Timmy stop running around sit still and behave
yourself you need to follow my rules without question soon a very important client will
be meeting with me I don't want you running around embarrassing me when he arrives have I
made myself clear yes sir Emily it's important to play safely remember to share the toys with the
other children and be kind to them okay yes Mom oh Tommy just do whatever makes you happy
we're here if you need us but go ahead and explore all right Dad see you soon
Mom all right boy have [Music] fun look Sarah just do whatever you want we're busy [Music] you have your 100% Freedom just
stay out of trouble [Music] yes mom This animation just illustrate the four
major styles of parenting. The authoritarian, authoritative, permissive and the uninvolved.
But here is a big question, which of this parenting styles illustrated in the drama,
do you think is the best? Which of it are you experiencing or practicing at home?
Make sure to leave your response in the comments below. And if you are still deciding
on which parenting style is the best, then listen till the end of this video where we delve
into the principles of responsible parenting, exploring the 3Fs and 7Cs that pave the path to
effective parenting. Additionally, we'll discuss the parenting style in Nigeria that fosters
success in children without over-pampering them, qualities of responsible parenthood, factors
contributing to it, and the duties it entails. -intro- Hello essencians and welcome back to
my channel. And if you are new here, I wholeheartedly welcome you to the essence
family. My name is Emy and this is Essence Tv. Please don't hesitate to like this
video, subscribe if you haven't joined the family and ring the notifications to
get notified when I upload a new video. I believe you enjoyed the short animation
at the beginning of this video but there is something I'll like to let us know and
that is being a parent is a privilege we don't want to take for granted which is
why responsible parenting is important. Responsible parenting is a cornerstone of
societal development, shaping the future through the upbringing of children. And Responsible
parenthood refers to the conscious and deliberate decision-making process that parents undertake to
fulfill their duties and obligations towards their children. It involves aspects such as providing
for their physical, emotional, and psychological needs, ensuring their safety and well-being,
instilling values and discipline, and nurturing their development into responsible individuals.
This can include planning and spacing of children, education, healthcare, and fostering a supportive
and loving environment for their growth. Now, there is something we must
take into importance as parents and prospective parents. There is a huge
difference between just being a parent and being a responsible parent. Keep that in mind. How we choose to raise our kids
differs from one another but one uniform response I hear from most
parents is that they hope not to raise an overly dependent generation. And
this leads us to the first on our list; The 3Fs of Effective Parenting:
And this represents Firmness, Fairness and flexibility. So we start with;
Firmness: in training a child, parent need to set clear boundaries and expectations while
maintaining consistency in discipline. You don't want you child to fear you, definitely no. But
you still don't want child to see you as weak, easily swayed and then ultimately disrespect you
which can also extend to him or her disrespecting others. You need to clearly set a corrective
measure for bad behavior and don't be scared to follow it through. Remember to correct
your child with love without compromising your firmness. Truthfully, this is when wisdom
is needed and this leads us to remaining 2Fs Fairness: as parents, you need to treat each
child equally, considering their individual needs, strengths, and weaknesses. Provide for their
need while teaching them contentment. Try not to at least obviously favor one child over the
next, regardless of their position in the family. For this can psychologically affect the child
that feels unfavored. Build on their strengths, encourage their good hobbies and help them through
their weaknesses. You want to advise them when needed without out outrightly comparing
your child with another. And the last F's; Flexibility: you need to be adaptable to
evolving circumstances and challenges, while still upholding core values and principles.
Times might warrant you to bend a little so you children can not only enjoy you as a parent
but also see you as a best friend without them actually disrespecting you. Have you
heard of the term carefully careless? You want to carefully check how they can handle
responsibilities especially when they are about to reach the age of facing the world
alone. So being flexible will be required And the second part of this
video is going to talk about 2. The 7Cs of Successful Parenting:
And my best one on this list is; 1. Communication: this is establishing an
open and honest dialogue with children, fostering trust and understanding.
2. Consistency: that is Providing a stable environment with predictable
routines and consequences. 3. Compassion: this is Demonstrating
empathy and emotional support, nurturing a strong parent-child bond.
4. Confidence: this is Instilling self-assurance and belief in children's abilities
to overcome obstacles and pursue their dreams. 5. Commitment: this is Dedication to the
well-being and development of children, investing time and effort into their upbringing.
6. Creativity: this is Encouraging imaginative thinking and problem-solving skills,
fostering independence and innovation. 7. Collaboration: this is Working
together as a family unit, involving children in decision-making processes
and fostering a sense of belonging. Now we move to the
3. Effective Parenting Style. Is there one effective parenting style? I'll
leave that question open for you to answer. If you watched the animation
at the beginning of this video, you will observe that the four
parents illustrated, Mr. Smith, Mrs. Johnson, Mr. and Mrs. Anderson, Mr.
and Mrs. Thompson all had their attitude in passing instructions to their children,
Timmy, Emily, Tommy and Sarah at the park. And this exposed us to the
four styles of parenting. 1. Authoritarian, represented by Mr. Smith: This
style is characterized by strict rules, high demands, and little responsiveness to children's
needs. Parents typically expect obedience without question. Parents practicing this style present
themselves as absolute authorities and see no need to provide justification for the laws or
judgement they make. Along with having high expectations for their kids' social and academic
performance, they also frequently employ severe punishments to motivate good behavior.
This style has it pros and cons. PROS: this style Provides structure and discipline,
which can lead to better academic performance and behavior in some cases. And CONS: this
style May lead to rebellion, lower self-esteem, and difficulty in social relationships. Children
may also struggle with decision-making skills. 2. Authoritative Parenting represented by Mrs.
