S1E4: Adulting | Naa Ashorkor

we got this africa proudly brought to you by fry tall fry tall you deserve to be well [Music] girl listen sometimes when i think about the fact that i'm in my 30s i worry that life is passing me by while i'm busy trying to figure out how to be an adult i'm not traveling as much as i would like to i spend more time making cocoa and stuff than i spend on my skincare routine and staying in shape in your 30s can be so hard don't get me started on money responsibilities and all of the pressure that comes with me in your 20s but then again i'm thankful i'm actually happy that i'm out of the 20s bracket at this time i can only imagine the pressure that comes with being 20 something in 2020 and 2021 2022 and so on when social media pressure is at its highest finding love at a time like this can be really hard when most people are perceived to be fake and pretentious and posing and so on today on we got this africa i'm going to be talking to two 20 something year olds and we're going to be talking about adulting join these times my name is na ashako you're welcome you're watching we got this africa today we're talking adulting and i have miss jews girls how are you doing i'm good how is life like how are you guys doing do you want the short version the fake version or the the in-between order another how are you doing one day at a time literally i think that's that's the easiest way to put it one day at a time right now i would say i'm good but maybe tomorrow i'll wake up and be like oh my god like what's happening oh i wake up he's like okay girl you feeling yourself okay i'm feeling amazing like today light it up because you look amazing okay i'm feeling myself but then i mean it's always ups and downs there's never a there's never a straight like i'm i'm good no but to be fair i'm more of a positive person so i don't really like to dwell on negative stuff so usually i am good but we do have days where just like i just want to be under my duvet and i want to close the curtains and i don't want anybody to call my name because i'm too busy and i just want a holiday i just want a holiday oh yeah don't we all how about you how you doing a little bit okay okay with work i think for love i don't want to go there i mean no sometimes i i feel i might never get married no yes because nowadays everybody is like your mother too hard wow the way even my friends sometimes you'll be at work and the ones that are married don't go like in t when are you getting married how old are you i'm 27. okay and so sometimes you sit down and i wonder and some people are oh i'm celebrating my second year anniversary and i'm like i don't even have a boyfriend how am i going to start was the last time you had a boyfriend last two years ago ooh i've been single two years yes two okay is it hard to find love yes it is hard it is hard i mean the the one i was with everything was okay but he had he we just abused you verbally and he thinks it's normal it's okay for you to i mean oh drive the thing oh stupid oh that and you know what time to me i i i started compromising on that oh that's how it is so let me just find a way to just deal with it so yeah from the outside everything was so cool but instagram relationships yeah i mean i don't do instagram but i mean couple people when you're going everywhere where's your boyfriend like where you're going everybody asks you where's your boyfriend and i'm like i want to live with him you know what yeah so with that and two years down the line it would be like a pretty you're beautiful how come you don't have a man or if you're white that was always hard so for work i'm really really focused on work i work two jobs yeah yes so i have my corporate then i have the radio so back to back and within that you have people coming in asking you so when can we get away where can you go and i'm like oh my word i was like really like all of a sudden they're like hey you know that's something i remember my 22 when i was in my 20s and sometimes something i feel that i probably should have relaxed on a bit because i was always working yeah um from 20 all the way to 29 ish or 28 ish i was always working out i was always working at least three jobs so i i remember in my 20s i just entered charter house and i was on miss malaika i was on guests who's coming for dinner and then i was also doing production you know in the back and i was doing stage plays i was doing films so at the same time we did perfect picture adam samples and so on i was doing film and then i was still in school wow and then i had my family so i was always busy busy busy busy busy and if you ask me now if i had would have done it different sometimes i feel like i would have yeah taking time sometimes like what exactly i think i probably would have traveled more that's you know one thing i love doing so we haven't loved their jobs and gone no and that's the tough part about being because you feel like when you're in your 20s like that's how i felt this is the time to figure life out do you feel that way then who gives us that pressure actually because i feel like that like oh my goodness by 25 i'm supposed to find my man by 26. have you found your man no sis okay 26 we're supposed to be together for like a year then we get engaged then we get married at 28 then we spend you know a year traveling the world you know we get let me start having children i'll have my first child the second one by 30 and then you know life is golden but you know 20 is coming thinking girl how old are you 28. there's no bait inside and do you know what i think my issue is what's it i feel like a lot of guys