Actually Dressing for The Male vs. Female Gaze

[Music] the male gays versus the female gays do we really have to pick do we really have to compromise our style to fit into one of the categories I think not so I was inspired by Koko's video on YouTube guys don't watch her Channel you definitely should she did a video it was more of a social experiment of dressing for the female gaze versus the male gaze and if you guys are on the internet I'm sure you've heard these terms before but if you haven't dressing for the female gays is just what it sounds like dressing for the girls dressing in outfits that attract girls attention and then vice versa for the male gays do I think these are right or real I don't know we're going to play around with them today but I do have like a bone to pick with them in general I think that the male and female gaze is so subjective I don't think it is as black and white as as maybe it's made out to be in more like mainstream ways of talking about it as we all know there is not one type of female and one type of male when I look at things that are geared towards the male gaze and I think of my boyfriend Brandon or even my brother because of how close I am to them I know that the things that are said to be the male gays they would find appalling not appealing that's the opposite so I think that if you want to dress for the male gaze you totally can and you can still have style while doing it and if you want to dress for the female gays same thing a lot of the male gays like I'll talk about in the video when I showed just some different outfits a lot of people say it's more like tight clothing showing off your boobs your butt um long luscious hair they even say like red nails or high heels and I think all of those things like if I wear them and if Brandon you know sees another girl out in them that's like not what he likes in a partner if that makes sense and so maybe like the male gaze just means like it attracts male attention but what if we want to attract good male attention and because the only man I know is my boyfriend Brandon who I've been with since 16 a lot of this is like geared more towards him he is more of a I don't know like if you're trying to pull a man out there like just pull a Brandon because he's literally Perfection so these outfits are the not male male gaze what I think the male gaze is female versus male gay let's just get into it and this occasion would be like a wedding guest a wedding guest outfit I always get questions for wedding guest outfits so let's get into it also my hair is like the opposite of male gaze anytime I do a slicky bun uh well not anytime I've done a slicky bun and I've gotten made fun of by men before ignore that I'm deciding how I want to go about this this is the female gaze version I'm going to style the same dress just in the male gaze versus female gaze so for female gaze I'm going to do when I'm saying these terms just know I mean them with like a grain of salt it's just like ease of not having to explain each time and it's just like a fun stupid video I really don't mean anything by it I don't really believe in them that's that but we can do like little socks and like even this female gaze when I'm going to do it they are things that even like Brandon looks at my boyfriend Brandon looks at and is like that's weird does he make fun of me no does he lie to me and tell me he likes it no and I appreciate that I like like I don't know him being honest with me but he did say these shoes were fine I asked him right before I left because I I didn't know how he felt about them I thought maybe we could do red tights though because I feel like that's such a I don't know like thing right now it might be a little aggressive for your men out this video is just fun it's silly okay guys these tights are just from Amazon and isn't this dress the most beautiful dress you've ever seen it was my mom's I raided her closet because I'm trying not to buy new things and I was just like I'm going to look through her clothes this little dress is originally from B it fits me so perfect and it's just like the perfect little black dress yeah I think I like this and then also I'm going to put on my mom this little necklace I also showed Brandon this and he said it was weird he didn't say he didn't like it though so like I don't it's really me just exposing Brandon but he's always like it's fine like you can talk bad about me on the internet I'm like I don't have anything bad to say about you but this little choker was my mom's like I just said and when I was little I used to always put it on and I was like oh I wish it would fit me cuz it was too big and now it fits and like I want to go to a wedding cuz this is like the coolest outfit ever I think if I was like really going to a wedding I would do my hair like in a Victorian style uh like updo with a lot of curls that'd be so cute okay but this would be my wedding guest outfit the female Gaye would definitely spark some conversation I literally wore plaid tipe to a wedding in October and nobody complimented them so it's actually for the nobody gays this is so cute though wedding guest attire okay because I also feel like a common misconception with the female gaze is that you can't wear like tight or short clothing but like I definitely think you can and still do it in a way that is man repeller so let's any I don't want