Matthew: Hey, Vivi. Doesn’t Hello Kitty helmets and 40 degree temperatures and beaches in southern Taiwan remind you of something? Doesn't it remind you of how you can be rude
to your friends and family in China? Let's go talk about that. Oh boy, that is a hot ass…
Vivi: Imagine I use my bare skin. Matthew: That sucks.
Is that how hemorrhoids come about? It’s from hot seats. You know how you can tell someone’s not Chinese?
Vivi: No. Matthew: It’s if they're Asian but they're
tan, like, on purpose, you know what I mean? Is that rude? Well, it doesn't matter because that's what
we're talking about today. So, Vivi, as I take you on this little beautiful
trip – hey, you can look at us talk in the mirror – would you agree for the most part
that, in general, if I'm your really good friend, right, which I think I'm pretty tight
with you, right? If I'm your friend, I can kind of be a little
rude to you, you know? Like, with my friends, I'm not going to show
up to their house and be like it's so good to see you, good afternoon, you know? They'll be like, what the hell is wrong with
you? But, in China, it’s almost an insult if
I'm with a friend, right, and I said, hey, could you please pass me the ketchup? They would…in America, I think it would
be completely normal for me to say that. Maybe with certain friends there, they would
think I was a little bit weird, right, but, for the most part, you can just use that casually,
whereas in China it's almost an insult, and there's a funny cartoon here where China is
actually communicating with Russia, and the Russian dude has to kind of give in and be
mean to the Chinese dude because that is more of a sign of friendship, because if you asked
too politely for something to someone you know, then you're kind of insinuating that
you don't know them well enough to trust that they're going to give that to you. Vivi: Of course you’re going to feel weird
but the thing is if you’re always being polite…and, I mean, nowadays, people can
also accepting, especially like Asian kids, like they can accept about everything. Matthew: Right. So, we're going to go into some more specific details here because I just found a, it looks to be like, a fishing port where they pull
in fish and then you kind of pick what you want to eat at the restaurant, which is awesome. What do you say?
Vivi: Yeah. I go wherever. You look so localized now, with the Hello Kitty…
Matthew: I know. I’m getting there. Vivi: …and the crappy scooter and with the woman… Matthew: I just need some betel nut.
Vivi: Yeah. Matthew: Wait. Why is being a woman local? I don't get it. I had the right idea. Drove all the way here because we heard about
this place but it is, in fact, a place where you go fishing. Unfortunately, this fish doesn’t become
yours afterwards. This is not a restaurant. Let’s get back on the scooter. Let's get going. Let's get something to eat. I hear they got these weird, like, heard they
got these, like, weird, like, duck noodles, and by the way, in this video, I'm going to
trigger Vivi. Like, a lot of times when I talk about these
little nuances, these cultural nuances, she can get trigged, even though she's, like,
really open-minded for being a Chinese girl. So, I'm going to try to not bait her too much. It's going to be hard. I got hit by a butterfly. It’s, like, covered in mustard but it was
still moving. It’s guts were moving. Better than outside. Matthew: No, seriously. It’s so bad down there. So basically, Vivi, what I was saying earlier
was that it's okay to be…you can spit on other people in China, you can swear at other
people, it’s totally fine. You guys have no manners, right? Vivi: If you’re really close to someone. Matthew: I think you were going to freak out. I mean I was just joking. We told everyone that we're going to go eat
seafood straight from the sea. We told them we were going to duck noodles. We are now eating steamed buns. Vivi: They hate you. Well, we just passed by the steamed bun that is like, bake it right away, just fresh right out of the…
Matthew: Get over here. Sit next to me. We're a couple, for god’s sake. Vivi: But the fan is better here. Matthew: How dare you? I’m the one that needs a fan. I'm not a fan of you right now. As I was saying, manners are not as important
in China with people you know, right, and I think that's, like, the same everywhere,
of course, but I wanted to talk to people about some of those things that you should
probably know or might deal with if you go to China because it is a different system
over there in terms of how you deal with people, right? So, for example, we were just talking about
this, right? I want one of these baozi, right? I wouldn't be like… May I please bother you for a steamed bun? Why am I talking like that?
Vivi: Because you’re in Taiwan. Matthew: Okay.
Vivi: You’re are talking like other guys. Matthew: Give me this freaking magic.
Vivi: No, no, no. Okay. Here’s the thing. You want vegetarian baozi or meat baozi?
Matthew: Why did you order vegetarian baozi? Who am I? You know what I love on a hot day that's like
a hundred degrees is a hot steaming baozi. Vivi: Well, this is one of their custom. They just come out of the thing and then they sell it right away. Matthew: It does look pretty cool.
Vivi: Yeah. Matthew: Anyway, talking about manners, so,
can you talk me through this a little bit as a Chinese person. Why are people so rude to, like, service staff? Like, there's no politeness, right? For example, if I go to 7-eleven in America
and I walk up to the counter, I say, hi, how are you doing? How is your day? Thank you very much. Blah, blah, blah. In China, no one says please and thank you
to a freaking gas station attendant, you know what I mean, or someone…even a waitress
at a restaurant. Why is that? Vivi: In Asia, still has a society tiers level
kind of society, so think they do have the social index there. So, usually, waitress and waiter…
Matthew: So, you're saying there’s a class system. Vivi: Yeah. I mean, like, and plus, like, of course you
need to respect people who work, but meanwhile, you know, I don’t know.
