The RARE INTJ | Top signs of INTJ Women

if you're watching this you're probably already familiar with the m Briggs personality type system if you're not go look it up it's super interesting under this system I am an inj which stands for introvert intuitive thinking and judging so these types in a stack together is very rare for women to have if you're an inj or have an inj in your life keep watching and see if any of this holds true for you when I first found this typing system it really changed ched a lot for me it it sort of explained a lot for me it made me stop feeling so weird um wow I mean I still felt weird but I I wasn't thinking I was the only one that thought in this way or behaved in this way or had these qualities and so especially understanding the difference between introversion and extroversion in a psychological sense that changed the game for me so hopefully uh this resonates with you and gets you excited about it and and uh yeah let me know what you think leave a comment below and all my intj gires out there not so girly girlies um big shout out to you cuz there's very few of you around my name is Kiara I am a winter Olympian who grew up in the desert and I'm also a mindset success coach so the inj woman doesn't quite fit in uh they're not typically girly girls uh they don't really understand that especially in their younger life um I really struggled in high school especially with any of um the typical girl things and hanging out with girls and I had a lot of guy friends as I've gotten older and understood myself a lot more I have a lot more girl friends and um I don't have as many guy friends as when I was growing up but it was almost exclusively guy friends when I was growing up and that was always quite weird um just that like a lot of girls have guy friends but mine were pretty much exclusively guys I just I felt much more comfortable and um understood the way that they thought a lot more and it sort of lined more up with the way that I kind of processed things inj women are often seen as intimidating they've got a real tendency to not sugarcoat anything and not beat around the bush this is a little bit harsh especially For Me growing up like uh I've had to learn the nuances of when to deliver information and when to tell the truth and how to tell the truth like I am still you know truth above all but you don't have to deliver it in a moment of someone's vulnerability and things and you don't have to sort of ice queen their ass and be a bit cold just because it's the truth so that was definitely a learning curve for me um definitely not a sugar cater it is what it is and I give you straight but I am learning as I get older um how to stop soften that a little bit and and stay within uh what I hold to be valuable to me you're very unlikely to find an intj at the mall or hanging around or doing any of that stuff shopping online is my go-to uh and this is common amongst a lot of art njs they really value comfort and they are very direct at what they want so in and out if you go to the shop otherwise online is the best except sometimes you can't try things on so that's a little bit annoying but I would still much rather shop online get it try it on and if it's not right send it back or even just keep it because I just hate going shopping so much it actually gives me anxiety int's JS are extremely independent uh almost too much uh as I've gotten older I've sort of realized how valuable it is to let people help you and not have to do everything yourself but very strong willed very very intellectually based and intellectually minded very logical and straightforward thinking um and yeah sometimes that hyper Independence isn't so healthy and that's um something that can really even make them feel isolated even more and so a bit of a tip as you grow and get older is really allowing people to help just because you can do it doesn't mean you should and just because you can do it it doesn't mean other people can't do it in a different way this also leads to them being really quite misunderstood for people they don't really see obstacles um they're just challenges and opportunities for growth uh I know that's certainly true for me and um anything anything that sort of gets in my way I just sort of see how I can move through it move around it uh work with it uh it's not really something that's going to stop me it's also like a challenge like if someone says I can't do something and I'm like if you I'll show you how to do it and I'll do it better it doesn't always work but that's what I think in my head can be super judgmental um I'm definitely at fault for this I'm more judgy in my head these days than I kind of accept people for who they are but I I really struggled especially in my younger years um judging people for the ways that they did things it didn't make any sense to me I really really value excellence and striving for excellence and and trying to be the best that you can be in across like everything that you do I've realized it's not actually everything you do and I don't do that for everything I do now so it's a bit of a shitty judgment on people but um it's really hard to understand that some people just don't care about those things they they really value other things and that's okay um getting out of that really really judgy attitude was really big for me really hard thing to do injs definitely prioritize comfort you will often see them in Black uh baggy clothes comfortable clothes they ha getting dressed up I do anyway if uh anyone's different to that let me know uh yeah you won't see an intj putting a lot of effort into their outfit though they do usually um look quite neat and um organized but they tend to have a wardrobe that you can mix and match and very simple and you could wear on sort of multiple occasions and not one to go out and buy one big fancy outfit it just is a lot of work lowkey makeup all of that sort of stuff absolutely love Solitude which also makes them a bit isolated from everyone else not just because of the solitude but because people don't quite get that you're s like you're happy with that and you're like genuinely love being alone and in your own head and in your own thoughts cuz that's quite strange for most people people even other introverts they tend to like to do introverted things together or online or intjs particularly they love being alone like alone alone and in their thoughts and their