Values vs Goals - By Dr. Russ Harris

Society tells us the way to be happy is to achieve our goals get that great job earn that money get a good body find a partner have happy healthy kids have a big house have a nice holidays goal goal goal goal goal and it's true that if you do actually manage to achieve these goals then there is a little moment of joy and happiness but how long does it last how long before you're looking at the next goal and then the next goal and then the next goal and as we live our life trying to constantly strive to achieve these goals one after the other after the other how tiring and exhausting does it get is this year there is a radically different way to live your life which is a life based on values of values focused life it's like two kids in the back of a car and it's a three hour car journey to Disneyland and the first kid is totally goal focused are we there yet are we there yet how much longer are we there yet this journey of frustration it's all about the goal the second kid is values focused he's got the same goal he wants to get to Disneyland but he's also in touch with his values around curiosity adventure having fun so he's looking out of the window playing I spy with my little eye he's counting all the you know the interesting farm houses that he sees on the way he's spotting interesting farm animals cows and sheep he's noticing different types of trucks and cars on the freeway so he's actually appreciating the journey as he heads towards his goal now they both reached Disneyland at the same time they both have a fantastic time at Disneyland as they both got to achieve the goal but the first kid had a journey of frustration the second kid had a fulfilling rewarding journey then on the way home the first kid are we home yet are we home yet are we home yet all about the goal all that frustration second kids looking out of the window noticing how the world looks different at night spotting the the lights in the farm houses and the cat's eyes on the freeway the car breaks down on the way to Disneyland now both kids are really disappointed because neither of them achieve their goal but the second kid at least had a fulfilling journey up until that point now when the pickup truck arrives to tow them home the first kid oh it's not fair I want to go to Disneyland how long before the car gets repaired it's not fair it's not fair the second kid starts to notice how the world looks different when you're sitting in the front of a pickup truck high above the level of the rest of the traffic so this is the very important distinction between the values focus life and the goal focus life in the values focus life we have the fulfillment and satisfaction of living our values every step of the way towards our goals the satisfaction of achieving our goals and the fulfillment that comes of living our values even when we don't achieve our goals Oh

Channel: Dr. Russ Harris - Acceptance Commitment Therapy

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Length: 3min 41sec (221 seconds)

Published: Wed Aug 19 2015