S.T.R.A.P. - (Surviving the Trauma of Rejection and Abandonment Plan) - Bishop T.D. Jakes

[Music] we're going to give you just a little preview so you can get caught up take a look at this and then i'll begin to teach faithful are the wounds of a friend but the kisses of an enemy are deceived the text tonight suggests that you can have a friend who hurts you jesus is my savior jesus is my lord but we also are friends when jesus starts to teach this he is teaching them how the relationship works if you're going to have a real relationship with god you must be taught about faithful wounds but if you don't learn how to be friends with somebody who wounded you you can't be a friend of god because god said pick up your cross and follow me if you're really my disciple i'm gonna take you through some painful places and i don't expect you to give up on me just because the going gets rough and the going gets tough you don't get to cut me off like i'm a machine [Applause] so we have gone from relationship to reduction so everybody's talking to you about increase but i want to talk to you about reduction you have to go through reduction so that you can increase your potency and if god saw fit to cut you he cuts you for a reason faithful are the wounds of a friend what i'm talking about is trusting god when it hurts faithful are the wounds of the free retention and reciprocity retention is important what good is it to gain if you don't retain what is gained the word that sticks is the word that saves how much of this word is sticking god said this must be reciprocal if you stick with me i'll stick with you as the branch cannot bear fruit of itself accepted abide in the mind no more can ye except he abide in me he says i'm gonna mirror your behavior if you stick with me i'll stick with you if you draw nigh to me asa said if you draw nigh to me i'll draw nigh to you if you withdraw from me i'll withdraw from you you know where you are the most effective it's where you're the most committed the things that are living in your life the best are the things where you are the most invested change your investment you change your return if you operate in the principles it will work for you give and it shall be given unto you again good measure press down shake it together the anointing you respect is the anointing you receive oh y'all don't hear what i'm saying hallelujah let's give god a praise somebody i said let's give god a praise somebody i said let's give god a praise i said let's give god a praise [Applause] so we are talking the third deposit on faithful wounds and we're going to uh entitle tonight strap okay strap like your mama had i know that's out of style but back in my day we had a strap now when they say strap they mean they're packing brother walk up to you say i'm strapped you better leave him alone he he not he don't mean what's your mama but we're gonna be packing tonight on the enemy strap for me is an acronym surviving the trauma of rejection and abandonment plan surviving the trauma of rejection and abandonment plan you have to plan to survive [Music] if you don't have a plan to survive you can't survive i was talking to a friend of mine who's gone through crisis recently and he's gone through a divorce and he says all the holidays i get depressed i said every holiday you should have a plan since you know the enemy is going to attack you on the holiday don't just lay there and wait on him to overtake you so whether you go bowling go fishing go do something you need to have a strategy so you're not sitting in the house feeling sorry for yourself you have to plan to survive or you won't you won't survive by accident you got to be strapped for this are y'all with me tonight stand on your feet and let's go to the word of god john chapter 1 verse 9 i think it's john through 13 we're gonna go through the word of god and this is such a beautiful beautiful beautiful beautiful beautiful beautiful text uh oxymoronish in a way because the text is committed to teaching us that jesus is god and yet it is teaching us that jesus is man now careful here i am not saying that jesus is half god and a half man that's not what i'm saying jesus is not half anything he is fully god and yet fully man we focus on the part that is fully god to the exclusion of the part that is fully let me explain why that's dangerous he was fully god before mary was ever born he didn't come to earth to be god he was already god he came to earth that he might be man and as becoming fully man it is so that he might be kin to me and if i only see him as god and i don't see him as man then he's not close enough to redeem me come on somebody because he has to be kinsmen redeemer now mostly when i go to john 1 i always want to talk about jesus being god in the beginning what's the word and the word was with god and the word was god all things were made by him and without him was not anything made that was made in him was life and the life was the light of men and the light shined in darkness and the darkness comprehended it not now there was a man who was sent from god his name was john he was not that light but so said to bear witness of that life saying there is one who is coming after me who is mightier than me whose shoes i am not worthy delighted i indeed baptize you with water but he shall baptize you with the holy ghost and with fire and finally and the word was made flesh and dwelt among us that's