5 Scientific Ways to be a Happier Person Before It’s Too Late

this is my journal from 2017. despite the fact that it's sits right next to my bed I've never been actually able to read what I've written because I have a vague memory of what it was and a very clear memory of what I was going through at the time and so I'm always too scared and uncomfortable and sad to read it again it's almost funny in a way to be able to remember so vividly how I used to feel and think when I was a child or teenager or even in my early 20s and yet be so unable to relate to the sorts of girl that I used to be as someone who's spent most of her life being quite chaotic anxious and sad and scared um I feel now as I'm wrapping up my 20s I'm looking back and realizing that I've gotten so lucky both through running into some incredible people but also through lots of work in therapy and reading and amateur psychology which basically have completely transformed so much in my life especially relating to my anxiety and how I feel and function in the world so if you're also on this journey of trying to go from sad and anxious to happy and calm here are five evidence-based things that I wish so bad someone could have taught and told me when I was a lot younger because if you're anything like me these might also help I'll be talking about things and the domains of studying work and getting things done in your 20s relationships friendships and connection with people your view on yourself and self-worth and also health and body of course all of these things are very very related but I've picked them out to try and focus on them all a bit more so let's get rid of this and let's get straight into it so the first biggest change for me was in the domain of work tasks studying and getting things done and this was breaking down and analyzing the reasoning and the logic behind my anxiety itself because even though I always thought of it as a feeling or experience there actually are some really hard premises behind it and understanding those makes it easier to challenge and change things and when I did this I also realized that a lot of the time anxiety had actually been quite helpful for me or necessary for me to the point that I was almost unconsciously fueling it myself so let me try to explain this every time I've been anxious or really sad I've definitely hated hated the feeling um at the worst I would have wished that I could just be unconscious and skip a few days or weeks or months or I would strongly Daydream that I could change into anyone else and just live their life and hope that they would have less anxiety than me so I definitely hated it however I could not deny that anxiety was super useful when it comes to getting things done the more anxious I am about a task or a job or a conversation or a person the more energy thoughts and why work I put into my interactions and getting ready for it and very often this sort of thing gets rewarded and it's such a dangerous Rabbit Hole to fall into when you realize that anxiety is actually a really powerful way to get yourself to perform at a really high standard I'm not sure if consciously or unconsciously but I did become an expert at almost immediately increasing my anxiety when I am working or getting ready to do tasks and keeping it very very high to the point that it was almost constantly High throughout my days whenever I was conscious I was super anxious and that went from making me a super productive person to being non-functioning at all so today I wanted to break down and show you the three main ways that I increased my anxiety because if you're still in the stage where it's quite nebulous and doesn't really make sense if I show you mine maybe there might be things that you resonate with and you can kind of understand it a bit more and then I'm going to show how I replaced this way of thinking with something much more productive and helpful and calmer when it comes to getting things done so the very first way that I could induce an anxiety increase is by inflating the importance of anything that I had to do so this is thinking that every exam is a reflection of my intelligence the way that I present myself or I'm perceived by people is a reflection of who I am and is very very important the way that I dress reflects how important I am or How likely I am to make friends the way that this conversation goes is a reflection of my future with this person or how much my boss likes me or hates me so by making everything feel a lot more important in my mind I would become more anxious about it pay more attention and then do better at this task the second way I automatically increase my anxiety is by telling myself that I am incompetent so this is a narrative in my mind that I am stupider than other people slower than other people more selfish than other people I find it harder to do things I am unluckier I am poorer even issues abound things that I can't change about myself like my race and my identity combining all of these things put me in a mindset that gave me so much fear and worry about everything that I had to do and meant that oh my God you are starting on such a back foot you need to work 10 times harder to get where other people are and this really fuels a lot of hard work for me hopefully it's apparent already that a lot of these are not great things to be telling yourself all the time but I'm going to move on to the Third Way which is raising the consequences of everything that I do so I would think for example if I don't perform excellently at this task I will be fired from this job or if I am not intelligent enough or interesting enough my friends will never want to talk to me again or if I fail at this task and I'm going to be kicked out of University or if I don't get a certain percentage in something then um