Relationship Goals Part 2

all right y'all ready to rock and roll okay we're gonna continue tonight on the subject of relationship goals all right we're going to be talking about all kinds of relationships this summer and all and many aspects of I was gonna say all aspects that's impossible but many aspects of relationships to help you to have good ones healthy ones fruitful fruitful ones one one's you glad to have and so we're going to be sharing I'm going to be sharing a lot of it Shannon and jarred are also going to be doing some of them throughout the summer and so we're going to be talking about various aspects and and so I thought it was best to start with husband and wife and so we began last week we'll be on it this week and again next week and then we'll shift goals and move into another aspect and so we picked this now those of you that are single okay hallelujah welcome to the club all right and so you can still learn because you never know someday God may bring somebody into your life and you'll be way ahead because you learn these things plus you know you never know God may use you to help somebody amen so I could I couldn't talk to a married couple well listen I've talked to a lot of people who were drug addicts I've never taken drugs a day in my life you know truth is truth amen truth is truth all right so real quick last week we started off in Genesis chapter one and we saw in Genesis 1 verses 1 through 5 verse 8 verse 13 verse 19 verse 23 and verse 31 where the Bible talks about that the evening in the morning were the first day even one second day third day for all the way through that in the literal text the word evening and morning and and darkness and light mean chaos versus order so what we have what creation was about was the establishment of order and the controlling of chaos and just you know I don't know I'm not gonna go over everything I've talked to you last week but just just to refresh your memory I don't think we can really hear this enough I know when I was thinking about it today it kind of sparked my thinking you know you have to be on guard I think a lot in your life that you don't let chaos back into your life and in particular back into your relationships it's here it's in the earth God did not drive chaos out he put things in place to control it but we can if we're not on guard like God told Adam and Genesis chapter 2 to guard his garden to be aware to protect to take care of his garden that you know your garden or it can be many things but a part of your garden I think would be your relationships and those of you that are married or will be sometime in the future then that or if you're in a relationship with somebody right now then that that garden in that garden would be that relationship would you agree Wow Wow that answers a lot of questions right there let's try that again how many of you would agree that in your garden would be you at that relationship thank you is so nice that I didn't have to go over it again amen and that you were so spontaneous the first time all right and so the reality is is that we are commanded by God to guard our gardens and you know Adam did not guard his garden and so you and I need to be careful that we guard our gardens they mint and a part of that garden is relationships that are in our lives we are made in the image and likeness of God the word likeness means personality and because God loves relationships we also enter into relationships it is in us it's in our spiritual DNA and so we enter into relationships and those relationships can add so much to your life right I know I read many years ago I've called it to some of you before I think you've probably heard it that you know friendships good friendships can double your joy and cut your grief in half and I would say amen to that all right so these relationships that we have are so powerful now Genesis chapter 2 verse 24 said that would God made Adam and Eve man and woman husband and wife he made them to be one flesh and so there is this oneness relationship that God strives to bring about in every couple all right and the best way I can describe it to you is when you say I do it just imagine as if these two big God hands begin to push you towards each other and God is determined and unrelenting in causing you to become one now at the same time there is a thief in earth that comes to steal to kill him to destroy who wants that not to happen in your marriage relationship he doesn't want that oneness the two becoming one the two becoming one the two becoming one he doesn't want that to happen so he will attempt to bring chaos instead of order God's orders that the two become one the chaos is that the two become too and that you pull against each other instead of coming becoming one and so we looked at that last week and I said to you that I believe in looking at my life and spending by now 40 years of being in the ministry is that by now that I've spent literally I think I could safe to say thousands of hours talking to couples over the years that apart now that one way that one that one oneness comes about is through the intimacy between husband and wife but there's got to be more to it than that and everybody said amen alright so one way that God brings that up or another way that God brings that oneness into that relationship is through decisions that need to be made as a couple and our