The 7 Reasons Why You Should Want To Homeschool

okay everyone let's talk about why you should want to home-school sorry about that stuff together hey Fred ray live around here and during the Kovac crisis for sure I'm here at least this week we'll be everyday at 3 p.m. central 4 p.m. Eastern and trying to answer your questions and share a little insights along the way from our long lifetime journey of being involved with homeschooling gosh I guess we're on 30 plus years now yes we started we were babies so I want to talk to you today about this particular topic and this topic is why you should want to home-school why should you want to home-school now maybe you do maybe you're looking into it maybe you're a public school person and private and you don't like homeschool doesn't matter because we're in a conversation here so give questions about this please please throw them out there I'd love to answer them but I want to want to give you some thoughts about why you should want to home-school and I'll be honest with you I'm trying to give an overview my reason or our reasons Jody and I was one two particular things on this whole list but these are kind of the things I've observed from being involved for some time and I'm gonna say up front a disclaimer I want to give you a disclaimer I want to give you a story about selecting a dog on the way to selecting the school so the disclaimer is it's kind of simple and and the disclaimer is that I'm for education so if public education works or if private school works or if homeschool works and forward if homeschool doesn't work I'm not for that homeschool if a public school doesn't work I'm not for that public school some of the private school so I'm very honest about this a hope and I'll tell you in my own history I grew up and went to public school up through the middle of my eighth grade year and then I went to private school from private prep type school from middle of eighth grade on to graduation from high school and then I went to public university University of Alabama so I've had some experience in all of them and I've taught in a private school I taught at the University of Alabama so I've had some experience there as well and and I'm going to tell you the reason I'm gonna tell you the duck story the reason the real reason that you want to home-school though why you should want to home-school is if homeschooling will be better than the other options you got that so home schooling better than the other options I look at all options as kind of a they've moved from good to better to best right good better best well that game good better best I look at and I go so why would I want the good when I can have the better while I don't want the better when I can have the best and so I really in make a decision for our family and I'd say making decisions for your own you're gonna want to think about that what's the best decision if there are things about homeschooling that you simply can't do that have to be done that would be a problem if the school system is so contrary to things you care about that's going to be a problem so you have to make a discerning move in your own soul about your kids to figure out what's the good better best and what you can provide for them so let me tell you how to select a dog so selecting a dog and selecting a school could be considered similar we had dogs growing up pointers hunting dogs on the life we hunted quail and then as we had our own family well in college I had a Doberman there was a protective thing and a cool thing and a like smart animal and that Doberman was fine but I had to give her away for residential reasons and then when we got a dog initially and for the kids we got a Doberman to begin with miss Scarlett and then as I started assessing it it was time to look at other dogs or other options this one got ill we I began to think you know I keep trying to find these dogs and then train them to be like I want them what if I instead I follow this what if I instead figured out what I wanted the dog to be like and then look for what the breeds were so if they naturally did what I wanted them to I didn't have to train them see so I went through a list of what I wanted in a dog and then I went and stayed breeds and I found out that what I wanted in a dog at that time was a German Shepherd had a protective thing you could hug them Jodie always said the Brittain the Doberman Pinschers were a little pointy you know pokey they weren't as huggable sweet dog but you know not thick first anything like that and in so as we thought that through and we've had a whole series of German shepherds we maybe get into a stage in her life to shift to something else but I'll go back to that process now say that to say that's how you want to somewhat figure out what you want to do is schooling why you should want to home-school is because it matches with what you care about and so I've got let's see one two three four five six seven things that in my experience people care about regarding the education of their kids so I want to walk through those and see if any of them resonate please post if you can hear me where you're from anything any questions would be great because I'd love to answer them so number one reason to home-school or really the thing I'm looking for in a dog I mean in a school is is character development I really personally care about that because it relates to skill skill as well and and so somebody academic I'm sorry it in their character or in an environment that is not cultivating a good character that tends to be a problem and that character development is comes about in two ways in my experience one is what's being taught so if you're being taught things that are developing character you know noble people noble deeds you're really learning about individuals who show great character in their lives that modeling and