r/Relationships I FOUND OUT MY DAD DOESN’T WANT ME! - Reddit Stories

what do you do when you find out your partner made  an AI chatbot of their ex we'll get into that in   a bit but first confronted husband on if he's  having an affair and he asked for a divorce I'm   34-year-old female husband is 35-year-old male we  have two kids 5-year-old female and three-year-old   male the last 12 hours feel like they didn't  happen and I feel like I'm in shock I suspected my   husband was having an affair I made a Reddit post  about it earlier today deleted my account after   all of the advice I checked his phone and found  basically nothing except one logged out of insta   account that I'd never seen before and barely  any following or followers and in screen time   it said he'd been on Instagram for hours every day  when I thought he barely used it after that I was   planning on hiding a camera in our house just to  see but I walked into my room and saw him typing   away on his phone and I just immediately demanded  to see it and who he was texting he didn't show   me and just stared at me I know my face gave  it all away he put it away shut our bedroom   door and told me that he' planned on waiting a bit  longer and that he's sorry but he wants a divorce   he wouldn't give me a specific reason why other  than he thinks it's needed and wouldn't admit   he's having an affair he just stayed quiet I went  into the bathroom for a bit and when I came out he   said he was going to leave tonight but that he'd  be back early tomorrow morning to wake up our kids   and drop them off at school so they didn't think  anything was off and then we can talk more about   next steps and that he'd like us to to have 50/50  custody of them but that he thought it would be   best if I'd found a place to stay by the end of  the weekend and he even offered to freaking help   me find a place and suggested my sister and said  that if I want him out of the house until Sunday   night that's fine he owns our house outright my  name isn't on it so I'm pretty sure he can just   boot me out I know I need to talk to a lawyer but  I don't know where to start I've Googled but just   can't make sense of it all and I want to know  where he is but he's turned off find my friends   so I know he's with her and I know that I need to  be so careful with our kids I thought about just   taking them and going to my sisters but I think  that would be a bad look he's primary caregiver   and a stay-at-home dad and I don't want to have  custody turned into a fight because I think I'd   lose unless I could get proof of his affair I  still haven't told my friends or my sister or   parents and I don't know how and my poor babies  are so little and are going to be so confused I   cannot believe this is happening I can't believe  how calm and cold he was about the whole thing   I think the one silver lining you can possibly  grab on to is at least this was all triggered   and Happening Now rather than going on for God  knows how much longer and perhaps being more   complicated or more painful than it already is I  think op should definitely get a lawyer yesterday   especially if this is in the United States even if  it's just his name on the property you're married   so likely there's some kind of ownership or claim  to that house for you as well well beef stew wrote   don't leave the house no matter what he says that  would be a bad look if you do his already wellth   thought out plan will go in his favor and not  yours please you deserve better also hi I'm Steven   and if you guys enjoy tricky relationship topics  why not hit those like And subscribe buttons down   below that said our next story is my 25-year-old  female best friend 24-year-old male proposed to   me I'm confused and mortified where can we go from  here frankly I'm still in shock that this happened   so this might be all over the place bear with me  all fake names Etc Jordan and I met in University   2 years ago we both started at the same time and  because of our ages we were both considered mature   students so we quickly became firm friends as we  shared a dorm and we joke around together about   us being old enough to be considered mature in our  early 20s we weren't on the same course but given   we'd Liv together we would hang out pretty much  all the time whenever we didn't have a lecture we   joined a bunch of societies together went drinking  every weekend together Etc it was a pretty sweet   gig because it meant we were at least never alone  obviously we made other friends both alone and   together but we were always each other's number  one at the end of the day at the moment we're on   Spring holidays for Easter and while we haven't  hung out constantly we decided to make plans to   visit each other's hometowns because we're from  very starkly different places today we went to   to mine mine is a big city central this morning  we went there and were wandering down the streets   doing some sightseeing because he's never been  there's typically a lot of Street sellers here   trying to sell you everything from hot dogs  to fluffy Pokemon hats I decided I wanted to   get a caracature done I'd never had one and I  thought it would be funny to get and hang over   my bed when we got back for term I asked Jordan  if he wanted to get in and he refused no worries   so I sat down to get it done they don't take  very long 5 to 10ish minutes so I stayed looked   straight forward at the artist the entire time he  finished the caricature I loved it so obviously I   turned to show it properly to Jordan when I turn  though I literally don't even know what to say   he's down on one knee holding up a ring box I  don't even really know what he said if he did   the whole like proposal speech thing because I  was so confused I was barely paying attention   remember again this is a super busy tourist City  so this has drawn a mini crowd now coming over   to cheer us on I couldn't help but burst into  laughter to be honest I thought this was some   kind of odd prank type thing we never have been  prankster types