god-given ability to communicate all right to communicate I said to you last week say to again tonight that as far as we know we are the only creatures in the universe other than God who can communicate like we do animals can't do it they can't communicate they may have a form of communication but not like us all right so we are godlike in our ability to do what we are doing right now communicating so I want to spend I felt like tonight I was gonna go in a little different direction but I just felt like tonight then I needed to come back and the Lord won me spend the whole evening tonight on communication and talking about it and and and giving some insight to you and maybe helping you with some thoughts and some observations all right and I'm not saying I'm the expert but for whatever reason I have on the mic and so here we go so I guess in one way I am alright now the first thing that I want you to realize about communicate because I have a lot of couples come to me and say say you know we don't communicate Wow the fact that you say you don't communicate is a form of human of communication right the fact that you don't talk in fact is a form you are communicating something to your partner your communing saying communicating something to them all right now a lot of had people say to me over the years well you know I'm just not a good communicator okay well let's stop for a second let me drop the thought on you communication the ability to communicate is not a gift it is a skill if it was a gift it's like singing if you got her you don't it's like running fast either you got it or you don't right but communication is not it's not a matter of either you got it or you don't you got it it is a skill because it's a skill you can develop it does that make sense to you you can get better at it alright you can get better at it okay you can get better at it not very long ago a friend of mine found some old cassettes of mine old cassettes like back from the 70s and he called me up one day and said listen to this and I was like I'm gonna kill you man I'm gonna kill you right and he said how much are you willing to pay me that I don't put this on online right and honestly I was doing my best but Wow have I gotten better now let me tell you about that now sounds kind of arrogant but it's not it's the reality what would be sad is if I sounded the same way and talk same way that I did back in the 70s but you know it is a skill and I purpose because my voice is my tool right my ability to connect with you is whether I'm going to be effective or not and I'm going to fulfill God's calling and have the impact in your life that God desires for me to have in your life because we brought us it brought our paths together right so there is a reason right I'm not going to come to your house and cook dinner for you right I'm not gonna take care of your pool I'm not gonna walk your dog so why am I in your life for this right so my my I'm in your life to communicate to communicate to to bring understanding and knowledge and encouragement and at times correction to your life so that you can have the better life that Jesus came to give you amen so I years ago I began to listen to myself I began to listen to my own messages and and I would listen to them to critique myself to to work at it and I soon discovered that there were things in my delivery that were very annoying and and they annoyed me so I can only imagine what they did to other people so I began to correct those things my point being is the communication is a skill and you can get better at it if you want to if you desire to okay now if taking notes you might want to write this down right so so communication it's not a gift right it's not a gift you know I've said it and I'm actually shouldn't say it but I have said it I've said that that Bishop T V Jake's is a gifted speaker no he's not a gifted speaker he is a skilled speaker he has developed it he has gotten so much better I heard Bishop Jake's well he and I did a conference back in the early 80s together and back then I was better well-known than he was he just blew right by me yeah I'll tell you that right now all right and and and I remember listening to him that night night and I thought why you know he's okay and then the next time I was hurting I was like whoa who came and kidnapped him and replaced him with this I mean I mean it was just like he just and what it was I guarantee he just made up his mind to get better and he's become this skilled communicator can hear gonna meant a nice skilled communicator probably probably as great as we have in the earth today as far as communicating thoughts okay so it is a skill and not a gift now a lot of couples think they're communicating when in fact they are not they talk at each other and not to each other okay they talk at each other and not to each other big difference hmm big difference when you're talking to people then then while you're not talking you are wanting to understand what the other one is saying and you're not just thinking about what you're going to say to defend your position when that one has to take a breath it's a give-and-take you're wanting to hear what the other one has to say you're you you care you desire kind of get a good name in tonight right now a lot of couples don't do that quite honestly they talk at each other they load their words up with emotion and