are intimidated by me because of your fancy accent not my accent not my accent but like dorothy always working i mean i like nice things and so i have to work hard for them okay so i'm always liking you know you see drew on holidays because i like traveling eating good food but there's nobody sponsoring it it's actually me so i'm walking working all these different jobs i actually started my first job when i was 15. wow wow so i've been working non-stop and that's why i'm just like i need a break like i need a break but it's who is the who is it that gave us this perception or me the perception that 25 be married yeah the house all that stuff where did it come from you have friends that are around you know to be fair lots of my younger cousins at 25 they got married then you've got friends you know they get they've come have babies and you're just like doesn't make you feel like i'm i'm growing old and i'm missing out i definitely feel like i'm getting old and sometimes this is like i'm so happy for you but god when is it gonna be me or like oh you know i'm so happy but maybe let me just finish sorting all my life out and then i'll be ready to just relax and focus 100 on kids and family and finding being um basically so do you do you find that you have friends who feel like you like or do you find that all your friends are getting your friends have it figured out okay for me it looks like everyone looks like i don't know about them they make it look like everything they have everything figured out the least thing is every time all right i was talking to this guy i think you'll be he'll be right for you they're trying to help you yeah like you're always into relationships then it's like oh my god i'm going to put you on a blind date yeah oh there's this guy maybe you can see how we go on blind dates in ghana oh yeah maybe the person ends up your friend who ends up being late and then it's just waiting for this person then it's just the two of you yeah yeah yeah and does it work out um sometimes it's weird especially when maybe you have a preference and maybe the person do you have a checklist um now i've done it a week joke about the fact that when women are around 22 yeah they want a certain kind of man i don't want to describe this kind of life let me just say often it's a very tall man yes i don't know the better ones makes baby sakura that's what my grandmother says the ones that are taller because i'm not going to lie there aren't that many tall guys in here men are shooting what twice is that fancy people yeah i'm average average average height so what are the two men at the top very very very tall okay so we so you want a tall light skin mixed race perfect teeth yes and hair that you can play with you play with and give me kids that you know how about money that money yeah i'm doing well if it's a bologna i'll take it but you know i don't play my cards but he has to be focused i like people that are very smart yeah like play with me okay yeah so so that list is gone yeah do you have a list at all now oh yeah i have what's the list would you have be employed and not believe in your mother's house at least i have intentions of moving out absolutely no yeah so not a garment oh i don't mind because well you said living in your mother's house it just kind of reminded me of you know um if you are dead you have intentions of you take your time preparing you'll be like it doesn't taste like my mother's go back to your mother go back even though it took you that long to find him you'll send them back do you have a list um i don't have the list as in looks anymore but you really i used to have not even really i mean i'm more of a personality person than it looks so it's weird all my exes if you're watching i don't think they're all that pretty but um yeah but a man must be ugly and fearful no really yeah and mad must be ugly and fearful yeah yeah that's a new one oh you didn't know you didn't i didn't know for me i just think he needs to be god-fearing and he just needs to understand my job because i'm not gonna i'm not gonna stop working you know i'm in the entertainment team media all that kind of stuff i just need someone that understands my hustle is able to support me and you know if your personality is lit then hallelujah but i don't even think i can have anyone that's as loud as me because no one will come to our house but they not imagine well it gets complicated um so i'm telling you this gun joke you guys might have heard it but it's said that when women are in their early 20s they have this list tall man good job god fearing stable good heart sense of humor sense of humor loves kids we'll go to the salon with me and so on by the time we are 27 we you know we just want you know um still tall though yeah 26 still tall tall man god fearing has money his own house and a couch yeah thank you very much and by the time with that you were you know 35 ish going you know just what a man oh just like god i just want a man in my in my chair says i had a teacher who always said this that a man must be ugly and fearful and impossible smelling so because yeah it was a joke so you don't want a man that's all like selfie a man that's taking selfies all the time and looking better than you and you know smells better than you because she knows how many like to take care of themselves yes they're well grouped looking good so white everything everything on point she doesn't like that kind of man and so she planted that in my head as a child you know since i was like in jesus it's something i had heard so many times and so maybe it was at the back of my head a little bit so i