everyone will think that I am stupid or I will fail the next exam so this is the kind of raising consequences in my mind so the combination of these is what I would automatically use in order to make myself anxious perform better at things and Happy Days right but but in all seriousness this wasn't second nature me I wasn't doing it consciously it became first nature automatic this was the way that I was constantly thinking of and feeling about myself and it's very interesting now looking back I don't know when I realized this hack about anxiety and when I started to do this because it must have been so early on in my life because I cannot remember a time where I didn't feel this way about myself and I didn't think about myself in all these negative ways and these are not just things that I created a few of them or a lot of them most of them are things that were told to me that I just internalized because they were useful to do things and this was the constant narrative that was going on in my mind but the main realization here is that being worked up is not necessary to work and fully accepting this has been absolutely huge I always thought that in order to do anything I need to wind myself up terrify myself scare myself feel like an idiot and then I can be like oh my God panic mode let's get started but as I'm winding myself up and increasing the stakes for everything and on the other hand the stakes in life are just increasing naturally as I'm getting older this is just not sustainable and at some point this level of panic was no longer helpful in getting me to do things but it was giving me so much fear that I was just paralyzed and could not do anything at all and so I had to kind of go to the basics and see what was the issue with me getting things done in the first place and why had I just hacked it into just making myself anxious now I'm generally not a fan of grouping people according to types and personalities and things like this but this is one that I actually agree with and I think is super helpful Gretchen Rubin has written a book called the four Tendencies where she divides people into four groups depending on how they work on tasks or how they get motivated or unmotivated to do things if you want to read this book I'll put a um link below where you can get a free summary of it so you can check it out if that's something that you're into but what this book fully made me realize is that the main reason that I often don't do things is because I don't feel convinced that I need to do them at all I'm a questioner according to Bretton but the main thing here is I need to understand why I need to do something why I need to do it now why I I'm not able to not do it why am I doing it this way why can I not do it in a better way and why can I not just divide it and do it later or just change everything up about this task I have a lot of questions and before I used to just shut these down and kind of hijack the system and just ramp up the anxiety to the point that even if it was terrible I would just do it because I was so scared but what I do now instead is instead of getting super anxious and wound up about something I in my mind turn into this super patient parent talking to a toddler and whenever I need to do something especially if it's really difficult or major for me to do I just answer all of these questions in my head like why do I need to study why do I need to study now why do I need to study today when is the exam why does this make sense is there another time that I could replace this that is better is that true am I actually going to do this and I actually I know this sounds really really tiring and it kind of is but it does get me to the point where very peacefully I can accept Okay I I get this like I just this just needs to be done now and it feels like a reasonable time and I can do the other thing that I want to do later and these sort of conversations kind of keep me in a much lower anxiety level and I'm happy to research reasons that I need to do things to question my choices again and again this is a lot calmer for me as a questionnaire than having to kind of force myself to feel really really insecure in order to get things done I would also recommend that you figure out what's the best way to get yourself to work this is one framework that I think is incredible because it might be so much better to avoid having to use that self-induced anxiety that might just be a habit by now that you might have done like me for the whole of your life and also when I have deep line anxieties about specific things that just come up again and again I ask myself what am I benefiting from this because even though I know the experience is terrible the fact that it survived for so long and it's still there must be giving me a benefit somewhere else in life and usually it's there and then when I see that benefit I try to replace it with a healthier way of thinking or with another solution or completely removing the activity if necessary in order to kind of produce these high anxieties in my life and the Peaks so yeah I hope that made sense my second Point has to do more with that background anxiety that is a bit more Insidious and less potentially understood by ourselves and to do this I'm going to use a long example which I'm not going to apologize for because I genuinely think everyone should hear the story because it's absolutely incredible so let me try to explain it basically Skinner who's really famous for doing classical conditioning he had this experiment where he was trying to teach a pigeon to throw a bowling ball and the theory was him and his scientist friends would put this bird in a cage with a ball wait with some snacks as a reward for the bird and wait for the bird to kick the ball give it a reward kick again give another