Terry Crews Fought Dad For Beating Mom & Tells Story Of Dad Rejecting Kiss On Cheek At 5-Years-Old

I read the story that when you were five you tried to kiss your dad on the cheek to tell him you love him because that's seemingly as a young man young boy that's what you wanted you wanted to hear your father tell you he loved you yeah so since he never told you you were going to tell him and you said he looked at you looked at me like I had an eye in the middle of my forehead and I remember he was he was still drunk and I remember kissing him on the cheek and I was just waiting for this like I love you son I was like I love you Dad but he looked at me like and I'll never I I'll never do that again I'll never do that again and it kind of became where I knew that's where we were going to be you know what I mean that's where our relationship kind of even at five you didn't even at the the right age of five you didn't see your relationship progressing any further than what it was at that moment even as you reach your teenage years your 20s forever long he was on Earth and you continue to grow as a young man well this is the thing man being not vulnerable hurt yeah because I was vulnerable at that moment and I realized that even as an actor my whole thing is showing vulnerability you know what I mean you don't see a a character until You're vulnerable right and the fact that all the stuff I've been going through is a response to that go ahead I'll tell people that I got molested that's that's showing vulnerability where the whole thing was you know you got to be you got to be hard you got you can't never let them see you sweat you never you you know that's weak that's weak but I realize vulnerability is strength yeah you know yes fact is I'm me I listen I I hurt you man you step on my toe it hurt you shoot me it hurts right you know what there times I cry I'm to you I'll cried a couple times while we doing this interview right you know what I mean and there's a lot of things that hurt and it's first of all entertainment itself is how we deal with pain sometimes you laughe sometimes you cry but that's how we dealing with it you know mean you need to see a funny movie to deal with your pain you need to see a drama to recognize your pain you know that's why you put on a slow jam you know I mean something that you you got to feel it you lost her you know what I mean she was gone she's gone and you got to feel it this these things this is what entertainment is about and if you can't show vulnerability you can't be you can't be in this game not here and I realize I I was gonna have a problem if I couldn't so I said I'm G just be that dude and let the chips fall I read the story and I always wanted to ask you this because it takes a special type of per it takes for a a son to actually fight his father because the D the thing I've always told my kids I said our Dynamic will never change I'm always going to be your dad you're always going to be my child I said and I never want you to put me in a situation where I view you as anything other than that yeah and so we've always maintained a relationship in that aspect I'm the father I'm they're the child there's a respect level on both sides as they reached adulthood yes for you to go to that level because to fight your dad you no longer view him as your dad you view him as someone on the street that at this moment I don't care that was The Darkest Day Darkest Day you got to understand the context of that situation is he had just hit my mother and I'm going in front of you in front well no he had hit I wasn't there but the whole I got a phone call okay and oh your dad just hit your mama oh now I'm a grown ass man post NFL I already played the league like hey man what what you I'm 245 yeah yeah yeah yeah okay right say you talking to a 5y old boy right I'm like bro what and see this the thing too I had already called I said hey man don't trip don't trip my kids ain't never been around this they ain't never had no nothing like this so just act right you know holidays hard right right right just be on your best behavior what a kids please just please and dude he hit her knocked her to sideways like it was crooked hit her dead in the mouth she bleeding I said didn't I tell you now bro everything came out of that one time it wasn't that I didn't see you as my father anymore it was you that I'm five and you're that dude that I was so scared of and I got to get rid of this right now now you going to get what you've been giving up 25 years but listen man I did it and I at that moment horrible wait I beat his ass and I felt nothing I was thought I was GNA feel oh this is great this is great this is wonderful now finally it's all straight felt worse cuz now I just beat up the man that brought me into this world right huh huh see the thing all this stuff that people think of the road raid jump out the car shoot the guy shoot him how you feel now oops ain't never been in one of them moments where it's like oops damn I went too far I didn't I shouldn't have done that how many times we got to say that right I've done it I've done it too far what did he say after after that moment what he with done what what did he say to you how did he how did he look at you because it's not so much what he said t it's the look that he gave you bro I wouldn't even look out that's that's how I didn't want to look at I was ashamed I was ashamed you a man is never meant to attack his parents no it's it's just not it's just does not supposed to exist but let me tell you we did have a great moment about 10 years later cuz I I left and never came back for a long long time mm we did have a moment cuz I said and this is during my therapy sessions and I called my father up and I said you know I I need to talk to you because I need to find one thing that I'm thankful for you for and I said I'm thankful for you for having me because if you didn't have me I wouldn't exist I said thank you for being my father and that was you just had to find one thing it wasn't all just hey man if it wasn't for you I would never be here M thank you he cried he apologized he said he was sorry and I never had that then I I flew home and we hugged it out and I was like maybe we want A New Path Man On A New Path and I left and he slowly start getting back you know back hard in again but I'll never forget that's why I know there's a way right there is a way just why you talking about this today sitting down if he's willing I'm gonna see I'm gonna see if he's willing to try this one more time because we all running out of time me and my father had a lot of issues man I mean again he used to beat my mom he used to all this crazy stuff and then he call me up before I get on AGT and cuss me out you a ain't nothing you ain't nothing and I remember just going was it was he was he drinking yeah and so he got like this when he was drinking that's it that's it I mean is that why you don't drink that's why I don't drink that's why I don't drink I my father get drunk and he beat up my mom that's earliest memory man watching him knock my M out so he call he calls you up before you go on agtv and he say and he's saying what's he saying to cussing me out it's like you ain't what he just came where did this come from I don't know I don't know it's one of them things where you think you big stuff you and I'm going wow and it got to a time where I actually had to change my number and I actually the only way I would communicate with him was through someone else just is he all right okay cool cool but