never really thought about a pretty boy or yeah you know all that stuff but then thank god for my sunday school the church of pentacles station you know when you're yeah of a life partner you need to think of someone who loves god and they will love you you know when they love god they just you know will love you too anyway we're talking about adulting in 2020 the pressures that come with it and so on and we got this africa stay tuned choosing the right oil makes all the difference that is why i always choose fry tone as wilma where phytol is made each and every weka wakes up with you in mind really and for the millions of other homes too there the experts ensure every bottle of frito is rich with great taste that creates memories to last their lifetime brytol is the cholesterol free oil fortified with vitamin a now i know why you cook a fried top enjoy great tasting meals with fried health bright all love your food love your life this advertisement has been vetted and approved by the fda [Music] being in your 20s and 20 to 80 can be tough adulting 101 is what we're talking about today and we got this africa miss drew you're taking me back to you know them dates and one thing i really remember is family pressure like while my family were absolutely chill sometimes i feel like they might be looking at me sideways what's and on with you like especially when it comes to career and life choices do you find that you have that pressure from family at the beginning when i was starting definitely when i came to ghana um my mom was not in favor she was like what are you coming to do like what she means presenting like what is this thing why don't you just be a pharmacist i'm like hey madam please then when i got to ghana like my grandmas were like we don't understand what is this that you're doing you should just find an office job and get married i'm like hey she even told me don't come back to the gun again if you're not coming back with a man i was like oh really like why now i think because they can see you know there's progress and i'm doing well i'm very confident like okay we're just gonna leave you i'm just gonna watch and see what you're doing but once in a while you get the so when is the wedding coming oh my god we'll be like hey my bath is coming soon i'm like honey you better just wait okay did it bring men to the house like no but once actually my auntie tried to you know set me up and she was like she's trying to send me loads of facebook profiles of these random facebook profiles oh this one goes to my church and this one goes to my channel do you go to church not her church i go to church yeah of course do you find that the deaconesses and the female pastors no i haven't i haven't received that yet i mean once in a while my past would be like drew he's coming i'm praying for you so i mean i've got that faith in that hope that how long has it been coming he's coming please come in as relative so no timeliness night time live so the thing about relationships is that the biggest pressure you're getting um me as to okay before i really got into radio it was all about what are you doing because you're waiting live and you're like oh you've completed university i mean can't you just go get a job just like your friends and i'm like a mom i don't want to be that nine to five yeah i'm very creative you know i like doing this like i like your instagram is so lit yeah have you seen it she was like okay what you want to do this is going to put money on the table so you know you have to and i was good at a lot of things i could do marketing i could dance i could talk i could i can do a whole lot so it was also a challenge to me now dancing what do you want to do with yourself yeah do you want us i want to do teeth i want to do radio okay right now it's not happening so go get a job so i think a friend of mine called me and told me you know you can speak well why didn't you get into market i was like ah marketing again if you don't have sales i mean you're stressing your pressure i don't want that i was like no try i mean come out of your confident level and you get to meet people as well so i wanted to realize and it was good so i was there that was when i got a little to come back on radio oh no and now i said you are not going anywhere so do your parents still decide what you need to do not really but they feel like they have a say in because i'm like you know i don't live in a house okay i moved yeah yeah i moved in 2017. that was when i've gone was it hard to it was it was hard it was hard my mom there she was like if you're not coming back because she was actually mad my mom is very loud so you live really mad you live at your own place yes so 2017 i got a place and my my woman was the only one that is really constant so can i come and see it can i you know you just wanted to know the first one i was leaving with people are the other ladies from other parts of like media from um okay also here and one had a child so with that one my stepdad had to come in come and expect oh it was so bad like so embarrassing yes come and inspect the place and you were about 24 yeah 23 24. yeah that was i was doing my service and i was doing tv alongside and everything so it was like okay let me come in and spare a couple of people yeah yeah yeah so she he came in and he said that okay one lady was having a child at least this one is responsible yeah so yeah every time you call her and ask her oh is she behaving is she okay but trust me even though it's definitely you know when you're growing up your mom's like oh this person is always studying and this person and i'm like you actually