The Wife Accused Her Husband Of Cheating, And Her Family Physically Attacked Him And Ruined His W...

first story the wife accused her husband of cheating and her family physically attacked him and ruined his whole life after the truth comes out she wants reconciliation hello everyone my husband 35m and I 30f married for 8 years have been separated for the last 14 months and I need help and advice on how to rekindle our relationship we are currently not on speaking terms and all our Arrangements go through our lawyers but I will have an opportunity over Christmas to clear the air and set things straight as he will be flying in from Sydney to spend time with the kids so what happened I received a Facebook message in September last year that my husband was talking and exchanging naked photos with other women on Tinder we spoke on the phone for a bit and the only proof she had was a screenshot of their conversations and his profile long story short I downloaded Tinder and found his profile with his location less than 1km away I was convinced that he was cheating and we had a terrible Fallout that evening which led to my family coming over to calm the situation but instead it escalated when my brother punched and grabbed hold of my husband the neighbors called the police and my husband was asked to pack a few things and stay Elsewhere for a while we separated shortly after and he has since moved to Sydney to be closer to his ailing father but sees our kids for a weekend twice a month fast forward to the beginning of November this year and my neighbor rocked up at my doorstep to tell me that her husband was catfishing women on dating apps using my husband's photos he downloaded these photos from a Macbook that we lent him during Co and some of these photos were of an intimate nature and of me the police are currently dealing with this all of this has been relayed to my husband through his lawyer but his response has been lukewarm and he said we could talk about it over Christmas I am so scared that we might be down too far in the rabbit hole and that he will likely push for a divorce even though I know that we love each other deeply but this took a massive toll on our mental health finances and the well-being of our three kids what is the best way to approach him in December and make amend tldr a neighbor used his husband's photos to catfish women on Tinder for naked photos my husband and I separated because I thought he was cheating the neighbor's wife told me what her husband did police are investigating some comments your husband experienced something that you will never understand a false accusation an assault from your brother espousal alienation there is no right of recourse against the false accusation a complete lack of loyalty from his wife a complete lack of respect from his wife the loss of the life he had from a false allegation parental alienation from his children familial alienation from his in-laws alienation from Friends the police were called and he had to leave she separated from him your husband has already completed his grieving process you ask are you too far down the rabbit hole yes I am afraid there is no going back for you you chose not to listen to him when he said it was not him I agree I don't think there's coming back from that I understand you had reasons to believe he might be cheating but it's seems he had no chance to defend himself and getting your family involved made everything even worse he was punched and told to leave his house by the police has been living away from his kids for the past 14 months and has been treated as a villain by friends you say you love him but I don't think love could erase everything you two have been through and rebuild trust oh and here's another thought perhaps reach out to any and all of his old friends make sure they all know the truth op try to salvage what you can for him but I think the way things happen would have been very damaging to be clear I'm not blaming you for wanting to leave when you had Clear Proof from your perspective at the time that he had cheated it's a reasonable reaction but the way it took place seems so insanely violent and dramatic you two got screwed over not just by your neighbor but also by your brother punching someone is never acceptable it would have been a sucky and inappropriate reaction even if your husband had in fact cheated now imagine how your husband must have felt considering it was entirely unwarranted being married means being part of a shared family the fact that your family got in the middle of it and bodily hurt him would make anyone think twice about getting back in if you really really work hard on mending those bridges if you ensure everyone takes stock and is accountable for their mistakes and that includes your brother then you might rebuild your relationship but it will most probably take time damn you two really got effed over by your sht neighbor I feel bad for both of you and your kids I get why you believed he was cheating and I get why he might not want to rekindle the relationship what an all-around crappy situation this sub cheaters are the worst leave someone who cheats on you don't give them a second chance don't let them lie to and manipulate you also this sub op is the devil because she couldn't Divine that this clear-cut case of cheating was instead a highly unlikely series of events that resulted in her husband's private photos on an active Tinder account in her direct vicinity and proof of that account engaging with women like what the sht might do dudes both op and her husband got effed over hard by this POS neighbor who is now dealing with the police it's very uncool that sht got physical but otherwise op did what one would expect of her they're both victims if op came on here and laid out the evidence before the truth came to light none of the users shtting on her now would have been like talk to him maybe your neighbor borrowed your computer stole his photos and is elaborately catfishing people from 10 ft away hey tough one here's a thought though perhaps Focus your efforts and intention not on getting back