fire those words out like bullets and then wonder why when the conversation is over somebody's feelings are hurt hmm and they don't want to play rodeo in bed because all night it's been amen don't get mad at me I'm just trying to communicate now I wrote this down listen we communicate I believe we communicate because we have a desire to hear and understand what your spouse is saying let me read that to you again we communicate because we have a desire to hear and understand what your spouse is saying now if you don't have that desire to be honestly there's not a lot I can do for you if you don't have that desire to hear and understand what your spouse is saying your spouse cannot create that desire you have to have that desire you have to want that desire now a lot of times you have to get to that desire there has to be a lot of forgiveness asked for and given before you can get to that desire because of things that have been said previous that were hurt you know I think I think what you well one of the things you got to always remember I know you know this but you gotta always remember come to communication is that life and death is in the power of the tongue mmm life and death is in the power of the tongue there are people listening to me tonight and will listen to me later on podcasts and online and CDs and all that stuff that are the walking wounded because of war herbs that were spoken to them right words that were spoken to them so these life and death is in the power of the tongue there are many relationships that started out good that are now dead because of words that were spoken words now I hear this all the time well my family knows I didn't mean it no they don't know you didn't mean it you said it they don't know you didn't mean it you said it hmm and if and and if there's any question as to whether they're gonna question whether you meant it or not maybe you shouldn't be saying it maybe I ought to dial it back you know just cause a word good just cuz the sentence gets in my mind doesn't mean ought to say it how many of you agree so far amen so this I I believe the communication comes from the desire to hear and understand what your spouse is saying it really comes down to to the fact that you have common interests and common desires right if you have common interests and common desires you know a lot of the time when I'm talking to couples it's just good are you learning anything tonight a lot of times when I'm talking to couples what what I've noticed over the years of talking to couples is that most couples most of you two couples in here nine if I was to give you a piece of paper and say write down what what you want top 10 things you want okay more than likely seven to eight out of those top things you would have on your list maybe even more but seven to eight of those top ten things now they may be in a different order and I've never really been concerned by what order they were in I was just concerned that they were on the top 10 list but you know that they so so what couples want they want the same thing so but you know what they fight about as how to get to the destination they're not they don't fight about the destination necessarily it's about how to get to the destination so then that so in years what I've learned is is that what God does and I've said god I said God why why do we fight we're certain I used to argue over how to get to the destination right we didn't fight over the destination we both one of the same things right we wanted to be happy one to be healthy we wanted to make a nice living he wanted to do it wouldn't take a nice vacation one reason we wanted to raise good kids right that didn't tear up society you know we wanted we wanted to do well we wanted to be happy right we'd like to go on a nice vacation you know we wanted to retire well how many of you agree with me I mean we we weren't fighting we didn't argue over destination what we'd argue over was the path so I began to ask the Lord I said why how come why why is this and that's when I began to discover that one of the ways that God brings you one I said this to you last week is that he sometimes he would give me 70% of the answer and we're still 30% of the answer and this sometimes he'd give me 20% give her 80% sometimes 5050 6040 whatever sin is you want and then he would just sit back I could just see him in heaven he would sit back as a loving Heavenly Father and say now communicate put the pieces together because I'm gonna bring you into a oneness relationship you're gonna draw closer by this god-given ability I've given you to communicate to put the two pieces together right to take what I knew and what she knew and what I understood what when she understood in it and in that he would draw us together and so here was the destination here right we weren't fighting over destination but we're fighting over the path of the destination so God would take us over here in our little circles and draw us together into one circle and we would take this path that we both were happy with does that make sense to you but if you if you won't communicate or if you use your words at each other or if you come into every conversation thinking that you're always right that you're 100 percent right every time and no one else in your years your spouse can never be right because you're always right you're crazy I saved that in a loving way you