reward so the bird would kick the ball makes perfect sense has been done so many times but they were sitting for hours and hours and hours and the bird never kicked the ball so they just gave up and threw away the whole experiment next time however one of them had an idea where they would do incremental positive reinforcement which is basically rewarding the bird for small steps so let's say the bird looked in the direction of the ball it would get a reward let's say the bird looked at the ball got a reward touched the ball got a reward nudge the ball got a reward kick the ball got a reward in this way every single time within a few minutes they would be training the bird perfectly to do this activity through incremental positive reinforcement rather than just positive reinforcement classically and very interestingly Marin and Keller brilliant which were a couple that were walking Skinner actually quit their jobs on that day and they opened an animal training kind of agency which turned into a massive Empire and those are the people now responsible for training things like dolphins to do crazy stuff so incremental positive and reinforcement is so so so so powerful it's one of the strongest Tools in order to get everything done it works both with positive and with negative consequences and Skinner himself actually related this to human behavior and to children and said that when parents are ignoring their children's healthy and positive requests for attention the children then get more creative and do behaviors that we might consider to be annoying or not positive and therefore to fix this parents should actually be very very responsive to their children now the reason I am mentioning this is that I find that in my personal life I have been trained and I keep training myself to ignore my needs and this leads to huge mountains of background anxiety seemingly for no reason because I have been ignoring myself and the things that I need consistently for absolutely ages anxiety and sadness for me is very often the accumulation of consistent and persistent neglect of my signals and needs rather than a rare isolated tragic event and realizing this has been incredibly powerful very often anxiety or stress has crept up on me where nothing specific has happened that is bad and suddenly I am having a terrible terrible experience and I'm feeling awful and I do not know and I could not tell you what the reason is if people ask me I don't know it's nothing it's everything I just feel really really bad and this is probably because I've ignored a thousand things and a thousand times that I've been requesting myself to do or to have or to take and this is a huge problem the biggest learning point for me has been to learn to notice learn to notice and pay more attention internally it's actually a trauma response it's actually been very well established and studied by people like John Bobby who worked on attachment Theory adults who are neglecting their own needs on their own personal selves are probably adults who used to be children who had to externalize a lot of their attention being very attentive to adults needs or to other person's needs doesn't only need to be if you had openly abusive parents but even if you had inconsistent parenting or parents who had mood swings or who would treat you in various different ways this meant that you would have to be very alert as a child and pay more attention to your external World rather than your internal world because we only have a limited amount of attention as you grew up with this habit it then becomes the case that you are not as trained to realize what's going on with you and therefore you're never responding to your own needs this can accumulate this neglect can accumulate and show up in my case as sadness or anxiety because I've just not been dealt with very very well and I'm the one taking care of myself right now in my case it's been an incredible cure for anxiety to just answer the very simple question of what do you need this is the most powerful question I've ever ever used I can use it when I'm having a complete emotional meltdown and that's most often when I do remember to use it although I am getting slightly better but answering this question with brutal honesty I need rest I need to stop this task I need food I need to sleep more I need love I need to be hugged I need to be heard by someone I need to not do this thing that everyone is asking me to do and this very honest and brutal question and trying to get as close to fulfilling this for myself has been the deepest way for me to get over things also as someone who is very headstrong and often completely irrational in the sense that sometimes when I'm working on something I can be completely stuck on it for hours and I have no ability to step away and very often this is when I get very tired or frustrated or then later anxious and people can see me in the state and go oh I think you need to take a little break because you're not looking too well which is a perfectly reasonable thing to say I cannot can't do this I can't take this information Buzz there's this weird loophole here where if I ask myself what do I need and the answer is obviously I think I'm actually needing a break from this I can step away within seconds so this question honestly it sounds so simple but it is incredibly incredibly powerful and the more you can implement it into your day-to-day and kind of I have this mini reminder in my head which is just like go in Elizabeth go in just like think what's happening with you right now and um of course not to the point of extreme selfishness but if you sit on my end of the spectrum and you're kind of always trying to pay attention to other people and quite anxious it might be just helpful to just go inwards and go hmm this is not a great