Matthew: This is just a meal, by the way. This is massive and this one's definitely….
Vivi: They’re huge. And then…
Matthew: Wow. That smells amazing. Smell that. It's pickle vegetables.
Vivi: I wonder... Matthew: There's a class-based system. So, people judge people on the lower pay scale than them. The more money you make, the more respect
you get, and Vivi: And plus they said, like, the customer
is the god. So, you’ve got to do what to satisfied us.
Matthew: And the attitude. That’s amazing but that is really spicy. That tastes really good. That tastes like spicy sour pickles. That's amazing. I love that. That's my style. So, what I wanted to address here is that
you'll see quotes from people that go to China just to visit, they’ll come back, and they
really get the impression that Chinese people were friendly and hospitable, but, to each
other, are, like, really, really awful. So, it seems like a country without manners
and that's just not the case, right? Whoa, that’s amazing. It's like a freaking huge meatball. Oh it's dripping juice. You know what's gross is that that looked
like the butterfly guts on my leg. So, you go to someone's house, right? Like, let's say you're going to meet your
host family. Let’s say you're an exchange student or
you’re going to meet someone in China, is there anything in particular you need to be
careful about? Vivi: If you go to visit somebody’s house,
if you are not, like BFF, going to go visit all the time or if you’re
going to visit some old generation…like, people you just know not that long ago or
people you think you should respect, you definitely need to bring some gift over there. Either fruit, either, like, depends on what
the host like, you know? Matthew: So, like, in America, I think it’s
customary if you wanted to bring a gift to be nice, but it might look a little strange
if you showed up with, like, a box of fruit. I remember I went to a friend's house in inner
Mongolia and you told me to buy a milk, got a big huge thing of milk, and we gave them
that. Vivi: That’s what they want.
Matthew: I thought that…I know. It’s just weird to most foreigners, right,
but, for them, it was useful and it was a good… Vivi: You will need to ask them, like, what
you need to bring if you guys are close enough. Matthew: Most of the time, they say don’t
bring anything. Vivi: No, but that’s a basic manner. Matthew: Right. You have to. Vivi: If you actually not bring it and they they will actually be upset. Matthew: Yeah. Oh no, for sure. They’ll say they don’t need it though. Matthew: They’ll be like, no, no, no, no, no, but you have to. Vivi: You have to, you have to.
Matthew: You have to do it. Vivi: I remember, my parents, even like when
at the very beginning you get to know them, the first time you visit… …you then know you need to bring stuff, and then, like, my dad didn't think you are the bad one. He think I am the bad one by not telling you to bring stuff
Matthew: Because you didn’t teach me. Matthew: This one's really thin.
Should we crack this one open? This is the weirdest video I've ever shot. What is that?
Vivi: Cheese. Matthew: What? Cheese? It’s cheese.
Vivi: Cheese and, what’s it called…and sausage… Matthew: Oh my god.
Vivi: …bread, I guess. Matthew: You thought I was going to feed you,
didn't you? That's spectacular. I would eat that for breakfast every day. That's good. It's like a reverse pizza with no sauce, makes
absolutely no sense. Another massive thing is that mealtime to
China is super, super important and there's a certain place you sit at the table. Most important person sits at the head of
the table. It's just how it is. If it's a circle table, they point towards
the door, right? Usually deals with age, it can also be money,
status, and the importance of the person. In America, or in the west, you're never going
to have to deal with that, right? When the dishes come out to being served…and
this is super important. It sounds stupid, like, one of those, like,
oh it's a traditional society. No, no, no. This is like a really big deal. It's manners. This is where the real manners comes into
play. There may be no manners with strangers. Vivi: That doesn’t mean we have manner right
now because we’re eating and then talking. Matthew: Well, I’m more important than you. You didn't let me eat first? Actually, you did. Vivi: I’m older than you.
Matthew: You are. Isn’t that sad? Why did you give me that crap?
Vivi: Red bean. Matthew: Ew. Who wants to eat a bun full of beans? When they put down the dishes, the most important
person has to try the dish first, right? So, you can't dig in there. If they say, go ahead, eat, you’ve got to
wait, even if they tell you to. It's not a trap. You just actually…
Vivi: It’s a trap. Matthew: You have to be polite. Manners are not for strangers of China but
manners are very much for people you know, particularly elders and people who are important. If you really want to make a good impression,
keep that in mind, and keep in mind that it's not necessarily, like, someone's out to get
you just because people are not nice to each other in the streets. It's just not an evil society. It's just how things work. Vivi: People’s mindset is if you’re not
my business, you really just not my business. Matthew: Right. So, they just let it go. Anyway, I'm going to get tucked into these
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Vivi: Duck. Matthew: I'm not hungry. Let's go…we'll go explore, okay? Thank you so much, laowinners. I’ll catch you… Vivi: …on the next one.
