ANSWERING YOUR RELATIONSHIP QUESTIONS - Lunch Break!

more spray we are back with another lunch break summer is over it feels like it's cooling down which is nice I'm in denial it also means a lot of summer lovin is cooling down it was hopefully not I mean unless you wanted to hide radiation is starting already the early stages so we did something fun on social media we did a call-out for questions see if you guys need advice on your love life and we're the panel to answer it we have years of accumulated experience to share with you all yeah don't ask bug qualifications take it for what it's worth also all of these are gonna be anonymous because some people ask to be but some people all did it clarify so we're just gonna make them all I'm not you're in a safe space here yes thank you John first question how do I find my own Peter Kavinsky what is that a big movie that came out this summer on Netflix to all the boys I loved before oh that guy so how do you get a two-faced deceiving no yeah don't make any romantic deals in high school don't write a letter and accidentally send it out there's there's five things you need to do and it's all five letters yeah okay let's break it down to like what she's really looking for yeah - all those whatever right awkward things what are you really he's a sweet boy okay first I know a lot of nice mail boys and men so that I check you know who I like more than Peter cousin see I like John Krasinski oh well I like whoa sorry you want to find a guy that fits you you know it's not about this pretty boy who drives a Jeep I mean technically you're asking how do you find them it's not your job to find them they find you so you be yourself and whoever is tracked to you those are the right people because if you have to do something different so that they come to you I think that's a bad start my answer is no you'll never find a Peter Kavinsky how can you be less shy or awkward on a first day or just a friendly hangout with someone you're interested in that's that's a good question I struggle with that did you ever struggle with that being really nervous on a date still right now oh yeah I've been having lunch dates for many years now I face that exact problem and the way to do it is stop trying mmm I think the more you try not to be awkward becomes very evident that you're not in your own comfort zone if you're awkward if you spill water on yourself but you know you can make a joke out of it that ultimately that confidence is what people like to see I think once you like remove expectations from the date and like stop thinking about how you're being perceived and you focus on just interest in them then is a little bit more natural - that's a good point that you make like if you're going into a date with a result already in mind of like oh I want this person to be my girlfriend or whatever going in with that expectation already yeah set you back yeah it was so like this is because I just watched a terrace house and in an episode the girls also very quiet and like shy and she was very nervous when she wrote up a list of questions but the thing was she brought it out like the awkward part I was like dang it she could think of that concept but don't physically bring it out I mentioned that heavily in head like you can have those questions but don't be upset they don't follow that plan well how do I work out for her it was very awkward I don't live why I would say like totally bring it out and be like hey I'm real good so I made these questions you know I mean you could totally go into it I can see it being yeah I mean knowing what how you are and and just be okay with it in terms of expectations about dates stop watching romantic comedies that's a good I am always funnier than the dudes I date any advice on how to hold confidence any advice on how to find my equal Google also think that you shouldn't ride off a guy too quickly in the first date if he doesn't have the humor cuz I know personally that I don't want to assume that they find the same things I think they're funny on the first date and usually that stuff kind of comes out naturally as you get to know someone or like he's getting more comfortable yeah like that last question about being awkward maybe he's not fully you know able to get in his own yet a few days there's probably some waste like test the waters to you like maybe like send some memes or not meme compatible sorry I'm also kind of just I wouldn't know how funny this person is yeah yeah dude are you actually funny less think you're funny we're asking you questions now what are some really beautiful and cheap or free date places to go in SoCal boom I think a picnic is the cutest easy you go to a lake or a nice park make food something you could cook something yeah it's in traffic to get there and it'll be like 90 degrees no shade but that's a good that's good point nothing public settings like that are usually pretty cheap like malls farmers markets hmm please I can just walk around kind of explore and yeah I think cooking is a fun like early date because I feel like if you can learn to cook with somebody a good way to learn how compatible you are covers a lot of ground yes covering ground what about a hike not a long one I was gonna say I was gonna say a hike like a one-mile hike you got you not too much of a commitment a lot of exits Taylor knows how to get to my office that's for some clarity mm-hmm I think it's a good date idea of I don't know that maybe is Thursday maybe they're both athletic but that is a free thing I will say now it's deal-breaker so if on that first thing you're like huh I'd rather be like what I think has had a bad week that's tired that's different than not not enjoying it so you're saying a hike was what you say driving maybe driving somewhere that no neither of them have been to yet and exploring it together and finding something there to do so all you have to do is worry about you know getting there and then from there it's kind of like an adventure together technically what it Eddie did feel like driving to a place you having obviously