john 1 and and so when we talk about in the beginning was the word the word was with god with and was god with and was within was god we are establishing that jesus is god incarnate and we get it again in the word was made flesh but in the middle we miss the humanity of jesus and the reason the humanity is significant because it is there that we tabernacle with him it is in his humanity that we meet it is in his humanity that he bleeds it is in his humanity that he can be touched by the feelings of our infirmities a friend of mine works for uh a big major company delivery company and he was showing me a picture of the warehouse and i expected to see the warehouse like i grew up in with uh with uh all the stacks of materials up in and you would be on those uh uh well i forget what you call them now what is it forklift yeah you'll be driving those formula just grab one and spin it around and around and raise it up and pick up things all it's gone it's all machines our machines and the machines increase the efficiency but lost humanity what we can do better than machines is a gift of feelings yeah it is through our feelings we cannot create a machine that can feel we can create a machine that can calculate but not feel so it can't love it can't have empathy it can't be creative it can illustrate but it cannot create because it doesn't have the inspiration of feelings so feelings are our friend till they turn against us feelings are what inspires artists to paint feelings are what makes one singer sing differently from another it is a gift of uniqueness as unique as your fingerprint it it is through my feelings that i i'm able to be inspirational and creative but when my feelings turn on me then that gift becomes trauma to me if i have a god who is robotical cannot feel then he cannot understand the feelings of my infirmity jesus is god becoming kin to me so that he can be touched without hands but by my feelings and so we're about to understand how jesus experienced humanity the god man john 1 9 the true light that gives light to everyone was coming into the world he was in the world he was in the world oh that's a big deal the angels started singing the the stars lit up the eastern star the magic came to celebrate he was in the world you don't get what a big deal it was for him to be in the world divinity had come down to humanity he was in the world and through the world and though the world was made through him the world did not recognize him if you've ever taken care of a loved one who has alzheimer's the day they don't recognize their own daughter your heart is broken he was in the world and he made the world and the world did not recognize him you don't just read it feel it [Music] you come in your house and your mama don't know you it's me mama oh you're a pretty lady what is your name i'm your daughter clary who anybody know what i'm talking about he was in the world the world was made through him and yet the world did not recognize him he came to that which was his own but his own did not receive him have you ever came to your own and they did not receive you that's rejection he came to his own i don't i expect strangers to either be indifferent or reject me but when i come to my own for you to reject me is a wound it leaves a trauma now my feelings are turning against me because now they are not creative they are destructive now as we talk about this tonight we're going to delve into some things that are psychological but i'm not here as a psychologist i'm here as a theologist to show you what god felt as man yet to all who did receive him see the most of his own rejected him but to the elect group that did receive him to those who believed in his name he gave the right or the power to become the children of god children born not a natural descent nor of human decision or a husband's will but born of god whoo that's a beautiful thing right there somebody shall strap spirit of the living god fall fresh on us as we go into the word of god tonight let it materialize it reveal itself like blinded eyes are open with enlightenment in our understanding and not just our eyesight but inside that we might illustrate the abstract until it becomes concrete in jesus name we pray amen somebody shall strap this trap is surviving the trauma of rejection jesus earns the right to talk to us about rejection because he was rejected he he came into the world the world was made through him and yet it did not recognize him that's painful but then he came unto his own and they did not receive him that's rejection and there there is a propensity when you are rejected to build up battle scars where either you stop trying for fear of rejection or you develop a complex where you attack before being rejected so that you don't risk having the feeling again or are you gonna come for me i'm going to come for you before you come for me i don't need you anyway in my life see all of this is my defense mechanism because i don't want to feel that pain again when we when we talk about rejection that is the gospel the whole gospel message is that the stone that the builders come on church people come on church people wake up the stone that the builders what has become the chief cornerstone he couldn't be the chief cornerstone if the builders didn't so rejection is a ministry that transports him into his destiny so what jesus begins to teach us first about that is that rejection also gives us