This Is What Happens When You DISCARD The Narcissist FIRST!

hello everybody and welcome back to my channel so today I would like to discuss with you what happens when you discard the narcissist and so I want you guys to understand that leaving a narcissistic relationship is very very hard it is very difficult and so the narcissist they destroy during the when you're in a relationship with the narcissist over time your self-esteem your self-worth your self-respect will over time deteriorate to the point where your self-image is destroyed and so because of that you don't have when you know the narcissist is getting to the point where you need to leave you don't leave because you don't have the strength to end it and move on and so trusting people is the last thing that you're going to do that you know and so only after you get fed up with abuse from the narcissist and you realize that the reason the narcissist is treating you like this and hurting you and abusing you you realize that it's not your fault it's not your fault these people are disordered that is their mental illness okay and so you start to look at life from a different perspective through a different lens and so the reason these relationships are challenging in the first place is because you believe that the narcissist who will change you believe that you can make them a different person and you can't so you have to understand that the narcissist they are great actors they put on these award Academy winning performances throughout the relationship and they know just the right moment to pretend that they have changed they know the right moment to put on this performance when you have one foot out the door when you have decided that you have had enough and that is when they love bomb you and they manipulate you back into staying with them when you have one foot out the door and so I'm gonna talk about five things that the narcissist will do this is what you can expect when you leave a narcissist so the first thing that they do is they will stalk in harass you because they cannot accept that you have discarded them that was the narcissist ulterior motive when they first met you was to discard you and to hurt you so that they could get that narcissistic supply they cannot have long relationships because they have no empathy they can't bond with people and so in a normal relationship the other person understands if you're not happy okay they understand that you're not happy so you don't want to be with that person and you move on they understand that they want you to be happy so but the narcissist they are not normal so they see you discarding them they see that as you winning because the narcissists ultimate goal both ulterior motive was to discard you so by you discarding them you won they lose that's the narcissus mentality they are all about winning okay when lose mentality and so they see you discarding them as abandonment okay narcissus that they see being them being discarded as a narcissistic injury it's an ego blow they see themselves as perfect they see themselves as everybody who's supposed to like them everybody is supposed to treat them a certain way they're perfect in their eyes and so the narcissus they can't accept that you have discarded them first and so because of that they stalk you and they harass you for months and years they stalk you in social media they come to your home unannounced they send you overwhelming back-to-back text messages phone calls trying to get you to change your mind and so the second thing the narcissist does to you is that they blame you they blame the reason why the relationship is like it is is because of you at the beginning of the relationship they said that they were lucky to be with you that he were so special you were this you were that you were their soul mate that they were in love with you and so over time throughout the relationship they changed they show their true colors and they start to show that other side and so because of that they have to blame you they blame that blame you that everything is your fault and that the relationship didn't go well because of you so that is their way of trying to keep their hands clean that is their way of trying to play the victim and so I have the third thing that the narcissist does is that they have this post triangulation post-breakup triangulation okay so they will deliberately create a love triangle to make you jealous to get you a second-guess yourself to make you feel like Oh what he has with her or what he has with him is better than what we have so you will try to second-guess yourself to go back to the narcissist to rekindle that and there was nothing ever there it's all an illusion so in this situation you have to be careful with social media when you are going no contact with the narcissist when you break up because you are in the healing process okay and so any sight of the narcissist can make you jealous they will intentionally post pictures of the new supply to make you jealous and so you have to go no contact and because you're jealous or you own their Facebook page and they purposely put pictures of the new supply to make you jealous to suck you back in to the toxic dynamic and so the fourth thing that the narcissist will do to you is able guilt trip you okay so after you discard the narcissist they will trip you by trying to remind you of everything that they did all the good things they did to you while you were in the relationship with them and so you have to understand that every one of those good actions that they did had an ulterior motive behind it so later on when things don't go well or when you try to leave because things aren't going well they will try to throw that back up in your face they will try to remind you of all the good things they did so that you'll give them a second chance that is ulterior motive behind it not because they care about you that's the reason why they're doing all these things know the ulterior motive is so that you'll reflect on the good things that they did and you will never want to leave them and so the fifth thing that the narcissist will do when you discard them is that they will have a smear campaign they will try to make you look bad so you can't dodge the bullet so the Newark will make sure that everybody knows that you broke up with them and so that people will choose sides so they will badmouth you and gossip about you to everybody that will listen they will go on social media talking bad about you and what you did to them and so to everybody will took that will listen to try to convince people that you are the bad guy and they are the victim okay so that you did all the things to them that they actually did to use projection and so they do this to gather as much sympathy from everybody to make you look like the bad guy the narcissist they are afraid of who they really are at their core so that is why they have to they can't accept the fact that you discarded them because being discarded obviously means that they're a bad person so of course they're gonna try to reel you back in they don't want to face that truth that they're a bad person you discarded them because they are that bad so they resort to smear campaigns so yes that is what happens when you discard the narcissist they will have post-breakup triangulation they will make you look bad they will stalk and harass you but they will blame you and they will guilt trip you so that is what happens when you discard the narcissist and I want to a day let you guys know that when you're dealing with malignant narcissists they are known for physically abusing their victims when they try to leave okay even trying to kill them and there are a lot of eliminate narcissists that are sitting in penitent penitentiaries too because they have killed their victim for trying to escape so just be careful when you're when you're trying to leave a narcissist you want to stay no contact you don't want to let the narcissist know that you're leaving just leave you don't have to explain anything to the narcissist okay because of course they're gonna try to change your mind they're gonna try to say oh you're stupid for leaving I love you you're leaving a good relationship you're never going to find anybody like me you're never going to be happy of course so it doesn't do you any good to explain why you're leaving just leave just leave and once they realize that you they haven't heard from you in a while that realized that sober that's the best revenge you can get on the narcissist you can that's the best revenge for the narcissist is just to cut them off completely and move on to forget about them so with that being said I hope this video helped you don't forget to like this video don't forget to subscribe to my channel for more great videos like this and don't feel free to leave any comments down below so with that being said I will see you guys in another video bye

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Keywords: What Happens When You Discard The Narcissist First, 5 Things The Narcissist Does When You Discard Them First, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Discard, What Will A Narcissist Do If You Discard Them, When you discard the narcissist first

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Length: 10min 38sec (638 seconds)

Published: Thu May 03 2018