or whatever but I couldn't come   up with a reasonable explanation so I just laughed  and laughed until I looked at Jordan and he looked   genuinely heartbroken so obviously I asked him  something along the lines of you're not being   serious this is the only thing I remember him  saying he shut the box stood up Shrugged and   said I guess not anymore and walked off this left  me standing pretty awkwardly in this gathered   crowd of people a lot of who were giving me dirty  looks which made me incredibly uncomfortable the   plan was to meet up back at a hotel that we had  booked rooms next door to one another so I figure   that's where he's going and head back that way  but he's not there so I wait and I wait and he   still doesn't return I text him out of concern  this was at 1:15 p.m. it's currently 6:20 p.m.   as I'm writing this just asking if he's okay he  responds with a long message back which I would   post because it's an odd read but I won't out  of respect for his privacy in which he basically   accuses me of leading him on asking why I didn't  break up with him sooner saying I had publicly   humiliated him and that he thought I loved him  the same way and that he felt our relationship was   strong enough to consider taking the next step now  this is completely out of left field I literally   have got no idea where in the world he's got  this idea from the closest we've ever physically   been is a hug hello and goodbye I've never even  jokingly flirted with him for exactly this reason   I've had too many friendships collapse because  they can't tell the difference between serious   interesting and joking banter and friendships so  I've been extra careful to not we've never kissed   never been on a date never had sex I do not find  him physically attractive and I wouldn't want to   be in a relationship with him I don't understand  where on Earth he's got this idea that we are this   isn't something he's ever brought up before this  and I'm genuinely bewildered he hasn't returned to   the hotel yet I periodically knocked a check and  I've been listening out for him walking up the   hallway or anything nothing I haven't responded to  his long paragraph because honestly I don't know   how to I'm just so stunned and taken a back that  I genuinely have no idea where to go from here or   what to do I haven't told anyone I know in person  yet mostly because I don't want to bring this up   to people who know Jordan so here I am turning to  strangers on Reddit instead what in the world do   I do I mean I don't know what world this guy's  living in but from what op described it sounds   like they didn't have anything close to an actual  relationship at least not any relationship that   you would consider past being friends the only  excuse that could reasonably come to my mind is   this guy just had absolutely zero experience or  exposure to the idea of what a relationship ever   is I feel like even people who get to 24 and  have never been in any relationship whatsoever   still have a rationalization and a clear idea of  when it's appropriate and not to to propose to   somebody some netting wrote has he ever been in a  relationship before like actually had a girlfriend   is he like the type of a fundamentalist Christian  who believes in no kissing before marriage or   something I don't know my instinct would be to ask  him to talk with you and have it pointing out all   the ways in which you're not actually dating never  asked each other out on a date specifically no   physical intimacy like when does he remember this  relationship being official but then again he's   probably off of his rocker a bit if he's created  this delusion in his head I think you're going   to have to walk away from this friendship can you  reach out to any Mutual ual friends and ask them   their take on this if you trust them not to gossip  our next story is I 22-year-old female just caught   my mom 42-year-old female sexting while still  being married to my dad 51-year-old male and she   knows that I know and I don't know what to do so  this happened within the past oh couple of hours   I 22-year-old female had just gotten home today  for my small break my college has Good Friday off   when my dad 51-year-old male asked me to check my  mom's 42-year-old female's computer as she's been   acting suspicious like closing browsers when  he walks into the room suspicious so I went   onto her laptop I know the password and booted up  her Discord I found some incriminating things and   awful things she's talking to multiple people  and lying to all of them she has fabricated a   different woman a different life for all of them  I wasn't being sneaky enough and and after I found   the real incriminating stuff like sexting and  couple talk stuff and whatnot I scrolled through   so much and I was still in March and I have no  idea where it began we have two mobile homes and   my room and my mom's office is in the one that  we used to all live in and I tried to call my   dad over as I wasn't willing to take pictures  though I was okay with taking pictures of the   chat that had actual pictures I don't know but  something in my mind felt horrified when things   were being described and he couldn't write way  I thought that it was my mom coming over so I   quickly shut down her laptop for the second time  which is where I freaked up but it was my dad I   tried to get back into her Discord which she had  now logged out of through her phone she knows that   I know and she probably knows that my dad knows  as well and I'm not sure what to do with all of   this or what to say if she confronts me about it  do any of you have any thoughts or advice this is   also not the first time she's done this as she has  done this before when I was really young I think   op's Dad needs to know even if op didn't screen  cap all of that stuff which I don't blame them   especially if it's containing any pictures of your  mom doing that kind of stuff let alone describing   the kind of stuff I think snooping in general is  a pretty awful thing but you did it you