direction the stone that the builders rejected has become the chief cornerstone thank you builders for rejecting me because your rejection directed me to becoming a chief cornerstone i could never be a cornerstone say you rejected me so i either sit in my rejection and become traumatized or i rejoice in the rejection because it is through the rejection that i get direction into the how many of you are glad for the people you didn't marry come on talk to me a minute glad for the person who walked out on you glad for the job you didn't get glad for the prayer that didn't get answered how many of you look back in retrospect and say lord i thank you that that didn't turn out like i wanted it to turn out because that would have messed up the rest of my life it was good for me that i was afflicted had i not been afflicted i would have never known [Music] so jesus is the drum major who leads us through the process of rejection and so so you gotta when you are rejected you gotta have a plan to survive because there must be an elevation on the other side of the rejection because if through the rejection he became the chief cornerstone then i must survive the trauma that is human incidentally through rejection to receive the direction that will place me on something better than what i lost something better than what i lost if you're watching online type online something better is coming if something better is coming something lesser has to go better and lesser can't occupy the same space physics two objects cannot occupy the same space at the same time and if lesser is here better cannot move in so lesser has to go so that better can step in but what happens when i am addicted to lesser what happens when i'm in love with lesser what happens when i am accustomed to lesser trauma so god can't bring better without moving lesser because you're addicted to lesser because lesser is your normal and like any baby when you pull the nipple out of his mouth he's going to cry for the nipple at the expense of breakfast never we'll learn how to chew never we'll eat a steak never we'll have a hamburger never we'll eat lasagna never will be a vegan never we'll have the discussion because he's addicted to lesser he can't get to better and the process between lesser and better is traumatic i stress when i leave the house i leave the house because it's not my breasts i don't have to do it i leave the house i don't want to hear all that noise because often the pathway to elevation is traumatic because we are addicted to what was we are not prepared to let go of it long enough to see what is so surviving is a big word i tell people when they go through grief and they lose a loved one and they ask me why i said don't try to understand it just survive it your peace will not come to trying to understand it because there are some things you won't understand till you get to heaven but in the meantime you have to survive it so we're going into survival mode we got we got to go into survival mode to see what's next for us but we got to be careful how we go into it go to luke 13 34-35 and i want you to get acquainted with this this man jesus not the god jesus man the man jesus is up on the mount of olives and he's sitting on the top of the mount of olives and he's looking down at jerusalem after all of the miracles and the healing and the turning water in the wine and the healing the sick and raising the dead and opening the blinding eyes and setting the captain free and traveling by foot for miles and miles and mouth and fasting till he almost died and confronting demons and dealing with spirits and casting out legions of demons out of people and raising people from the dead it didn't work what do you do when you've gone all you know how to do and it didn't work one of my problems with church people is that some of them are so deep that they act like everything works i don't need you to teach me how to act when it works i need you to teach me how to act when it doesn't work when i gave everything i had when i poured my all when i emptied myself out when i gave to the limit when i pushed beyond my ordinary when i drove past my guard rails and after all of that healing and walking on the water in the storm and speaking peace be still had raising lazarus from the dead when all was said and done they still rejected him as the king of kings of the lord of lords and the messiah and he's sitting on the hill rejected and kind of ticked off and then the king james brothers started oh but i'm in the niv yeah so i'll drop the o they're always important because he screamed oh jerusalem jerusalem you who killed the prophets and stoned those who sent who those who were sent to you how often i have long how often i have long how often i have longed this is emotional how how often i have long to hold you to gather you to take you in my arms to gather your children together as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings and you were not willing sit in that for a minute don't run past that sit in that how many times have you gone all out and the other person was not willing it takes two you can't do this by yourself we can't be a partnership by ourselves i can't be married by myself i can't make this work by myself i can't do the tango by myself i can't sing the harmony by myself i've got to have you tied to me to make this sound right but you we're not willing that's rejection look your house is left to