your past doesn't define you

we all know the feeling someone cuts you off in traffic and suddenly you're reliving that time your dad yelled at you for a spilled glass of milk your boss gives you a critical note and Bam you're back in high school feeling like a total loser because you couldn't understand algebra we throw around this word trauma like it explains everything a Magic Shield deflecting blame for our actions my parents shut me down so I can't communicate that X screwed me up now I'm toxic we build these elaborate stories of why we're stuck on repeat a comfortable numbness that keeps us from growing look figuring out why you tick the way you do is a relief it's like finally understanding why the smoke alarm keeps going off burnt toast not a freaking ghost but that knowledge is useless without action you got to unplug that toaster right here's the real kick in the pants those crappy experiences they don't Define you they're like scars a reminder of what happened not a death sentence you wouldn't let a scar dictate your entire life would you you wouldn't say well I have a scar so I guess I'm just destined to trip and fall forever the past is a heavy backpack and you're lugging it around like it's filled with diamonds but guess what it's mostly just Dusty memories and chipped self-esteem it's time to unpack that backpack and ditch the stuff that's weighing you down therapy that's your first aid kit patching up the emotional bumps and bruises you picked up along the way journaling a safe space to unpack the mess in your head to sort through the jumbled thoughts and feelings a supportive friend someone who gets it who listens without judgment who offers a hand to pull you up when you stumble taking responsibility isn't about beating yourself up it's about acknowledging the baggage you're carrying and choosing to move forward it's about flipping the script you're not the victim in this story you're the freaking Hero on a journey of self-discovery the road to Healing is like climbing a mountain but you don't have to go It Alone there are resources out there support groups therapists a whole crew of people who want to help you reach the top and guess what the view from the top is freaking amazing it won't be a walk in the park there will be moments of Doubt times you want to throw in the towel and crawl back into your comfort zone but here's the thing you've got this you have the power to rewrite your story to trade the toxic narrative for a badass one so ditch the self-pity party and grab the metaphorical mic this is your story and you're the author director and the star rewrite the script choose your battles and create a masterpiece it's time to stop blaming the world and start building something damn beautiful here's the thing it all starts with an honest conversation with yourself grab a pen and paper or open up a note on your phone doesn't matter write down the things that bug you the things that make you shut down or lash out maybe it's arguments with your partner or maybe it's feeling shy at work now next to each trigger write down the story you tell yourself about why you react that way maybe your partner's criticism reminds you of your critical parents or maybe shyness stems from being constantly teased in school now take a deep breath This Might Sting a little but here goes that story you're telling yourself it might explain things but it doesn't have to control you anymore you can choose a different narrative think back to those experiences that shaped you maybe your parents were harsh or maybe a past relationship left you feeling broken it's okay to feel hurt to acknowledge the pain but here's the empowering part you get to decide how those experiences impact you moving forward let's say your parents always shut you down when you try to express yourself instead of letting that make you bottle everything up you can choose to practice communication skills join a public speaking group or practice having open conversations with trusted friends you can learn to be assertive and express yourself without fear maybe that bad breakup left you feeling insecure and guarded instead of pushing everyone away you can choose to be vulnerable again start small confide in a close friend or try online dating with a positive attitude it's scary sure but the potential reward is amazing you might just meet someone who sees the incredible person you are scars and all here's the key healing isn't about erasing the past or pretending everything is sunshine and rainbows it's about acknowledging the hurt understanding where it comes from and then choosing to grow Beyond it it's like tending a garden you can't control the weather the occasional storm might roll through but you can choose the seeds you plant the way you nurture them and ultimately the flowers you get to enjoy this journey of self-discovery is is a marathon not a Sprint there will be setbacks moments where you feel like you're taking two steps back but don't let that discourage you celebrate the small victories an honest conversation a moment of vulnerability standing up for yourself every little step forward is a win remember you're not alone in this there are millions of people out there carrying their own backpacks of baggage all trying to unpack and move on reach out to friends family a therapist whoever makes you feel safe and supported talk about your struggles your fears and your dreams sharing your story can be incredibly powerful and the support you receive can be the fuel that keeps you going most importantly be kind to yourself you're on a journey of self-improvement not a self- flagellation Mission forgive yourself for past mistakes except that you're not perfect because guess what nobody is and focus on becoming the best version of yourself this might sound cheesy but you are truly capable of amazing things you have the strength the resilience and the power to overcome any obstacle don't let your past hold you back embrace the opportunity to learn to grow and to create a future that's filled with happiness love and fulfillment here's the beautiful part as you heal you'll start to notice a shift in the way you interact with the world you'll find yourself communicating more effectively building stronger relationship ship and attracting positive experiences the world is a reflection of you after all when you change your inner landscape the outer world starts to change too so are you ready to rewrite your story are you ready to ditch the baggage and build a backpack filled with the tools you need to conquer your fears and achieve your dreams it's all up to you take a deep breath grab that metaphorical mic and get ready to star in the most incredible adventure of your life the adventure of becoming the best you

Channel: kaiwai

Views: 194

Keywords: trauma healing, overcoming trauma, emotional healing, personal growth, mental health, self-improvement, take control of your life, healing journey, trauma recovery, reclaim your life, self-help, empowerment, break free from past, emotional scars, transform pain into strength, mental wellness, self-responsibility, healing from within, mental resilience, life transformation

Id: tLSGg_UVo00

Length: 7min 3sec (423 seconds)

Published: Wed Jun 26 2024