- I'm currently 3000 feet above the ground with no parachute. But you know what? I don't give a (beep). Do you care? - Don't care. - Yeah, I don't care. Every day, hundreds of millions of people suffer from giving too many (beep). They spend their lives in
prison by meaningless anxiety and unnecessary concerns. But it doesn't have to be that way. In this video, I'm going to walk you
through the five levels of non (beep) giving. Each level demonstrating more
non-fuckery than the last. You will learn step by step
how to face your fears, how to stop worrying
what other people think, and how to achieve the eternal
bliss of a fuckless life. But it's not enough to simply
learn how to not give a fuck, you have to live it. You have to embody your non fuckery. So to illustrate each
of these life lessons, I flew out to Atlanta and
met with a fan named Garrett. Now, Garrett had specifically told me that he gave too many fucks in his life, and so I enlisted his best friend Alex. And together, we pushed him through five
life-changing challenges that purged him of all
unnecessary fuck-giving. In the beginning, he was meek and shy, but by the end, I had him
jumping out of planes, asking out models, and of course, dressing
like a fucking chicken. Let's get your beaks ready
motherfuckers 'cause class is in. In psychology, there's something known
as the spotlight effect. Now, the spotlight effect says
that we all tend to assume that people are paying
far more attention to us than they actually are. Think back to the last time
you got a terrible haircut. Chances are you walked around all day assuming that everybody was staring at that tragedy of a mop on your head. But the reality was most
people didn't notice. And if they noticed,
they sure didn't care. One of my favorite quotes ever comes from the author
David Foster Wallace. He said that "You will
stop worrying so much what other people think about you when you realize how seldom they do." As someone who grew up with
a lot of social anxiety, this idea was absolutely profound to me. But the problem is the idea
by itself is not sufficient. You have to get out into
the world and experience it. You have to get out and challenge
your own spotlight effect. Now, does that mean you have
to put on a chicken suit and walk down the Venice Boardwalk? No, of course not. But it does mean you have to do something. You have to challenge yourself. You have to put yourself into public and into uncomfortable situations and prove to yourself conclusively that nobody's paying attention
and nobody gives a shit. This is what I did with Garrett, and I guarantee you he hated
every single second of it. Tolerating embarrassment is the bedrock of not giving a fuck, so I had my team design and
print 50 Flat Earth flyers. Garrett's challenge was to
hand them all out in public. The goal, to destroy his
inner spotlight effect. - The fact that he actually believes that kind of stuff too is dope. - I don't like at all. - That would be easy for him.
- Super easy. - Just share the good news, man. - You got this.
- All righty. - You ready?
- Yeah, I'll do it. (upbeat music) - Right there. Right there. - No.
- Uh-Oh. - Chicken shit. Chicken shit. Chicken shit, yo.
(Mark laughing) - Yeah. There you go. - I'm good. Thank you.
- Good? (sighs) Hey, excuse me. You good? (both laughing) - You know what he should do? He should hand it to them
and he should be like, "Nah, I don't think
you're worthy of this." - You're not worthy.
- You're not worthy. - You're not ready for this. - You're not ready for all this science. - Science.
- I love science. - There you are. This is the
best science in the world. - I got you.
- Yep. Thank you, man. - Most people, once Garrett got over his
initial embarrassment, it turned out he was pretty good. - I'm just gonna hand
this out. No elaboration. There you are. - Hey, do you want one?
I'm just give it to you. There you go. Thank you, man. - Objectively, why would it benefit anyone to lie above the earth's size? - That's smart. Cool. Thank you, man. I appreciate it. - Surveys show that the one thing that people are more afraid of than death is public humiliation. - Run after her, dude. (laughing) That's so fucking creepy. - You good? Sure? - I gotta give him credit. - No, I mean...
- He's got balls. - He's got balls. He's doing it.
- He's got balls. - Hey, how are you guys? - How you doing? - Good. Sick cap by the way, I like that. There you go.