place for me to be right now I actually need some rest I think I've ever done it I think I've worked enough I think I need to do some more I think I need some rest I think I need some food even the basics sometimes are things that I can really forget and taking care of this consistently has genuinely transformed my Baseline anxiety number three has to do with relationships people connections friendship things like that for this I'm going to focus on John gottman for whom I could make a series of videos because I am obsessed with these man's studies so what she did was that he would take couples relationships sit them down and ask them to have a five minute discussion about a topic that had been bothering them and he would record these conversations he watched through and analyzed hundreds if not thousands of couples and after kind of taking all their traits and all their behaviors down he then was able to create rules for what successful and unsuccessful relationships had in common to the point that he could look at a couple and within seconds or minutes could predict with 94 accuracy if these people were likely to have a long healthy happy relationship or if they were likely to be dysfunctional and break up and this is not kind of Prophecy this is genuinely just through science and he published all of these findings it's incredible honestly would really really recommend reading his work and research and studies one of the things that I'm going to mention here because it's for very closely tied to anxiety in friendships and connections and relationships is that he identified that one of the best predictors for how people would fare in a relationship was How likely were they to be able to keep the positive aspects of their partner in mind when having a difficult conversation or argument couples that were likely to break up were couples that when they were having an argument if you would ask one of them how do you feel about your partner right now they would say honestly they're a I do not know what I was thinking when I met them they're awful they're ugly we have nothing in common I must have been insane at that time and I just I I don't know I it's just so stupid and they they can say that they love them or have connection with them but their view of their past and everything that they've done together is Tainted by huge amounts of negativity couple likely to break up while the couples that were likely to stay together when they were asked how they felt when asked how they felt about their partner would say things like oh you know they have that little Quirk but honestly overall they're absolutely amazing I adore them they are the cutest and the best person ever but they just drive me nuts with this little Quirk but it's going to be fine this is a couple who's like you to stay together now this sounds really really simple but black and white thinking is unfortunately quite common in my case it was definitely a part of the way that I was raised when a culture where things are very very black and white good or bad and there is no room for gray or in between this can lead to very very kind of distinguishing things and kind of a stunted growth in terms of emotional maturation and things in between but also if we might have this for other reasons if we try to fix this it's very helpful to see how it can be developed in children and to use this I'm going to talk about Bobby again and his discussion around the good parents bad parent mentality because overriding this as an adult I think is definitely possible able and has been definitely possible in my case so I would really really recommend it basically when children are really really young all of them this is healthy healthy and they are toddlers think of their parents not as one person but as the good parent and the bad parent so for example the mom that gives you ice cream and lets you watch your favorite show and plays with you and doesn't tell you off is good mom and when Mom does things like take away your toys or puts you to bed when you don't want to or tells you off or doesn't listen to you or respond to you or is busy this is bad mom children when they are really really young cannot bring these together and think that sometimes mum is good sometimes mom is bad but they always have this dichotomy of things and evidence has shown that if a parent is highly inconsistent in the attention and affection and things that they give their children so sometimes they are hot and they are really really kind and nice and giving and sometimes they switch they are really really bad and this child will not have the ability to kind of bring these two parents together so they might grow into adulthood thinking of people as either or good or either or bad and I guess we all have these to various extents because unfortunately almost everyone has not have perfect consistent parenting a hundred percent of the time but it depends on how extreme this thing is so if you have the tendency to meet someone and say oh my God I'm absolutely in love they're incredible they are the best I adore them I cannot imagine my life without them they are everything and then they do something small that's wrong and you're like I hate that person they are trash they need to get out of my life can't believe what I liked about them or you start a University degree and you're like this is best this is everything this is the job this is all I wanted and then suddenly you don't enjoy it for whatever reason and you're like I can't do this job I hate it this is the worst rather than thinking in a more rational way that sometimes things are good and bad this can make life really really distressing relationships super super anxious and also leads to the breakdown of lots of connections and friendships and things in the future so if you are in