you desolate i'm out of here i tell you you will not see me again until you say blessed is he who comes in the name of the lord jesus is saying i have gone as low as i'm going to go to get you now you can act like you don't need this if you want to but jesus said there is a point where i give up that's the scariest thing about jesus it's the point where he gives up as long as he strives with me he's not through with me but the scariest scripture is my spirit will not strive with man always he gives up and he says behold your house shall be left desolate i'm gone i could destroy you i could swallow you up i could send angels i could call fire down from heaven i'm i'm not angry i'm through i'm done with this your house it was my house my house shall be called a house of prayer now i turned it over to you you take the deed your house when god gives it back to you be scared your house shall be left desolate my reward to rejection is absence you don't want this i'm out i am so out that even arrested i will not be crucified in your city limits the bible said that jesus the lamb of god the divine sacrifice refused to die in the temple like a sacrifice but he died outside of the camp i won't even dignify you with dying on your property your house is left desolate the fact that i am crucified outside of the camp is a sign i'm through with you you have been left desolate the scary thing about the church and the end time and the understanding of eschatology one of the scariest scriptures is in revelations when he says behold to the church i stand at the door and knock at first he was in the midst of the church and now he has walked out the door of the church how did jesus end up knocking at the door of the church have we accepted religion but rejected jesus have we accepted our rituals our routines our ordinances our expectations but we have rejected jesus how did we go to the feasts and forget jesus how did we load up the family mary and go back home and forget when jesus is the feast of unleavened bread jesus is the feast of which jesus is the feast of pentecost how can you have a feast and walk off and leave jesus and go a day's journey before you notice that your child that is born of god is gone how does your mama forget you and your daddy forgets you and they're so caught up in their conversations that their day's journey are more down the road before they notice where's the baby where the baby is where's the baby where the baby great a baby and then they start searching jesus experiences rejection just like you not as god but as man with feelings that longed to gather you as a hand other chicks but you would not i'm just saying i'm safe let me hear it cause i got more i really ain't got to the point yet come on go to mark 15 33-36 i gotta hear it because the point is big at noon eyes on the cross he's outside the camp at noon darkness came over the whole land until three in the afternoon come on and at three in the afternoon jesus cried out in a loud voice he was crying on the mountain and he was crying nice crying again eloi lava sabotage which means my god my god why have you forsaken me i prayed to you if it be thy will pass this bitter cup for me it was obeying you that got me on this cross [Music] i i want to talk to some people that obeyed god and got in trouble [Applause] you told me to come here and i lost my job you told me to buy this house and they ended up representing you told me to marry this person you told me to go to the cross not only is he experiencing it as the son but he is experiencing it as sin because on the cross he is not the son he is sin the bible said he became he became come on bible scholars he became sin who knew no sin that we might become the righteousness of god it goes on to say he became poor that through his poverty we might be made rich that's really not talking about money baby he became sin so before he is calling him father father forgive them for they know not what they do but when he becomes sin he calls him god eloi my god my god why yes uh for a second i just want to know why you rejected me i just want to know why you abandoned me when some of those standing near him heard this they said listen he's calling elijah someone ran and filled a sponge with wine vinegar and put it on the staff and offered it to jesus to drink and then said now leave them isn't it funny how people bring what you don't need when you're crying out for something else here they come with some vinegar i did not ask for vinegar now this was done that the scriptures might be fulfilled but this is a futility of flesh when they perceive your need but they don't have the answer they bring their solution into your trauma that's how you end up married to weird people because they bring their solution into your trauma and you're trying to figure out why and they come and say i'm the answer but they ain't for they thought he called on elijah but he didn't and they think they can fix you but they can't so stop trying to fix me because only god can fix this kind of trauma so they said now leave him alone and let's see if elijah comes to take him down he said when i started studying about rejection i i have bumped into abandonment because they're intertwined they're not the same but they're so similar rejection is the fear you won't say yes abandonment it's a fear you won't stay abandonment is our first fear it's a primal fear it's an infant's fear a fear universal