Why the Boy Who Was Raised as a Girl Forgave His Mother | The Oprah Winfrey Show | OWN

for years this case was called a medical triumph but in truth the case was a failure devastating the lives of just about everybody involved this is David who has remained anonymous until now only known in the medical journals as John Joan and this is Janet rhymer David's mother who made the agonizing decision to change the sex of her son and to raise him as a girl and what you all at home didn't see during the taping of that piece we could tell Janet you were you know moved and probably disturbed by what you're saying and David you you comfort her I said she's hurting right now mother's all over the world were all alike there's guilt it's darned if you do and darned if you don't you know what things that were done were done out of compassion out of love for your child how can I hate my mother for that did you think he would hate you yes I did mm-hmm did you hate yourself yes so you talk on the tape about the day you first put the dress on did you have a ghen izing feelings about it even when the doctor or were you of that generation or kind of person when the doctor said this would be best did you all believe that it would be best yes I had complete faith in the doctor mm-hmm I believed it would be best but when he started to rip it off I started to have doubts and during the whole journey of trying to create a feminine beam there were doubts along the way but I couldn't afford to contemplate them because I couldn't afford to be wrong I couldn't have faced the alternative and the alternative being what that you'd made this horrible mistake yes because then what could you do right since you since your earliest memories you never felt like you were a boy a girl I never quite fit in well the girls would do their things with their Barbies and things like that and that wouldn't interest me and things such as trucks and building forts and you know get into the fistfight mmm climbing trees that's the kind of stuff that I like but it was unacceptable so I never girl as a girl I had no place to defeat him so what would you say to David who was then your daughter what would you say to him when he would act out his maleness I would try and convince him that he was doing it because he was a tomboy mm-hmm and that it was okay to be himself or herself I would say at the time it was okay to be herself but she was very much a tomboy mm-hmm I tried to fit in mm-hmm I I tried with with the makeup and it turned out to be a disaster you mean you got the you know the red the red circles on the cheeks and I look like a clown basically mm-hmm and but I didn't do it because I liked it I did it because I wanted so desperately defending so I was so lonely and I let one boy kiss me on my cheek once and I thought about it no I don't like this I can't help that you know I am what I did you feel you you when you say I am what I am but you didn't know what that was I wasn't sure hi youtubers I'm excited to give you an update about our own YouTube channel now you can find new videos every day they're the kind of videos it'll make you look at life differently they may even make you laugh a little bit subscribe to the own channel today and we'll see you on YouTube

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Length: 4min 18sec (258 seconds)

Published: Mon Sep 24 2018