Top Skills That Will Get You Hired

coming up next we'll go over some of the top employability skills and then the one opportunity that we tend to always overlook we'll take your calls and your chats and it all starts right now i'm coming to you live from ramsay studios in nashville and you're joining a conversation about who you are what you were created to do where you want to do that and how you can get there it's about your purpose your why why am i here why was i created well we believe the answer is to contribute now we're going to look at that contrib contribution rather through the lens of work now you could contribute in relationships and you should but but really if you were to boil life down you've got the relational side of things the professional side and then the spiritual right and and i think that's that pretty much boils it down right okay so this is where i i am engaging and and then this is how i contribute and so we're going to talk a lot about the professional contribution uh we don't shy away from the spiritual or the relational contribution but we're going to start through the lens of you were created to work does that mean we are saying uh you need to be a workaholic and it's all about numbers and that's what we define success as no we we define success as significance meaning you are filling your unique role in the marketplace you are working to create a result that matters deeply to you because it matters to someone else so it's not about us our purpose isn't even about us it's about our contribution to make the world a better place that's where we start and so we have a simple methodology we want to help you discover your unique role the role you fill now we're not talking about the job because the job allows you to fulfill the role okay and so when you begin to understand this you say oh when i figure out the role that i was created to play or to fill then you begin to see that you can do that in multiple jobs and careers and it frees you frees you up frees your soul up to be who you were created to be and can see that you can grow and change but still fill that role so if that's a conversation that you're up for you're in the right place eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven that's the number to jump in on the phone call your one phone call away madison is standing by right now you have two two phone lines open so come on eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven you can also send your question in via the chat it's live chat and they'll get it to me here on the computer we'll get to a couple of those okay and then i'm excited about today's teaching the opportunity that we tend to overlook the most this is going to be really i think eye opening for many of you so let's get to it top employability skills this is a good article came across from uh i can't even say the name i can't it's impossible to say the name but it's from the website zeddy.com we'll give credit to that um and there's some good stuff in here i pulled a few out that i think are really really important so let's go through these really quickly because i think people need to understand that you have got to constantly be assessing and developing assessing developing assessing development i want to assess where where am i at with my employability i really like that term am i constantly reviewing myself that's what i mean by assessing am i looking at where i am strong and where i can be stronger am i looking to guard against to put a buffer on my weaknesses i'm not a fan of working on weaknesses i am a fan of mitigating weaknesses meaning putting a plan in place to where your weaknesses aren't hindering you but if we're assessing and developing we need to be aware of things like this what are employers looking for what are the skills the strengths if you will that they say boy this is really really good this is a baseline that we need to have in somebody all right so here we go problem solving i'm telling there's always going to be a premium on problem solving at the end of the day that's what business is they are monetizing some type of problem solving or you could spin it another way and say solution giving right that's business second communication skills oh my gosh the lifeblood of everything just communicating well do you have to be a great speaker no do you have to have the 50 cent words that you drop in and out like it's nobody's business no just the ability to communicate to listen well process what you listen to and communicate clearly third adaptability this is huge what a wonderful quality adaptability is really really strong just you know what i'm gonna roll with the punches that's huge and can i tell you something some people will call adaptability a soft skill but i'm gonna tell you what i think it actually is i think it's an attitude just you know what all right i'm gonna i'm gonna roll with the punches here i'm gonna roll with the punches i've talked about this on the program before we've got a if you ever watch the youtube show of course you see the the boxing gloves behind me all the time uh and and uh boxing was one of my favorite sports growing up and uh that that that phrase roll with the punches is a boxing term and it means that when someone is punching at you you don't want to just lean into the punch and take it what do you want to do you want to roll and so the punch it kind of glances off of you and that's that idea here when something new comes at you unexpected you don't freak out you roll with the punch you receive it oh okay this is a change i don't like it i'm uncomfortable i'm gonna have to change i'm gonna have to grow this is negative ugh well we're gonna roll with that punch we're gonna absorb the punch not be destroyed by it collaboration it's so important this is a playoff of adaptability and communication somebody who communicates well and is adaptive they're probably going to be very collaborative time management make the most of your time more and more work coming at you than ever before organization skills we get that technology savvy and then likability just are you a good fit with everybody and the culture itself are you likable you good fit all of those things can be developed and it's a really good list so again that's a helpful list for you to look at and go where am i at on this deal let me assess myself where can i improve really good exercise eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven eight four four seven four seven two five seven is the