found out   the truth and it's a very painful and blatant  truth that I think the dad needs to know zongle   waggle wrote just tell your dad Jesus all these  people telling you to just run run away and it's   none of your business horrible people your mom  is cheating on your dad if it was the other way   around people would be screaming for you to tell  your mom your mom sounds like a horrible person   this next story is my fiance 29-year-old male has  been sending pcks of me 29-year-old female without   permission how can I talk to him without blowing  up I just recently found out my fiance 29-year-old   male of 5 years has been sending intimate pics  of me 29-year-old female to his friends without   my consent hav yet confronted him and am unsure  how to go about it in the Heat of the Moment he   has always been respectful as far as I know up to  this point where sexting is concerned I'm confused   why now he'd feel the need to share this with  his male friend how can I address this current   issue without blowing up to move forward in the  long-term relationship so I think the problem   here is Opie is asking how do I confront him  so that we can move forward me and Opie in this   situation would have very different priorities  if I were an OP shoes I would be considering   stuff like legal action you go and do something  like that and you break not just my trust but my   privacy then I'm not trying to think about how to  keep the long-term relationship going forward I'm   thinking compensation either Financial or in the  comfort of knowing there's some legal book that   got thrown at him our next story is my husband  30-year-old male and I 31-year-old female had a   major argument about 2 years ago I know I went  too far but thought we were past it my husband   wants to divorce do I have any hope context when  the incident that led to all of this happened my   husband and I had been married for 3 years his  family became physically and emotionally harmful   to the point that he filed restraining orders  and cut them out of his life shortly after he   graduated college about 2 years ago my husband and  I were on an anniversary vacation he was having   some trouble with keeping track of his belongings  and kept asking me to help him double check that   he had all of his stuff before we left hotels  restaurants Etc I honestly have a hard time   with doing that because my family was basically a  group of fully independent people who lived in the   same house while he came from a more communal  home where everything was done as a team task   and everyone checked on each other to make sure  everyone had what they needed vacations aren't   really his thing so he lets me plan them all to  my liking and very rarely makes many requests for   them at all Ed it he doesn't refuse to help  it's just that I have way more I care about   on vacations than him so he lets me call the  shots for them it's kind of what I prefer he   made a request to make sure that we went to one  restaurant in particular during this particular   vacation which was to a town I'd been to many  times before I hadn't checked to make sure said   restaurant would be open on the day that i'  planned to go there and sure enough we pulled   up to find out it was closed he got pretty upset  with me because he couldn't believe I hadn't done   my due diligence to ensure we did the only thing  I asked for on this entire trip he started to tell   me that when he and his family used to plan trips  they'd call and check hours of desired places   between his insistence that he wished I could  operate more communally like his family did and   getting so mad about this restaurant I had gotten  fed up with being compared to others and snapped   at him do you want to go back to your family  if you hate the way I do things so much he was   stunned silent got up and walked out of the car  and down the road from our hotel until I finally   called him around 30 minutes later in the moment  that I said that I wasn't thinking about the   context in which he had moved on from his family  or anything like that I was only trying to make   the point that he could find people whose ways he  preferred if he didn't like my ways yes I fully   realized that I went way too far with that comment  regardless of what my intent was in the two years   since I have never felt the same warmth from him  ever again he has continued to remain beautiful as   a spouse and mostly treats me the same but I just  know his Vibe and presence and it's never been the   same I have apologized profusely many times but it  still hasn't seemed to fix anything Flash Forward   yesterday my husband has headed out of town with  some fellow teachers from his school where he   works on a sponsored teacher training conference  he informed me that he was filing for divorce and   that I would have time while he was out of town  to process things he isn't planning on fighting   me for any possession told me to take whatever I  wanted and told me that he had this on his mind   for the last few months which was why he picked up  extra hours at a second job to pay off our shared   debts before he filed for divorce Assuming he's  telling the truth and I've never caught him in   a lie he's doing therapy with an online therapist  for the last year and he's still not able to move   past how much I hurt him he said that he loves me  but cannot stay with me if he doesn't feel safe   that I won't cross lines and hurt him in ways like  this I I am absolutely stunned I never meant to   hurt him in the way I did but we're all human and  have bad moments and make mistakes sometimes huge   ones it's hard for me to reconcile the fact that  he has remained as dutiful as ever while unsure of   whether or not he wanted to stay with me he is a  wonderful husband and I'd like to think that save   for my massive mistake I've been a pretty good  wife to him also is there anything I can do to   save my marriage I mean it honestly sounds like  this was a decision he came to and made a long   time ago and honestly I feel like if there