that information or your your learning you know the great ideas for example in the classical model those things are about virtue and and about character rather than ideologies or causes it's about character development so one piece is just what's being fed into the mind of the child the second thing is the individuals you're around so Jodi and I some years ago started stressing this to the kids especially as they headed off to college and I've written about it in a little book called Glenn our little kind of novel on relationships GLA en and and what we talked about in there is built off of a verse in the Bible where it says bad company corrupts good morals it's in first Corinthians 15:33 so and you can find this in other literature too bad company corrupts good morals right so so the way we like to say it not trying to improve on ancient literature but the way would say it for our kids was you'll never be like the people you don't hang around you'll never be like the people you don't hang around you don't hang around drug dealers guess what you won't be like them if you don't hang around intelligent intelligent people no problem you won't be like them if you don't hang around moral people no issue you won't be like them so that goes so so they're sustained about the kind of people you're around are going to have a huge influence on you and you them so so the quality of the people that you're around is a part of the issue in terms of character development so those would be those pieces number one in this list of seven would be character and so I want a school environment this is going to develop the kind of character that I care about or want my kids number are given the opportunity I mean kids can rebel and they can turn to mud right but this gives them a shot number two is academics now this is a little tricky area because academics can turn into busy work and I'm not calling back a demux I really am looking at skillsets and I've talked about that before that you're really wanting to give them the skillsets they help them to learn how to learn and so things that challenge them and stretch them and can give them the right kind of vocabulary whether it's for the sciences or for reading etc the right skills and communication and writing the right abilities to memorize well or to think critically understand what they're looking at those things that go into independent learning that independent dynamic where you can think for yourself you can teach yourself you can become your own teacher is crucial but academically rigorous - are they reading challenging literature or the classes challenging them to kind of the next level are we just trying to get them through so we want them to be at the school to be academically rigorous or challenging enough so character academics north read is beliefs so I'm gonna throw kind of religious beliefs in here because this is important a lot of people strangely enough it was not a driver for us our driver had more to do with academics and some degree character most academics and context we were in plus we honestly had a child with cerebral palsy the first one trip and so we didn't want him getting labeled too soon so one of our motivations initially was to buy him a year or two to get a little more stable and settled with his understanding of what Challenge was with the right side of his body being you could think finally could talk fine but there are a lot of challenges that come with that so so that that was a driver for us but when we talk about beliefs we're talking about I'm talking about religious beliefs and so if it's important to you that your religious heritage history beliefs are introduced to your children then that could be a factor in school now a lot of times people have this curious notion of not wanting to teach them anything so they don't you don't bias them the problem is teaching them nothing doesn't give them a frame of reference you know you could say that I guess about I didn't want to teach them to both read and do math because they didn't want to bias them I just want to let them figure it out later whereas if you teach your religious beliefs they at least know what they were billing against they know how to look at it and wrestle with it so that's kind of a character issue and it's your own family thing but I think it's an important thing if if it's important to you if it's one of those things you care about that you know the values the beliefs are connected to the character but a little different then I'd include that one another one is just the efficiency of the whole game so if an efficient learning process is important to you that could affect the kind of school you're looking for so by efficiency what I mean is well I'll tell you we homeschooled and our home schooling took about five hours a day right they were done by about 12:30 now why would it take five hours what could we do in five and by the way and no homework okay so there's no homework and five hours education and we at least tied the schools I think you'd look at our SATs and how the kids turn out and I think we clobbered the schools but our efficiency is because we're not shifting classes a lot we're not wasting time we're not using up time with the social interaction stuff we don't have didn't have to have assemblies we didn't have time on a bus to an home you know to and fro so so overall the nature of being able to look at time and use time more efficiently was greatly enhanced it was just a much more efficient system so if you know if you look at it just like at work you know studies they've done sometimes will come up like Oh about 15 minutes an hour of real work is probably about the best you can expect it jobs that's what they say I think it's a similar problem with schools that if you're in a school system and the system has these classes different teachers and you move