don't even know what this person is really really doing myself so i'm by myself as well like all my family is in london so it's just me here so literally right now before when i first came my mom would be calling every day every what are you doing where are you going when are you coming back then she realized like it's not it's not going to work always answer truthfully no i do i'm go okay no i don't actually okay eighty percent of the time eighty percent of the time is am i a friend what friend a friend for me i'm i'm brutally honest with my stepdad with my family members because i feel like it saves them their time and you don't know who's saying something when you're not around yeah and i think that was one thing my mom used to told me and they used to beat me for that it's not like yeah yeah you want the truth out of you but when you tell me you are here if we hear that something is happening to you yeah that's what's going on but if you're saying and something is happening so we are telling you that's that's the thing it's not because you want to come in and see what you're doing so one time i was like my boyfriend and my stepdad called and he asked that question where are you i said my boyfriend bye angry he was so angry later he was like thank you for telling me the truth so i'm very very honest with my my family and also you also want to know exactly where you're living how much you're paying for rent my auntie and you as she will tell you the truth if what you're earning and what you're paying for rent doesn't match someone is sponsoring that i want to know this here's the thing so i was even i have friends that are living in like flash you know good places like they're paying two thousand dollars and then wow where i am i i don't want anybody in my matches box so is that exciting so anytime i tell you let's meet out because my my when my colleague sam and i don't feel comfortable that's what you can afford how much are you paying for this how much how much you and she does the calculation and she said now this mom is a capitalist and come go and look for another place yeah if there's a problem there's a problem so i remember when i left home i left home earlier than you both and that's when i was 20. wow my own place when i was 20. wow but then i had a job i had two jobs because i was still in school so that was when i went to chatham house first in fact that's when the whole rule of course first of my life started i started working at fest at about 18 years old at the national theatre i was on osha so i used to usher and i tell you all the people i used to usher like i used to usher pretty much for every show i used to do like four ships yeah so i'll usher a government some meeting in the morning then i'll usher some end of year something for some companies in the afternoon and i'll do concert party around four o'clock then i'll do like vgmas in the evening yeah so that was when i actually got to meet a lot of people in the industry so sometimes people like george quay or the other malaika queens i'm like you don't remember me do you i used to show you to your seats at the nationals so that's when i i had to um get an apartment just near chatham house right across the street and i remember my parents were very supportive in fact they never had any issues they just trusted me they never had any issues and they came to see my place they helped me clean it up set it up i didn't have any furniture i just had a mattress it was somewhere around north carolina and it was very affordable then i didn't i was ending 300 cities a month and my rent was not up to 100 cities oh then that's good but this is 11 years ago 12 years ago things have changed a long time ago and i haven't gone back home since oh yeah so i've been living by yourself you're doing well wow independent thought about it that way yeah yeah wow yeah actually i'm so proud of myself right now but but yeah my parents are always very supportive and they just let me be and because of the trust that they had in me i had to make sure i was living right yeah you know i had to make sure because i remember one time i went to frankie's my mother called me and said where are you look my hat like my mother asked me well and i was just buying ice cream i wasn't i wasn't up to nothing i was just buying ice cream it's like somebody just asked why somebody see me come on auntie i see me so i just let my mama come back and when i went home i called and said i'm home yeah yeah i remember that day so vivid like i went home because i didn't want anything in trouble yesterday and i was because if you work at chatham house you know that we're always working so i was actually always working on school yeah that's really not up to anything so did you were you able to have a social life then when you were working this much i didn't have a social media friend at that time so i had a boyfriend who worked at chatham house revolves and i think you guys might find that it's true or in fact any workaholic will have to find lava the place where they work really because how are you going to find out you don't have time though that's what i think when are you going to find time to meet them if they're always working so here's my story i love that so my boyfriend worked at multiple concepts like it was another department of chatter house i handled marketing and you know stuff like that okay and then i was at production so we didn't work together okay the same building but then production is always out yeah so we're always somewhere oh and then he went in the office but i saw him often and then i gave away school together so he was a gig