to the human experience no matter black white or brown rich or poor it's a common fear as infants we lay screaming in our crib terrified that when our mother left the room they were never coming back abandonment is a fear that we will be left alone forever with no one to protect us to see to our our needs and there's something about being left alone for the infant maintaining attachment to its primary caretaker is necessary for its survival who do you have to have or what do you have to have and how do you handle the fear that it won't stay oh it got quiet the pilot's house is at its best when it's quiet any threat or disruption to that relationship arouses a primal fear a fear that is embedded in the hardware of our brains a fear we carry into adulthood abandonment once you show me you can leave i always question if anyone will stay so before i learned to walk or talk or anything else some of you had already experienced abandonment and it alters the way you interact with other humans because you have been pre-wired with the supposition of being left oh jerusalem jerusalem how often i have gathered you as a kid with her chicks but she would not and i survived but i bled over it i bled long and hard over your abandonment because maybe if you had accepted me as king there would not have been a cross so i bleed and there are people in this room who bleed when children experience feelings of disconnection they do not have the defenses to fall back on like adults do their wounds may not heal but instead float beneath the surface of their lives right into their adulthood let's talk just a minute about how abandonment affects the brain and i'm going to move on the brain shutting down occurs because the pain is too great that after the initial crime scriptment kicking fighting fit we have pleading begging children often disappear into a state of disassociation a coping mechanism whereby we bury what we can't fix this disassociation happens as they are unable to cope with the depth of their fear from abandonment and the resulting emotional pain can i go deeper all of that was the setup it takes me a while this is how i cook it takes a minute when i started thinking about strap surviving the trauma of rejection and abandonment it took me to second samuel 13 4-22 and if you go there with me this text is shakespearean it is a complicated tale that would make movie it is it is a crisis in the house wait a minute don't read yet y'all trying to get ahead of me we have seen david's crisis outside the house but this is the crisis in the house these are the king's kids when trauma gets in your house is a mess when you got trauma on your job at least you get off at five o'clock when you got trauma at church you can get up and leave when you got trauma in your house how do you get out of the trauma when it's in your house and it's in david's house and there's probably a lot of reasons why it's in this house and and there is some question as to whether jesse was david's father in sin did my mother conceive me in iniquity was i born there is there is some question that why jesse did not call david out to be anointed by samuel though he invited all the other sons have you ever been the one they didn't call the one they didn't like the one that was abandoned out there to take care of the sheep and they called all the ones to the party and just we forgot you know you're welcome you know you welcome child we we didn't have to invite you you invited everybody else i'm touching some nerves i know but it's gonna be okay david was the uninvited person and the trauma follows him all of his life and we see the roller coaster ride of his spirituality and his carnality and he's up and he's down and he's back and he's forward and he's going in and he's going out and he worships god and he needs god and he calls on god and he's anointed of god and he's blessed of god and he's favorite of god but he's still got trouble y'all just because you're gifted doesn't mean you don't have trauma just because you're anointed doesn't mean you don't have trauma just because you know scriptures that mean you don't have trauma uh come on talk to me somebody just because you make money doesn't mean you don't have trauma just because you got a nice house doesn't mean you don't have trauma just cause you fine don't mean you don't have trauma just because you built don't mean you don't have trauma just because you got a phd don't mean you don't have trauma just because you're a ceo doesn't mean you don't have trauma just because your hair goes all the way down your back and it's real you didn't buy it don't mean you have trauma where let's go in david's house and talk to his kids he asks amnon why do you the king's son look so haggard morning after morning won't you tell me what's wrong with you man you've been looking bad lately what's going on with you and i said to him man um i don't want to talk to you about it because you wouldn't understand if i told you you want to know how i'm losing weight and you want to know why my countenance is falling and you want to know why i've stopped eating and why my skin is pale okay i'm gonna tell you i'm in love with tamar you didn't hear me i'm i'm in love i said i'm in love with tamar tamar your brother absalon's sister yeah i'm in love with my half sister and that's the problem but jonah dabb is his friend faithful are the wounds of a friend but the kisses of an enemy are