Why Holding a Grudge Is Holding You Back

there's nothing quite as sour as being wronged whether someone lied to you disappointed you or hurt you on purpose it sucks it's normal to get upset or mad over it heck it's even normal to feel like that for a while but when does a while become a grudge holding a grudge is the act of harboring resentment or bitterness over a past wrongdoing harboring feelings is when you keep those feelings alive without addressing or resolving them so your hatred or anger is normal until you fuel it to keep it going instead of encouraging it to go bye-bye you know when you keep talking about that past wrong weeks and months after it's done yeah that holding a grudge is supposed to be about showing the other person what they did wrong and that they don't deserve forgiveness but it does very little harm to the other person and more to you here are four big reasons why holding a grudge is holding you back from your own success number one holding a grudge poisons your body holding a grudge May temporarily feel feel like you're winning but it will chip away at your basic Foundation your health while you may not like to hear it I'm here to tell you that holding a grudge is equivalent to having chronic anger and resentment after all if you really didn't care anymore about that person or what happened you wouldn't be making present decisions based on past hurt so let's get brutally honest being chronically angry and resentful is connected to a physical prolonged stress response and what happens when our bodies undergo a stress response that should have just been for one one day but lasts months or even years you poison your body weakening your immune system and contributing to higher blood pressure heart problems and even digestive issues so while it may feel satisfying in the moment to hold on to anger it's ultimately detrimental to your well-being in the long run want to know the opposite of being mad at someone well it's supporting them of course start today by supporting this channel by hitting like And subscribe you know I appreciate you number two holding a grudge chips away at your mental health too holding a grudge May sneakily affect your body but it pretty obviously affects your brain and mental health that's because Studies have shown that this type of anger and unforgiveness can lead to increased feelings of anxiety and depression and even to the development of unhealthy coping mechanisms like using drugs or alcohol to mask your unpleasant feelings around what happened if you're holding a grudge you have to remember why you're doing so that means every time that person appears or is mentioned your brain replays the negative instance and feelings that caused you to separate from them in the first place talk about a replay that benefits no one number three forgiveness is the superpowered multivitamin you didn't know you needed in case it wasn't obvious the opposite of holding a grudge is forgiveness you may be thinking there's no way on Earth I will forgive this person they don't deserve forgiveness you have no idea what they did to me this might be true I will stop to acknowledge that some people go through really traumatic and hurtful things I mean some deep wounds if that's you it may take some therapy and a long time to truly be able to forgive and move on and that's okay but for those who are harboring anger towards someone for wrongful yet Petty situations this is for you if someone lied to you cheated you or cheated on you stole from you owes you money or was simply sour to you for no good reason you're chasing a temporary yet hurtful high from a grudge when you truly need the superpower of forgiveness it isn't about letting the other person off the hook or condoning their actions it's about you growing and being better in fact it's about being better than that other person according to pedmont healthcare forgiveness frees up your mental space and releases the weight of negative emotions giving you the possibility of growing your emotional resilience to learn more about this check out another video we made called what the heck is emotional intelligence back to forgiveness forgiveness makes you a better partner friend coworker and overall person emotional well-being is directly correlated to mental well-being and physical well-being and to be the best version of yourself you'll need all three to work together number four you're giving too much energy to a person you want to ignore if you're not convinced by improved Health mental peace or being the most awesome version of yourself I have one more point to win you over you don't like this other person this other person did something sucky so are you seriously going to give them the time effort and energy that a grudge requires a grudge means continuous mental and emotional energy to remember the wrong and prove that you aren't involved with that person except it's kind of a catch 22 because you are so involved that you can't let the situation go you are Tethered to negative emotions which distract you from the positive experiences and opportunities that might come your way otherwise when you hold a grudge against someone that person holds power over you if you instead forgive and move on you can choose to never interact with that person again but do so in peace with no hard feelings there is a big difference holding a grudge feels justified in the moment but it does more harm than good and that harm doesn't hurt the other person in the way you wish it would stop hurting yourself and prove your point the right way by showing that other guy or girl that you are the bigger person who can forgive and either reconnect or move on reclaim your happiness and well-being today I know you can do it as always thanks for watching

Channel: True Medallion

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Keywords: Why Holding a Grudge Is Holding You Back, social skills, holding a grudge, letting go, mental health

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Length: 5min 26sec (326 seconds)

Published: Mon May 20 2024