was  a chance if there was hope it would have been   something inspired by him giving you the chance to  try to prove this stuff or work through it before   it got to this point odd welcome 7940 wrote okay  so this is purely a possibility but it comes from   a man married to someone who will never fully  understand his past a lot like the two of you I   think a lot of other things are at play he may  not be sharing with you so someday those will   need to be addressed if you can turn this around  that said about your comment I come from a set of   traumas even some of my best childhood friends  had no clue about people in my home every day   hanging out didn't understand I still came from  love love and abuse love and lost people love and   addicts love and a lot of evil so when I try to  share about my past it can be hard to see where   one ends and another begins a lot of children from  crazy pasts end up in that same boat so we try to   bring the good with us and leave the bad but we  don't always see the difference your husband was   walking a dangerous road without realizing it he  brought up his past he opened a door and you took   a bad step through it you thought it was just an  aggressive statement however to him you took all   the good from his past and declared it as bad to  him he likely feels you basically said everything   that made him or who he is is evil that is tough  to let go of that is almost impossible to let go   of in fact I would bet deep down the reason  your husband is such a good diligent husband   even though he was falling apart is because he is  terrified of his past being what defines him so he   gives it 110% and never repeat the evil things he  dealt with horribly he's also afraid if his whole   past is bad and he can't hold on to the good he  will never know who he is he also probably feels   entirely alone in that struggle if this is true  and you want any chance to fix this your only hope   would be to explore his past with him offer to  listen show a real desire to actually understand   it all my wife initially thought of my past as  just my past like most normal people until the day   I told her she actually has no clue who the heck  I am and probably never will she didn't even argue   really she did however start asking more and more  she did show a genuine desire to want to find out   she asked things out of true curiosity she took a  Broken Man Who everyone thought was fine a perfect   husband she took him and made the small child  inside of him feel not alone for the first time   in 20 plus years maybe that's what you may need to  try to do sorry for rambling by the way even if I   am wrong and this isn't your solution I wish you  the best I also wish it for him this next story   is husband 35-year-old male made chat boox of his  ex I 34-year-old female have been married to my   husband D 35-year-old male for 8 years before we  got married he had a serious relationship with W   for about 3 years which ended when he found out  she had been cheating on him the entire time to   someone she's now married to this messed D up  pretty bad although by the time we met he was   pretty much over it or said he was and acted like  he was we've never had trust issues or whatever I   noticed about a month ago that he was being weird  with his phone I didn't think much at first and   didn't Snoop but then I noticed he had what looked  like a messaging app open and the name of the top   was W's name the idea that he'd be talking to her  was pretty inconceivable but I asked to see the   phone and he got extremely embarrassed and begged  me not to look which I did look and there was a   chat with him and her and a picture of her or so  I thought he told me and I didn't believe it at   first until he proved it that it isn't actually  a chat with her it's an app where you can make   a chat bot and give them a backstory and talk to  them he showed me everything the rest of the ones   he'd made were dumb stuff but the one with W was  basically him replaying when he found out about   her and then Bering her over and over he had like  20 of these he done at least I read through most   of them and there was nothing sexual but a lot of  very aggressive language I'm confused weirded out   full of the ick I do not like w at all but this  doesn't seem healthy or good I told him he really   needed to talk to a therapist to work through  whatever he still needs to work through with W   he's pretty anti that idea which is frustrating  because I am a therapist but the whole thing has   me weirded out and I kind of want to insist on  it he says it's not that weird and that since   he's not even doing any sexual stuff and it's not  causing us any problems it's not really my concern   but then he was hiding it so he kind of knows it's  freaked up right so yeah I guess what I'm asking   is am I the weird one for being weirded out by  this or is this really as weird as I think it is   and he should just go deal with it we're currently  trying for kids and this whole thing just has me   freaked out a million per op's not the weird one  here and I would put a complete pause on the whole   trying for kids thing until you have this figured  out or at least until you fully understand what   is actually going on with the psychology of this I  just can't imagine finding something like this out   about your partner and then willfully trying to go  forward with bringing a kid into the world knowing   that your partner still has these issues our next  story is am I 39-year-old female wrong to be mad   that husband 52-year-old male made Easter travel  plans against my wishes been together for 17 years   with two kids 8-year-old female and 8-year-old  male in addition to my 9-to-5 job I have a small   crafting business and my husband participates in  packaging and selling at markets the weekend after   Easter is our first event of the season so we  need to get everything prepared for that including   making products to sell they're body products so  I have to prep them fairly close to Market season   because of