around such time and you know pause period before lunch and the way all of these the games work well all that stuff every bit of it makes the system shockingly inefficient along with the time spent getting the child there and getting them home so it's an efficiency game and some schools are way more efficient than others quite frankly next number one two three four five we've got character academics beliefs efficiency and then family so how important or strategic is the family relationship to you now it doesn't mean you can't do family kids are in public school whatever any school you can still have family but there are certain environments that are more conducive and supportive of the family and certain ones that are less conducive less interested in the family and and sometimes that's what parents want they really want to be able to drop their kid off and let some people who they consider to be pros to do a much better job so so that's a thing now with us we found in homeschooling besides being together as a family besides being able to interrupt things and do things together as a family besides being able to go in the off season to the beach for two weeks because the rates were a whole lot cheaper and we're not fooling with you know the college populations on the beach because they're back in school at the time we found it very efficient for our family we still did school some at the beach but we all said these longer vacations Beach and Lake and visit with family in that part of the world so to really build a sense of unity and relationship connection as far as that goes so it family is important to you there are schools are more family focused than others it's one of the things consider okay next to last number six is brainwashing so do you want your child brainwashed or not hmm good answer you do want your child brainwashed because they're going to be brainwashed anyway whatever we mean by that term look they're gonna learn something and the question is what so if there are certain school contexts that are loaded with agendas that have you know cultural revolution behind them and those aren't your values be aware of it but by the same token if you're gonna homeschool you're kind of warning your child to buy into some sense the worldview and the understanding of life that you've have or have been developing you know maybe you're wanting time we kind of rebelled against our families we went up fresh direction so we kind of renewed our minds and set in motion a I hope a little bit new history my kids may rebel against that I don't know but we can't get away from this idea of the influence of our actions and thoughts and teaching and training all this stuff on the children just realize what kind of orientation are is the school you're looking at kicking out what are these people up to are they hyper conservative and is that a problem are they hyper liberal and is that a problem you sort of main so be aware of that point of brainwashing you can't escape it you just got to figure out are we using a good cleanser I think I'm not scrubbing too hard or something and then and then finally the seventh point would be money money I don't think we'll talk about this but the fact is that money can be an issue so if you can't afford a private school you can't offer them that public schools usually you can afford but one of the reasons why homeschooling we found was it was financially just much more affordable and my context back then of being a pastor I was not paid appropriately I get you know the old thing of Lord if you'll keep him humble will keep him poor type thing and and the churches that we were in were gracious and they were good I'm no fault to them it's just in that world itself it's not a thing unless you're on TV and selling products or something ministry is not a place to make a lot of money people complain about that but they just simply don't know the facts well in in homeschooling you're not having to buy as many outfits to keep up with what's pop and hip or or competition with even at Christmastime and presents and all the rest the kids because they're not exposed to all this stuff don't want as much it's not the same game releasing our experience you're also purchasing materials that can be multiplied among the kids and used again and again it's not in a game where you're caught relative to gifts and presence and transportation etc there are all these subtle ways in which those things extend or expand the cost of things and you just have to sit down and play with the math and figure it out too to make sense of it so so those are the ideas so why should you want to homeschool and I would say you'd want a homeschool if you thought homeschooling was better than public school you'd want a homeschool if you think homeschool is the best option maybe better than private and better than public if you think public's better you need to go that direction you think is private better figure that out and go private so this works I will tell you one curiosity about homeschooling has one advantage over private and public schools that people almost never mention and that is the teacher-student ratio so the teacher-student ratio is how many students do you have per teacher so in public school it can be a lot when I was in public school it was almost one to thirty I remember distinctly and it was very frustrating because my paper would get graded quickly but never for content just first and grammar problems the the student-teacher ratio is important because we know is this ratio goes down people learn better you can catch problems you can catch weaknesses but but I have a more glaring example and that is when education doesn't work when our students are behind when they're doing poorly guess what we do for them we get them a tutor and a tutor is a one-on-one primarily one-on-one teacher-student ratio so I