If you're fed up with getting stuck in
English, of not being able to fully express yourself or constantly feeling
judged and self-conscious when you speak English, this video is for you! Becoming
fluent is not something that just happens to you. "Okay, I'll just listen to
podcasts and watch movies without subtitles and read lots of books and
speak a little bit at work and then I'll be fluent!" No, that doesn't happen that
way. It's like planning a project at work or deciding to renovate your house, right?
You're not just stumbling upon furniture or people asking them, "Hey, do you mind
breaking this wall in my apartment because I need to renovate it." And then
you break a wall. Then you're like, "Oh no! That was not a good idea! Maybe I need to
put back the wall and then break another wall." Then you go ahead and break that
wall and then you go above your budget and the house is a mess right and you
have no idea what to do. Well it's sort of the same thing but different.
If your goal is to become fluent, you have to make it a project of yours.
You have to plan it. You have to see what's working for you and what's not
working for you. You have to focus your attention and to do only the things that
get you results. You've got to stop wasting time with the wrong teachers. You
got to stop wasting times watching all these videos without really doing
something about it. You have to stop wasting time doing things that don't
advance you, but to do that you have to know what you need and the only person
that can help you with that is you. Today, I'm gonna teach you the three steps that
will help you develop your fluency strategy to understand what to learn and
how to learn it, how to practice effectively and how to boost your
confidence by changing your mindset and owning that fluent mindset that will
help you kick ass when you speak English. The way I see it, fluency has three
pillars. The first pillar is 'knowledge' - knowledge of words, knowledge of grammar,
knowledge of pronunciation, right? Knowing how to use certain
expressions, and what words to use when, and how to structure the a sentence.
So this is knowledge. The second pillar is 'practice', which is taking all the
knowledge that you have and turning it into spoken English. This is usually the
biggest struggle. Most people are having an easier time reading and writing and
listening to English, but when they have to speak, that's the main challenge.
Retrieving the right words, knowing how to structure it fast and fluently, and of
course, being able to pronounce it and to sound clear when speaking so you
actually communicate your message. The last pillar is 'confidence'. It's great
to know all those things you know you can learn for hours on end and you can
practice with your teachers and with your friends, but if you don't have the
confidence to speak up when you're needed, when you're asked a question,
when you have something to say in a meeting or in front of people or just in
the store. If you avoid conversations like you avoid fire then you need to
boost your confidence. Now confidence is one of the pillars but it's also the
result of the first two because when you learn more and when you practice more, of
course, it improves your confidence and these three elements are essential if
you want to become fluent in any language. Now that we know these three
elements we need to understand how to improve in each and every element here.
When it comes to learning English, I feel very lucky. I think that we all are. We
live at a time that there is so much information out there. There are so many
learning resources, high-quality top resources. They can just reach your hand
and grab them for free. The downside of it is that you don't know what to focus
on because if you go and try to learn everything that is out there because
you're passionate and motivated. The result is that it can be overwhelming, a
waste of time, and sometimes redundant. Let me give you an example. If you still
struggle with a past simple tense or present simple, do not go and learn the
perfect tenses. Master the basic and most used tenses before you move on to more
advanced tenses. Phrasal verbs are very important, but if
you still don't know when to use 'on', 'in' and 'at' when you're talking about time and space, do not
go and learn all the phrasal verbs out there in the world. Focus first on the
things that get you stuck because you use them daily, okay?
Understand what are your needs and focus just on that when it comes to
pronunciation. Do not go and learn all the different nuances of the American
T and all the extra sounds added when you're connecting words, if your R's and L's are still getting confused, okay? I'm not saying it's not important, it's not
important right now. You need to focus on the things that will get you the best
results and those things are the most apparent things, the things that you
probably want to deal with the least because you're so tired of it or and
bored with it. But, these are the most important elements that keep getting you
stuck. And when it comes to vocabulary, don't waste your time learning words
that you don't know. Focus on using words that you know but never use, that you
understand when other people speak, that you use in reading and writing but you
never use in speaking. That will get you results. Learning new words and
memorizing them and never using them along with the other 1,500 words that
you already know and never use, will not get you results. When you're planning
your learning road map trying to understand what are the topics that you
need to focus on, you have to laser focus on the things, the critical pieces, that
are missing when you're speaking English. The critical pieces that still hold you
back when you speak English. Do not go,
although it's tempting, do not go and learn everything that is out there.
That's just procrastinating. That's just not dealing with what's important for
you and believe me I know. I know it's the most boring stuff. It's the stuff
that you know but it's just not a part of you, so you know that you need to do
it but it's just, it's not there yet and then you're like pushing it to the
corner. No. Open that box
and drill down and master it and then you will see how everything is so much,
so much easier. When it comes to practicing English. Remember that it's
always quality over quantity. You do not need to study every day for two hours.
You do not need to move to an English-speaking country in order to
immerse yourself and really improve. No, you can do it from a non-English
speaking country also and you can become fluent and you can master the language
and I know it because I've seen it happen.
Swear to God. I've seen my students and my community members take huge leaps in
their English and their ability to communicate just by practicing
effectively. What is to practice effectively? First of all, to plan it out,
to learn only the things that you need to learn. You need to be aware of what
you're doing. Maybe you need to record yourself. Maybe you need to videotape
yourself listening to it giving yourself feedback, looking in the mirror to make
sure that you're opening your mouth or rounding your lips as you're speaking.