phone number let's go to indianapolis where we start with ashley ashley you are on the ken coleman show hi ken thanks for taking my call today sure how can i help well i was going through the career clarity guide and i really got stuck on the getting clear piece i've kind of been doing the same thing for the last five years but really all my professional career has been you know revolving around real estate and new construction but i kind of think i want to branch out a little bit but i don't know what direction to go okay so when you said you took the career clarity guide what did you come up with on the mission column the results of the mission column which is the results of your work that matter deeply to you what'd you come up with um i really like um you know relationship building um and then also a lot of charitable giving mm-hmm okay tell me more about the first one relationship building um just you know establishing a good connection with somebody and helping them you know achieve the results that they're looking for whether it be you know on a business to business aspect or a personal business aspect all right so that's what you wrote that wrote down for mission that's what you came up with the results of your work you want to you want to uh you wanted to generate or build charitable giving that was one result and then the other result is you want to uh be connecting building relationships yeah okay so what did you write down for passion which we define as the work you look forward to just the work itself we just discussed results but the work you love this kind of work if you're doing this all day or at least 95 90 85 percent of your day you're feeling the juice what do you have um i like prospect organization i'm very detail-oriented um and then i also like you know budgets and finances things like that interesting um so of the charitable giving so if you were involved in processes and details and and all those things trying to drive charitable giving or if you were if you were taking those those things you like to do processes details budgets things like that and drive it towards relationship building it's very interesting i'm not seeing a direct connection and i rarely see this happen so i'm wondering let's just try this because you said ken i'm having a hard time with with clarity here after taking the career clarity guide um i want you to turn your brain off for a moment what would you do what would you do monday morning if i said you can do anything you want to do ashley you're going to be successful at it you have no risk here whatever money you need it's there uh no risk you don't have to get qualified you just get to start you know you're going to be successful and you know you can also change your mind at any point so you're not locking yourself in but this is what you would do what would you do monday morning i would um go run our family jewelry store ah well that is very interesting we we very interesting all the different answers that you gave and then that's what you would do now tell me why why would you run the family jewelry store i think that it really you know it hits a note for me as far as you know the process organization side management leadership um you know creating that great work environment but then also you know being able to drive some charitable giving you know and running that business and kind of being in control of that and make you know making sure that that happens that's fantastic that is beautiful i'm gonna be very honest with you ashley you you are one of the few people who it's like you didn't get a whole lot of dfinity or maybe you didn't give me all the information on the phone call but you just absolutely brought that back home because it you didn't list leadership but but when i think about your answer about relationship building that's what a leader does and you love the nuts and bolts processes making that jewelry store run really really well to the point that you increase profits which means you increase giving i think that's beautiful that's business for good about as beautiful of the definitions i've ever heard so what's keeping you from running the family jewelry store um well my background is primarily and like i said real estate and new construction so i know nothing about jewelry and gems and diners you don't have to but then also kind of my relationship with the family member that owns it um it's not sad by any means but it's not it's kind of one of those things that's like oh happy birthday merry christmas happy thanksgiving how you been you know it's it's very surface so i don't i don't really know how to approach this family member okay is this uh you don't have to tell me their name but is this is this uh is this well i guess it doesn't matter because you're not telling me so i don't want to put you in a spot it is it is it surface because of distance or is it surface because of tension okay so who's the closest family member between the two of you that you both shared who my father your father okay does your father know of your desire to uh run the family jewelry store yeah what does he say um he's open to it he thinks it's a good idea he just knows the process in which because it was established by my grandparents so he kind of knows the process that my grandparents put in place for the current owner to get involved with it and i don't have that experience um so i think that's where maybe there's a little bit of resistance or hesitation you know that kind of gets stuck on me that i need to do some due diligence i have you expo have you expressed your desire to be involved in the business to who is this family member are you afraid to say it no no it's my uncle okay so it's your dad's bro it's your dad's brother yeah and he's the sole owner and the the grandparents are no longer involved they're out okay and the uncle does know that you would like to be in the business he does not um and i think i kind of feel some pressure of you know approaching him about that kind of almost like i'm blindsiding him but then i also feel pressure in my own mind knowing that he's coming of retirement age and things like that what's the current plan i don't know well let's find that out first is your dad involved at all it would the business go to your dad or to another sibling no i believe if anything it would either be dissolved or uh sold would be my guess okay i gotta tell you something i i don't think there's any problem with you going to the uncle and going hey you don't know