15 and Pregnant | Conversations with Teen Mums

[Music] is white battle is red-hot daddy eat cream go by la hello deep breath powerful is - I hate me Oh like you don't want the trip say yeah that's also I fell pregnant at the age of 16 at the time I had dropped out of school I had moved out of my mum's I had no goals no aspirations and then I got pregnant yeah hey Devante yeah we're gonna pick up now because we've got to go [Music] did it come - yeah before I found out I was pregnant you know I would be able to just switch from house to house but this isn't what I want for my baby I don't want to be on the benefit you know I want to stay with job stable income and to know that I have money for his needs and maybe a bit of his once now and then I know that's why we just haven't seen us today thank you Wow that's a bit of a shame to see if they've just chicken seatbelts and there's about four cars parked over there for car loads didn't have seatbelts on triggers automatically wear your seatbelt you think of yourself yep I always think about that when I'm I come across police I don't want to be their officer that you guys like our stuff you I want them to actually you know just have a conversation with someone and then walking away thinking you know our police aren't that bad not all police are not not another stupid police officer will change people's perceptions see that father he was all good [Music] one time my mum was crying we're all sleeping but I could hear her and then I could hear like heading and then it changed to screaming and at that point I knew my mom was in pain I was too scared to go and see my mum we had police officers next door I actually jumped out of my window I went straight to my next-door neighbor's and I started crying you know breaking down and then the neighbor came up and he said what's the matter what's the matter where did you come from and I was like I need your help please my mummys hurt more than minutes there were police cars there and why mum the look that she gave me was like she was disappointed and her staff for putting me in it position I knew that from then I wanted to just be useful I'm not happy there I got to see it but I was happy that I was able to to help you at the moment I'm living and money due up but this is just not the area that I want to be in and it's not somewhere that I want my son to be going to school although I have been working casually it's not full-time or even part time I'm on corn I've took the gates of poor walk but hey look Larry there it is that America is moist and bigger dolls you know it's that that's that's what about muffin McLay nothing looks like like I love hey I gotta go to swimming now maybe you can read it to me next time there's looks like a really good story have you enjoyed your time at your dad just bring me for so long yeah what are you been doing nothing just watching TV like add it up what else that's how that's how not even I look to the police officer on your right I'm he's gonna be a police officer right yeah I seen a lot of family members go through courts will go to jail because of things like drugs violence I wanted to get away from it and I don't want it for my son so I want to show people that doesn't matter how you were brought up you know you can choose which path to take the police prep that I want us to do the day before my testing I got an email saying that my application has been declined when I was on my learner's license I heard racked up a few demerits enough to be over the limit for the police I was guttered it was really really heartbreaking what of it until those clear off next year I can't further my application that's just the waiting game I'm waiting for the time to pass by so that when it does come I'm ready I tell them to one day you're gonna be like when you get old and he's like like my dad and that's like no like Michael stout sniffles he's like who's that [Music] [Applause] oh no bad before I found out I was pregnant I had jumped on the independent Youth benefit when my PO would come and I'd go and get drunk I'd go have fun go hang out with my friends that were all on the same path when my way you came along it felt like like just the way that I saw things was different the way that I looked at life was differently I was no longer doing things that were just affect myself everything I did was for my baby [Applause] it wasn't about me anymore can hear the world I see the world yes because it's covered in treated shots okay a car my mom fell pregnant with me when she was 17 just knowing that my mum made that decision to keep me will always be embedded in my mind if my mum could do it then I can do it too after this I know he shouldn't be a channel we're in Liberia I stay in their sleep out outside of my cousin's place this room used to be the carport it's not ideal that make do with what we have at the moment okay I would love to move out I would like to be seated in my own place me and Devante in our own house if we don't move he won't be going to the school I want him to go to do you remember what brown is in Mali funnily brand but all the old brown I made a mistake still take your time name thought slowly mommy I like you helping me now hmm not many close family members have actually finished high school when I got education wasn't really a big thing in my family it was more you know work work work and then if you didn't make it into work you know you kind of had to benefit as a backup and I don't want that as an option for him I wonder wanted to enjoy learning I wanted to feel like learnings : earnings fan I mean when I stopped caring I was in year nine at public high school the man effort that I put in was not even 50% my attitude towards it was like I passed who cares I think that if I actually tried you know I wouldn't have gone off the rails to the point where I like I don't even care about the work anymore it looks moves to me I didn't need to make my head low but not sleeve up and I'm finished [Music] I have been looking at schools around here because in reality he may have to go to a school in zone after going to house viewings it's really expensive they're like for $5,500 just for like a little too original I'm still coming to terms out there [Music] [Music] come on would you like one Devante you sit over there and you can have one of these right shut up Evelyn good boy that's nice manners I like voice with nice dentist and you're soon going to come to our school so that'll be good maybe you'll come to our school we have to talk to mummy now so you said it's cool that's good I know that you have the bilingual classes are they full immersion or they just boiling we do have a group for total immersion but we also have bilingual classes which is 50/50 do you speak in marty at all not often no no I've got some understanding of Marty are you because if you were to have him in the bilingual unit you would need to start to learn as well I just like to ask hours here at home with his learning at home what house he's a good yeah so he's quite um hello Caitlin good so that's that means he would do quite well in learning in both languages yeah yeah you're getting big my baby big a nose what about mama yeah and why getting old I don't know