Suffering is Not for Nothing: Acceptance

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third talk in this series suffering is not for nothing is on the subject of acceptance and i want to tell you a little story which uh may offend some of you i hope it will not be too offensive but i have actually been accused at times of being frivolous about the fact that i've had two husbands who have died so i don't want to seem frivolous but i'm sure you all realize that the subject of these talks is a very heavy one and here's a story which does fit in very nicely under this particular heading an incident happened a couple of years ago lars and i were in birmingham alabama and it was a breakfast and lars was setting up his book table and there was a little lady there setting place cards out at the various tables and he and she were chatting back and forth there was no one else around at the time and suddenly she turned him and she said by the way she said what's your name and he said well he said i'm an elliot too and she looked at him and she said are you the speaker's husband and he said yes and she said well that's funny they i thought they told me you had a different name and he said well i have actually he said really my name's gren but he said you know i'm the third husband and her face fell and she said oh my goodness but we only have one place card she was dead serious and laura said i don't think you need to worry he said the other two are dead i don't think they're going to show up and she said oh well then it'll be all right then [Music] well now how does that fit in with the subject of acceptance quite simply i could not possibly talk this way about jim and ad if it hadn't been for the fact that by the grace of god i was enabled to accept their death and people have come to me more than once in my life and said how can you possibly talk about your late husbands in that frivolous and flippant way and i've even had some widows say to me how do you keep from comparing your husbands and i say i don't i've made all kinds of comparisons between my husbands and you can be sure that i would never have accepted lars's proposal if he didn't compare very favorably with the first two although they are very different men at least they had one thing in common and that was that they liked me but the fact is that they're men with very different gifts and one of the things which god brought to my mind when i was considering lars's proposal before i had given him an answer was a verse in first corinthians 12. men have different gifts but it's the same lord who accomplishes his purposes through them all acceptance i believe is the key to peace in this business of suffering as i've said the crux of the whole matter is the cross of jesus christ and that word crux means cross and it is the best thing that ever happened in human history as well as the worst thing herein is love the scripture tells us not that we loved us but that not that we loved god here in his love not that we loved god but that he loved us and gave himself here in his love that christ laid down his life for us and when we speak of love as the bible speaks of love we're not talking about any silly sentiment we're not talking about a mood or a feeling or warm fuzzies the love of god is not a sentiment it is a willed and inexorable love which will will nothing less than the very best for us the love of god wills our joy i think of the love of god as being synonymous with the will of god young people sometimes say to me this whole business of the will of god is just so scary i don't see how you can ever just turn over your whole life to god because you don't know what he's going to do well that's what faith is about isn't it if you really believe that somebody loves you then you trust them the will of god is love and love suffers that's how we know what the love of god for us is because he was willing to become a man and to take upon himself our sins our griefs our sufferings and love is in is always inextricably bound with sacrifice any father knows this any mother knows this you may have known it in theory but when that baby is born if the mother has not suffered before that during those nine months which i didn't do certainly there comes the time when she has to suffer and when that baby is born and the labor is over with then we all we mothers know that that's just the beginning isn't it and no father or mother can possibly imagine what changes there will be in their lives no matter how much they may have read and how much they may have observed but the presence of that new little human being in their lives changes everything and it's sacrifice day in and day out night in and night out but it's not something that you sit down and feel sorry for yourself about it's not something you moan and groan about except once in a while but it's very real isn't it it is my life for yours and that ladies and gentlemen is the principle of the cross that's what jesus was demonstrating my life for yours now as i've said and i will probably say it again and again before i'm through suffering is a mystery it is not explained but it is affirmed and all of christianity rests on mysteries those of you who belong to churches that use creeds know that you are articulating a set of statements about the faith every one of which deals with a mystery is there anyone who calls himself a christian that can explain the trinity is there anyone who can get at the gynecology for example of the virgin birth is there any specialist in aerodynamics that could tell us anything about the ascension these are mysteries creation redemption incarnation crucifixion redemption these great key words of the christian faith are mysteries we stand up as a body in church the church that i go to for