- Thanks, man. - Oh, two more for the
kids or no? All right. (both laughing) - Part of not giving a fuck is overcoming that
evolutionary conditioning. Training yourself. You're not gonna die. If you embarrass yourself,
if people laugh at you, the crowd doesn't want
to go the way you go, nothing's gonna happen. You know why? 'Cause nobody's
fucking thinking about you. Everybody is busy thinking
about their own shit and worrying about themselves. They don't care what you're doing. - I'm just gonna hand it
to you. No elaboration. - I believe flat earth-
- There we are. There you are. - All right, I'm gonna
intervene for a second. Hey, Garrett. Time out. First of all, you're crushing it. - Really? - You're killing, like-
- I hate it. I hate it. - All right, so you still got... - Yeah, I got a lot left.
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- Thank you. (both laughing) - If the willingness to look like an idiot is the bedrock of not giving a fuck, the next step is to be
willing to face rejection. And what better rejection
than romantic rejection. It's one thing to not
care what strangers think, but what about people
you actually care about? Are you willing to say things that your friends and
family might not approve of? Are you comfortable having
difficult conversations? Are you afraid to embarrass
yourself on a date? Wait, wait, wait. Oh, shit, no. (laughing) This is so ridiculous. Most of us tie up our self-esteem and our romantic successes and failures. I'm just like constantly
trying to hang on. That way. No, your feet that way. But that's why I made Garrett go on dates with 10 professional models while asking them the most awkward and uncomfortable questions possible. - I think we nailed that.
- Awesome. - Yay. - If you had to compare your
sex life to a type of food, what would it be? - Wow. - Ladies first.
- Whatever the spiciest Asian food out there is. That's my sex life.
- Really? - Oh, yeah. Always. - Damn spicy.
- Always spicy. Just being honest. (laughing) - Yeah, I like that. That's a good answer.
- Honesty, you know, honesty is key, you know. - Damn, this is a question
that I was not ready for. - What comes to the top of
your mind? Like the first word? There's gotta be something.
- Yeah, sushi, but that could go wrong though. - Sushi.
- Yeah, that can go wrong 'cause...
- Dude, what? - That's the first thing, my bad. - You don't wanna bring raw fish. - I know, I know, I know. That's what I'm saying. That's why I didn't wanna say
it at first. (all laughing) This is card. What do people most often
get wrong about you? - Ooh, that's a very good question. - Uh. Hmm. That I can be mean. (chuckles) I'm usually nice all the time, honestly. I'm very open and honest. - Really? So people think, wow. - Yeah.
- Okay. That's interesting. I don't know what people most
often get wrong about me. - These are really-
- You're killing me, dude. - Do I need to answer
these questions for you? (all laughing) - Is it that you're actually not shy and that you're actually... - Yeah, maybe that's what it is, like... - No, no. Come on. (all laughing) - I am really sorry. - So I have to interrupt
this relationship segment for just a second to explain something. There are two ways to
approach your relationships. Performance and authenticity. People like Garrett who
give way too many fucks, they tend to see the relationships
in terms of performance. They view every social situation in terms of "What do I say or
do to get people to like me?" And then they try to say or do that. - Did you play any sports? - I personally train
people at the gym so... - Really?
- Yeah. - I actually have a friend that does something similar to that. - This is a terrible way to
live, for a bunch of reasons. The first is just that
it's incredibly stressful. I mean, every social interaction basically becomes like an exam at school where you have to say and
do the exact right things to get the result. But the real reason is that it prevents you from
having healthy relationships in the first place. Even if you do perform in the right way and get people to like you, you will never fully trust
that they like you for you. What comes after that? Oh, that's it, right? - [Cameraman] That was it.