evil so john or dad gives him he helps him be evil go to bed and pretend to be ill i'm gonna help you get your sister when your father comes to see you say say to him that's what you gotta say to me listen get this right because you gotta say it right you got to say it right i want you to tell him i would like my sister tamar to come and give me something to eat let her prepare the food in my sight so i may watch her and then eat it from her hand so amnon lay down and pretended to be ill when the king came to see him amnon said to him i would lag past history camera come and make some special bread so i mean i think i might eat it if she cooked it and i david said word to tamar his daughter at the palace go to your brother's house and prepare some food for him tell him our guys things together i got to go down there and see about my brother he's sick she went to the house of her brother amnon who she took some dough needed it and made the bread in his site and baked it then she took the pan and served him the bread that he refused to eat i think i could eat better if we were alone you see what i say is shakespearean sent everyone out so everyone left him then amnon said to tamar bring the food here over here now over here hanging over here cause i'm gonna eat it in the bedroom from your hand and tamara took the bread she had prepared and brought it to her brother amnon in his bedroom but when she took it to him to eat he slashed her and said come to bed with me my sister y'all didn't know this kind of stuff was in the bible did she that's why you need to come to bible class this is like a tyler prayer movie ain't it y'all can't even breathe enough y'all looking down no no no get away no she said damn don't don't don't don't do this don't force me such a thing we we should do this in israel we supposed to be church people don't do this don't do this wicked thing it should not be done in israel what about me where could i get rid of my disgrace you see she was a virgin and what about you you would be like one of the wicked fools in israel please speak to the king i tell you what speak to the king he will not keep me from being married to you if you go about it the right way but he refused to listen to her and since he was stronger than her he he raped his sister and when he was finished doing what he did he hated her with intense hatred now this next line is where i told you the story in fact he hated her more than he had loved her ammon said to her get up and get out now no no she said to him watch this sending me away would be a greater wrong than what you have already done to me in other words she says abandonment is worse then rape i am more broken because you left than i am because you raped me how could you rape me like you wanted me that bad and then hate me and yank me from the pinnacle of an explosive passion boom to the floor of complete rejection and now i feel like nothing because not because you raped me that's bad that's horrible that's wrong it's a sin it's evil it's obnoxious it's nasty but you left me strapped sending me away would be a greater wrong than what you have already done to me but he refused to listen to her he called his personal servant and said get this woman out of my sight and broke the door after her so his servant put out voted the door after her she was wearing an ornate robe for this was the kind of garment the virgin daughters of the king wore but now the robe is a lie so she put ashes on her head and tore the ornate robe she was wearing she thought her life was over she put her hands on her head and went away weeping allowed as she went her brother absalom said to her what am not do your brother been with you be quiet for now ancestor he is your brother don't take this thing to heart don't let this get in your heart the fact that it happened doesn't mean it got to your heart don't let this get to your heart and tamar lived in her brother absalon's house a desolate woman when the king heard about this he was hot man and absalom never said a word to amnon either good or bad he hated admon because he had disgraced his sister absalom kills emma and it all happened in the house surviving the trauma of rejection and abandonment requires a plan and the reason the room is quiet is not just because i am dramatic though i am the reason the room is quiet is because almost every person in here has some sort of story that i just triggered and you have the trauma and the rejection and the abandonment but you ain't got no plan and so you buried what you couldn't get rid of hoping it wouldn't go away this is my problem with the contemporary church because all we want you to do is praise the old church we used to wail even in the baptist church we had a mourner's bench and lord [Music] in jesus [Music] christ oh [Applause] oh [Applause] we [Music] they're learning that there's something about wailing before god that it's more therapeutic than therapy itself that it releases a mechanism down in the entrails of your soul that out of your belly flows rivers of living water so that the stench of what you've been through cannot stagnate inside of you somebody just open your mouth for a moment and just shout unto god [Applause] shout unto god shout out to god shout out to god just shout out to god go down in your basement pull it out of your cellar and shout out to god go down in your belly and shout unto god you don't need words [Music] [Applause] hey