Hello, my wonderful friend! Today I have 7 signs you are attractive, even
if you don't think so. If we're being honest, pretty much everyone
has moments in our lives where we just, frankly, don't feel attractive. That's normal and it happens to everyone. Have you ever been in that situation where
maybe you've had enough failed relationships that you're starting to wonder if maybe you're
even attractive enough to get the kind of relationship you want? Or maybe you have people who tell you you're
attractive, but you just don't really see it. Or something has happened to make you feel
like you're just not as attractive as other people. And then this obviously makes you start doubting
whether you'll actually be able to have the relationship you want. Have you ever been there? Are you maybe there right now? As I said before, this is normal, but it's
time for you to learn the truth. Because as they say, the truth really does
set you free, and you deserve the freedom of confidence. Here's the best part about this video: I'm
not just going to be talking about physical attraction. Although yes, that is part of it, and I will
be talking about that as well. But we're going to go even deeper and talk
about some of the qualities that allow you to attract a lasting, loving relationship
with the girl of your dreams. These are some of the qualities you need for
that. And I think you're going to be surprised by
the fact that you already have some of them. So make sure you stay with me till the end
of this video, so that you learn all of the signs. Before we dive in, make sure you subscribe
and ring that notification bell. My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men and creator
of Attracting Lasting Love Academy. I am your go-to source to learn how to attract
a loving, lasting relationship without mind games and without drama. We're talking a real deal, dream relationship
here. So make sure you subscribe and ring the notification
bell. And if you'd like to learn more about how
you can learn from me, how to attract a loving lasting relationship, just go to coachmelannie.com
to learn more. I will put a link in the description below. As we get started with our 7 signs you are
attractive, even if you don't think so, I'm going to mention a couple other videos that
will also help you with this. Make sure you watch this video with 17 other
signs that you are attractive and make sure you watch this video on how to win her heart. This is basic that every man needs to know
if you're looking for that loving, lasting relationship. So I will put links to both of those in the
description below. Sign number one that you are attractive is
probably going to sound weird, so just follow me, okay? Just go with me on this one. Sign number one is that you are alive. Yeah, I know that sounds funny. Just hear me out. I have been studying attraction for years. This is obviously what I do as a coach. And the more I study attraction, the more
I realize that it is far more simple than most people think it is. Being physically attractive is not cookie-cutter. It's not like there's one attractive type
and that's it. In reality, there are many different variations
that are very attractive to different people. Here's the way to think of it: There are attractive
qualities that pretty much everyone is looking for. And if you have those qualities, that's how
you can attract that lifelong, happy relationship. Those are basic fundamentals that everyone
needs to have. But then there are also different appearances
that are attractive to different people. This is true for men as well as women. This is why some men like tall women while
others like short women. Some like brunettes, some lik redheads, so
on and so forth. God doesn't make trash. He doesn't make junk. And he didn't put someone here just to be
ugly. Even if we don't see those qualities as attractive
in ourselves, there are people out there who think it's insanely attractive. This is why in my academy when I'm teaching
my clients about self-love and confidence and increasing your attraction, I teach you
how to do that in a way where you stay true to who you are. You never have to change who you are to be
attractive. We're all different, and that's what makes
it so amazing. For instance, I have a friend who's really
attracted to men who are really, really big, like barrel-chested and like big teddy bear
guys. They make her feel safe. She's very attracted to them. I have another friend who men like that intimidate
her and they make her feel less than safe, and so she prefers a man who isn't quite that
big. The truth is, there's something for everyone. Here's something I want you to remember with
this: It's not your fault that sometimes you feel like you have to be a certain type in
order to be attractive. There are a lot of people who are saying this. Honestly, they're manipulative, toxic people,
but that's a lecture for another day. It's not your fault that people are being
so unkind to you about this. The more I study science, and like I said,
I've done this for years, the more I see that you are amazing as you. Remember, you don't have to believe something
just because someone says it. Just because it's a popular opinion does not
make it accurate. Our second sign you're attractive, even if
you don't think so, is that you are willing to learn and grow. This is what we call a growth mindset. For years, people thought that you could only
reach a certain level of learning or a certain IQ, and then it just stopped and that you
could not grow new brain cells. However, we have since proven that wrong. Isn't that exciting? That's so cool. As a matter of fact, we now know that the