That was it, you just... - Whatever. (laughing) Once you've been rejected
romantically enough times, you realize there's no
reason to protect yourself and no reason to be afraid of criticism. The big breakthrough for most people comes when they finally drop the performance and embrace authenticity. ♪ Authenticity ♪ Because of performance guarantees that you're gonna
feel rejected eventually, you might as well get rejected
for who you already are. This is what happens when you start approaching
relationships with authenticity, by being unapologetic in who you are and living with the results. By realizing that you
don't have to wait around for people to choose you, you can also choose them. Hey there, Duckie. (chuckles) How are you? Garrett seemed to start to understand this about halfway through his
dates with the models, he started to realize he didn't have to make
every girl like him. In fact, he can decide
if he likes the girl, and this simple switch changed everything. - Tell her what you find
attractive about her. - Oh, wow. Okay. - Let's see. I don't really know you though. I feel like your most
attractive characteristic is like internally. - Oh.
- So I don't know. - Okay. - You seem like a really genuine person. - I'll definitely take that.
- Okay. What's the craziest place
you've ever had sex? (both laughing) - There we go. - I'm a boring girl.
- Okay. But that leaves room for improvement so... - Valid. That's valid.
- Yeah. What kind of porn do you like to watch? - Lesbian. - Lesbian?
- Yeah. - That was quick. You didn't
even think about that. - No. I think there's
just something sensual about two women together.
- Yeah. - With heterosexual sex, it's so much about like penetration. And I feel like with women, it's a more like central experience. - [Garrett] Yeah. - So that's why I like watching it more. - What's your biggest irrational fear? - Getting into a fight with
a giraffe. (Mark laughing) - Getting into a fight with a giraffe.
- Giraffe. - Too many spots? - No, it's the height. (both laughing) - Dude, he's killing it.
He's fucking crushing it. - I like you. I gotta
get your number then. Is that okay?
- Sure. No, that's fine. - I'll have to grab your number then. - Yeah. - Well, we could definitely carry on this conversation if you like. - Okay, I like that.
- Cool. It was a pleasure meeting you. - It's been delightful. - It has been delightful. - Goodbye. - You're cool as a cucumber now. - Really? - You're only mildly awkward.
- Yeah. (both laughing) (upbeat music) - Something incredible happens
when you stop giving a fuck about other people's opinions about you. It gives you the freedom to fail. All those things you've
been curious about, all those adventures you've dreamed of but been too scared to pursue, it all suddenly opens up to you, because the people who
previously got in your way aren't there anymore. - Yo.
- What's up? - Welcome. All right. You ready for this? - Yeah. What is this? So he's gonna teach
you how to break dance, and then we're gonna
go to the club tonight and you're gonna show off your
new moves on the dance floor. (Alex laughing) You ever break dance before? - No. Never. - [Mark] You ever danced before? - Yeah, it's not break dancing. - Most people are afraid
to try something new because they don't wanna
be bad at something. But the fact of the matter is, you can't be good at something until you're terrible at it first. - The first one can be a
first step, so we'll be here. The arms front. So then you're gonna
step forward like that, more like across from you. Boom, then we'll go back,
and then step all the way. - Most of us are two results-oriented and not enough process-oriented, and I think a lot of this comes
from the way we're raised. You grow up and you're rewarded
for getting an A on the test or getting a gold star at the activity. Everything is about "Can
you achieve this result? And then we will reward you." - Oh, there you go. He's doing the whole thing, boom. Boom. Six steps. Is like this. - But the fact of the matter is life doesn't actually work that way. In fact, in many ways, life
rewards the willingness to fail, life rewards the person who is willing to embarrass
themselves a little bit, who's willing to take some risks. - There you go. Can't be scared to go to
your back. Go to your back. - Garrett is a bonafide perfectionist. He's one of those people who
will not try to do something unless he knows he can do it perfectly and so step four is to get
him to be bad at something. To show him that there's a joy
in the process of learning, of improving, of
developing a new skill set. So I ask you, what are you
unapologetically bad at? What are you more than
happy to be terrible at because it brings so
much joy to your life? If you can't answer that easily, well, then that's probably
a fucking problem. - You're gonna be ready?