you're going to destroyed that relationship right I think I said this for you last week if I didn't I should have and if I did it's good to hear it again if you have a relationship and one partner always has to come to the other one side always has to always always always always every decision is a one-way street right this is what I want and you got to come to me it's always got to be my way that is a relationship that's not gonna last I promise you or it may last unto the bitter end there's got to be this not this does that make sense a minute so let's go back let me go back to the notes are you learning anything nice this makes sense to you alright so I believe that God requires us to talk things out that God requires us to talk things out he requires it of us he requires it he puts it in he's put it in us to talk things out to find his wisdom find his counsel put the pieces together how many of you got the image a meant to talk things out to listen to listen to listen we listen to understand faith cometh by hearing faith cometh by understanding the word not just hearing the word right so I listen right when we were shell was with me you know I used to listen to understand now Rochelle and I had an agreement maybe this will help you we had an agreement then when we were talking and we were and if we felt if she felt and or if I felt that I we were not understanding what the Orlan was said we had permission to interrupt we did not have permission to interrupt to interrupt to put our point across we had permission to interrupt to get more understanding and I know sometimes you know Rochelle was very vocal and how many of you know she's a very strong personality and much I mean very strong and like like like yeah strong and those of you did Nord just take our word on it all right she was very strong and very strong personality and a very strong woman and and you know had an opinion and wouldn't wasn't afraid to share that opinion and that's cool III I don't have problem with women like that that's cool I don't know probably men like that right if you believe in something voice it but be nice don't be a bully don't be a bully and it's not just men that are bullies hello princess okay and so you know there were times when she would be talking to me and I was I was sure based on her emotion and how she was expressing herself that I wasn't getting it and so I would stop her and I would say sweetheart and she I could tell I said listen I'm not interrupting to talk back I'm just interrupting you because I don't think I'm understanding what you say I want you I want you to explain this to me better because I want to understand you right John Osteen Joel Olsteen father used to say is one of his classic statements the way to avoid a misunderstandings to have a good understanding hmm I love proverbs the fourth chapter says with all your getting get understanding hmm I want to understand help me to understand explain to me Stockman the only way I'd get that is through communication you got to talk to me you got to talk to me all right and I've got to talk to you not at you to you we both want the same thing I love you you love me we're both trying to get to the same destination we have common interests and common desires we're trying to get to the same place the only way we're gonna get there is one you're not gonna get there and I stay here I'm not gonna get there and you stay here we're going together hello amen we're going together and if we're going together how can we go together unless we be one that's what that's what the Old Testament said how can two walk together unless they be one and the way we become one is by communicating amen amen okay I don't know why this popped in my head now it's not in my notes but I'm gonna share it with you and I'll go back right there very know people that know me and know me well know that I am really and truly and this may shock some of you I am a very easygoing person I really am okay I don't like conflict I don't like it I I don't I don't like conflict I don't I don't like fighting I don't like arguing I am by nature a peacemaker okay I like peace I enjoy peace I like a simple life I like order instead of chaos I don't like it all right to be honest with you for whatever reason for the last 40 years of my life God has called me to be confrontational at church I may have you discovered that right and and I think some people think that I'm like that all the time actually I'm not when I leave church I get enough of being confrontational here I don't care to have any more till Saturday and Sunday to be frank with you okay and so you know I'm a pretty easygoing person you know but one of the things that we're so used to say to me that used to drive me up a wall is what she would look at me and say I know what you're thinking and I would say you have no idea what I'm thinking and I would say to her just like I say baby you have no idea what I'm thinking she said yes I do I said no you don't and I said and I've got scripture to back me up now listen listen it's gonna help you Paul said no man knows the heart of another man except that man and God so you make a huge huge if I had a chalkboard up here I would write it in letters that big you make a huge mistake if you don't get anything I want a night maybe this this this could change your life you make a huge mistake when you tell yourself