too so oh wow yeah so that's how i was able to have a good relationship because i was there right yeah and i was always busy but at least i was there but when you date someone who's out of your industry and you're a workaholic and you never see them and you won't know where they are boiling water yeah because social media like people are acting kind of way i'm trying to play prank on him i'm trying to see if he loves me so drama involve a lot of people there to you know your friends at work and all that and nowadays we can't keep things to ourselves right everybody wants everybody to know that i'm having that life so it's chinese even if they're all that pressure yes sometimes i do i do because sometimes they wonder so how how do you get something i was like how do i get you how do you guys get that how do you get somebody when you stop saying them like oh you were a bad child asking me then you know it's hard it's so so hard and sometimes they were like okay and moving from one person to the other and everything make sure you're bad you get a bad name and all that and sometimes you know your fault the person coming in is lying to you how do you know that you tell me you're serious with me i wouldn't come and put a cell life on you to see what you're doing so later on i found out you're cheating or you're doing something else and i leave you so many that shouldn't date again i think that's how come i'm not really going in for anything because i also don't want another situation where it will end badly and then then there's a problem with you i am not the problem does that mean you have trust issues then so if the if the guy is abusing you verbally he's not even touching but it's wrong it is wrong it is true even emotional abuse one time my best friend was like ah okay so are you lucky he's just i'm giving you verbally he's not sure which one you're lucky you're like yes sometimes that mind sets it somewhere you gotta check that why do [Music] you're watching we got this africa a conversation on adulting 2020 continues right after this [Music] choosing the right oil makes all the difference that is why i always choose fry tone as wilma where frytoll is made each and every worker wakes up with you in mind really and for the millions of other homes too there the expects ensure every bottle of frito is rich with great taste that creates memories to last their lifetime brytol is the cholesterol free oil fortified with vitamin a now i know why you cook a fried tomato enjoy great tasting meals with friday friday love your food love your life this advertisement has been vetted and approved by the fda [Music] my if you just joined us you're watching we got this africa and today my 20 something year olds got this yes yeah kevin yes so so i remember in my 20s i used to worry about money and the future and whether i'll be a ritual woman because i saw a video um about some i think one of our very celebrated actors who was sick and old and was struggling and i thought oh my god this is the path i have chosen would i be poor and struggling when i'm old so i remember at that time i started thinking about money and how i can save so at the time i was in 300 cities i wanted to buy a car i wanted some nice clothes and i also wanted to save so i had i think two years on after i started work at tv africa and when i went to charter house i met this fashion designer pestis the one who makes my coat so when i met her i met in 2009 and i thought her clothes were so nice but i couldn't afford to just be buying them at the time so i remember i used to buy one dress from every four months so i used to save up so that every four months i could buy one pistol's dress because i thought that i needed nice clothes that way you know at that time i was like two to two so i was like so so my this was what i used to use my money for when i end my money i would pay my tights and then i'll save money for my car and then i'll buy a dress and then the rest of it will blow it yes literally literally so i remember like as i as i advanced like when i sat in a thousand cities now i started doing 10 times 20 savings and then i buy something nice for myself save for my car and so on so i bought my car four years on i wanted toyota corolla the registration was like b or c oh wow so so i remember thinking about money a lot at that age and now when i think about it i think i was really young but is it something that like heavy on your minds like where am i going my future like in the next 10 years how much will i have can i afford this definitely pensions and stuff like that you think about it definitely for me like at the beginning like you said it was you know you have your job and that's why i had to get another job at the same time so i could at least with this paycheck i know that i'm saving it completely and then this paycheck i'm you know using this amount for here dividing it slowly and giving it to its different places i didn't even acknowledge you know pension i was just thinking about the nice things that i want and in the future um you know i don't want my husband to come and find me and i've got nothing i want to be able to bring something to the table you think that yeah from young it was i need to have something to the table the worst thing i would want is you know he buys more of these things and then go through one day he's like bring it all back and then what will i do so it was always okay i need to have something that is mine i call it my get vex money okay give words get vexed so get fixed so in case there's an emergency or like something has happened i'm not stranded because i could just dip