you but that stuff deep man MH and it was easier to get rid of friends that way where you go hey yeah yeah I can move on or soall friends you realize that's not a friend anymore but it's a whole another thing when it's like father right and my mom passed away a few years ago so now it's just him but it's one of those things where I realize what it is it's okay he's he's jealous he's angry and but that's okay have you and he always had this contentious relationship yeah yep your earliest memories earliest I remember we listen we were driving he was driving me pick me up from practice cuz he didn't want to pick me up from practice he's like oh man I'm wasting my time I got to go do this cuz he didn't like sports and he said you know uh I said now I'm gonna make it an NFL he said you know only one in a million making in NFL only one in a million I said I one in a million I looked up dead in the car I probably was 12 I'm one in a million he was like you got to understand I'll never forget this these are moments make me who I am and I said man and I remember those conversations and I know that even even as I walk around this town I am one in a million as you gotten older have you ever tried to sit down and have a conversation with your father have you ever guys have thought about going to therapy together and try to get to the root you're 55 it's I mean I understand you have a very contingent relationship but you only get one yeah and I know sometimes you probably think you don't miss him because you have the opportunity to pick up the phone and call him but you know T there might be one day that you don't have an opportunity to talk to him I don't I don't and you know that might be I'll be honest with you man that might be the reason we sitting here today just talking about this is making me realize it's got to be we got to find a way to make this work we got to find a way I mean and it's wild because I tried I tried I call and then you know you find out he's drinking because he lie you know I ain't drinking you know and then he but you know all the signs that he is drinking all the signs you know what I mean everything cuz he's a whole different person when he's not right you know so do you have brothers and sisters yes I have older brother younger sister and there's a guy that I was going in between there relationship like with your father or is it just you no it's it's I mean yeah cuz he again like you say drinking everybody was there when he was beating my mother you know what I mean so it it makes it very very difficult and when she passed that was a really really hard time like because that's the thing man it's almost like why didn't like it should have been you like you beating her and she just internalized and all that she got sick and it was it and it's like man you know and but it's one of those things I think if he was willing and I we just got to find out if he would be willing I have to find out if he'd be willing to do that so we could all sit down together yeah have you ever had a conversation with him like Dad why you treat mom like this why would you do why did you do some of the things that you did you're talking to uh now you're talking to a person who would literally be like I didn't this is what one thing he say I didn't beat her that bad that bad bro when you talking those kind of words you're like man you look what are you saying I didn't beat her that bad you talking to her son and he's never been able to acknowledge that um and what happen this this is a problem man listen and this is one thing I realized that if you don't deal with these things early or where are you where you're at they Harden mhm you know the Bible talks about Harden than your heart and there's a point where you feel like well I'm good no matter what and I never wanted to get like that how supportive of was your family when you growing up did they know you wanted to be in the entertainment because Fint is a very bluecollar hardworking normally you go to the factories and that's what you do you graduate high school you go to the factories or you go to the military and that's it so how supportive was your mom and dad your family members with you like I'm going to be an Entertainer I'm going to be in Hollywood I'm going to do this did they look at you like man you out your yes first of all you got to understand I I feel like uh I got to go to the the the biblical story of Joseph okay you know when he told his brothers yeah you look hey one day y'all all going to bow down to me they was like oh really and they sold it right um I used to tell people what my dreams were all the time I was like I want to be on TV I want to do movies I want to make movies I want to draw I want to do this and they were looking at me like I was from another planet they like hey man you in Flint right where what are you talking about you are so far removed from all that stuff and it kind of got me in trouble a lot my mouth got me in trouble uh you know back then and now uh but I also realized it was one of the things where you know I had big big dreams and what was a big big thing for me is my dad you know my father was alcoholic but also he was one of those guys that came up from Georgia little small town Edison Georgia worked his way up got a factory and and created a life for us but at the same time he was a little jealous uh I mean he looked y'all didn't work as hard as I did y'all didn't do the things that I did to get where I'm from y'all a really experienced life it was one of them things and so he was always kind of he never liked Sports my father hated Sports he was always wanted me to go to the Army my mother was super religious which at the time you know going to church I wasn't allowed to go to movies I wasn't allowed to play sports I wasn't allowed to dance I wasn't allowed to listen to secular music everything I do today I was not allowed to do when I was a young man and so I didn't get to play sports till later like nth grade 10th grade when they kind of when I colled them and they kind of got my mom got out of the religious stuff a little bit but it was it was really really strict man and um and when I would start talking about that stuff they were like we can't even go to the movies but you're talking about being in entertainment right it was hard man it was real I felt like a black sheep I felt like a guy that was always kind of eyes in the clouds I'm left-handed everybody else was right-handed I'm I'm drawing everybody's like outside playing they're like what hey man what is going on do you think because normally the way kids are with parents the more kid my parents don't want a kid to do something the more you drive that kid towards that and because they didn't want you to play sports and they didn't want you to they they couldn't see your vision of being an artist and being in Hollywood did that drive the passion to make you want to get to it even more absolutely absolutely I mean I you know it's it's it's kind of wild because I even I even have problems you know but there's family members and different things a lot of guys counted me out even back then um and now they're like oh okay you did your thing and whatever but it's it's it's one of them things where you never forget that right you know what I mean and you always felt I always felt like I had something to prove and that was the that was the part of the reason I got into to football but then also once 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Length: 16min 56sec (1016 seconds)

Published: Tue Mar 05 2024