brain, when we learn and we study that the brain actually gets heavier, like a muscle. Like if you were to work out your arms or
something like that. The brain can in fact learn and grow. Now, some people stay in a very stuck, fixed
mindset. And they're not willing to learn, they're
not willing to grow, they're not willing to improve, often because of lack of confidence,
but they just kind of stay where they are. Other people say, "I can change. I can improve. I can learn. I can grow. I can become better." And those people are insanely attractive. Those people refuse to settle. While people who are in a fixed mindset, they
kind of have to settle by default on themselves and on their relationship. But someone who's willing to have that growth
mindset, they're exciting, they're interesting, they're fun, and they're insanely attractive
because they're always learning new ways to become even more attractive. As a matter of fact, if I had to pick just
one trait that is the most attractive trait someone could have, it would be the growth
mindset. Because if you have that one trait everything
else falls into place. So take a moment and just celebrate that. This means if you struggle with confidence
or if your relationships fail a lot and you don't know why, or if you struggle talking
to girls, or if you struggle getting past the first date, whatever your relationship
struggle is, you can learn how to change it. That's exciting, isn't it? You don't have to stay stuck where you are. But the important part is you can only change
it if you do something about it. And that's why the growth mindset is so important. The willingness to learn and grow and improve. As a coach, this is one of my favorite things
to see in my clients, when they apply what they learned in my academy. I've had men come to me who have felt really
desperate and really discouraged like maybe this is never going to happen for them. And watching them be able to flip it around
very quickly is incredibly exciting. It shows the power we have as humans to change
our situation and turn our life around. So if you're sitting here watching this video
right now, and you're not completely happy with your love life, there's something you
can do about it. And you need to take action so you can turn
it around. This is exactly what I'm here to help you
do and help you do quickly. That's why I created Attracting Lasting Love
Academy. So you can quickly learn exactly what you
need to know to attract that lasting, loving relationship. Everything from confidence, how to talk to
women, how to dress, how to skyrocket your physical attraction. I walk you step-by-step through exactly what
you need to know to avoid those toxic, mind game relationships, and finally have someone
who loves the real you, who sees who you really are and absolutely adores you. To learn more about that and how you can get
started today, just watch my free masterclass at coachmelannie.com/masterclass. This is where you will learn more about the
strategies I teach and why they are so crazy effective. So again, go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass
There's also a link in the description below, and I'll put a link in the pinned comment. I've seen the secrets I teach you in that
academy work wonders, and I can't wait to share them with you, so make sure you check
that out. Our third sign you're an attractive person,
even if you don't think so, is that you are an encouraging person. You build people up. I've said it before, I'll say it a million
times again, people like people who make them feel good. And if she feels good when she's around you
because you build her up, you encourage her, she's going to want to be around you more
and more. No one wants to be in a relationship where
they feel like they're not good enough or they feel criticized or they feel belittled. However, everyone wants to be in a relationship
where they feel like they're good enough, like their dreams matter, like they can do
this. So if you're someone who encourages people,
you are definitely so much more attractive than you realize. Our next sign that you're attractive, even
if you don't think so, is that you are a kind person. There was a massive study done - If you've
been following me for a while, you've heard me refer to it several times. - a massive study done where they asked people
what the trait they wanted the very most in a partner was. And the number one trait that came in above
looks and wealth and status and everything else was kindness. If you're being honest with me, is that one
of the things you want most in a partner? You want her to be kind, right? Because you're smart. Well, the truth is, so many people act like
women don't want a kind partner. Come on, give her the benefit of the doubt. Of course, she wants a kind partner if she's
remotely smart. And if she's not remotely smart, you should
not be dating her. Of course, she wants a kind partner. As humans, we are drawn to people who are
kind, and it's one of the traits that means the very most to us. If that's not something you can see right
now, if you look around at the women around you and you're like, "they don't seem to want
kind men," well, you're probably attracting toxic women. And you need to instead turn that around and
learn how to attract the high-value women because high-value women want a kind man all
day long. As a matter of fact, a high-value woman will
not settle for a man who isn't kind. So if you're not attracting those women, that's