to OV explain myself okay if you don't understand what I mean that is totally okay we don't have to understand each other on a perfect level you can misunderstand me I'm totally fine with that Let's do let's dress this for the male gaze now so we're still going to do tights but we're going to do black tights these black tights are from Wolford and oh my God you guys they're the most beautiful black tights in the whole wide world this is also something I feel that's like a misconception it's like oh highest heels if you're trying to you know catch a man not when you're 5'7 it is very intimidating to them again I wore these two wedding and every short King there had something to say about it and like I wish I just had like black heels I have these little blue ones that you know definitely still are cute and they're like a good height where they're not like too low but I just don't think they fit really like they don't match I just don't think it's good I think the black boots are the way to go but like are black boots dressy enough you know who doesn't understand a dress code Brandon I don't know if he likes boots though we'll see does like my heels though my high heels whole video is just how much can Laney talk about her boyfriend Brandon this is just like a really cute outfit though it's not like as dressy because the heels I do think it's more male gaze appropriate and I think I think Brandon would like this outfit [Music] better [Music] okay let's move on to the next I want to do just like casual daytoday I don't know if this Hat's going to work because my hair is up but I really want it to I just look horrible well like it looks horrible in a way I kind of like it it's like a swim cap this reminds me what this video is this is such a female gaze outfit I know that if Brandon if I walked out in this outfit Brandon or my brother or any other man in my life my dad what whatever would be like that's weird what are you wearing and they just don't get it okay the men in my life not saying all men I just don't think overalls are really like their favorite things these boots I know are not Brandon's favorite things he does not like boots either does my brother honestly like my brother hated my cowboy boots back in 2020 Brandon thinks these sunglasses are weird and I know he would think that this little mesh cap is weird and it is weird he's like right they're all weird and that's why I like them I'm going for a very hippie 7s aesthetic right now and I think it is so stinking cute I wish I would like wear this but I just don't know if I would I want to do a whole video of like what I plan to wear versus what I wore because this is something I find so adorable but it's like just a little too much for me I'm already leaning into a lot of spring attire because like I just want it to be warm outside and it was kind of like warm outside today so day to day what am I doing in this outfit God knows what but let's do like a day-to-day outfit that I think would attract the type of man you want in your life I mean this could honestly okay I wanted to keep the like shirt on to see if I could still style it in a bit more of like a tone down way I guess so I actually flipped it I love flipping like a little tie front top I don't think it looks weird in the back at all I think it looks honestly just really pretty and it's still like revealing in a different way if I wore it the other way it just showed too much of my bra so I flipped it I said this in a video so long ago but if you have a crush on somebody and you want them to notice you start dressing like them literally subtly start wearing things that they wear and they will notice you and they'll probably start liking you it's like a psychology thing that I literally did with Brandon in high school because I am a weirdo and I had a big fat crush on him before he knew who I was obviously it worked because now we have a baby together oh my God so I think of like sambas Brandon Wares these kind of like Dicky esque pants a little belt but then we still like made it feminine with this kind of top honestly if Brandon if this was like a Brandon outfit he would pick like just a big baggy t-shirt or honestly I think that this is like a really good every boy likes it top this little sweater from stucy that I've worn so often and I like try to stop showing it in videos because I don't really know how else to style it but it's kind of cool with this like crochet thing underneath like this is not the typical male gaze outfit if you're looking for like not a typical man I guess or like a different type of typical man this is a male gaze outfit I'd probably still do my hair down though or like pigtails or little two little French [Music] braids okay let's do some like Trends I want to show how to style capri in like a female versus male Gaye way because I think that's fun okay the outfit seems simple enough like it wouldn't I can't stand like that like when every time I do the I just feel like a meme this outfit seems simple enough but it has some key elements that every man in my life would kind of be confused about maybe it's just because like on me it confuses them like I don't normally do it dayto day so then when I do it it's just like oh it's different what are you doing and they get butt hurt by it but whatever so I don't think Capri are like a female gaze thing um I honestly don't even