together but 100% on unff this whole thing up for him imagine all the things that he lost all the people whose opinions of him changed everyone you ever spoke to and told about his infidelity and everyone they spoke to every single little embarrassment every indignity that happened to him what your family said and did that would have hurt every colleague every other parent from school then bank manager real estate people every single person that got the wrong idea and correct them own your mistake position it as your failure to believe him and rebuild his reputation then set about correcting the tangible harm done the financial losses the physical harm and the struggle you put him through consider each and everything that must have been sucked for him and then of course the biggest thing the kids you were swindled without doubt but despite your innocence in terms of intent your actions still caused Great harm and were negligent think manslaughter not murder either way you pay for the harm committed whether the int was there or not focus all of your attention on making him as close to whole as possible if you do this there will be one of two outcomes he still does not forgive you and if this is the case then you will have helped fix the life and reputation of an innocent man and you can look yourself and your children in the face and honestly say that although you made a terrible mistake you did everything you could to make it right or he will see the sincerity which you better have because he will know if you are trying to seduce him into rekindling the relationship and he will will begin the process of forgiving you for your part in what happened to him all I can say is that you had better demonstrate an absolute 100% siding with him as it relates to your family publicly and otherwise and you will have to be patient he will get triggered by something this traumatic from time to time irrespective of your efforts and his forgiveness if you truly want to get square with him then you may find yourself apologizing for many years to come you may find yourself having to wear unprovoked fits of Rage unprovoked fits of depression and separation from your family at yearly Milestones your commitment to him and to the cause of making him whole again will be what determines if any civil relationship let alone a romantic one is possible oh and one final thing you had better be upfront with him about any relationships or nights with other men he will want to know and if you deceive him at all when asked then you are completely effed if you are to salvage this then sincerity and honesty are the only ways to truly achieve it chin up there it is possible I had some friends friends who separated for almost 2 years neither were with anyone else but they have managed to find their way back together and some 3 years later they welcomed a second child into their family so there is hope I sincerely hope to hear a positive update in 6 months you and your family are back together again and making great progress on his PTSD and yes your romance is blossoming wow what a mess I'm glad the police were involved in what that neighbor did as for you and your husband a lot is going to depend on two things how much do you both really love each other how difficult it is for you both to have a truly serious heart-wrenching emotionally exhausting conversation his logical side will likely understand why you thought it was true after all there were pictures it would be easy to believe it was true but his emotional side is going to be deeply hurt that you didn't believe him over the evidence all you can do is sit down and try to work through it good luck to you op replies thank you I thought having a therapist present might help but I have doubts and think it is better not to involve others the aftermath was devastating for us both and more so for him when his friends and my family wrote him off I still love him and have never stopped but I know it will be on his terms if he is willing to give it another chance I am willing to do whatever it takes what have you done to make amends and clear his name have you notified his friends and family that he was falsely accused and had been faithful the entire time has your family apologized have his friends reached out and apologized take a look at the definitions of regret that this happened and remorse for the pain you caused him I don't hear or feel remorse in your words and I don't see remorse in your actions update hello everyone I have had quite a few people ask for an update on what happened after we discovered that my neighbor was using my ex's photos to catfish other women unfortunately after having sat down and discussed things it was decided that our marriage was beyond repair and that we should go our separate ways he is currently in therapy and has requ requested that we have a clean break with no further contact in the future I intend to respect his wishes and will continue to communicate through his lawyer on matters that concern our kids I have since cleared the air with our families and friends and am still actively working towards repairing his reputation I would also like to clarify the assault and why my parents came over in the first place the night of the argument I called my mother to ask if I could drop off our kids and if they could spend the evening there but she was concerned about my emotional state and asked that I Stay put and they would come to fetch the kids instead they arrived and my brother opted to stay outside while my parents came inside to grab the kids and their bags at this point my father asked me to talk to my ex and calm the situation and my mom dragged me away to get the kids and their bags ready my brother was very confused when we came outside and was triggered by my mom saying that my ex might have cheated my brother reacted the moment my ex walked out and grabbed my arm in a non-violent way leading to the punch and scuffle on the front lawn he was remorseful and apologized even before we found out my ex was not to blame it is a series of unfortunate events that have changed many lives