- Yeah. - Be ready.
- Yeah. Good, I'm good. Thank you, man.
- Of course. - I appreciate it.
- Of course, bro. ♪ Feel your eyes, they all over me ♪ ♪ Don't be shy, take control of me ♪ ♪ Get the vibe, it's
gonna be lit tonight ♪ ♪ Baby girl, yuh a carry
ten ton a phatness ♪ ♪ Gimme some a dat ♪ ♪ Mixed wid di badness, look how she hot ♪ ♪ Shaped like goddess, but a nah jus dat ♪ ♪ Is a good piece a mentals under di cap ♪ - That night in the nightclub, as Garrett danced the
way elderly people fuck, I realized that he was
tasting for the first time the sweet, sweet internal freedom that comes from not giving a fuck. That he felt zero pressure, zero regret. He wanted to dance, so he went and danced. ♪ No lie, gyal yuh never miss ♪ ♪ Feel your eyes, they're all over me ♪ ♪ Don't be shy, take control of me ♪ ♪ Get the vibe, it's
gonna be lit tonight ♪ ♪ Gyal yuh never miss, gyal
yuh never miss, no lie ♪ (upbeat music) Congratulations. We've made it, my
friends, to the pinnacle. Undeterred by embarrassment, rejection, ridicule or failure, we have achieved the perfect
freedom of non-fuckery. Welcome to the zero fucks zone. Up until this point, I've been
primarily challenging Garrett to embarrass himself
in front of strangers. But what if we turn that around? What if we took Garrett's
newfound internal freedom, his surmounting of his
doubts and insecurities, and used his newfound superpower to help others overcome their doubts and insecurities as well? After all, emotions are contagious, and once we've liberated ourselves from our imagined constraints, it's our moral duty to help liberate other people from theirs. So I brought Garrett back
to a crowded shopping center and challenged him to convince a stranger to go skydiving with us. But you have to do it
wearing the chicken suit. - What? Are you... Okay.
(both Laughing) - And while he suited up, I wondered just how different
of a Garrett we would see compared to the first challenge. Here we go. - You guys wanna go skydiving? No? Do you guys wanna go skydiving? - No. Thank you.
- No? You guys wanna go skydiving? - Interesting, but no. - You wanna go skydiving? - No. - [Mark] I was impressed
by Garrett's confidence. It was a stark contrast
to just a few days earlier when it took him 10 minutes to even get close to approaching someone - Chicken shit yow.
(Mark laughing) - Y'all wanna go skydiving? - No, thank you though. - [Mark] Now he really was chicken shit and he was completely okay with it. - Morgan, it's a chicken.
(Garrett imitates a chicken) - After getting shut
down for about an hour, we took a break, and then this happened. - We do love skydiving. - I've never been. - [Lady In Dress] I'm not ready for this. - Hey brother, I'm not ready either. - [Guy] I'm not ready, buddy. - I'm in a chicken soup
and I'm for sure not ready. - I'll go if you go.
- I would go. I would. - [Mark] Are you guys in? - Yeah, I'll go. - Yes, let's go.
- Yes. - Quick side note, it turns out that Garrett is absolutely terrified of heights. The dude never told me. So while he killed the
social part of the challenge, the fact that he had to
jump out of an airplane, well, I thought he was gonna
piss in his chicken suit. (upbeat music) ♪ White man came across the sea ♪ ♪ He brought us pain and misery ♪ Look, you and everyone you
know are gonna die one day. So what the fuck are you waiting for? That goal you have, that
dream you keep to yourself, that person you wanna meet. What are you letting stop you? Go do it. Because seriously, who gives a fuck? ♪ Run to the hills ♪ ♪ Run for your lives ♪ ♪ Run to the hills ♪ ♪ Run for your lives ♪ (upbeat music) You did it, dude. - Woo.