into that vex money and i can spend it that's money but do you have money like you find that you have my i have money i'm cool it's no it's literally like you were well i was struggling to survive after i finish you know paying for this paying for this pain for this back in london it's so hard you after you pay for your bills you pay your times you put your money in to say you just have this amount and it's either you buy the dress you buy that nice meal or you save it for the holiday is is even one of those three and because you're young is like oh what what am i supposed to do so i'm this type of person i can save hard but then when i decide i'm going on a shopping spree there's only like change lessons yeah for me for me for me i had to i had to save because literally living on my own in accra here i'm not going to face i don't like my they tell me i'm very independent i don't like asking for money because if you don't give it to me it's bloody why it's like that i become a little bit rude as to who should give me that kind of thing so i wouldn't even come and ask because i know the answer i said i want to ask for 200. you give me 50 54. like can i give you back my money so i i told myself you know what it's better i save and apart from that my firstborn as well so i i wouldn't want my my junior brothers and a sister coming to me that they need something and i can't afford it yeah my grandmother is always telling me that that you're the first child everybody's looking at what i like it or not so imagine that after 20 years 50 years you're still living your mother's house and your little brothers making it in life these times i'm like but you don't need the first one within the bible shall we carry something but isn't it impossible to be able to really see yes it is possible it is possible when my job like this when i started i already have my insurance i have three i'm doing with enterprise for my mother for my lifetime and for education because i i plan on going back to school to do my master's to teach you all of these things yeah i started no funny enough when i was doing my internship back in uni you had people coming in those people enterprise insurance would come in they would sit you down and they tell you about it you need it but after that time i wasn't getting like regular pay so i did and i stopped so when i started um real estate i told myself that no what i'm doing no matter what i need to put money aside to to to in case something should happen to my mother my traditional person in a way you'll be called another fresh child yeah and you're old enough they should add you if they ask you for something you should provide so you know what i need to ensure myself my mom and and my education because i really i really want to go back to school that was a side then apart from that other friend also that's telling me that you know saving dollars saving dollars i didn't understand that so when i get money i change it in dollars and i put out a bank like that so with time right now i have close to 2 000. well like i don't touch it i don't touch it at all then i realized that if the money is there and y'all know he's not afraid anything it's just there i'm not getting more i'm not getting less so you need to do more so i was having i was having a small car car morning yeah i was 2017 i bought it when i was doing my service because i was working was really good i needed a car so when i bought it and i started working i wanted i didn't want to do copyright at that time so i turned into a taxi okay oh and so used it for like a year yeah for no it's actually like commercial taxi so i had a driver come in and he was giving me foundations every entry of the year yeah okay girl were you i was just three years ago so i was like twenty twenty four nice yes i had to i had to wow you have you have some cousins even calling i've seen they see you on tv they need money although can you lend me yeah i can't give you the money but instead of 500 i can give you a hundred i will not take back what about that yeah because if i give the money and you come you're not paying me you never lend money to family your friends that you are yeah i'm always making deals i can give you 500 but i need 150 i'll take you back what about that okay sounds good and i'll send it to you that is what i was so with saving is a big deal so now 2020 i was talking to my friends and i was like you know we come working for people forever because i'm here bringing in twenty thousand dollars fifty thousand i sell houses and i can make that for somebody how what am i doing for myself am i saying how am i even going to spend my commission because commission comes and you're thinking of hair makeup and everything so i have a small book i write what i need to do with my commercial right now i don't i don't really have a car because i sold it people keep calling me um are you are you going i get caught in them it's like the uber thing and i i used for taxis so it's kind of weak you know always giving me problems and everything because the guy was using the 24 7 back to back to the other yes i wanted to ask you when you were growing up did you have someone teaching you how to save teaching you that you need to save you need to pick this um you know so i i lent these things from all of those seminars i was ushering for so i used to usher for these seminars at the national theatre where they talk so people pay to come for all of these events like springboard was it springboard i'm not sure but these events that teach you about life right the importance of saving an investment the importance of having a life plan