you know what your spouse is thinking and then you make decisions based on what you think they're thinking you have no idea what they're thinking which brings us to another point write pouting and whining and acting like a baby is not communicating huh walking around the house and your family looking at you saying what's wrong nothing no no baby what's wrong nothing no no what's wrong nothing you know well if I knew I wouldn't be asking now I know some of your sisters in here you're like I don't think I'm glad I came tonight I I'm not so much like in this right now cuz that man of mine needs to know no your man knows cuz you tell him well I've told him a hundred times I'll tell him 101 some of us are a little slow on the update huh and it's not just women about you man you men can get a black belt in two - I've said I've seen 45 year-old guys run companies and their powders oh that's so unbecoming grown man pouty like a little three-year-old you know something that's not even cute on my grandchildren it's not cute it's not cute you know what Caleb and Emery pout and everybody in the room their parents meet everybody no we don't pout in this family no we don't pout in this family now there's no room for pouting now you need get that look off your face now you need just you need nothing at all no room for well if it's not cute on a three-year-old and we're almost everything's cute on her three-year-old is sure enough not cuter on thirty three-year-old all right let's talk about communicating are we glad we came let me read my note see I've got 10 more minutes I'm just gonna go through them real quick all right just roll them down just thoughts ideas to help you write proverbs 15:1 one of the greatest words of wisdom you'll ever learn in your life listen to it a soft answer turns away wrath a soft answer turns away wrath but grievious words stir up anger a soft answer turns away wrath listen you know what you you know what I've learned in my life that that soft answer listen if somebody's trying to provoke you don't let them provoke you the Bible says don't let people provoke you to anger Bible says that right if somebody's trying to provoke you don't let him provoke you I can't help myself good lion it's your temperature anger who if you if you can't control her who in the world is going to control it see a lot of people walk through life okay here welcome to Big Boy Church a lot of people walk through life and they refuse to control their own emotion and they blame everybody else hmm they blame everybody else well I'm mad because yeah I'm mad because no no you're mad because you want to be mad end of story it's your temper I you don't have a button I can you push my buttons you had no buttons on you huh ain't got no buttons oh man no buttons on me little buttons for you to push hmm greevey I mean the soft answer turns away wrath you know what it does it turns away the wrath if somebody's angry with me and I speak to them softly it's gonna turn their wrath away but you know who else's wrath it turns away mine because if I keep talking softly I'm gonna be able to control my anger but you know what if you and I get in a disagreement and you raise your voice and then I raise my voice and then you raise your voice and then I raise my voice and you raise your voice and I raise my voice guess what's gonna happen at some point that adrenal glands are gonna open and that's when things are said and done that you wish to god you had never said or done and you can't take those words back mm-hmm you can speak words that you also say you're sorry for for a lifetime hello all right so a soft answer turns away wrath so then the question comes to me why are so many temples so angry today why are they so angry mm-hmm now maybe you have reasons to be angry there are things to get angry about no doubt about it but make sure that you're not living an offended life you know that you just get up in the morning offended hmm there's just a living an offended life now all of us get offended momentarily but I'm talking about you just living an offended life you know you just you just leave the house every day angry hmm the Apostle Paul could live with you and you'd be irritated you find something to get jacked off about it with Jesus I mean you just you just just in a bad mood what's not my fault well whose fault is it it's your mood right so soft answer turns away wrath so why Miko's angry let me say this to you if you let it stay if you let that anger stay and that relationship is going to cause her oftentimes the relationship is hurt because of selfishness immaturity insecurity you devalue the relationship hmm it used to be a ten and now it's a six on its way to being a two it's you're slowly devaluing the relationship how do that how do relationships get devalued number one through neglect right we neglect it we we neglect it and we have good reasons to neglect it we have kids right work all right and we justified neglecting that that husband-wife relationship I see a lot of couples kind of just be honest we did not see a lot of couples that that that neglect being husband and wife to become mom and dad and their great mom and dad great great mom and dad grace great kids and then when the last one leaves they kind of turn to look at each other and go who are you and a relationship that used to be so valuable to them now because of neglect