and robbed my family of our love and happiness now I have to focus on my kids my depression and coming to terms with the divorce I will never forget but hopefully the pain won't be as intense some comments well things went way too far and I can very much understand why your husband left I would seriously consider cutting your brother out of your life for a while and also really considering reaction to this and how it all went terribly wrong that poor guy he loses his marriage his kids get assaulted and his whole life Turns Upside Down my heart hurts for him I can't imagine the grief and angst he's gone through I remember the original post to this and I predicted that your ex-husband wouldn't rekindle this too much damage has been done um you call it a scuffle on the front lawn I mean he was assaulted by your brother I am praying for your ex and I hope you can heal from this second story op 15-year-old is pregnant and op doesn't know how to reveal that his older daughter is actually her biological mother so me 53m and my wife Rose 53f had our older daughter Sarah 31f when we were 22 we were young and broke but we managed and now we raise Sarah the best we can she got pregnant at 15 it was a very depressing time for her she had to go to therapy and never told us anything about the Father which always upset her so we never pushed the issue she originally wanted to turn but kept canceling and eventually told us she wanted to give her up for adoption but 5 months into the pregnancy when she was discussing with a social worker a couple to adopt the couple dropped out of the adoption after trying to find more couples Sarah asked us if we wanted to adopt me and Rose were both 38 at this point and we had both been discussing having another child so we ended up adopting our daughter Ellie when Sarah had her at 16 2 years after Ellie me and my wife had our son Logan 13 biologically growing up up we always planned on telling Ellie she was adopted but we knew that to tell her that we had to tell her Sarah was her biological mother Sarah never became close with Ellie not even his siblings she moved out after the birth and lived with Rose's sister she has always shown sisterly love to her Logan but never towards Ellie there have always been conflicting feelings towards Sarah I have seen posts on Sarah's Instagram where she posted a picture of what was supposed to be the five of us but Ellie was cut out I confronted her about this and she said it was too painful however a couple years ago she showed up drunk begging us to let us see her daughter we talked to her and let her stay but we did not let her near Ellie since she was drunk we found out from her husband that she had suffered several miscarriages and was told to consider a surrogate she ended up doing that four years ago and has since had twins Jack and Jill 3M andf who are biologically hers Ellie has loved being an aunt to the Twins and Sarah has encouraged this with Ellie and has been inviting Ellie over over to her house for family time with Logan who loves being an uncle we have asked Sarah that in light of the Twins and Ellie being close to them wouldn't it be time to tell Ellie the truth but Sarah keeps claiming she is not ready recently Ellie came to us and told us she was pregnant this time it is a completely different situation we have met the father he is a childhood friend of hers and they decided they wanted to lose their virginities to each other we had the talk with Ellie long ago as we did with Sarah we approached the situ calmly and have since met with the father and his parents Ellie is insistent on keeping the baby she is 3 months along we have not told Sarah yet we do not know how to approach the situation and we do not know how she will be able to take it me and my wife are considering telling Ellie the truth but we need Sarah to be there relevant comments from the op haedo did you ever consider Sarah was Zed and that's why she never told you about the father wanted to terminate and is incredibly distant from her daughter because because she is The Offspring of the attacker just a passing thought op yes she has never said anything but we have always suspected that is what happened her therapist would be the only person who knows but whatever is said stays between them lonen please discuss contraception with your son if you haven't already also why is her being pregnant a nudge to tell her she is your other daughter's biological child wouldn't that be a bit much just this second op yeah we might hold off on telling her but at the same time we don't know how Sarah will react to finding out Ellie is pregnant we have had the talk with all three of our children about contraception they didn't want to use protection the first time and thought being careful would not risk pregnancy Transportation fund 219 I did think of this right away I wonder what will happen when one of them does an off-the-shelf DNA test it will probably happen at some point op I would not do a DNA test without Ellie knowing anything because if Sarah was assaulted I would not want him around Ellie update so I decided to write an update as I'm still getting messages on this account first I want to address the main issue I was wondering about advice on what to do after finding out that my daughter Ellie 15 is pregnant but that we had the exact same situation with her older sister Sarah 31 who is actually Ellie's biological mother well I decided to just focus on helping out Ellie who is 4 months pregnant we didn't want to stress her out by telling her about the adoption yet in fact we know we should have already told told her a long time ago despite Sarah's emotions on the matter it's not like we even knew the details about Ellie's father so that would have been Sarah's talk but we as Ellie's parents still should have told her the truth when she was younger a week after I made the post Ellie told her family about the pregnancy she had since told my parents her boyfriend's grandparents and then of course Sarah Sarah didn't react well but she told her she would support her of course Sarah reached out to us after very