the importance of even knowing your self-worth and all of those things so as an usher i would stand at the doors and i'd listen i'd really listen and that's where i learned a lot of things that's why i even learned that you need to be able to write these things down yeah even things like self-affirmations like things you want from god yeah so like at the beginning i told god god this year i want to be able to host 10 events i want each event to pay me at least 5 000 cities so that i can have this amount of money by the end of the year like those days those are the kind of prayers i prayed good and i learned all of these things from this event nobody really taught me and some of the one of the things i really wish i had taken seriously was mentorship or having someone to hold your hand and teach you about life because forgiveness all by yourself it's not funny just makes it longer it makes it look like every step is good it makes it very crucial it's hard so i remember when i decided to go to law school i had money to pay my school fees like just hit school fees pay hostel continue to pay for my car my life everything and i was about 24 so so i realized how great it was for me to be exposed to all of these things but i was lucky i don't think that's it yeah oh exactly i suppose such information so if i if i if i could advise you guys i'll tell you listen like take advice from people who have got the head of you and don't be asking like a big question the little ones like the little questions like so when i i have a spreadsheet on my on my laptop which is always open and it's money like it's money so i know that for influencing for this brand they'll pay me one thousand cds for this one thousand six ten percent is going to my time i still do ten percent thirty percent saving six percent investment so that's fifty percent so the remaining fifty percent is so i actually have a calculator about it ten percent of this amount is this ten percent twenty percent of this and so you should see my phone my notepad like it's it's always full of like money breakdowns this is how we do it yeah and so when something hits you at least you can find some money yeah to go and you know you know pay for it and ease it so so that's what money is very important even when you're choosing a partner yeah of all the things that you think about you should think about the money and you should have the money conversation have the money compensation yeah so you get money how are you doing it this person is going here and sometimes people feel like oh when i answer my only 100 ghana cds you have to pay your tip it depends on your faith but for me definitely you have to pay 10k and at least save 10 ghana cities and invest another 10 ganache you you don't say 100 cities is too small look sometimes at this point in my life i do some things that pay me not so much like less than a thousand dollars like very small money like some you know little things here and there i still apply the same rule and thank god my church accepts mobile money tights now yeah so i just mobile my tax you know then i i do i use express pay to move this up so i have various accounts for various things i have an account for my savings i haven't account for my investments and then i have the money where we that we spend so i just i'm on an expressway i moved this year i moved this year moved this year so i never have cash because i'm always because the cash you spend you spend it quickly as well so so it can be hard but you guys like you have to be very intentional about it like i must do this i think my i think i need help i need help with that type i need help because i'm a presbyterian by beth and i went to a college school wait can you know the scripture says actually like you open the floodgates of heaven and he will bless you without double doubles i go to actually you know what people have developed beliefs about ties you know that it's supposed to help the work of god so sometimes when you even help somebody yeah with the money yeah that's what people believe but i believe i should pay for the check so the church uses but you have a church you go to right this particular church yes i haven't been to church in so long so long because the children are not are still allowed to come now but i i know that i pay my tithe to this church yes and i will pay it and when i pay it i call the pastor to pray with me because i also believe in that but that's my belief right and every time i don't pay my tithe i struggle trust me like i have this deal and i don't pay my time for this deal i lose it wow it happened to me too many times for me not to know so ask for my tithes i'll pay sometimes you know like because of the kind of work we do sometimes you realize you're running into debts because you paid for so many things that you don't have money yeah and you get new money and you want to go and pay your debts but i would pay my taxes so all human beings but that's all human beings oh god you can't choose god but charlie you know sometimes i feel like when you're on your 20s you need hand holding like someone to just guide you 1000 like you said earlier i wish i had like a mentor or a big sister because i'm the firstborn so i'm literally finding my feet and then they're looking at my little sisters and brothers are looking at the mistakes i made so they're dodging them but you're leaving me to jump into the balls and then you know come out of them even like you know coming coming to ghana i didn't know that i needed to save as much i thought oh okay this amount will be cool and i'll be fine you know it's a bit cheap and living here oh was