Brainy Dose Presents: 12 Early Signs A Relationship Won’t Last When you’re in a new relationship, everything
seems great! You’re carried away by the emotions and
great sensations you’re experiencing. However, if you’ve got your heart set on
a long-lasting relationship, you need to be able to step back and look at your partner
soberly. You need to be willing to recognize early
indications that this new relationship may not last. Sure, no relationship is perfect. Some sore points can arise, even at the beginning,
but good relationships get stronger over time - so a certain amount of patience and commitment
is necessary. Despite all that, however, you should not
ignore the warning signs that all is not well, because if there are obvious problems at the
start, things likely won’t get any better in the long-term. Here are 12 signs to look out for! Number 1 - You Are Guided Primarily By Passion If the relationship is dominated ONLY by passionate
love or lust, it probably won’t last. Of course, in the beginning we all have that
feeling; you want to be with your new partner all the time. But if you sense that there isn’t much more
to the relationship than an obsession to be near each other constantly, or if you don’t
really have much else in common, the relationship probably won’t have legs. Just think: the faster you fall in love, the
faster you can fall out of love. When the relationship’s first rush of passion
begins to subside and you come to realize that there is not much else holding you together,
it makes little sense to hold onto your partner. You’ll resent the effort it takes, and your
partner will resent the pressure you’re exerting. Number 2 - You Feel Like You Can’t Be Your
Genuine Self A healthy relationship needs to give you the
feeling that it’s Ok to be you! Yes, at the start of a relationship, we tend
to be focused on what pleases our partner, and suppress our own possibly less attractive
qualities. But if you are reluctant to be yourself because
it may displease your partner - to show the perhaps ‘less-than-perfect’ side of your
personality - then the relationship is unlikely to last. You need to be able to be yourself in a relationship,
from the very beginning. If you feel like you need to conceal part
of who you are, it will make you very unhappy. You will eventually betray the qualities you
are trying to hide and shock your partner in the process. You are playing a role you can’t maintain
forever, and that’s unfair to both of you. Number 3 - Your Partner Is Not Very Responsive ‘How much’ or ‘how little’ couples
in a relationship communicate with each other differs. Yet communication needs to flow in both directions. It is not a good sign if you feel like your
partner is not communicating with you often enough. If, for example, you are communicating your
needs, but you feel like your partner is not communicating theirs, or is not responding
to you, it could mean that they do not place enough value on the relationship. We are talking about a feeling here; there
is no standard level of healthy communication. It’s also important to be patient. With that said, a healthy relationship has
to accommodate your needs, not just your partner’s. If you aren’t getting what you need from
them, maybe you are just not very well matched. It happens. Number 4 - You Don't Like Their Friends As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock
together. The friends we keep, say a lot about us. It could, therefore, be a bad sign if you
don’t like your partner’s friends. We all choose our friends - and we often choose
friends because we have something in common with them. So, if you just can’t cozy up to your partner’s
friends, it is only logical to suspect that he or she might share some traits that you
don’t like. Number 5 - All Your Interests Become Their
Interests It is important in any relationship for both
partners to retain some independence and maintain their own sense of self. It is not only OK; it is essential that both
have their own unique interests. If your partner seems to be adopting all your
interests, it could indicate that they are making their happiness and ‘sense of self’
too dependent on you. This could end up putting you under a lot
of pressure. Sure, it’s OK for either of you to make
an effort to like some of each other’s interests. Ladies, it’s great if you can share his
love of sports. Guys, it’s OK to discover an interest in
dancing. But if your partner is giving up their interests
for your sake, you may begin to wonder what their motives really are. You may even get bored if you end up spending
too much time with them! Number 6 - Your Partner Doesn’t Seem To
Value Your Opinion Mutual respect is vital for any long-term
relationship to thrive. You may not always agree with each other - but
if you value each other as individuals, you must show respect for each other’s perspectives. A good partner is willing to reconsider their
own opinion when you’ve expressed yours. If you get the feeling that your partner thinks
that they’re always right, it does not bode well for your relationship. Don’t get me wrong - it’s OK to be considerate
- and you should be. It’s fine to let your partner choose the
movie, or where to go out. People in love like to do favors for each
other and show consideration. It’s all part of a giving relationship. But if your partner is constantly making all
the decisions, dominating discussions and trying to impose their opinions on you, it
can reveal an essential lack of respect for you. Number 7 - You Can Deal with Their Faults,
But They Won’t Tolerate Yours Over time you come to realize that your partner
is not perfect. Your partner is a real person, including their
particular faults or things that just seem to rub you the wrong way. And of course, it’s the same vice versa. If your partner has no trouble criticizing
your little quirks but expects you to just deal with theirs, it’s a sign of disrespect
and an inability to adapt to your needs. This is not a good basis for a healthy and
happy relationship. Neither of you is perfect. The willingness to accept each other’s imperfections
is a real sign of love and respect. A partner who is incapable of this, is not
right for you. Number 8 - You Argue All The Time There are always going to be conflicts in
a relationship. After all, couples are composed of individuals,
each with their own take on things. It’s not fun, but expressing disagreement
is a sign of a healthy relationship. Now, if you’re fighting with each other
right from the beginning, it’s a bad sign! Constant disagreement is emotionally draining
and places a lot of pressure on both partners. If this is happening to you, then you and
your partner are probably not all that compatible. If you two can’t get along with each other
for more than a day or two without having a serious argument, you need to consider just
how long that relationship is likely to last! Number 9 - There’s A Lack Of Trust One thing that most people value in a relationship
is trust. A lack of trust is one of the most common
reasons for break-ups. If you don’t trust your partner or they
don’t trust you, the relationship is pretty much doomed. People who love, value and respect each other,
are able to be honest with each other - even when it could lead to uncomfortable situations. Number 10 - They Seem To Be Keeping You A
Secret You can’t force anyone to fit your ideal
of a perfect partner, nor can you compel anyone to a relationship with you, if that’s not
what they want. Does your partner prefer to stay home when
you could go out together? Are they hiding friends and acquaintances
from you? Does it seem like they don’t want others
to know about your relationship? These are signs that your partner is not willing
to commit to you. If your partner wants you to be part of their
life, they should be willing to show that commitment to others as well. If it’s been a while, and you’re still
trying to figure out where you stand, it’s probably not a good sign… Number 11 - It’s Bad Timing Sometimes, the timing just isn’t right. It could be a significant age difference. Despite real affection and respect, an age
difference of 30 is probably pushing it. Or maybe it’s not the age difference as
much as the different stages of life you and your partner are in. Suppose you are well into your career and
want children, while he or she is still unsure of what they want to do with their lives. Your expectations and priorities are just
not compatible. You and your partner may be able to get past
such timing issues - if it’s a temporary situation. But if things aren’t going to clear up in
the foreseeable future, the relationship won’t last. Number 12 - You're Just An Option If you are with someone until “someone better”
comes along, you are not being very fair. Your partner will probably sense that. Of course, the same thing might be true of
your partner. There could be a number of reasons for this
behavior. It could be the timing, as I already mentioned. Or they just don’t want to be alone, and
you’re “better than nothing”. Or perhaps they are not sure about you yet. You have a right to feel like you’re a priority. At some point, they need to commit. If they won’t, why waste your time? When all is said and done, you have to figure
out what you are willing to accept, and what you just won’t put up with in a relationship. If you have a clear idea of ‘what you really
want’ and ‘what you don’t want’; and if you can be aware of the warning signs that
a relationship is not going in the direction it needs to go; you will also know when you’ve
found the right person to share your life with. And it’s perfectly OK if you have to end
a few relationships along the way. Can YOU think of anything else to add to this
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