shelf life I was counting on having  this weekend to do that prep work we also really   need the income because he's on an extended leave  from work after an on the job injury 2 weeks ago   my husband brought up the idea of visiting his mom  3 hours each way for Easter I wasn't keen on the   idea and reminded him about the crunch time but  said that if we had everything ready beforehand   it might be possible we have very little done  right now because my father 80-year-old male   moved in with us shortly after that and getting  a room cleared and him situated has taken most of   our free time lately yesterday he drove up solo  to see his mother because his uncle was visiting   I assumed that would be enough for the holiday  visit but when he came back he told me about   the rest rest they'd chosen for Easter dinner I  got pretty upset because we discussed this ahead   of time and he knew we weren't in a position to  travel again he told me that I hadn't refused but   I reminded him I hadn't accepted we just tabled  the discussion now he's acting like I'm canceling   his plans when I never even agreed to them  his mother lives 200 mil away and we visit her   several times a year my mother is 80 Mi away and  we see her once a year I don't want to see my mom   anymore she's a narcissist sir over low contact  we're going to be near his mom in 3 weeks for a   concert so I suggested we visit her then instead  and make a weekend of it he says it doesn't count   because it's different than visiting on a holiday  I don't see the difference because his mom isn't   doing anything holiday related it's just a chain  restaurant dinner at least if we stay local the   kids can do Easter egg hunts rather than spending  6 hours in a car if you're reading this far thanks   would love to hear about other people's takes on  the situation I just think in general you're going   to be the jerk if you make any kind of travel  plans especially holiday related without ever   Consulting your partner especially when there's  kids in the mix too it's just an insanely selfish   and uncaring thing to do happy hippie tree wrote  how would you feel if he took the kids and you   stayed home to prep without him and the kids  around you might actually get something done   and have some time to yourself which I bet you  need yes you would not see your family on Easter   but I don't think it really matters that much  our next story is my 15-year-old female dad   wants custody of my brother 10-year-old male but  not me because I'm donor conceived my parents had   me using a sperm donor cuz they thought my dad  couldn't have kids but then they ended up having   my brother now my parents are getting divorced  and I wanted to live with my dad cuz he's less   drama than my mom but my Dad decided he doesn't  want custody of me cuz I'm not his biological   child he only wants my brother and now my mom was  hurt cuz I said I didn't want to live with her and   she's sulking and just being so hard to be around  and since my brother lives with my dad most of the   time now it's just me and her except for every  second weekend I keep asking my dad for help but   it's basically like he doesn't even care about me  anymore and doesn't see me as this kid so now I'm   wondering did he always pretend he loved me cuz he  always knew I was donor conceived and he's angry   with me that I keep calling him dad and asking  him for help I feel feel like I made a huge mess   of this whole situation and both of my parents are  mad at me and I don't know how to fix it what can   I do to make it better with my parents the sooner  op identifies and realizes that they shouldn't   even want their dad with the way their dad is  treating them it might be for the better even if   it means you have to put up with your sulking mom  who maybe even kind of feels the same way as the   dad now after what op said it might be the kind  of situation where you try to keep a relationship   alive with your brother and he just have to try  to forge Your Own Way hard according 5241 wrote   One your dad is a POS I would stop trying with  him at all and put all your energy into a good   relationship with your mom Opie responded how do  I do that she barely talks to me and she won't   stop sulking kelpy main replied to that and said  try being honest so Mom I made a huge mistake and   unintentionally hurt you in the process I thought  dad would be the more easygoing par and that's   why I asked to live with him I now realized I  was mistaken and that what I thought was less   drama was actually his indifference toward me  I'm recognizing now that you're the parent who   actually cares about me I know my actions hurt  you I'm hurt too and I really need your support   as my mother I'd like to try to work on things and  if possible recover from this I know we're both   having a hard time however sometimes it feels like  you're so hurt that you're mad at me or even hate   me and I don't want to feel that way way I love  you is there anything that we can do to try to   fix things between us either way I'd like to see a  therapist if possible to navigate my own feelings   here I've gone through major abandonment myself as  dad has made it clear I'm no longer his daughter   I really don't want to lose you too if she lacks  the capacity to be receptive to that whatever her   reasons you need to make a plan to get yourself  out of the situation the second you legally can   do so which means accessing School counseling  and pushing yourself academ MC Al and or with   work such that you have options for college trade  school Etc when the time comes to move out I'd   guess if she's otherwise been a loving mother  that she will be receptive to the above though   but with that being said that's all the time we  have for today now if you want to hear another   absolutely tricky relationship topic check out  that video on the left or if you missed my latest   video check out that video on the right that said  I'll see you all next time with some more stories

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