sit there and think you know if if tutoring is the cure for educational problems why don't we just start there this is the power of just a mom and a dad working with kids because of the ratio itself really allows them to learn what they need to so you're gonna find as you go through this what about homeschooling here's my argument you have an incredible opportunity for character development in home-school and you avoid some of the goofy influence when my friends pointed out about seventh grade the boys seventh eighth ninth they just come home with an attitude that you don't see in homeschooling so so you have character development academics are going to be better you're going to catch them with what's going on if you keep them challenged they're really going to need to learn things as they move on a belief system you obviously integrate your beliefs into the home school and what they read what they study my Bible studies something like that efficiency is going to go up especially if you'll follow our system how to screw thirty minutes a day for mom and dad but if you create efficiencies you're going to find it's it's a great environment for it it's going to promote the family you're going to quote brainwash them in the right direction and and you're gonna find it much cheaper I just saw Shelley just published I mean posted even with purchasing all our curriculum we spend far less homeschooling you're spot-on with every point you've mentioned I'm sure it says yep it says mention just and pop it up here yeah well I you know this is the stuff those of us who have worked with homeschooling for some time have noticed and there are more things but these are the the kinds of things that I think go into it and and if you want a dog that's protective and if you want a dog that doesn't bark except for a reason and you want a dog that'll be faithful and intelligent can be taught during shepherds are really awesome at that stuff right and and and a dog that people want to stop and go oh he's beautiful everybody knew one shepherd they like that's hey think about that so at school look if you want I'm gonna argue if you want if you're willing to put the time in and learn how to do it if you want better character better academics to teach your beliefs more efficiency promote your family values brainwashing the right sense of the word and save money homeschooling is quite an opportunity alright I'll take a second if there any questions post them I know there's a little delay of the system but I'd love to to interact you know cheer for you and what you say like shelise right she's you're gonna save a lot of money just as one thing what questioner thought do you have about why you homeschool I can look back and I'll tell you a side benefit as I think about it that our kids would tell you that is a little bit surprising a little bit surprising to me because I didn't quite have this growing up but one of the things I noticed that came out of our experience with homeschooling and how we approach life is all these siblings are close to each other they really stay in touch with each other they all seem to like each other they all have a few things who would tweak correct and prove about each other but by and large all these kids the five of ours love each other support each other cheer for each other pray for each other sometimes challenge each other want to be involved and knowing what's going on with their kids and the cousins and all that stuff and I think honestly just being grown raising that closer proximity that it wasn't about grades it was about us as a family I think it's a significant part of that you know that they really grew up helping training teaching each other it wasn't a competitive different grades and the peer groups they had lots of friends and some of the friends overlapped some different the different ages obviously we had everything from nine to zero you know nine you're great age differential but but but the nature of this togetherness of helping each other academically friendships life being involved together in their youth group mother things built among our children I think a far more unique sense of connection then I commonly see or certainly saw like my siblings Jerry likes hers but you know we're not intimately in touch not like our kids so well I'm not seeing questions they may come through they do sometimes but it's been great I'll be here tomorrow at 3 in the afternoon Central time and every day this week 3 p.m. Central 4:00 p.m. Eastern had someone else throw out yes want my kids to be each other's friends they help teach each other lookout for another by far one of the best things so I'm glad I added that thanks mrs. RC for including me our experienced public schools liberal agendas that were infiltrating and almost every subject and I think this is a real thing it's I mean you considered a made-up thing but there are some context even my kids going the University of Texas pretty liberal driven stuff now the good news is the way they're prepared they really could think independently and I wouldn't say they're a hundred percent perfect conservatives or whatever but what they are is thoughtful and and clear about what they do they haven't just embraced some goofy agenda they're they know how to argue both sides and and understand it so I'm grateful grateful for that and and it's just a reality you know it's we know it it like me saying hey you know the significant majority of the press is liberal that's not critical that's not rude that's factual it just is and anybody denies it is just either being dishonest or their heads stuck in the sand and I mean that a kind loving proper way anyway it's been fun hope this was helpful see you tomorrow

Channel: Dr. Fred Ray Lybrand

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Length: 27min 56sec (1676 seconds)

Published: Mon May 04 2020