The nastiest situations happen not among enemies,
but among the so called loved ones. Love means you’re willing to nurture another
life, without forming opinions. It should be a relationship of nurture, not
opinionated. These are not your loved ones these
are your extra limbs. You are not able to stand on two legs, so
you need four or eight or twelve I don’t know how many. These are extra limbs and when limbs are not
well coordinated, they tangle up, you know. There are four or five brains, four or five power centers
in the home and for it to be well coordinated, certain things have to be done. One way of doing it is,
with an enormous level of connectedness, not emotional. Emotional
connectedness just brings dependency. Emotion is something to be enjoyed. It is the juice of life.
You don’t make your emotions work. You should not make them work. You can make your
thought work, you can make your body work, don’t try to make your emotions work. Whenever
you try to make your emotions work for you, your situations turn nasty, isn’t it? Yes or no?
Initially “I love you” works. After sometime, you’re trying to make emotions
work for you. The harder you try to make it work, the nastier
your life gets because emotion is not for work. Emotion is just to sweeten your life. Your thought and
your body should work. Emotions - just there. It’s like a flower that you wear in your
hair, nobody wears anymore. Tch, Okay, you don’t make these flowers work,
the microphone works, something else works. The flowers need not work, they are just there,
that’s all. Emotion is like that. It’s just there
pleasant and wonderful. If you try to make it work, if you try to extract
some life from around you with your emotions,
it is bound to turn ugly. So, if you don’t have a working brain, if you’re not
capable of thought then you try to use your emotions to make it work and it may work sometimes
that’s the whole problem. It works initially and then you try to push it further,
then your life turns so nasty, so horribly nasty. Among people who supposed to care for each
other. The nastiest situations happen not among
enemies but among the so called loved ones. You agree with me or no? Am I being too
harsh on you? Yes or no? So, people have their opinions. If you love somebody, you should have no opinion
that’s what love means. Love means you are willing to nurture another
life without forming opinions that’s what love means. We are loved ones, we have strong opinions
about each other. No, that means your trying to fix life. An opinion is a way of fixing a person into a strait jacket.
Love means nurturing a person into a new possibility. These two things cannot go together.
No way they can be together. You make some judgements for the moment to
nurture it better. If you’re rearing children at home you have
to make some judgements where the child is right now. To rear them to a next possibility, not form
an opinion on him. The moment you form an opinion, you have no
interest in nurturing that life into a new possibility. You only want to fix it in a shell of your opinion and you
will be disappointed if it doesn’t go by your opinions (Laughs). No, that’s not the way it works. If you want
to live closely with people, it should be a relationship of nurture, not opiniated.
It will not work like that. Fundamental mechanics are wrong, so how will
it work? By accident; because of the newness of the
situation, because it’s honeymoon time, it may work for some time, but after that
it will not work. So, if truly it’s a loving relationship, there should
be no opinions, there should be only nurture.