this i and and it's silly that you don't know this and i just want to tell you i'm very interested in being involved in the business i'd love to learn from you i know i don't have a jewelry experience but i've got great experience in the construction in world and and and you know building and blah blah blah blah blah and real estate whatever it is and and i can tell you that this would be my unique role to run the business eventually i can learn the jewelry part but i know right now i could help manage and i could help grow in and so my question is what is your plan and and you're not asking him to give you ownership right now you just say i want to be involved i want to help you grow it and uh and prove to you that i would be a worthy successor of you i think that would honor him i don't think that would bother him okay am i you understand what i'm saying like you're not going all in going hey let's talk turkey man how does this yeah no no no you don't do that you go hey i think i want to be a part of the family business but i know i got to earn it and so so the question is how do you go about doing that because he may not be able to afford you is that a possibility that he wouldn't afford being able to afford you right now what you need to make yeah that is something that's you know another cause for concern or cause for pause is he in your area indianapolis or somewhere else um sometimes he's a you know he's a snowbird he's i would say semi-retired so he's enjoying you know enjoying life too right but my point is is that is this furniture store is it in your current zip code oh yeah yeah oh well then good so here's the deal okay great that's what i needed to know so here's the deal he can't afford you right now which was my concern but that doesn't have to be a problem in fact it actually makes this whole transition potentially easier so what you do is you go hey i already got a full-time job i want to be in the business but i already got a full-time job so i'm not going to be a burden to you don't want to be a burden to you but i want to start working 10 hours a week 15 hours a week learning the business helping you how can i help you you're semi-retired how can i help make life even easier because i would love to earn your trust and then eventually earn the right to take over the business when you're done that's a great perspective i hadn't thought about that yeah yeah so now he sees you as nothing but amazing and you you you admire him remember you're going to him and your approach is the awesome niece who thinks he's a rock star so much the point that you want to eventually be what he's doing i i just think if you lead that way he's going to receive that as nothing more than a compliment 844-747-2577 let's go to virginia beach virginia my old stomping grounds rachel is there rachel you're on the ken coleman show hello ken it's wonderful to talk to you well it's great to talk to you how can i help i quit my job without anywhere to land how long ago did you do that last week oh boy all right well hey you know what this too shall pass so let's figure out how to get you where you want to go what'd you call about specifically today what can i help with well i'm i've had three interviews since then so and i'm waiting to hear from them so there's a little light well well first of all first of all there's light okay i get it you jumped uh was it just a really bad emotional situation where you just felt like i can't do this anymore yes it was not the atmosphere i thought it would be okay how much money were you making in that job it was by hour i understand how much were you making i would say about 1200 a month okay no just tell me your hourly rate i'm sorry i should have made it simple i really wait sorry oh sorry uh ten dollars an hour okay great so here can i give you some good news because before we get into what you want to do uh or again you haven't told me specifically what you want my help with but but i wanted to encourage you okay by saying uh rachel even though we're still dealing with this wacky economy and it's up and down we don't know really what it's looking like but there are a lot less people unemployed now than there were two months ago so that is some something positive to be excited about uh the reality is i think you can find a job that pays you ten dollars an hour until you get the yes on some of these other things so let's say you don't get a yes right away you you're out there delivering food delivering pizzas pizzas are still in high demand food deliveries in high demand go do something just to take the pressure off you understand what i'm saying and you can quit though that you can quit that job as soon as one of these other deals comes through but i just want to at least encourage you go do whatever you want to make 10 bucks an hour so go do that if you got to flip burgers go do it and then we take the pressure off do you understand what i'm saying yes okay good go do something well just take the pressure off yeah anything for ten dollars an hour right and now now we go okay all right got money coming back in all right now we focus on the future so what kind of what specifically do you need my help with on the future how i guess how high should i reach because all i was making was ten dollars an hour oh yeah and sweetheart i want you to reach for the stars yeah i know what you're asking i want you to reach for the stars what's your dream what's your dream what would you do if if i if i took all of the necessary qualifications and all the experience and all that money or whatever you're dreaming about whatever has been a barrier for you and if i remove it and place you in the dream job guaranteed you cannot fail you're going ken this is unbelievable i'm actually excited on monday mornings on fridays i'm ready to go home and get a little rest but boy boy am i feeling fulfilled i cannot believe i'm getting paid to do this what is it rachel what has your heart been telling you i want to write a book there we go what do we want to write about christian fiction okay are you getting emotional on me yes tell me why i rarely told anybody that yeah second caller this week that we've had that happen second time and i love it there is an emotion that's coming out of you right now because you've never allowed yourself to speak the dream and it feels overwhelming in a positive way right yes i think you can you bet but listen i thank you i thank you for having the courage to do this on a live radio show on youtube