books and their and their study and things like that so that was a really big that's that's a still a really big thing for me like I I love it so much and because I've got quite good people skills and I can talk to people people are always really shocked um that I spend so much time alone and don't really really understand that but um yeah love Solitude and that's across intjs uh particular like out of all the introverts um probably their need for Solitude and space from others is is quite High intjs tend to be really overly organized and structured and efficient efficiency is the main thing for me um definitely structured and organized um throughout my life I'm getting a bit more like flexible these days but I've still got an organization within that like I've pre-planned it in my head for the chaos if makes sense um and so I still don't like um too big of a surprise unless I'm already flexible enough to deal with a surprise if that makes sense so if I've got a plan for my day don't like the surprise whereas if I planned to have a flexible day then anything can come in and I'm like like yeah sure that's that's cool I'll go with that um but the rest of the time it's pretty planned out even your chill time is quite planned out that sounds quite that sounds quite psycho it's really common for intjs to go against the grain or um not really care about others opinions and sort of charge along with what they think um and what they want to do uh anyway so that can be good and bad but uh yeah they don't they they like having their own own opinion and they usually stand quite strong on that until sort of proven otherwise and then they're actually really good um at accepting a new opinion if it makes sense really hard if it doesn't make sense but if it makes sense it's a real quick update and which is which also shocks people cuz it kind of St seems like you're not standing your ground but if it's a more efficient way or more effective way or it just makes sense then they will update that information um and they're not really stubborn about it if it if it can be explained in a better way and then yeah that would just be updated intjs do not make friends randomly you are if you are an intj's friend you have been carefully selected and you have been carefully uh analyzed to be let in they're really struggle with vulnerability and their friends are super sacred to them so if you manage to get one to befriend you I would count yourself lucky if I do say so to myself um really hard to just not hard to connect with but hard to get in that inner circle of friends cuz they don't have a lot of friends that they really get close to um so if you are one of them you are you can count yourself very special not a typical friend they might not stay in touch in the same way a friend might but um they really love and value you and to all my friends I adore you and uh you make my life wonderful so they have a different way of loving people but they genuinely would do it anything for their closest friends onj women are usually really transparent really loyal they're not going to um Mucky around too much they're really committed when they're committed and uh you usually won't get different you know versions of them in any situations you know different situations might bring out different parts of them but not a different version of them pretending is just like not an option like there's just it's just so much energy and there's no way you'll find an intj woman pretending they'll just remove themselves from the situation and lastly intj women I typically find relationships quite difficult it's really hard for them to sort of trust someone enough to open up to them enough to let them see the side of them that's not like the cold hard ice queen um and that takes some time and usually if you're in you're in and uh if you're not it's they just they don't mess around they're just they're done like it they don't tend to hold much um waight on finding a relationship even though they're not against it um and this is actually seen across many intj women that's that's something I found quite interesting that many of them hold that trait but if you do manage to crack them they're like really caring in their own little way and they're very loyal I have been uh referred to as like a melting ice queen or one good one was like Kiara you are like a lint chocolate you're all hard and hard to crack on the outside but as soon as you do it's all gooey and delicious on the inside so um that was quite funny but it's actually kind of true so learning about my profile online and reading about it and and starting to understand how many people there are at in the world even though it's rare there are tons of intjs and inj women out there and while I don't like to put people in boxes um per se I think all of these things give you a good opportunity to take what you want to take and um evaluate things from a psychological perspective it just explained so much for me and just really helped me so much understand myself understand my interactions with others and so if you're struggling and sort of with any of this stuff I'd really highly recommend you go in and have a look and um just see what what what there is out there there's tons of forums and um information about it and you can really utilize it to help you grow you can um amplify your strengths and you can really start to recognize and work on your weaknesses or at least just know where they show up and be more accepting of them and uh that that's really helped me and changed my life especially understanding introversion which means that it is okay that I do not like hanging out with people majority of my life and I'm completely satisfied with that that's nothing wrong with me for that is just the way that my brain works and how it uh needs to function and gain energy and so understanding that has just transformed the way that I go about my life and lived it so I hope you enjoyed it if any of this resonates with you or you've got any anything to share I'd love to um see it in the comments I'd love to see other intj women out there and hear any of your experiences and yeah drop us a like and a follow uh this is a bit of a different video than what I normally do but um I'm just tring things out and sharing a bit about myself so look forward to seeing you in future videos

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Published: Tue Jun 11 2024