example and we say a creed out loud together we are not explaining anything we are simply affirming and that's what christianity is about god is god god is a three-person god he loves us and we are not adrift in chaos and to me that is the most fortifying the most stabilizing the most peace-giving thing that i know anything about in the universe every time things have seemingly fallen apart in my life i have gone back to those things which do not change nothing in the universe can ever change those facts he loves me i am not at the mercy of chance lars and i got to the airport last february for a flight to some place or other and i think our flight was supposed to be at 11 30 in the morning or something we got there about 10 30 and lo and behold the airport was closed there were lines all the way from the ticket counters out to the sidewalk you couldn't even get through the revolving doors into logan airport in boston and we were told that all flights had been canceled that the airlines were taking no responsibility for rebooking anything you had to get in line and start over and your tickets would mean nothing as far as bookings were concerned and it was a scene of real horror and chaos i mean people were crying i felt so sorry for those families that had little children and they were headed for orlando to go to disney world for their winter break and college students with skis but there were fist fights there were people so angry with the poor ticket agents that they were actually coming to blows and we heard that there was one plane load of people on the runway when they told were told that the airport was closed they refused to get off the plane now you know you just wonder what kind of a view of things people like that have but it was such a peaceful thing to me to realize in spite of the fact that i had people at the other end of the line waiting for me that lars and i were not at the mercy of the weather let alone of twa we are not adrift in chaos we are held in the everlasting arms and therefore and this makes a difference we can be at peace and we can accept we can say yes lord i'll take it the faculty by which i apprehend god and who he is is the faculty of faith and my faith enables me to say yes lord i don't like what you're doing i don't understand it you're gonna have to take care of those poor people at the other end that thought i was coming to speak on this particular day but god you're in charge i know the one who is in charge of the universe he's got the whole world where in his hands and that's where i am so that to me is the key to acceptance the fact that it is not for nothing faith we might say is the fulcrum of our moral and spiritual balance think of a see-saw the fulcrum is the point where the see-saw rests and my moral and spiritual balance depends on that stability of faith and my faith of course rests on the bedrock which is jesus christ now faith like love is not a feeling we need to get that absolutely clear faith is not a feeling faith is a willed obedience action jesus said again and again don't be afraid fear not let not your heart be troubled believe in god believe also in me accept take up the cross and follow he said if you want to be my disciples three conditions give up your right to yourself take up your cross and follow and to me giving up your right to yourself is saying no to myself and taking up the cross is saying yes to god lord whatever it is you want to give me i'll take it yes yes yes there's an old legend i'm told inscribed in a parsonage in england somewhere on the seacoast a saxon legend that said do the next thing i don't know any simpler formula for peace for relief from stress and anxiety then that very practical very down to earth word of wisdom do the next thing that has gotten me through more agonies than anything else i could recommend and when i found out that my husband jim was dead i had gone out to the missionary aviation base in a place called shell meta the edge of the jungle to be with the other four wives as we waited for word about our husbands and when the word finally came that all five of the men had been speared to death and of course we had decisions to make were we going to go back to our jungle stations or what were we going to do and i went back to my jungle station i had never considered any other alternative because for one thing i had been a missionary before i ever married jim elliott before i was even engaged to jim elliot so nothing had changed as far as my missionary call was concerned but i had to go back to a station where there was no other missionary and try to do the work that two of us had been doing between us so it wasn't as though i was hard up for things to keep me occupied i had a school of about 40 boys to sort of oversee i wasn't the teacher but i was sort of in charge of things in one way i had a br a brand new church of about 50 baptized believers with no scriptures in their hands and i was supposed to be the one doing the translating i had a literacy class of about 12 girls that i was teaching to read in their own language so that eventually they could learn to read the bible translation that i was working on at the same time i had a 10 month old baby to care for i had a thousand details of running things on a jungle station like learning how to run a diesel generator and also i was giving out medicines right and left and delivering babies in between times and what with one thing in another i really didn't have time to sit down and have a pity party and sink into a puddle of self-pity i did the next thing and there was always a next thing after that and i have found many times in my life after the death of my second husband just the very fact that although i was living in a very civilized house i had dishes to