think boys really notice that your shorts are or that your pants are longer or shorter or most boys guys whatever you want to say and I think they'd honestly like them because they're a bit tighter they're not like a big baggy unflattering jean that I don't know a lot of guys don't like what would throw the man off in my opinion the man oh my God I just feel weird like even talking like this in this video but whatever the little kitten heels of course they're just like a little bit polarizing a basket what are you doing carrying a basket around instead of a purse they don't know Jame Burkin and then the red lip I have never met a man who likes a red lip so that's what we've got on today it's very French girl I think it's so Chic I would totally wear this outfit and I think it's adorable and I think you would get so many compliments from your fellow girlies which is gender neutral maybe not who you want to attract but maybe who you want to attract for a date okay let's stop some Capri in a different way oh my God this whole video is just going to seem like I hate Brandon and I hate men and it's not true I tried getting my red lip off but like I feel like it's not really working I just really wanted the whole point of this video is that you can still dress in both ways and like as a joke defining them but you can still dress both ways and still have style it doesn't mean you have to like I don't know give up a piece of yourself so this is still something I would totally wear and honestly all these like male gaze outfits I am more likely to wear day-to-day because for me it doesn't even attract male attention it just attracts like less attention uh which I feel like is so different for most of the like female Gaye vers male gaze outfits I don't know if you really want to attract male Gaye attention put on yoga pants and a sports bra that is their ultimate or you know wear anything and a will track unwanted mailgate but this is for more like wanted I don't know does that make me seem wrong I'm not like trying to look for mate you guys get what I mean I hope whatever but I just switched out the t-shirt for this top that I just think is so flattering it's from peachy Den this little cow neck top and then as always sneakers I feel like that's Brandon's go-to and then like my brother he's literally a sneaker head so that would be something he would always suggest I swap out if he doesn't like my outfit so there we go like it's still cute I absolutely adore it I love black and brown together we still get to play with the trends of the Capri and I actually like this outfit so much I'll definitely wear it in the spring and summer [Music] time oh I wanted to do like the library raran Chic whatever you want to call it I have my real glasses for this trend this is definitely such a big Trend online and I feel like even if I wear it in real life and a lot of people online still like don't get it or just like don't like it but these are my real glasses and I have pretty horrible Vision so I have contacts in right now and if I put them on like I can't see anything but here's the female gaze outfit for the like office I don't know what they're calling it but you know what this trend is I'll try and figure out what people are calling it but I really do like these little glasses it just like is early 2000s uh to me honestly it's another version of Y2K so I like this version of Y2K I think it's fun like it's not like so bright and colorful it's more like we're watching the Y2K movies and we're not looking at the like main character students we're looking at the teacher in the background at what they're wearing they're wearing this so I think it's fun I don't really know if this would attract any attention or like anybody would really say I like your outfit but I would like my outfit and I'm a girl so that counts let's do like a boy version of this trend or wow I hate explaining it is Brandon gaze Brandon's gaze in my gaze very similar yes this is definitely something more likely of what I would wear a day today following this trend I just think it's a little bit more me it's a little bit more youthful and like just the boots in general I'm more of a loafer flat shoe girl or like my little tiny kitten heel this is my other take on this trend for or the Gaze of somebody I would like to attract it's cute I think I can't really see it oh but are you surprised to see these glasses still on me cuz I was surprised I brought these out because they are my backup glasses that I've just been wearing more dayto day because I was inspired by you know seeing the trends online I literally can't wear them I'm getting a headache but I brought them out and I wore them one night because I wear my glasses every night when I take on my contact and Brandon unprovoked those glasses are really cute and I was like you like these I thought thought he was going to say I looked like a nerd or a geek he's never called me any of those things I don't know he thought they were cute and I've been wearing them more like out dayto day uh and said he likes them so that's why they got to stick [Music] around cheetah print and then a wild card okay I think that this is cute and it's a different way of styling this skirt that I haven't shown I did it with a little pair of moto boots I would definitely wear this day today I love cheetah print I've always loved cheetah print since