i wrong and so certain mistakes that now i have made we're still as we're growing old we're growing older i'm still you know having to like reap those i want to say benefits i'm reaping the mistakes that i've gone through that has not but i'm guessing the mistakes have helped guide me to who i am now so i know that okay you know this has happened before so let's do it this way but seriously i wish i had a mentor that or there was some sort of school or that there was something and i'm thinking if it's just me going through this imagine all the other young people that you know they didn't have the opportunity to be standing at a seminar because they were working to get this talk and these things are probably available but then sometimes you have to pay you have to pay it doesn't even occur to you yeah if you don't teach you during your service then you don't know okay me personally it wouldn't be money it should be more i should have you know be less i wouldn't say independent i'm too strong sometimes i come out too strong so i feel like for me if i knew i would have spent more time with family like my parents my i'll be more of a family person because they know authority is good by herself like everybody knows that about me that when i'm suffering nobody knows it's like she'll figure it out on you know it could have i could have actually maybe had it easy by asking somebody to help me or making somebody see my weakness and how vulnerable i am especially with relationship part because it's like i'm perfect with other things when it comes to relationship like you cannot you should see that this person is wrong for you why are you still you know i feel like if i was a little bit closer to family growing up and all that maybe you know they would have guided me or shielded me through some things and also i get through a lot of things just because you know you don't have your family around you but i feel like yeah in ghana here sometimes you know oh nobody will come and beat me up when i mess it up because practically she's alone but if i was closer to family closer to my big uncles you know you know that oh wait if i do this her uncle her grandmother will come for me so i should be very very yeah so i think for me for me out in my 20s what i really wish i had time to do was to let people know that i also get hurt yeah and that if if i have broken heart doesn't mean that i'm not a human being i also feel the head and it makes sometimes people see me and they'll be like you have so much anger in you and i was like yeah i do yes i do and i feel yeah even though it has a good size with us and i push it through what i want to do i it took me a whole year to make a sale and i went hard hard i pressed and i pressed and i pressed that i made and i made three sales so three house within a month and my boss even asked me how did you do it outside determination because i would actually strip naked and pray to god on my knees that i'm not going i'm not giving out what i fight but it has a bad side sometimes i misunderstood like ah why are you coming to beat me like i'm always always i don't relax yeah because i'm one of my defenses if i knock you off that i have to i have to actually like to protect myself no no like not like that but i'm just saying like i'm on you i'm on you don't mess with me don't mess with me because i know i don't have anybody around me to shield me but if i was closer to my parents or my uncles and maybe i don't know i don't think would have been a harder thing just going home when you can spending time with them letting them in and your problem it's not always the bad thing right sometimes i really just feel like we are in the 20s and we do put a lot of pressure on ourselves and we actually have to just go with the motion like yeah there is sometimes beauty in these mistakes and it's beauty and learning and when you get there you're just like you know what if you laugh back at you and you're like i remember when you're not she said because you're a first child you have pressure on you so it's like if you need to be the one with that who has it for yourself exactly because you have your cousins and everything looking out to you anything for you girls i should say you've done so well for yourselves you have done so well for yourselves um you're more than the average 20 something year old wow thank you so you guys have done so well for yourselves and just keep pushing but charlie in the midst of working so hard and trying to be on top and all of that you need to make time for yourself to just let your hair down and change if you have to schedule it schedule it yeah i put it in my diary literally yes every this day it is due time so we just don't do anything i should love when i was younger with no children and no responsibilities why didn't i go to all the tourist sites in ghana yeah that's from just now like i haven't been to castle you know exactly so now now that i'm trying to do those things because i feel like if i don't do them now and i'm 40 i'm going to be like oh i was 30 and young so you are as long as you can be right now this is it so this is the time for keeping fits keeping your body tight and keeping like your skin and and saving your money and spending it too yeah thank you so much for hanging out thank you thank you such a great today and we got this africa thank you so much for watching and if you're adulting i'll be with you we got it [Music] it only makes us [Music] um [Music] we got this africa proudly brought to you by fry tall fry tall you deserve to be well

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Published: Mon Apr 26 2021