is there a lot of rachel's out there who are afraid to share their dream and i want you to tell us why you have never told anybody that before i'm afraid they won't believe in me yeah they'll they'll laugh at you and go what how how are you going to write a book am i right does that sound like the voice yes yeah uh curious were uh what what were your number one two three subjects in school that just were easy for you literature yeah and and history yeah interesting and uh do you how would you rate yourself and i want you to be honest it's just you and me here forget everybody else how would you rate yourself as a writer i'm okay don't rate it one being the worst writer that's ever touched a pin and then 10 the greatest of all time what would you rate yourself i'll say a seven let me tell you what what i like about seven rachel a seven who works hard on writing and who really studies the craft and follows other writers that move them and and and details out this is what i love about this writer who i love to read and this is what this writer does that's really really good and takes some writing classes online gets in some webinars on how to write oh by the way rachel these are all really cheap uh seven can turn themselves into a nine and i believe over a span of seven to ten years could possibly be a ten that's what i believe a seven who believes in themselves and works at it can be a nine for sure and guess what nine writers get rachel what do you think nine writers achieve an audience yes ma'am they write books they write articles they have a successful website where they write so uh christian fiction is your is your jam that's what you want to do how old are you rachel 35 35 you are plenty plenty young now here's what you have to do here's the mindset this is just like 34 year old ken coleman i want you to hear me rachel i was 34 when i finally decided all right i'm gonna chase broadcasting i did not have a degree in broadcasting still don't i didn't know a lot of people in broadcasting i just went after it but i had a day job that took care of my basic needs a wife three kids a house and all that stuff and diapers you feel me yes and i pursued broadcasting on the side and i paid my dues and i worked my way through it that's what your journey is going to be but you must start writing now and you must also start showing your work now are there gonna be a lot of people that read it nope is it possible that something catches fire sure but what you need to do is is make a list of your favorite christian fiction writers or fiction writers secular doesn't matter if they're secular and i want you to really reread those things and then read as a student this time not as a consumer and when you read as a student you're going to write down all the things that you love about their writing that what you admire and it moves you and you go okay i'm going to put my own spin my own voice my own stories but i want to emulate those writing techniques are you understanding what i'm saying rachel yes and then i want you to sign up for webinars online writing courses that are not expensive but teach you the fundamentals of writing i want you to follow writers on instagram and twitter and facebook and consume what they do okay and there's one particular lady i want you to follow she's been on our how they got their series ally fallon she teaches professional writers she coaches professional writers allie fallon a-l-l-y-f-a-l-l-o-n okay and i want you to get a good 10 hour job just to get yourself stable then we're looking for the 15 20 an hour job i don't care if you love it you just got to be good at doing it because you are going to support yourself while you write and i want you to have an active social media account where you put out short stories or short blips and i want you to keep showing your work do you hear me rachel yes sir and eventually you're gonna write that fiction novel do you understand what i'm saying yes all right i want to hear back from you i don't care how many years it is from now and we're going to share this story and i want you to start writing tonight i want you to write one chapter a short story something i want you to write something tonight and i want it to involve you just letting your heart fill the pages you promise me you'll do that i promise ken all right rachel i really appreciate you go rachel go eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven is the number let's go to the chat room real quick uh jasmine writes in ken i currently have a job i love but i don't like my city should i move to my dream city before i landed a job in that area no there's no reason to do it that way is there anything inherently wrong with this idea no okay in fact i'll give you one okay i'm fine with it answer that's if you have the finances three to six months of money outside of your emergency fund because this is not an emergency so if you've got enough money outside of your emergency fund to float you until you land another dream job in the dream city or you know because you say you love your job so we got to find another job you love in the dream city so what i'd rather you do is let's work our connections let's go spend some time in the dream city on vacation or weekends or whatever and let's make good connections find out who we know everywhere in this whole wide world that's got a connection there and let's see if we can find another job that's similar what you got now and i know you can in the dream city then we move okay or that's one option or go to the dream city and just get a job that it's okay i don't love it but it's getting me there i'm okay with that i'm okay with a day job doesn't have to be the dream job if the day job sets me up to get the dream job so those are your two scenarios you wait a little bit longer find the job you love then take the job you love in the dream city or move to the dream city once you have a day job that sustains you i'm okay with that then we look for the job we love after we're now rooted in the city okay so those are my favorite two scenarios uh kelly writes in i currently make 28 dollars an hour and i'm about to be promoted how do i know what a reasonable salary is to ask for well do your research on the position that you are about to be promoted into you i would imagine that you're being promoted because somebody else is left or somebody else has been promoted how hard could it be to go talk to the person who was in that position to find out what they were making it's good