upset but said she was ready to talk to Ellie first about the adoption with us and she said that she wanted to tell Ellie about her father alone we sat down and had a discussion Ellie was of course upset but calmed down after a while she of course had questions about her father Sarah had that discussion with her at the time I didn't know what she was told and it was none of our business but Ellie told us she knew who he was and said she didn't want to reach out so we moved on after that the other day I got a call from my sister-in-law Renee 31f my brother's wife she was angry and was asking what kind of sick idea Sarah was putting in Ellie's head she started mentioning stuff about Ellie's adoption so after I got her to calm down she told me what happened she claimed that Ellie had messaged my brother Ethan 32 and told him about the adoption and wanted to talk to him this confused me because me and Ethan don't talk much we were never really close because we are 21 years apart he was my mother's late child and he always got along with mine and our sisters kids as they were all around the same age and Ellie only saw him on the holidays so telling him about the details of her life didn't make sense Renee explained to me that Ellie claimed that Ethan was her father because that is what Sarah had told her and told him that he was going to be a grandpa I had to sit down for a while I called Sarah and we had a long conversation she told me that yes it was true that Ethan is Ellie's biological father Sarah and Ethan were close when they were young they were only 8 months apart Sarah says that when they went through puberty feelings changed and that every every time she went to her grandmothers they would hide away from everyone and have their own time Sarah was upset talking about this but she told me that he never assaulted her and that it was always consensual she never wanted to tell me because she was ashamed of the fact that the father of her baby was her uncle I have since talked to Ethan as well he denied it to Ellie over text but told me that it was true we exchanged a few words back and forth even if this was consensual how could he sleep with his own niece he had all these but I was n hearing them he knew of the pregnancy and being Ellie's father the whole time and he never even bothered to step up to say anything I have talked to Ellie about it she says she was upset when she found out but she always thought she looked like my stepdad's side of the family it upset me when she mentioned that because honestly I see it it's pretty obvious now I always knew that Ellie favored whoever her father was because she didn't look like anyone on our side but I never suspected Ethan my mother and stepdad have found out and Ethan told Renee it was true she has left with their kids to stay with her family Ethan has tried to reach out to Ellie now but I don't want her speaking to him I'm still her father and I don't think she is safe being in touch with him Ellie has shown no interest in talking I asked her why she reached out to him before talking to Sarah or us about it and she said she just wanted to know his side of the story but feels betrayed for being lied too relevant comments the commentator asks about the family tree to clarify relationships op I apologize the reason I was so specific about it is because it's the reason we have always been distant my father died when I was 20 and we were all devastated my mother was as well but she told us months after my father died she was pregnant by a coworker they married 3 months before Ethan was born although we are distant I'm the closest sibling who communicates and none of my sisters have anything to do with him Gracie Sarah should have fessed up at the start did Ethan know Ellie was his when she was adopted surely it was no surprise how could he go 15 years living AE Sarah too this is so messed up op Ethan knew about being the father of Sarah's baby he wanted Sarah to abort which is why she wanted to abort in the beginning but she decided on adoption crypto Gambler 952 maybe it's time that your older daughter do for her daughter what you did for her opell and her boyfriend fully intend on raising this baby as their own with the support of me my wife and his parents third story op humiliated and shattered my girlfriend's confidence my girlfriend 25f and I 26 and moved in together last year we live in a fairly safe neighborhood but during the night there are some sketchy drunk men hanging around who also scare me quite honestly my girlfriend however wasn't really scared to walk alone at night and would say that she's just as strong as those men and can take care of herself my GF is 510 and works out two times a week she's indeed very strong compared to most women but she was obviously delusional to think that her strength was comparable to that of an average man she would even go as far as saying that if someone should be worried about walking alone at night then it should be me as I'm a scrawny 59 man I thought this was one of the situations where it would be better to just shut up than be correct so I mostly stopped showing my concerns to her yesterday she went out with some of her friends and told me at 1:00 a.m. that she'd come alone via public transportation she doesn't have a license I told her that it's dangerous and I should come pick her up but she insisted on coming by herself I couldn't sleep till she came home an hour later she was so angry at me for not trusting her that she could take care of herself that was when I decided to demonstrate to her the disparity between the strength of men and women she thought I was joking at first but when she realized that I was dead serious she happily took the opportunity to prove how wrong I was I basically told her to ground me as hard as she could and then I quickly got out of her grip and grounded her for several minutes till she surrendered she cried a lot throughout this whole time and I could also see the fear in her eyes even though she knew very well that I would never hurt her I humiliated her I slept on the couch that night she didn't