my but it has to be a place that neither person has been so weak so cast specifically any desert places good oh yeah and you share it's like well you gotta try this oh so good what about what about things not to do on a first date places that you shouldn't go that you shouldn't do okay cuz I one thing came to mind is don't watch a movie that takes up like you know a big two-hour chunk of your night that like you might not get to know this person as much as you would have hoped I think that's a it's a but I have done that and you know if the person's really into movies then you can you know make it into more of a conversation piece as long as you have something after it yeah you know yeah watch the movie what movie first I always tell people don't get sushi on the first day cuz like I mean I have trouble eating large specialty premiere balls and so it falls apart as you buy it it looks like a it's tough what sushi it's great any tough work on your chopsticks it's just you know take two bites sometimes it it like up falls apart and your maintain eye contact okay okay anyone that says me maintain eye contact while trying to you're listening and then chewy that's why it's falling apart yeah I'm gonna confuse you guys and go against what I just said don't go somewhere you haven't been huh go somewhere where at least once you know so you have control so you're taking taking bath I'm not talking about the driving I'm not taking it back this is this is good because like one person can lead this day one person can be the next and then it's like it's like a conversation you can take any situation and make it a good one like I just did so good luck how do you fix a relationship when your conversations start to run dry or repetitive since you spend so much time together how do you not run out of things to talk about so it's not like that comfortable stage go do new things together or do new things separately so you have things to come back to talk about good one I think it's hard to like say this will fix it it might not be fixable you know it might be signs that it's on the way but there's it definitely could be fixable yeah if you're trying to save it though I think you know always looking for something new to do or just something new to bring to the table because learning more about yourself will help the relationship to you know communication like talking to the person who's saying I noticed this and I really want to work on it see how they react I see this as like two situations too like where one is like you did get along at one point and it is like the window down or you just never got along the first place and you just keep trying it like yeah put something there that is it yeah get those establish that you're both on the same page and you both want to make it work so you're both contributing the same amount of effort to do it cuz I can see a problem with one person's like I'm gonna try to reignite this yeah and then it's like wait why aren't you like meeting me halfway when you're in a relationship there's three lives does you the other person and there's a relationship then there's two little your keys to know if I use five lives if you had a cat it'd be like sorry I was like two cats eighty two cats but one cat is how do you deal with not getting along with your SOS best friends I don't know about that I've seen the other way around where I'm the best friend and the Esso is not like reaching out if they stop bars I maybe can't hide away wouldn't the friend visits so we don't get to know the person I think that's gonna operate that's really tricky there's so many dynamics there that are at play at least position yourself as like so and that's open and to trying to make this work you know if you can't be good friends with your SOS best friend at least like get to the point where you able to hang out in the same room right and they're not receptive it and I think it's kind of like a lost cause yeah and hopefully the person you're with they should be your best link to those friends and they can maybe find commonalities your friends impression of your significant other is only going to be based off what the last thing you told them right so like if they only hear the bad sides are gonna think oh the relationships not good like make sure to tell your friends the good side suit you know it's good point things like people tend to rant they don't tend to share what's good yeah so you as a person the middle need to make sure everyone has all the information yeah last one I think is the most important one what if I date a girl but she doesn't like wrong food no rod make sure she doesn't know you're watching this video okay there's always more long food I think that says a lot about her character and you should really be evaluated at you're hanging out with just kidding ultimately you're the person you're with is not gonna have all the same interests as you that's totally okay you probably like a few things that she doesn't or he doesn't have fun finding those things out because that's what makes a relationship really exciting watch this episode with her yes and notice how I actually I was on their side I helped defend them so I think we gained a point there yeah now they're gonna start well yeah no no Sarah watch it's reverse reverse psychology don't tell them how can you not like this that it it was fast that's it why we didn't answer home okay oh I was just gonna say we've solved everyone we've solved everything we are pros you're welcome yeah there was a ton of questions we didn't get to you and actually this was a lot of fun if you want us to do this again there's definitely more questions we can answer in the next episode thanks for watching guys remember lunch breaks every Thursday don't forget to Like comment and subscribe check out our patreon if you want to become a care holder we have merch on our website 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Channel: More Wong Fu

Views: 153,041

Keywords: relationship advice

Id: FQ9sPlVG8Os

Length: 13min 0sec (780 seconds)

Published: Thu Sep 20 2018