my cheetah print jacket I got in like 2018 never remember when I got that but I talk about it all the time people are saying cheetah print is trending which I love it it's cute more cheetah print on the market and more cheetah print for me to look at I got this one off whatnot it's thrifted this is the sweater also that Alexa Sun sunshine 83 I don't know why her name instead of just saying Alexa her full username comes out of my mouth every time she thrifted this for me on her Channel she did a video where she thrifted me a whole style bundle and it was just like the sweetest coolest thing and as you can tell this sweater is like my favorite piece from it Moto boots it's adorable it's got some elements that I think I don't have to go into it can you guys tell my undies are showing My Parade unies let's just move on to what I think is a more male gaze outfit in my definition feel like I have to say it every time and I'm being annoyed of myself still such a cute outfit again one I would just be more likely to wear dayto day I love gray and cheetah print this is another fun way to do it I don't think these jeans are too much and I've never gotten any weird looks in them they honestly feel pretty like neutral I don't know if I'm just delusional toning anything down with sambas I did say in 2024 I wanted to stop toning things down I want to tone it up but it's easier said than done I'm like trying little by little to do that in my everyday life with like getting dressed every day you know give me some time people here's the other style of cheetah print and like just because the other one was a skirt and maybe more feminine doesn't mean that it's more male gaze [Music] appropriate okay I want to play more with like 70s style because I'm just like excited to wear some of these pieces in the summertime Springtime so let's do like one more 70s look and then we'll be done cuz I just think like 70s and these big sunnies and all that kind of stuff and those little hats and would definitely attract the attention of men like on the street being nasty and like cat calling I think if like Brandon saw me in this outfit he would think took the wrong turn at AUM okay he would think this is really weird or like I'm trying to go to the swim club cuz I've got swim suit on and a swim cap I don't think I like these loafers with it I think I want my other little my fry boots like these shorts are teeny but I have worn them dayto day in the summertime and I think they're really cute no one's ever said did you forget your pants that's good I think if I had a black like little uh tank top that would work really well to wear my little loafers and with no socks I think is fun but I didn't bring one so we're going to do this kind of changing the style up like this is a weird outfit especially with the swim cap I just love the swim cap I got off Etsy I don't know if I already said that I think with my hair down the swim cap would look a lot better and like if you don't get it we're not understanding each other a lot in this video it seems like so let's keep these like shorts on and like this aesthetic going but some really easy tweaks that honestly make it more wearable for me doesn't this already just like make it so much more wearable and like chill I always wear this t-shirt that Brandon thrifted for me and these shorts together in the summer I think it's adorable one step further to take the boots off also nobody talks about fry boots they have no traction oh my God I slip and slide like crazy in them which I don't understand maybe it makes sense for you know the actual people who are meant to be wearing fry boots and not just like little fashion girlies I am a fashion faux paaw and I mix Nike and Adidas together my brother would be screaming because he hates when I do that but I don't care Jackson so here is the same or a different style but with the little shorts a lot more less weird and I've worn this outfit before like I said in the summertime a million times it's very comfortable only issue no pockets these shorts are from biblio I always say it wrong but I'm pretty sure it just means library in French on Instagram it's a Ukrainian brand though I absolutely adore these shorts they're so good for like under a skirt or dress that's too short we switched out the sunglasses obviously the shoes shoes and the shirt and we still have a really cute [Music] outfit I hope you guys enjoyed this video I hope nobody took offense to it because it's literally first of all nothing I say is true or real or matters Okay so don't believe anything I say I am here for entertainment purposes only me acting like I'm going to get sued or something I don't know I just thought it was a fun way to look at clothes it sparked something in me that came up with some different outfits that maybe I normally wouldn't show you cuz I think they're boring or too crazy or whatever so it was just a way to show off some outfits in like a silly sense I love you guys the absolute most make sure to like comment and subscribe if you want to and I'll see you in a few days bye [Music]

Channel: Laini Ozark

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Keywords: fashion, thrifting, style guide, 50 outfits, bestdressed, diy, aesthetic, pinterest girl, y2k, hauls

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Length: 22min 13sec (1333 seconds)

Published: Tue Jan 30 2024