wash i had floors to clean i had laundry to do it was my salvation last a couple of years ago now i lose track i had the privilege and the fun of taking care of four of my grandchildren while number five was being born and now i guess she had already been born and her parents went off for a weekend taking the nursing baby along and i took care of the other four and that was the only time when i've ever had the chance to do that my grandchildren live in southern california and i live in the northeast so i'm one of the lonely grandmothers as opposed to the exhausted ones and after the first day my daughter had the thoughtfulness to call that evening and she said well mama how are you doing and i said well they're wonderful children and they're very very obedient and everything but i don't know whether i'm going to make it through the next four days i was tired to say the least and i had to ask the question that my daughter really doesn't like me to ask how do you do it because every minute of the day i'm thinking i'm flat out all day long with things that need to be done every second but my daughter has a nursing baby which takes about six more hours in the day and i kept thinking how does she do it how does she do it so i had to ask the question i knew she didn't want me to but i said val how do you do it and she laughed on the phone and she said mama i do just what you taught me years ago i do the next thing she said don't think about all the things you have to do just do the next thing so i took her advice and we got through the next four days triumphantly not just somehow but it is acceptance that enabled me to do that because i really believed that this was not an accident god had something up his sleeve something in mind well about six weeks after jim died i had a letter from my mother-in-law i had been writing letters home and trying to reassure my parents and my in-laws that god was there everything was fine they were not to worry about me they were both my in-laws and my own parents were just dying a thousand deaths as you can imagine and we parents i'm sure suffer sometimes 100 times more than our children suffer although we think that it's worse than it is what we never can visualize is the way the grace of god goes to work in the person who needs it and so my mother-in-law wrote me this letter saying she was very much afraid that i was repressing my feelings that i it wasn't normal the way i was reacting and just carrying on i was just trying to be busy and maybe i was burying myself in my work and she said eventually you're going to crack well then all of a sudden my piece disappeared and i began to say well is she right is there really no such thing as a piece that passes understanding can god really fulfill his word and i kept going back again and again to the promises that god had given me and i had them right there in my journal day after day god was giving me promises which just enabled me to get through jesus christ the same yesterday and today and forever jim died yesterday but the same lord was with me today and i didn't need to worry about the next 50 years which is a temptation for anyone who's lost someone they love you think well i guess i could make it through supper tonight but not real sure about tomorrow or next week let alone the next 50 years and in the very same mail with my mother-in-law's unsettling letter i got this poem from amy by amy carmichael which came in a form letter from her mission when stormy winds against us break establish and reinforce our will oh hear us for thine own name's sake hold us in strength and hold us still still as the faithful mountains stand through the long silent years of stress so would we wait at thy right hand in quietness and steadfastness well that sounds pretty brave and strong doesn't it but listen to the last stanza but not of us this strength o lord and not of us this constancy our strength is thine eternal word thy presence our security and this vital truth was laying hold of my mind and my heart that god really did mean what he was saying that he was right there and one of the verses that god had given me before i went to ecuador was in i isaiah 50 verse 7. the lord god will help me therefore shall i not be confounded therefore have i set my face like a flint and i know that i shall not be ashamed i was tempted as all of us are to say well lord you promised to help me but you do have a kind of a funny way of going about it it's not my idea of the way god is supposed to help one of his servants who is trying to be obedient and trying to be faithful and what does god say to an argument like that same thing he's always saying trust me trust me someday even you will see that there's sense in this your suffering is not for nothing now my husband jim was a fairly good carpenter and he built a very nice house in the jungle a very civilized house with a cement floor and wooden walls and an aluminum roof he even built a wonderful water system by collecting the roof from the aluminum collecting the water from the aluminum roof and then piping it into the house so that we actually had a flush toilet and a shower and a sink and he said about filling the house with very serviceable and not terribly beautiful furniture but while jim was building a piece of furniture if there was one thing he could not stand it was for me to hang over his shoulder and i would say well what's this thing you know and what are you doing with that tool and why do you do it this way and how in the world are you going to fit that thing into this and he would say would you get lost when it's finished you'll see a very simple analogy god is saying trust me accept it now how many choices have you got to go back to those alternatives you either believe god knows what he's doing