this boat one trying to in general keep good and bad in mind but also specifically in relationships and friendships when things are not going too well to try to consciously remind yourself of a laundry list of positive things of this person to just try to get you in that state where you're like okay I can be more rational about this if your brain naturally tends to like tunnel vision down the negative things only just as a caveat as I said for non-toxic non-dangerous things if things are dangerous and toxic let's not keep a positive in mind let's just make decisions and remove ourselves but in general this should be helpful my next tip is also in the realm of relationships and this has to do with language because I cannot overstate how impactful language is I think it's already clear from a lot of the things that I've mentioned these are just words phrases questions ways of arranging thoughts and words in my mind that make all the difference in how I interpret something and therefore how anxious I become from it some of the most life-changing moments for me in therapy has been when my therapist will rephrase something that I said to highlight exactly what I'm expressing when I haven't thought that that's actually what I'm saying or when I'm reinterpreting or given the words to rethink the things that I have experienced or been through or I'm thinking at the moment so language is incredibly incredibly powerful and when it comes to communication with people it's also one of the biggest determinants between how healthy and positive a communication will be and how negative it can be so to reduce the sadness and anxiety in relationships have a bit of advice that has been hugely impactful for me and absolutely mind-blowing and this is to not discuss actions or accusations in the worst case but to stick with feelings I'm going to use a quick example say that I have a partner and my partner has not been consistently texting me recently and I had an issue and they were kind of busy so they didn't really help me with it and now I feel as though they don't care about me and they haven't responded and they don't want to be with me anymore so this will raise my anxiety through the roof and then say because of this I went up to my partner and said you are never there for me anymore and they would say what I'm always trying to help you and I'm like no you're not you barely even want to be with me clearly and they're like I don't want to be with you why am I even here if I don't want to be with you and this is the kind of conversation clearly very ineffective very unhelpful the recommendation here for healthy communication is to not put accusations as in you don't care you are not there for me but rather to only only stick to owning your feelings so in this above scenario what I would be feeling is quite sad hurt and scared that I'm losing someone that I clearly care about which is why I'm sad if I went up to the person and I said hey I've actually been really hurt recently and they'd say oh my gosh what happened and I would say Well when this happened I felt hurt and then that made me scared that you don't care about me and that I'm losing you because that would make me feel really really distressed so could you reassure me about this this completely changes the dynamic of the conversation as much more likely to get to a place that is one where we are much more open to actually accepting what the person has experienced and why they behaved in that way and two for them to actually be open and accepting of the ways that we feel which everyone should always be and things are absolutely fine also accusations and verbs as in you are not there you don't care about me are potentially not true while feelings are always true the fact that you felt hurt is true this is okay no one can deny this and the fact that you felt scared this is true no one can ever deny this so it's really really good to keep the conversation there Michael Allen singer said that when something provoked fear and us we will automatically think that the person has done something wrong but this is not necessarily the case and Fiora is one of the feelings that gets raised the most in relationships fear that our friends don't like us fear that we are not important to people fear that people are about to leave us fear that our relationships our friendships are not going well the backbone of a lot of the stress and anxiety around relationships tends to be fear at least in my case and so identifying that and naming that rather than saying you're so annoying when you text this is generally much more healthier and has made a huge difference for me in my friendships and relationships and things like that now the last one is a massive one that I was debating to put in or not because it's one of those things that I think is pure common sense but I did not have this common sense so if there is any single person out there who relates this like I would have this is for you everyone else sorry um so let's continue this has to do with broadening my concept of personal hygiene fully transparent what I would consider personal hygiene was only the things that other people would see so are my clothes clean um I showered and washed do I smell good does my face look okay is my hair put together um this was personal hygiene if someone comes over to my house is my house looking okay this was the full definition for like draw a square around it this was it for personal hygiene for me then I grew up and I looked at people and I looked into people's families and I was shocked both in good ways or negative ways but let's focus on the good ways I was so surprised that fully grown adults like genuinely did sports sports organized Sports people went on books people met their friends regularly and I know this sounds I know this