Johnson: This style combines high levels of responsiveness with reasonable demands
and expectations. Parents are nurturing and supportive while still maintaining structure
and setting limits. Think of it as a bottle that contains a combination of reasonable, modest
discipline, tenderness and friendliness. This method of discipline still exists, and the parents
who use it maintain their composure, firmness, and consistency while enforcing the discipline.
PROS: This approach keeps children safe and teaches them morally acceptable behaviors without
applying any excessive strictness or pressure. It allows children to "make mistakes" within
safe boundaries while still requiring them to accept responsibility for their behavior.
This enables children to face disappointments organically while learning from their mistakes.
Talking about being carefully careless. CONS: this style is still under debate and some says
that this style Requires time and effort from parents to balance warmth and discipline
effectively. What do you think? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section below.
3. Permissive Parenting represented by Mr. And Mrs. Anderson: this style suggests that
Permissive parents are lenient and indulgent, placing few demands on their children. They are
typically nurturing and loving but offer little guidance or structure. Hmm, what do you think? We
see that with Mr. Anderson when he tells his son, Tommy to do whatever makes him happy, to explore.
These parents are generally kind and empathetic, but they believe that well-loved children will
naturally regulate their own behaviour. Though it is true that a close parent-child relationship
promotes excellent behavior and friendliness. But how far can a parent go in ignoring rules and
discipline? PROS: this style allows for freedom of expression and creativity. Children
may feel more comfortable exploring their interests without fear of judgment. CONS: These
children frequently gravitate towards extremes, becoming aggressive and stubborn. This style can
lead to behavioral problems, and Children may struggle with boundaries and authority figures.
And this takes us to our fourth parenting style The Uninvolved Parenting represented by Mr. And
Mrs. Thompson: This style produces parents who are neglectful and indifferent to their children's
needs. They provide little guidance, support, or attention. And in the animation, this style
had the worst effect on their daughter, Sarah. This method can also be described as producing
distant parents. Here, parents prefer to allow their children practically parent themselves, only
getting involved when they believe their child is in immediate danger. These parents are not
constantly neglectful; oftentimes they genuinely think their child is sufficiently independent
and that she (or he) doesn't "need" any guidance. Uninvolved parents are so consumed with their
responsibilities outside the home that they become distant unintentionally. PROS: it can potentially
foster independence and self-reliance in extreme cases. But is it enough? CONS: it can result to
a child having low self-esteem, poor academic performance, and behavioral issues. Children
may feel unloved and unsupported. Especially when the parents have not even tried to identify
the needs, strength and weaknesses of their child. For me, this is the worst parenting
style and should be avoided. Listen, parents and prospective parents: no child, no
matter how grown or brilliant, should be abandoned to independence. It takes time and patience on the
side of parents to raise their children to become independent; it should not be rushed. Remember:
family comes first. Train up a child in the way that he should go. And when he is old, he will
not depart from it. Proverbs chapter 22 verse 6. In Nigeria, most parents believes that
an authoritative parenting style tends to produce successful outcomes in children. This
approach combines warmth and support with clear expectations and firm boundaries. It encourages
independence and self-discipline while nurturing a strong sense of cultural identity and
respect for traditions. This fact happens to not only be agreed in Nigeria alone. Research
consistently shows that authoritative parenting tends to yield the most positive outcomes for
children. Studies like those by Baumrind (1966, 1991) and Steinberg (2001) have found that
children raised with authoritative parenting exhibit higher levels of social competence,
academic success, and psychological well-being compared to those raised with other styles. This
is because authoritative parents provide warmth, support, and clear expectations while also
allowing for independence and autonomy, striking a balance between control and responsiveness.
But if this style isn't convincing enough for you, let us know your best parenting style
down in the comments and also give us your reasons for choosing that style. Please,
let's try and make our comments polite without criticizing anyone for their choice. Thank
you. And if you've watched to this point, that means you are enjoying our video, please,
click on the like button and subscribe. Thanks. 4. Qualities of Responsible Parenthood:
Responsible parenthood is 100 percent about quality than quantity. It's not how much you
want to desperately call yourself a parent, but how well you carry your role as a parent.
Here are some quality you might want to consider; 1 - Unconditional love and acceptance
2 - Patience and tolerance 3 - Dedication and sacrifice
4 - Adaptability and resilience 5 - Education and guidance
6 - Role modeling positive behaviors 7 - Prioritizing the well-being
of children above all else Factors Contributing to Responsible Parenthood: Well, responsible parenthood are influenced
by a lot of factors. Some examples are; - Financial stability
- Emotional intelligence - Supportive social network
- Access to resources and education - Cultural and religious beliefs
- Personal values and beliefs 6. Duties of Responsible Parenthood:
Every parent have duties they must perform. Some of which are;
- Providing a safe and nurturing environment - Meeting children's basic needs:
food, shelter, healthcare, education - Instilling moral and ethical values
- Promoting physical, emotional, and intellectual development
- Offering guidance and mentorship - Advocating for children's rights and well-being
- then, Fostering independence and self-reliance Responsible parenthood is a lifelong
journey characterized by love, dedication, and perseverance. I believe that By embracing
the principles of the 3Fs, 7Cs and styles of responsible parenting, parents can nurture
the next generation to become resilient, compassionate, and successful individuals.
Let's commit to raising children who will shape a brighter tomorrow through
the power of responsible parenting. Thanks so much for watching this video. I
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