i gotta get this out of me it can't stay in me i can't drink it away i can't smoke it away i can't sex it away but i open my mouth to the lord this poor man cried and the lord had him somebody cried out got a cramp i gotta cry out till i break the yoke i gotta cry out till i break the chain i gotta cry out till i break the chain i gotta cry out till i break the rejection i gotta cry out till i break the curse somebody open your mouth the devil don't want you to open your mouth the devil don't want you to open your mouth [Applause] out of the belly of the fish cried out i was down in the belly of the fish but i opened my mouth and i cried out [Applause] sin for the women aborting and let them take up a wailing sin for the women of mourning and let them take up a wailing when zion travails sons and daughters shall be born we don't travail anymore we're cute but we don't prevail we dance but we don't prevail we dress up but we don't prevail travail sisters show them what travail is travail travail is labor prevail is labor travail is gut wrenching travail you break blood vessels in your face when you travail you cry out to god i dare you to travail your only travail your only travail you only travail you only travail you only travail you only travail you only prevail you only travail when you're tired of carrying it when you're tired of walking around in it when you get sick and tired and your back is hurting and you're worn it out if there's anybody in here that wants to get it out i want you to prevail [Applause] [Music] i'm not gonna hide it i'm not gonna bury it i'm not gonna make the excuses for it i'm not gonna use anger to hide it i'm not gonna use drugs to hide it i'm gonna prevail i'm gonna get it out of me open your mouth and holler [Applause] open your mouth and holler open your mouth open your mouth till the yolk breaks open your mouth till the weight lifts open your mouth till the enemies defeated this poor man cried under god something is about to happen in this play open up your mouth i gotta get it out you go ahead and be cute but i gotta get it out before i kill myself before i kill my marriage before i kill my prophecy before i kill my promise i gotta get it out i gotta get it out i gotta get it out i worry about my husband i worry about a child i gotta get it out of me get it out get it out get it out get it out tonight open your mouth and get it out tonight get it out get it out your abandonment your rejection your story your anger your frustration get it out [Music] i gotta get it out before i mess up my life i got to get it out i potted it up at night i got to get it out i'm trying to try to eat over top of it i'm getting fat over top of it i'm getting frustrated over there i gotta get it out open your mouth the devil don't want you to be free but i never don't dare you to open your mouth i got a plan i got a plan i'm not gonna leave this service till i get it out open your mouth and get it out [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] i gotta get it out you gotta be cute but i gotta get it out you gotta be important now but i gotta get it out you gotta be dignified but i gotta get it out you tell anybody [Music] i gotta get it out tonight [Music] both your heads up and shout out to god [Music] get it out get it out get it out [Music] [Music] get out of my grand babies get out of my mama get out of my daddy i gotta get it out i gotta get it [Music] [Music] now listen at me real good yeah yeah that baby coming it's coming out it's yolks are breaking all around this room is coming out releases happening in this place it's coming out god enjoying surgery c-sections are happening yolks are breaking depression is breaking things you're buried are coming up out of your belly [Music] this poor man cried and the lord heard [Music] you better give god something to hear you better give god something to hear you better give god something to hear you better give god something to hear give god something to hear give god something to hear give god something he can hear give god something he can hear give god something he can hear give god something he can hear give god something he can hear give god something he can hear give god something he can hear give god something he can hear give god something he can hear give god something he can hear give god something he can hear lay your hands right on his back give god something he can hear give god something he can hear give god something he can heal you're watching online give god something he can hear you're watching on the internet give god something he can hear [Music] [Music] don't you know if you open your mouth you get the victory tonight months of bitterness years of pain decades of confusion if you open your mouth at night out of your bellies [Music] watch this i'm almost finished here's the plan isaiah 53 3-4 he is despised and rejected a man a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief and we hear it as it were our faces from him he was despised and we esteemed him not surely surely surely he have borne our creeps and caring our sorrows why are you carrying what jesus has already carried he was rejected he was abandoned so that he could carry your grief if you carry that grief home tonight you're a fool [Music] you

Channel: T.D. Jakes

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Id: KgE_ugEnm3Q

Length: 71min 32sec (4292 seconds)

Published: Thu Aug 04 2022