want to talk about it in the morning and said that she's fine but she's still obviously very upset about it I feel horrible that I've shattered her confidence like that and I don't think she will ever feel safe walking alone at night again I'm probably a really horrible person for doing that and I wish I could have just trusted her more to take care of herself I know this relationship is probably over but is there anything I could do to make a up for it tldr I demonstrated to my girlfriend the disparity between the strengths of men and women while trying to teach her a lesson I humiliated and shattered her confidence in the process and I feel terrible for what I did can I do something to make up for it edit I can't possibly answer all of your comments I admit that what I did was an assault I can't express how sorry I am for doing that I thought I was doing the right thing but instead I assaulted her by trying to prevent exactly that don't learn from me but please keep yourself safe out there if not for you then for the ones who love you top comments doer Earl my girlfriend thought she was tough enough to defend herself so I assaulted her you didn't shatter her confidence buddy you engaged in domestic violence R A AMA the F did I just read you harmed and terrified your girlfriend to win an argument protop pit Phantom the problem is that you proved your point and then took it too far you shouldn't have made her cry in fact you only needed to show her she couldn't hold hold you down you need some self-reflection update it's been 2 and 1/2 months since my original post and I thought it would be appropriate to give you an update after some recent events I actually already tried to do an update a few days later but I was such a wkak mentally and deleted it shortly after so I'll get straight to the point she broke up with me the next day over the phone she wanted me to admit that I enjoyed seeing her cry but I kept defending myself till she gave up but deep down I knew that she was right I'm not ashamed to say now that I was a bit aroused by overpowering her so easily and seeing her cry I know how horrible it sounds and I'm definitely not proud of it but I think that acknowledging my flaws and being open about them is the first step in overcoming them the next few days after the breakup were probably some of the worst days of my life I thought that I'd lost everything including my self-respect I decided to go to therapy and take a break from dating for the foreseeable future luckily I also had the support of my family and close friends even if they didn't fully agree with my actions for those of you who say that she needed a reality check I have to disagree with you on this one yes she overestimated her strength but she's not dumb enough to actually engage in a fight with a stranger let alone a drunk man being cautious has nothing to do with strength and now I believe that she was also right to get a bit mad at me for having little to no faith in her trying to demonstrate how much stronger I was at 2: a.m. was just plain stupid though I haven't heard from my ex since she gave me a call 2 days ago we barely talked about the incident though it was mostly just catching up and making peace with each other she's doing pretty well actually she's about to graduate with her Masters and already has a job lined up she started dating a new guy last month and I can tell by the way she talked that she's very into him she signed up for a swing class which is something that she wanted to do for the longest time but didn't do because of me which is also where she met her new boyfriend what she didn't do however was sign up for a self-defense class which honestly ly I kind of expected overall I was glad to hear how happy she sounded I'm also doing pretty well myself although I'm still on my break from dating and I don't see myself getting into another relationship for at least a year last month I also got to experience how my ex felt when I was overly worried for her safety I went with my family on a trip to Naples and while we had our apartment in a fairly safe part of the city it was just a few blocks away from some sketchy alleys during the night so when I craved for a good pizza in a specific place during one of the nights there my mom got very vocal about not wanting me to go to that place because of how sketchy some of the alleys looked I tried to convince her that she had nothing to worry about but to no avail and then it dawned on me that this is probably how my ex felt when I expressed my concerns to her eventually I decided to go to that place the next day during the day instead it was definitely worth it though I'm genuinely happy with how things went for both of us although I still miss her sometimes and hearing her voice again just made me miss her even more but but I know that it would probably be better for us to just move on with our lives separately I also plan to continue with my therapy sessions even though I feel completely fine now the reason is very simple it's just to have someone that I can talk to without feeling judged Reddit isn't really the best place for that as you could probably tell from my original post but I still want to thank everyone who commented and gave their opinion top comments comfortable yam 5 them 561 I was a bit aroused by overpowering her so easily and seeing her cry that's a hectic statement to make dude I'm at a loss for words definitely seeing a therapist for those types of dark thoughts is a good idea and myled you I'm very glad she broke up with you you are 26 years old and you took your girlfriend to the ground I would have sent my uncles after you after that TBH the fact that you admit you were aroused by that this is why we say all men women will never be safe with men like you in the world thank you for watching the video if you are interested in listening to these kinds of sto St we've got more in store for you simply subscribe to our Channel hit the like button and share it with your friends

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Length: 28min 5sec (1685 seconds)

Published: Fri Mar 08 2024