again something I teach you how to do in Attracting Lasting Love Academy. So make sure you watch that free masterclass. Our next sign you're attractive, even if you
don't think so, is if you live a healthy lifestyle. This is something we kind of get confused
about a lot in at least the US Sometimes we hear "healthy lifestyle" and
we think "obsessive lifestyle." And we think that you have to give up every
food you enjoy, you have to spend hours and hours and hours in a gym, and you have to
be obsessive. And that's not true at all. If you are someone who focuses on health rather
than obsession, you're certainly a very attractive person, and there are a couple of reasons
why. When someone is healthy, that is like the
highest form of physical attraction. That's the way God made us. We are attracted to health. It also shows that this person has self-respect
and discipline. It shows that they will live longer, which
you certainly want your partner to live long, right? So a healthy lifestyle is definitely something
that makes you incredibly attractive. I'm going to say it one more time: This is
not about obsessing. If you haven't yet seen this video, make sure
you watch that one. I talk about it a little bit more there. I'll put a link in the description below. Quick question before we get to our next sign. Are you enjoying this video? And should I make more videos on this? If I should comment "attraction" to let me
know. Your feedback helps me so much, so thank you. And if you have any questions about this,
leave those in the comments as well. Again, if you want more videos, comment "attraction." Our next sign you're attractive is if you
create and focus on confident habits. Confidence really does come down to our daily
habits. Confidence is one of my favorite things to
teach how to create in my academy. When you have those confident, simple habits,
that's how you have high, healthy self-esteem and how you create that confidence and maintain
it. A lot of people don't know this, but confidence
is something you create, and it is something that you either maintain or you lose. And so if you're someone who learns what those
confident habits are and you maintain them you are insanely attractive. As humans, we are just drawn to people who
are confident. Confidence is one of those traits that I like
to call Attractive By Default. It's something everyone is attracted to. And the best part is, if you don't yet know
how to do that, that is something you can learn. Remember, confidence is attractive and it's
honestly just something you deserve to have. Our next sign you're attractive is if you
have good social skills. And it's important to note that social skills
kind of change as you get older. What worked in high school does not work as
an adult. Far too many people are still using the same
social skills they learned in high school, and it's not super effective. So just be aware of that. But if you're someone who's willing to learn
how to be charismatic, how to make people feel comfortable with you, how to handle small
talk in all of those things, you're an insanely attractive person. Why? Because it makes people feel comfortable when
they're with you. And we all want to be around someone who makes
us feel comfortable. When a man has good social skills, it makes
a woman feel safe with you. It helps her feel comfortable with you. And it helps her have more respect for you. And you have to have respect for someone in
order to love them. So even though it might sound like a really
small thing, it's incredibly attractive. And if you're talking about a high-value woman,
it's one of the biggest priorities that she's looking for in a husband. Now that you understand some of the biggest
signs, I want you to do a couple of things for me. Number one, be really honest with yourself,
and the things you're doing good at, pat yourself on the back. Celebrate that. That's a huge win and you should enjoy that. The second thing I want you to do is I want
you to honestly acknowledge the things that maybe you could improve on. Because remember, a growth mindset is one
of the most attractive traits you can have. And any of these things that maybe you're
not a boss at yet, you can learn how to become a boss at them. That's exciting, right? Like, that's really exciting. You don't have to stay stuck where you are. You can improve and become even more attractive. Which, who wouldn't want that. I'm here to guide you through that journey,
so again, make sure you watch my free masterclass at coachmelannie.com/masterclass. Any man who is unhappy in his love life, any
man who wants the relationship you've always dreamed of, even if you're afraid maybe it
doesn't exist, any man who wants someone to love you for the rest of your life must know
the secrets I teach in that academy. And trust me, they're going to blow your mind. You're not even going to know they exist until
I share them with you, but they make dating and relationships so incredibly simple, exciting,
and fun. So make sure you watch that free masterclass. Thank you so much for joining me in this video! If you haven't yet, be sure to subscribe and
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stories, so make sure you especially follow me there. Thank you so much again, my amazing friend,
and have an amazing day! [blooper beep] Here we go. Okay, it's going. I was looking at the wrong number and I was
like, "It's not going up. We're not filming." But we were, I was just looking at the wrong
place. That's fine. It's like a life lesson there. If you're looking at the wrong things, you
won't be able to measure your success accurately. Boom. Truth statement from Melannie. [laughter] Okay, let's get going.
