(soft music) - [Narrator] Do you think you're in an emotionally
abusive relationship? According to One Love organization, emotional abuse is any abusive behavior that includes verbal
aggression, intimidation, manipulation, and humiliation. Does your partner,
friend or family members show signs of emotional abuse? Here are 14 subtle signs of emotional abuse in relationships. One, they blame you for things. It's a sign of abuse if your partner blames you
for the things they've done. They avoid responsibility
and say things like, "You made me do it." Or, "It's your fault this happened." Two, they avoid certain topics. Does it feel like you're
walking on eggshells around your partner? It's a sign if you have to stay quiet about things that bother you, and fear it will trigger your partner. Three, they control how you act. Abusers might control how you act by telling you that
they're just being helpful. Even if it sounds like
they're being supportive, they're still trying to
manipulate your behavior. Four, they change your plans. Abusers will change your plans without telling you to keep
their control over you. It may surprise you when you're supposed to
be meeting your friends, so you have to cancel. In time, you might find
yourself dependent on them on what to do. Five, they're emotionally
available one moment and distant the next. Is it hard to talk to them because they keep shifting from being emotionally
available to unavailable? They don't offer any explanation or they deny their behavior. It keeps you guessing and in fear of them. Six, they say hurtful things as a joke. It's a sign of emotional abuse when they say things
they know will hurt you but then play it off as a joke. They ignore your feelings and make you doubt yourself
and your self-worth. Seven, they make you guess what they want. You're not a mind reader,
and having a partner that expects you to know
what they want all the time is childish and immature. Healthy relationship is
built on open communication, not assumptions. Eight, they ignore your feelings. Instead of recognizing
when something hurts you, they say that you're being
too sensitive or emotional. This form of abuse may
leave you feeling confused and you may start to
doubt your own feelings. Nine, they gaslight you. Gaslighting is when someone lies about what and how things happen so you doubt your own reality. They may say things like, "This never happened," or,
"You remember it wrong," to confuse you. This form of abuse will leave you dependent on
your partner for everything. 10, they act differently when
you're with other people. There are two ways your abuser may act: They may be caring and
considerate in the public to fool everyone, or they
might be a distant and unloving as a way to control how you behave with your friends and family. 11, their love is conditional. Saying they don't love you
when you disagree or argue is a sign of emotional abuse. And bases the relationship on validation instead of connection, and implies that you're
only worthy of love when you do what they want. 12, they ignore your accomplishments. Abusers may feel threatened
by your accomplishments. And so, instead of recognizing
the work you've done, they downplay or even
ignore it altogether. They might say things like, "That's easy, anyone can do that," or, "It isn't a big deal." 13, they imply you're not helpful. Abusers will tell you what
to do and what to think to control your thoughts and behaviors. They hide this by making it
seem that you aren't helpful, or that you're selfish. And 14, they need to know where you are. Would they constantly
asked you where you are and who you're with? Constantly checking up on
you is a form of control since they wanna know all of
your movements all the time. It shows that they don't
trust you or your judgment. Do you see any of these
signs in your relationships? Let us know in the comments below. Also, remember to like
and share this video with those who might benefit from it. The references and
studies used in this video are added in the description below. Thanks for watching. And we'll see you in the next video.