old-fashioned research the other way to do it is is a glass door and other other websites where you can do research uh or indeed maybe it is uh sometimes i say the wrong website point is there's this thing called google and there's there's easy research on what that position what the market range is on salary so i think those are the two ways you figure it out um and you're already making 28 an hour okay and you're about to be promoted so they think highly of you so you could talk to your leader and go hey i'm intrigued by this what's the company pay on this the compensation on this what has it been get that number they're going to tell you most likely you're already in the building and when they tell you that number go do your research on that so multiple ways to figure that out eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven is the number eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven all right i wanna talk to you for just a few moments about the opportunity or opportunities plural that we almost consistently overlook we as humans it's like it it's the opportunity we overlook the most let's put it that way or opportunities we overlook the most you're going what yeah yeah yeah they tell you what it is and by the way i did this a lot that's where this comes from the opportunities that we tend to miss or overlook the most are the ones closest to us why because we're looking out here you're watching me on youtube all right i mean this is a visual aid here all right and i'm making a silly face my kids would be very embarrassed right now with the faces i'm making this is partly why i do this of course they don't watch it anyway but here's what we do and by the way this is the human condition so this is not to to make you feel bad about this but it's for you to go oh wait a second he's right we do this he does it i do we all do it here's what we do we're like this all the time looking way out in the distance and that's just beautiful it's a good thing is it there where's that where is that dream what's the which mountain am i wanting to climb and so we when we have a little bit of clarity or even when we're trying to figure out clarity what we do is we always look way far out or looking really high up and the very opportunity or very opportunities that will help us actually begin to scale the mountain or even identify the mountain are the ones that are down here all around us we're always up well over here well or the opportunity and it's like hey how about just looking around you well what what opportunities are actually right here you can you can get to it it's it's within reach i wrote about this concept in my number one bestselling book the proximity principle in the chapter on the place where you are there are five people we write about in five places that are archetype people and places and the first place is the place where you are because what i found out in talking to you folks on the on the radio show and here on the youtube show is that there is this this natural inclination that when somebody goes okay ken i'm starting to get clear i think i think i know where i want to go and we immediately go oh gosh am i going to have to move and i remember early on the first year of the show i got a call from a guy in charlotte north carolina i've told this story many times i'll tell it again and he said ken here's the deal man i know exactly what i want to do but i know how to get there i need your help i said great what do you want to do he said i want to be in television and movie production but i live in charlotte north carolina i got three kids we're very entrenched here family i i'm in my mid to late 30s uh and i i i moving to l.a or new york it's not an option dude and i feel like i'm stuck and i said okay great i said let me ask you a question i said how many production companies are in the city of charlotte north carolina you know a really good city good economy he said i never thought about that and he chuckled after he said that and the reason is is because he had not been thinking about the prevalence of video companies you got nascar down there you got big banks down there in charlotte and video is the currency of communication in the world we live in now right smart phones every website no matter what your business you're in you better have some type of video communication with your potential customer and your current customers so he began to realize pretty quickly wait there and he said probably a couple dozen and i said exactly i said yes i know you would love to do television and movies but at the end of the day what you really want to do is you want to be involved in video production he goes you're exactly right i said i know i said oh by the way every state now has got a film department every state and they're always trying to entice hollywood to come spend money in their state right because it helps with their budget and so i said north carolina's got the same thing they shoot tv shows in north carolina don't they because yeah so here's what i told him i said look you're thinking that you've got to move somewhere geographically to go somewhere professionally it's not the case and so that little lesson is what i want you to hold on to today he called us back by the way in about 40 days he had found a job and he was in and he was doing the work he loves video production basically he was a producer and the point is is that we miss the opportunities that are closest to us because we are too busy looking at the far off opportunities and there's nothing wrong with dreaming and thinking big but many times the good opportunity or the right opportunity is right there around us that sets us up for the long term so get your eyes down and around it's the law of the zip code is what we said out of that story we wrote a chapter the place where you are and the rule was the law of the zip code which says this everything you need to get started is already around you so start looking around you for the opportunities that are actually in reach and i think what's going to happen is you'll experience more momentum much faster than you would if you're trying to go for the far away opportunity it's really important see what's around you well that's gonna do it for today unfortunately but i want you to know that you matter and you do have what it takes thank you so much for joining us until next time this is the ken coleman show press on you

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Published: Fri Aug 14 2020