sounds ridiculous but people actually Drew lines and did not do work and prioritized things that I thought were just ridiculous like moisturizing every day and things like that this blew my mind and so definitely only in my late 20s I have massively broadened my definition of what it means to have good personal hygiene and now it includes so much more so it's not just smell and looks and that kind of stuff but on the same level that I would consider brushing my teeth is am I exercising every single day am I going to gym three to four times a week am I trying to get better at meditation am I the thing that I'm working on now which is the bane of my existence am I sleeping healthily and regularly am I in touch with the people that I love as often as I need do I have spaces to feel useful to other people so I don't get anxious and feel useless and worthless so all of these things are now included in my personal hygiene so just as I'm like well I haven't washed my sheets this week they're going to get washed that's a no-brainer on the same level is things like exercising booking and meeting people and um kind of feeling connected and staying in touch just all falls into this category this is not wishy-washy this is the absolute Baseline of existence and it makes such a huge huge difference I hate hate with a passion the fact that when I'm really depressed or down or anxious or just don't want to be around people and one of my friends drags me out to my a walk I hate that I feel better because I've been inside for two weeks and I do not want to go outside and do not want to take a walk and move because I am sad and I want to do my thing and I still cannot change this by the way um but it actually genuinely helps so now I am of the thought that okay it's fine if I'm in that state where I'm a hot mess I cannot have the ration like thinking professional thinking to break out of this but what I do can do is preventative mental health and preventative mental health is that when I'm you know on my Baseline whatever that currently looks like I will start incrementally adding all of these things to what my every week basically needs to look like and that's how I maintain basically uh overall less anxious life a lot less kind of low low dips in general and kind of maintain my health a bit higher and go like yeah I want to be the kind of person who's fit and does all of these things and that's kind of how I see things at the moment and I would really really recommend this the next time that you're slightly out of it add something else add something else to your Baseline weekly routine and I think it will completely completely change the way that you um experience things increasing healthy non-negotiable activities is one of the biggest factors I think to change over all mental health now just want to give a very big caveat I do not have children so I am 100 million certain seeing my friends with children that once I do these healthy routines and structures that I have in place will all disappear and hopefully I will have some new balance maybe a yearly routine or something like that but at the moment the thing so just want to just just wanted to to mention that slappy now before I move on to my concluding thoughts on the topic of anxiety sadness happiness and calmness I want to talk about one more thing which is how I edit my videos it is one of the most frequently asked questions on my channel and the answers to these common questions are yes I do edit all of my videos all by myself yes it does take me quite a bit of time and also the only course that I've ever taken on editing for YouTube is how to edit on Final Cut Pro by Ali abdall over on skillshare let's go share our stay very 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of a strong group and connection do you have around you have you treated how much control you have over things and all of this definitely a million times more important than anything else I mentioned today but also very difficult to change and very case specific so I haven't mentioned it but just wanted to put that that where that here too it's definitely been the main course of anxiety in my life and um the main reduction in it has come from this but I also somehow managed to wind myself all the way up and create incredible levels of anxiety having things basically stable-ish so um this video is still extremely extremely relevant to me and it was made because the most common questions on my q a that I was planning to do initially were around mental health and Stress and Anxiety so I thought I'd make a very dedicated video to it because I could really not answer her question for 40 minutes that would be absolutely ridiculous and now I'm thinking I'll skip the Q a all together but I'll answer the next most common questions I already did the editing one which was the second one the third one was how tall I am five foot three not tall at all and when it comes to my which specialty I'm thinking of in medicine at the moment 100 sold on anesthetics but I changed my mind a lot so I'm really really not sure otherwise if you made it this far you are definitely absolutely sick of my voice so please leave thank you for being here um at some point though you might want to check out my video on Psychotherapy because I go through basically years and years of therapy and breakdown my main life-changing moments and um kind of exercises for doing that so either if you've never been in therapy or if you are or have been and want to compare notes that might be super helpful but otherwise if you made it this far thank you so much for spending this time with me I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day recount yourself in others and don't believe everything you think thanks bye

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