there's weeds all over the lot and the good fruit that used to be there is not there anymore they're not bad people they just didn't keep that one relationship as a priority and keep working at it and it's harder when you have kids you know it's harder you know people say the honeymoons over well why did the honeymoon in now granted you can't you can't stay and wherever for the rest of your life but why that attention why that tenderness why that focus why did that have to go away just because you had kids I don't think it did you have to work at it harder you got to change it a little bit you can't throw ours at it like you used to but you could still throw quality at it and care and tenderness can I get some good amens tonight right and again that communication right so where you communicating and you're talking to each other not at each other talking to each other neglect you become mom and dad expensive being husband wife work hey you know what you know what destroys a lot of husband wife relationships other relationships huh girlfriends guy friends other relationships we begin to treasure those relationships more than this relationship these are all listen these are all attempts of chaos to get back into your life Craig case you got to guard your garden right Adam did not keep the serpent out of his garden you got to guard your garden I may be still love me okay so you got to guard your garden what else what else cause of a relationship did to devalue hobbies toys distractions you know we just get distracted we don't focus on you know okay no I'm not I'm not a t-rex you know I've got a I've got a smartphone I I'm on Instagram and Twitter and I know how to Google stuff and you own all that but gee many Christmas people put your phone down put your cotton pick and phone down some of you remember you used to live without having to be on that sucker 23 hours a day put your phone down communique talk hmm I heard about a couple not very long ago that we're sitting on the couch next to each other texting each other what we were communicating no you aren't no because let me tell you something about texting you know this might taste something about texting I can't hear your voice I can't hear your emotion I'm can't see your face I'm not looking into your eyes right right I knew it what guy one time that was deeply in love with somebody deeply in love with him I don't think he'd mind me sharing this with you deeply in love I was planning on getting married that went on date had a great date he went home and sent the text he meant it one way she read it another way was over see you got to be careful amen there's no substitute for eyeball-to-eyeball face-to-face voice to voice I can hear your voice I can see your face I'm reading you you're reading me amen so put your phones down right you don't see each other all day and then you come home and you tell me you don't have time to communicate but you played for hours on some video game or you were on the phone with your girlfriends and you wonder why your husband doesn't feel close to you more you or your wife or your wife has drifted from you come on Manderson rocket science you got you got to communicate well that's work then you need to do something about work you better figure out a way to communicate with your spouse and then and talk to them all right I'm running out of time I'm gonna go real quick don't expect your already said this I'm gonna read the gangsta's good don't respect your passive spouse to figure out what is bothering you stop whining and pouting and feeling sorry for yourself is all you see is what is wrong or what could have done been done better hmm relationships can't survive when they're always in attack mode Wow Matthew 1225 message a family that is in a constant squabble disintegrates can't be always in attack mode how many of you agree Cappy now that doesn't mean we can't talk doesn't mean you know we don't we can't correct each other but you know what I love proverbs 28:13 Living Bible a man who refuses to admit mistakes can never be successful but he who confesses and forsakes them gets another chance not just confess it for sake sit say I think there comes a point in a relationship where you have where you should be able to quit asking forgiveness for the same thing got quiet on that one did almost done proverbs 1129 Living Bible The Fool who provokes his family to anger and resentment will finally have nothing worthwhile left he shall be the servant of and wiser man we read em to you again the fool who provokes his family or her families not just guys provokes his family to anger and resentment will finally have nothing worthwhile left he shall be the servant of a wiser man Wow so you know communication we communicate so we don't ever get to anger and resentment you know if something's bugging you talk about it communicate don't be defensive no one's perfect there's no perfect marriages there's just people in process amen moving towards the high calling of God in Christ Jesus to be conformed to his image right we're all a work in progress all of us are working progress all of us make mistakes all of us could have done things better right I think there's some things in relationships and marriage relationships that you just need to ignore you know I told I told you story you know Rochelle with the toothpaste you know jiminy Christmas I mean talking