that Monica Lewinsky is free to do however she chooses now let us watch the same video in mute and slow motion Monica Lewinsky hmm it's back in the nose monica lewinsky hmm it's back in the nose a positive statement and head is going low how many of us can see that when we have a positive statement and the head is shaking no it's mostly our body is saying no so Monica Lewinsky is a big no for Hillary here let us move ahead and let us go to another example a very interesting movies coming up a very interesting thing is of course Karan Johar making his debut so what should we watch out for you watch out for him he who is fantastic he's a really really really funny guy it's so much fun just talking to current because he's he's so funny and his sense of humor is fantastic Anushka Sharma lead actress Bollywood asked about Karan Johar and she says he's a really really really funny guy how many of you actually think that she thinks like that of Karan Johar very interesting movies coming up a very interesting thing is of course Karan Johar making his debut so what should we watch out for you watch out for him now I want you to look at her eyes when it rolls down from one way to another he's a really really really funny guy when we say funny it should be a good and big smile and we will be seeing a quick disgust which will just be coming in a moment which is like here and we see that oh I hit Karan Johar but the face itself is telling the truth and this is what my friends is incongruence we have seen just two of the in congruence the first will be head head shake but which is yes and saying a positive statement and speaking no sorry you are shaking the head no and the second is the expression which does not go with the words so moving on to the next point which is body point or angle wherever our hottest there our body is which is very clear in here if we are in sync with a person our heart is with them our body will be towards them okay might be a problem that a husband and wife has some kind of problem but it is true with friends also if we like a person our body will be pointing towards them if you don't like the only face will be turning towards them so be very very careful when you meet a person or when you speak to the neighbor standing in a different way and talking to them that the LCSs I will be calling you later this evening that is not the coil call that is going to happen why this body point bickers our brain always knows where to point at where our honesty lies so body will feet or body will point towards a person where we actually like or to which person we actually feeling our heart is moving to the next point which is pacifier pacifier these pacifier are way different from those children pacifier that we see these pacifier and actually used by adults how let us just see and is there a woman your tremendously and immensely attracted to a woman yeah I am attracted to all women lovely especially now something has just changed I don't know what it is but yeah very good a woman I am attracted to all woman in slow motion noticing tremendously and immensely attracted to a woman when a person is rubbing the thighs and speaking I am attracted to all women that's most probably a lie because why we are using a self-soothing gesture here why self-soothing gesture you remember all those your childhood times when we used to cry and our mom used to rub our back everything is fine and everything is alright we have developed that thing in our adulthood when we are not comfortable with what we are speaking we usually rub our hands legs back of the neck there are more than 20 and here if we see the rubbing of hands and movement of hands meaning there is an illustrated here illustrator meaning I'm actually telling you the truth so when a person uses the hand the person is confident the person is touching themselves and self-soothing in a non-sexual way that is a pacifier let us move to another example so sub-sahara suwanee kg sanicu claim gurney cbi key jar scheme anchoring Jacquelyn Dickey a boy being son could be markers at that the video is in Hindi where rod is asking about the jiah Khan suicide episode and Aditya pencil is asking Kobi kuch bhi monk as if anybody is free to do anything very important sentence one small sentence but before speaking that sentence what he exactly feel that we can look which is in slow motion one pacifier rubbing of hands a rubbing of phase ii is rubbing of hands and third is again wiping of the face and then we move little bit further we see him doing a little thing with his lips which again falls into the category of pacifiers so there are four active pacifiers which means that he is immensely under stress right now why the person will be under stress if he does not have anything to hide that's the problem of pacifier it's a big giveaway of low confidence so when you are low at confidence do not touch yourself in fact do the opposite just don't touch touch yourself at all so these are the features that you might use to your own benefit to identify if a person is actually about to life if a person has exception in his or her mind so now I just want to tell you one more thing that is from head to toe be very very sure where to look and know who's friend and who's for thank you

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Length: 8min 45sec (525 seconds)

Published: Tue Aug 16 2016