second don't touch it how old are you today exactly so Boston let's sing our friend happy birthday happy birthday happy birthday happy birthday dear Devante happy birthday too three oh yeah could you like a wish I laugh the CML bag if you can't you have your face but now it might come true perhaps only in your dreams I wanted to become a police officer before my son 10-5 so that I could be working while he's going to school but it hasn't worked out like that I train every week with my friends they don't want to be police officers but they know my goals and they're really supportive they'll remind me of what I want to do waiting is kind of hard when I think about where I could be right now as long as I stay positive it should be good [Music] [Music] how are you feeling right now good okay you're ready to do this I'm not ready to do this yeah he's actually happy about it Devante is dead and I were together when we were 16 after a short amount of time I felt pregnant we're excited and happy to be having a baby but we're both so young we didn't know each other very well and we were forced to grow up are you actually is okay yep we're trying to make it work a few months after Devante was born then it just didn't work I don't think I'd ever see him as a partner of mine as more of just like a really really good friend someone that I know that I can fully trust my son [Music] sometimes Devante would ask about you know some people's mummies and daddies are together how come news hunt but um there's no easy way to say it to a five-year-old but he'll understand when he gets older I want to hold him well he doesn't wait boys name Devante you're gonna get one too I'm gonna check the nation okay it's gonna look good let's try the in my thanks darling my baby don't ya big boy now don't big boy theme see properly my fee is you can place it five years you look kuma baby well done you're nice and brave cuz you're five now [Music] we're going to tell me we're working really slow [Music] [Music] we're gonna go to the warehouse and get you some shoes so you have to come with me okay [Music] chop-chop darling put your foot on top I just want to see this one smaller and this one's bigger which one feels nicer a pretty day come on George babe today it's $4 thank you are you interested in every step is to support stopping home violence miles total train that's really thank you take as many as you like is that you're excited happy dance poor Scoob a calm place [Music] like a press ok so I want you to draw your picture about what you like to do it on a sunny day right here ok I'm gonna be over the mountains and I'll play ping ping pong over the mountain on a sunny day that's very imaginative I can like tell ya mama's got some stuff to do but I'm very proud of you for this morning [Music] I can pick me up from big school yeah you're gonna go to big school every day I'll be fine come a give me a cuddle my dog he's gone okay now where's my child [Applause] [Applause] yes [Applause] [Music] [Music] I'm only barely scraping by now so staying is no longer an option for me the only place I have to go at the moment is my man's I have a live with my mum since I was like 16 they don't have any spare rooms the garage or the sitting room those are my two options it's quite a big downgrade to be honest I don't know maybe it would just be a place to sleep but yeah you know it's one of those garages with those pull-up doors and no carpet and it's got like the washing machine it's got a freezer in there is like weights and maybe above the Cure I don't know what we're gonna do [Music] the most obvious problem is that Devon tells us to change scoops I've come to really like Finlayson seeing how happy is that's like heartbreaking when I was younger I remember doing the same thing we all stayed in the garage it was my mom living with her mum with five extra kids at the age of seven I had already been to three different schools I still remember how it felt to make friends with these kids and then you got to start again cuz I know I'm gonna move and it's like I don't want to put them into the school by my mum's then move and then daughter game Jeanne's buenas last minute my mom decided that she's gonna move my brother into the garage instead because he's got hardly anything I'm um I met your health all my stuff's here but I'm giving dreams not even cleared so what do i do boy so I wait for him or shall I just clear the room I'm um yeah that's all the stuff is mine I'm trying to get it and you won't know if a baby's feet up yeah I know but I didn't want to give it away you know I mean take another one what listen the ethics now who doesn't question it's just a set oh yeah I need help to bring my stuffing I've got it supervising it's only temporary and I got a really write that to my brother so I don't feel so stink I feel like a waste that he care that she's just disappeared and I can't really say I've done anything productive or with wild besides the fact that was my baby's first birthday I don't want to make sure to be like that I don't want to be on the benefit forever I'm kind of worried what's that a really worried following my plan I'm not where I want to be it no wanna live a little how come I know but it's just you have to change schools because we're moving house well I know but you can make new friends that's part of growing up you get to make new friends meet new people and go to a cool new school wonderful cannot live another house soon and now I'm gonna make new friends of mine and I miss my to me town and my big spoon and I'm gonna miss my friend I'm a class and teacher but like my friends the best you what's-her-face to my darling I think Devante settled in quite well he's obviously had to move schools used to say it wasn't a first option it's kind of hard to accept the change I just want to know that I can do the best for my son whatever situation Ayman okay leave right behind this year I've decided to do a youth development course because when I do eventually go to the police force the area that I wanted to work in was troubled youths so instead of waiting and waiting like I did last year for those damn rats to come off I'm going to use my time wisely and do something that can help me towards the career that I wanted I get to get cost today as well of course school I'm going school macadam how the guy named and it's not good I think it's good we don't really get to see each other too often mm-hmm everyone's got their own stuff going on [Music] Tim and I don't know it's Tim cuz on Tuesdays I've been cooking dinner and there's Tim I have to make Jim plates mm-hmm so that's how 19 and depends because if we've got leftovers then gets a living just for the dog when I first moved my main goal was you know to get out as quick as I could but I've got quite comfortable I have my mum around for help it's nice to know that I have that I do want to move but I don't think any time soon everything's looking up I may not be doing the police as fast as I wanted but I'm quite excited for the course and I do believe it's going to get me a bit of foot into the career that I want to do

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Length: 34min 13sec (2053 seconds)

Published: Wed Oct 04 2017