about it now I can feel my stomach going that's weird didn't it you know but you know I was raised in a military family and my dad you know we did things military some things military one of them was the way you got toothpaste out of the tube and that is you start at the bottom how many of you're with me you start at the bottom and you work up you work up you work up you work up and as you work up you roll you roll you roll you roll you roll your roll row and you get all the way to where it won't roll anymore and then you push it and you get it and you put the toothbrush down and get that last bit because if you don't get that last bit out you're not going to heaven Jesus sees that and you wasted that last toothbrush and you're not going to heaven your salvation is that see that's how we act what Rochelle wasn't raised that way Rachelle's daddy owned the hotel and one of the things the hotel had they always had toothpaste to give to people in the hotel so she had to face everywhere there was everywhere there was toothpaste her she can get a new tube every day of her life if she wanted one she probably did you know she just was raised in that world you know I told some of you know Rochelle was raised in a world I wasn't raised in she was an only child of a very successful father normal life to her was Neiman Marcus and Saks Fifth Avenue and that that was not the world I was raised in mm-hmm we were raised in the world of the Montgomery Ward catalog spiegel how many of you remember Spiegel you're dating yourself some of you are in here like is that brother talking in a foreign language but there was this catalog called Spiegel it was like 9,000 pages thick and that's the world we lived in that was the world my mom and dad lived in that's where we lived in and then I you know we met and fell in love and suddenly I got this princess good-looking princess but still a princess and so well you know we get the nice no I mean she was just grabbing two but two things just grab it and I would look at the toothpaste and I'd be like Rochelle we're gonna go to hell because of the way you're dressed we're gonna lose our salvation I didn't say that but that's how we react and I was sure how to do it if she was just sitting there looking at me so swinging and all those big green eyes she's just in there look at me and I finally realized one day because we don't have common interests in common desires when it comes to toothpaste cuz she just didn't get it it's just to hurt was a non-issue and one day I mean I was in strife oh this stupid - you okay now y'all are laughing I'm good I just say this yeah I'm not trying to pull what can I say this day do you know how stupid that sounds to me now right but any was a big deal in and so I was you know we're Sheldon left the room the bathroom and I'm grabbing the toothpaste and trying to straighten it out where she grabbed it true story and I'm just like cussing underneath my breath I'm so mad not real custom but I'm thinking it I'm just being honest with you can L be honest wait night I didn't say the words but I was thinking them I've kept you too late I'll face the story so I'm straightening it out because it's all squashed and she even unrolled the part where I'd rolled it up and I was I was like why would she do that I think she did it just irritate me and so I was rolling to back up and I'm just like done you know it's like 8 o'clock in the morning I am pissed that's in the Greek and and the Lord and the Lord spoke to me you know it's always weird when God was at times God will speak to you you know it's like it's like when things are really you really want him to speak - he just goes silent and then it just speak to you like okay and he spoke to me and he said you know there's a cure for this I said that's right you need to speak to her and tell her that's what I said I said you need to speak to her hallelujah you're gonna talk to her aren't you on the way to work you're gonna talk to her about toothpaste he said no I'm not gonna say a word to her he said by her her own tube and then before I could argue he said you can afford it by her her own tube and then he said and I never want to have this conversation with you again amen sandhya if he wouldn't be pleased it's toothpaste really worth getting in a fight with your wife about that's not really it's not it's not really right because he parked too far over in the garage it's really worth getting to fight over really in the grand scheme of life really just go inside get the keys come out and reap arc the car Charles I've done it be a man a man a woman grow up let's pray and I'll let you go father in the name of Jesus we honor you and thank you tonight I thank you tonight Lord and I pray that these things we've shared that you put on my heart share with your children it's going to help them walk thank you so much thank you for this incredible church that you allow me to Pastor these amazing people that you allow me to be pastor I think you're not honoring Jesus thank you for speaking to us it's been an awesome night in your house the praise the worship everything's just been over-the-top beautiful we honor you and we thank you in Jesus name Amen god bless y'all love you go out and enjoy the food trucks

Channel: Abundant Church

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Length: 46min 9sec (2769 seconds)

Published: Thu Jun 09 2016