All of these things turn your practice into a conscious active exercise from
which you can learn and improve. Remember that. The small changes make all the
difference, and of course speak as much as possible. Speak to yourself in the car.
Speak to a friend. You don't have to have native speakers around you to be able to
speak and to practice. You don't need that constant feedback. Understand that
just speaking, looking for the words trying to understand how to say it, even
if it's when speaking to non-native speakers, it's a great way to improve. In
fact, I find that non-native speakers have a much easier time to practice with
fellow non-native speakers. They feel less judged. They feel a lot more freedom
because they know they're both in the same boat and this is why I started our
online community and if you're not a member, please click the link below and
join us because it's a safe space for people to discuss meaningful things in
English, because you don't have to constantly practice English to practice
English. You just need to speak. And when you speak about
meaningful things and when you really connect with other people from around
the world, it makes everything so much better, and to be honest, is the most
empowering and safest space I've ever seen online. So click on the link and
join us! Lastly, let's talk about confidence. You know that voice in your
head that tells you, 'Oh, you made a mistake. Oh, you're not gonna be able to
say it. Oh, you're not gonna know how to finish the sentence why even bother
starting? You sound funny. They're gonna think you're stupid!' Do you know that? Do
you know that voice? You know these voices. It's not just in your head. I just
want you to know that it's in everyone's heads and even in my head because, what
do you think when I'm speaking to you right now in front of the camera, there
isn't this Vicious Hadar sitting up here and they're like, 'You didn't sound good
here. You made a grammar mistake. That's the best you can do??'
It's here all the time. The question is how much space I'm willing to give this
person sitting right here. Usually I tell her to take the back seat because I'm
right here making videos for you guys and that's more important than making a
pronunciation mistake or grammar mistake. When you're communicating with other
people, you give others the opportunity to get to know you, to learn from you, to
understand something about themselves or about you or about the world, even if
it's simple things. When you're holding yourself back because of mean voices, you
are denying yourself the opportunity to be you, even if it's in the second
language. You have to remember that and there are a few things that you need to
keep reminding yourself that will completely change your mindset and those
things are: being perfect is overrated. I hate nothing more than hearing the
term 'speak like a native speaker' because when you set the bar so high, the
gap is so wide that you'll feel that you'll never be able to reach there. If
this is your goal then this becomes impossible. You don't need to sound
like a native speaker, sound like yourself, but your most fluent, expressive
and confident self. That's your goal. Don't try to achieve something that will
hold you back, try to achieve something that will empower you. Really trust me on
that. I know. I know that it's hard to change that mindset because you've been
told for years that the only way to become fluent is to sound like a native
speaker, but understand that being a native speaker is something that
happens if you're born into the language and if you're not born into the language,
you can become very fluent in the language and you can master it and you
can master the accent. I know that and again I've done it myself but I know the
the journey is long and it takes a lot of hard work and sometimes the goals
should be expressing yourself, being fluent, finding the words, sounding clear
even if it's not like a native speaker, even if people still ask you where
you're from, okay? The thing is that you need to be okay with that. You need to
understand that what you bring to the table as a non-native speaker is your
gift, is your advantage, okay? Don't try to hide it.
Don't try to wash out your identity. Become clear, have a powerful voice, say
what you have to say. Doesn't matter if it's with an accent and it doesn't
matter if it's with mistakes. Which leads me to the second thing and that is -
mistakes are okay. Mistakes are the only way to learn. Don't beat yourself up
every time you make a mistake. Don't be afraid of making mistakes because that
will only result in not speaking. Don't wait till it's perfect to speak - your
pronunciation, your knowledge of English, your thought, okay? Don't wait for you to
know exactly what you need to say before you speak. Start speaking, get stuck, make
a mistake, ask for help, but speak. Once you're okay with making mistakes, and
again I'm telling you this because I have come
terms with my mistakes, with my grammar mistakes, with my pronunciation mistakes,
with my stupid typos in my videos that I don't see because I've been writing
words phonetically for years now that I've forgotten how to spell correctly,
okay, but I have to become okay with it to be able to make those videos for you.
And if you feel that you're benefiting from my videos, then I know that I've
done my work. Then I know that I did my job in this world because at the end of
the day it's not about being perfect but it's about communicating with the world
and expressing yourself, and it doesn't matter in what language you do that. The
most important thing is that you show up. Now you know that in order for you to
make things happen you have to take action and this is why I want you to
take a few minutes right now and share with us in the comments below two things.
One - where do you struggle the most? Is it with knowing what to learn and how to
pursue your knowledge? Is it sitting down and actually doing the work practicing,
or is it confidence? What are the voices that you hear in your head? And then the
second thing I want you to do is to write down your game plan. What are you
planning to focus on? What are the things that you are going to learn in order to
improve? Be as specific as possible. Really, the most specific you could be
and then I want you to let us know how much time out of your day you're willing
to invest practicing effectively in order to become the most fluent you've
ever been and if you haven't yet I highly encourage you to join our amazing
online community. So I'll post a link to it right here below. I know I'm not
objective but I'm not the only one saying it it's really the most
safest, most empowering place where you can share and learn from and create
activities. So really, I'm telling you don't waste your time. Click
that link and get your butt in there. Thank you for letting me share this with
you and I truly believe that if you put your mind into it and you do the work,
English will come to you. Thank you so much for watching and I'll see you next
time. Bye.