or he believe he doesn't you either believe he's worth trusting or you say he's not and then where are you you're at the mercy of chaos not cosmos chaos is the greek word for disorder cosmos is the word for order we either live in an ordered universe or we are trying like the poor lady who sat next to me on the plane yesterday to create her own reality can you imagine a more desperate situation to be in than to be creating one's own reality acceptance is a voluntary and willed act god was giving me something to do the next thing was yes lord accept it and that is the key to peace now does it make sense to an ordinary human being to say accept this suffering isn't it contrary to human nature and i want to make something very clear here because i realize every word i say can be distorted and twisted and misunderstood i want to try my best to make very plain what i mean here when i say accept i'm not talking about things which can be changed and or ought to be changed there are some things which can be changed that ought not to be changed for example a dear young man that i know decided to unload his wife and two children when the second child was one week old and he went ahead and did that against all advice to the contrary and a couple of years later i said to him why and he said it wasn't working now i hear this on all sides we all hear it don't we we know that this is happening on all sides there was a situation which he thought ought to be changed and he was told by so-called christian counselors that's the thing to do you just have to get rid of her because this is a case of incompatibility so when i say that there are things which can be changed but ought not to be that might be one example there are many things which cannot be changed and there are things which ought not to be changed so i'm not i want us to be clear that i'm not saying accept everything just resign yourself and the worst things that happen you don't do a thing about it that is not my purpose in this talk the apostle paul remember prayed for the removal of that thorn in his flesh and what was the answer he prayed three times that god would remove that thorn and the answer was my grace is all you need my grace is sufficient for you and it's very interesting it's very significant i think that paul says i was given a thorn in the flesh to keep me from becoming absurdly conceited and then he says it was a messenger of satan now that seems like a contradiction because obviously it had to be god who cares whether he becomes absurdly conceited satan would be delighted if we become absurdly conceited but he said in order to keep me from becoming absurdly conceited over a particular spiritual experience which he has just described in that chapter second corinthians 12 he said in order to keep me from that i was given a thorn in the flesh so it was a messenger of satan he says so if you get all hung up thinking now is this thing from god or is it from satan is this the voice of god or the voice of satan stop worrying about it you don't really need to sort that out because here's a case where the thorn was in a sense given by god as a messenger of satan and there's another at least one other example in scriptures that i can think of of the same apparent contradiction where joseph says to his brothers that they that it was they who sent him into egypt but he says god sent me to egypt we know that joseph's brothers were sinning against him and yet it was god who sent him there so when the answer was no about the thorn in the flesh and the answer of jesus prayer in gethsemane if it be possible let this cup pass we know that there's nothing wrong with praying that god will solve our problems and heal our diseases and pay our debts and sort out our marital difficulties it's right and proper that we should bring such requests to god we're not praying against his will but when the answer is no then we know that god has something better at stake far greater things are at stake there is another level another kingdom an invisible kingdom which you and i cannot see now but toward which we move and to which we belong and a verse which to me sums up just the things that i've been trying to say under this heading of acceptance is another seeming contradiction which i found in the 116th psalm the psalmist says what shall i render unto the lord for all his benefits and i was reading this one day when i was so overwhelmed with gratitude for all the blessings of my life that i was just sitting in a chair looking out over the ocean we live on the coast of massachusetts and i was looking at this magnificent view in a very comfortable room and just saying lord i i don't know how to thank you how can i say thanks and i opened my bible to this verse where the psalmist says what shall i render and then i saw that the next verse is i will take the cup of salvation what shall i give you lord and the answer is i will take the cup of salvation now what is in god's cup of salvation obviously the psalmist in the old testament times was not thinking of salvation in the somewhat narrow terms that we we sometimes do but whatever is in the cup that god is offering to me whether it be pain and sorrow and suffering and grief along with the many more joys i'm willing to take it because i trust him because i know that what god wants for me is the very best i will receive this thing in his name and i hope you'll forgive me if i give you two more lines of poetry from that poet george herbert or perhaps it's john done i've forgotten i need thy thunder oh my god thy music will not serve me i need pain sometimes because god has something bigger in mind it is not for nothing and so i say lord in jesus name by your grace i accept it you
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